i dont believe in falling in love or "meeting" girls... it's all about planning, drastical selection and being brutaly honest about what youre looking for and what you re ready to change, from day one. But you ve got to know yourself and what you want yourself FIRST, (i didnt say confident, it's quite different) . It's all about building a crystal clear contract that both will have to follow from day one to the "end". At least everything is clear from the begining , nobody s going to bullshit each other and you immediately know if she's crossing the line, as you both wrote the rules together (being the first to create most rules is obviously important for the man). It implies you re not going to cross the line either of course.
And ffs read some serious psychology books, they re everywhere and they ll spare you years if not decades of emotional suffering.