Author Topic: How to "nicely" escape a relationship where pressured to propose? (Read 4542 times)

NickEdge779 · « **on:** October 05, 2020, 08:32:29 PM »

Been with a girl for 2 years, and her and her family are pressuring me hardcore to get married to her. I don't see that our relationship will be enjoyable in marriage and we don't have enough in common to go the distance. I feel like we will grow apart and we will be miserable. Divorce is not an option. She is head over heels for me and I just have that feeling that I would be making a mistake. Any advice? I am 29

Dave D · « **Reply #1 on:** October 05, 2020, 08:36:13 PM »

Nick if this is how you feel you have all the advice you need bro. You won’t be able to end this nicely if she is in love with you as you think she is.

The sooner you end it the better.

tres_taco_combo · « **Reply #2 on:** October 05, 2020, 09:00:12 PM »

do you live with her?

just so i can get some background
what nationality are you? her? what state do you live in?

just be honest and say you arent ready to settle down

life will get better if you play your cards right as a male in your 30s FYI

Earl1972 · « **Reply #3 on:** October 05, 2020, 09:12:50 PM »

tell her you lost your job and you're broke

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Teutonic Knight 1 · « **Reply #4 on:** October 05, 2020, 09:31:54 PM »

Quote from: NickEdge779 on October 05, 2020, 08:32:29 PM

Been with a girl for 2 years, and her and her family are pressuring me hardcore to get married to her. I don't see that our relationship will be enjoyable in marriage and we don't have enough in common to go the distance. I feel like we will grow apart and we will be miserable. Divorce is not an option. She is head over heels for me and I just have that feeling that I would be making a mistake. Any advice? I am 29

29yo & asking for advice , get real !.

Kwon · « **Reply #5 on:** October 06, 2020, 02:42:33 AM »

Quote from: NickEdge779 on October 05, 2020, 08:32:29 PM

Been with a girl for 2 years, and her and her family are pressuring me hardcore to get married to her. I don't see that our relationship will be enjoyable in marriage and we don't have enough in common to go the distance. I feel like we will grow apart and we will be miserable. Divorce is not an option. She is head over heels for me and I just have that feeling that I would be making a mistake. Any advice? I am 29

I remember i got cold feet in my early-mid 30s when she wanted to do the same (get married, get a house together, kids etc), so eventually it ended after a few years.

In retrospect maybe i shouldn't have (she was a good woman but i wasn't sure i wanted kids with her at that point in time), maybe it could have worked. It's easy to be "efterklok" (a saying we have in Sweden, meaning it's easy to be wise/know what's right AFTER the event). Hindsight is what you amerigo vespuccians call it.

IroNat · « **Reply #6 on:** October 06, 2020, 04:17:53 AM »

Join the military and request a posting in a foreign land.

Dokey111 · « **Reply #7 on:** October 06, 2020, 04:23:07 AM »

Mayday · « **Reply #8 on:** October 06, 2020, 04:52:27 AM »

Break it off.

She wants what you don't. Do the.right thing, don't ruin her life.

The Scott · « **Reply #9 on:** October 06, 2020, 05:11:11 AM »

Just show her some of the threads here...

MAXX · « **Reply #10 on:** October 06, 2020, 05:16:05 AM »

Don't be a people pleaser.

Tell her you're against marriage if she can't handle it split...

R.A.M. · « **Reply #11 on:** October 06, 2020, 05:41:28 AM »

Sounds like you have your mind made up. Follow through. Please record the aftermath.

Kwon · « **Reply #12 on:** October 06, 2020, 05:42:33 AM »

DO YOU WANT TO LIVE A LIFE OF REGRET NICK!??

It's your life too! Don't bend backwards to try to please others if you're not sure yourself!

It's too big of a decision to half-ass it!

Purge_WTF · « **Reply #13 on:** October 06, 2020, 05:49:34 AM »

Quote from: Mayday on October 06, 2020, 04:52:27 AM

Break it off.

She wants what you don't. Do the.right thing, don't ruin her life.

Her life?

IRONWORKER · « **Reply #14 on:** October 06, 2020, 05:50:45 AM »

Hindsight is always 20/20. Looking back on my life i can tell you for sure that you should never go against your gut feelings.

Don’t even consider marrying her.

Mr Anabolic · « **Reply #15 on:** October 06, 2020, 05:53:07 AM »

Quote from: NickEdge779 on October 05, 2020, 08:32:29 PM

Been with a girl for 2 years, and her and her family are pressuring me hardcore to get married to her. I don't see that our relationship will be enjoyable in marriage and we don't have enough in common to go the distance. I feel like we will grow apart and we will be miserable. Divorce is not an option. She is head over heels for me and I just have that feeling that I would be making a mistake. Any advice? I am 29

Sure, she feels that way now, but what about in the future, especially after the kids come? All women have the agenda... finding a suitor, a fantasy wedding, emotional and financial security and fulfilling their biological reason for being (i.e. having kids).

Always trust your gut. Don't be a simp. Break it off now.

SOMEPARTS · « **Reply #16 on:** October 06, 2020, 06:24:26 AM »

It's not going to go "nice" .... that's just a stalling tactic in the male mind.

WoogsRaven · « **Reply #17 on:** October 06, 2020, 06:27:37 AM »

Quote from: NickEdge779 on October 05, 2020, 08:32:29 PM

Been with a girl for 2 years, and her and her family are pressuring me hardcore to get married to her. I don't see that our relationship will be enjoyable in marriage and we don't have enough in common to go the distance. I feel like we will grow apart and we will be miserable. Divorce is not an option. She is head over heels for me and I just have that feeling that I would be making a mistake. Any advice? I am 29

First off, her parents should mind their fucking business and not pressure you in any way. They're already putting the heat on their own daughter to settle down and start working on grandkids. They shouldn't be doing the same to you. Fucking can't stand hearing shit like that about nosey, meddling parents.

That being said, is SHE pressuring you or is it just the parents? How old is she? If she isn't pressuring you then just relax and take it as it goes.

But if she is pressuring you, then it's time to HEADZ FOR ZE HILLS!

TheShape. · « **Reply #18 on:** October 06, 2020, 06:44:18 AM »

Why aren’t you married already loser? There’s more to life than being a self serving hedonist. Raise some children.

harmankardon1 · « **Reply #19 on:** October 06, 2020, 07:02:22 AM »

Quote from: Earl1972 on October 05, 2020, 09:12:50 PM

tell her you lost your job and you're broke

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X2 lol, watch how quick she doesn't like you anymore then.

El Diablo Blanco · « **Reply #20 on:** October 06, 2020, 07:06:45 AM »

2 years together is nothing. Do you guys live together? Marriage fucks things up when you start to manage finances together, depend on each other more and potentially have a kid.

Instead of letting her down, be a man and talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Say you do want to get married but not now. 2 years is not much and you wand to keep building your relationship with her. The day will come but you want it to happen organically and not be forced to do it because of her parents or external pressure to do so.

If that doesn't work. Tell her you have AIDS.

joswift · « **Reply #21 on:** October 06, 2020, 07:09:27 AM »

fuck her sister, or even better her brother...

Andy Griffin · « **Reply #22 on:** October 06, 2020, 07:25:30 AM »

Drug her, shave her head, and fuck her sister. Careful, though, because she might show up at your door (I speak from experience)

Kwon · « **Reply #23 on:** October 06, 2020, 07:34:54 AM »

You rarely escape things like these "nicely"...

IroNat · « **Reply #24 on:** October 06, 2020, 09:18:52 AM »

Tell her you are a homo and in love with another man. Guaranteed to work.

Author Topic: How to "nicely" escape a relationship where pressured to propose? (Read 4542 times)

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