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Getbig Main Boards => Gossip & Opinions => Topic started by: BIG ACH on April 06, 2014, 02:36:42 AM
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Its been 5 months with my baby girl and I can honestly say I've never been so happy in my life. This is coming from a guy who was very much on the fence about having kids at one point.
While I can completely understand, and totally get it, when people say "they don't want kids".... because it is life changing, and it is hard hard hard hard ass work.... I can honestly say I wouldn't trade it for the world. Yes you do feel like you've given up a lot to have kids, you lose freedom, you lose time, you lose sleep, you lose money, etc.... but the unconditional love you feel from your child and for your child is really something out of this world. I mentioned to you in another post that I went through a lot of changes all at once, in the span of 1 month, I had a baby, defended and finished my phd, quit my family business, and got a new job that required me to move from Florida all the way to California! (Actually my baby came on the same day I had the interview for this job - this is a crazy story on its own)... so it was very very very intense for a while there. Timing for a lot of these events was not really ideal.
But today I went out to lunch with my wife and my baby, and at one point my baby was in her stroller and she caught a glimpse of me (scarfing down a burger like a fat ass) and gave me this huge smile when she noticed me looking back at her, it just made me feel like nothing else in the world mattered.
If any of you are thinking of being parents, feel free to shoot me any questions or concerns that you may have, I'll give it to you straight and won't sugarcoat anything.....
And if you choose that this is not for you... I don't judge you, and I totally understand. Just like marriage, Kids are not for everybody, if you're happy in your life as is, then more power to you.
Yes I was happy before I had a baby... I was VERY happy actually... but now I'm feeling a different type of happiness.
- Living the dream!
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I'm happy for all your success Big Ach. 8)
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Let's hope she doesn't fro up to look like this. :o
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I'm happy for all your success Big Ach. 8)
Thanks Wiggums....
Side note.... I may be coming to Vegas for work next month. If I get a chance to step away from the schedule, you wanna grab some food?
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Glad to hear this.
On a side note, your child will laugh at your lack of trap/neck mass and laziness in working those areas.
Taunting Toddler of Peace.
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Glad to hear this.
On a side note, your child will laugh at your lack of trap/neck mass and laziness in working those areas.
Taunting Toddler of Peace.
Yes this is becoming an important area of focus for me now in the gym!
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You have always been a good man ACH. Your child will grow up in a great home.
Congrats.
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You have always been a good man ACH. Your child will grow up in a great home.
Congrats.
Thanks Shizzo. Appreciate it
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Redskins still suck though ;)
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Glad to hear - children bring happiness.
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Redskins still suck though ;)
Go fuck yourself ;D
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Go fuck yourself ;D
As a Redskins fan of Egyptian decent, how do you feel about the whole "redskin" controversy?
Do you feel it to be racist against American Indians?
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Congrats on the small ach, BIG ACH. :)
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making it happen
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As a Redskins fan of Egyptian decent, how dp you feel about the whole "redskin" controversy?
Do you feel it to be racist against American Indians?
No, I do not believe it to be racist and I do not believe the name should be changed. This whole thing has been blown way out of proportion. But I also wouldn't go crying about it if they changed a name.... its just a freaking name. Nor would I be upset if a new team was put together called "The Camel Jockeys" - people are too sensitive!
While it may not be the most politically correct name, I believe racism has more to do with delivery, intent, and connotation... than it does with just a "title".
The name is more related to American history, tradition, and heritage. Don't forget that some of the original coaches and players of the Redskins were native Americans and they had no problem with the name. Plus I think they took a poll and found that 90% of Native Americans were not bothered by the name.
On another note, during the civil war, wasn't "Damn Yankees" considered a derogatory term that the south used to describe the northerners? But you don't see anyone complaining about the New York Yankees?
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Congrats.
I plan to have a family of my own one day and look forward to becoming a husband/dad.
With quite a few here who appear to scorn at this notion, I'm glad to hear stories like this.
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No, I do not believe it to be racist and I do not believe the name should be changed. This whole thing has been blown way out of proportion. But I also wouldn't go crying about it if they changed a name.... its just a freaking name. Nor would I be upset if a new team was put together called "The Camel Jockeys" - people are too sensitive!
While it may not be the most politically correct name, I believe racism has more to do with delivery, intent, and connotation... than it does with just a "title".
The name is more related to American history, tradition, and heritage. Don't forget that some of the original coaches and players of the Redskins were native Americans and they had no problem with the name. Plus I think they took a poll and found that 90% of Native Americans were not bothered by the name.
On another note, during the civil war, wasn't "Damn Yankees" considered a derogatory term that the south used to describe the northerners? But you don't see anyone complaining about the New York Yankees?
Wow!!! Great points. Especially the Yankees one. I do believe that Yankees was meant to be derogatory term. Even the mates across the pond use Yanks to this day, referring to Americans.
Great point ACH!
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Congrats.
I plan to have a family of my own one day and look forward to becoming a husband/dad.
With quite a few here who appear to scorn at this notion, I'm glad to here stories like this.
Good luck to you Superted. Its important to just do what makes you happy. Not to let societal norms push you one way or another. If the other posters are happy being single or in relationships with no kids then all the best to them. But I have been married for 8 years and there is nothing that would make me ever want to change that, I absolutely love being married to my wife and I now love having a new addition to the family. One just has to choose what they want in life and no matter what that choice is they just have to live life the way they want to.
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Fatherhood is amazing but I can see how many aren't cut out for it.
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You'll be needing this in a few a years...
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Agree, no way to explain the pleasure it brings till you experience it! Just wait till she gets to her pre-teens and teens!
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Glad you`re happy Ach........all the best bud! ;)
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Its been 5 months with my baby girl and I can honestly say I've never been so happy in my life. This is coming from a guy who was very much on the fence about having kids at one point.
While I can completely understand, and totally get it, when people say "they don't want kids".... because it is life changing, and it is hard hard hard hard ass work.... I can honestly say I wouldn't trade it for the world. Yes you do feel like you've given up a lot to have kids, you lose freedom, you lose time, you lose sleep, you lose money, etc.... but the unconditional love you feel from your child and for your child is really something out of this world. I mentioned to you in another post that I went through a lot of changes all at once, in the span of 1 month, I had a baby, defended and finished my phd, quit my family business, and got a new job that required me to move from Florida all the way to California! (Actually my baby came on the same day I had the interview for this job - this is a crazy story on its own)... so it was very very very intense for a while there. Timing for a lot of these events was not really ideal.
But today I went out to lunch with my wife and my baby, and at one point my baby was in her stroller and she caught a glimpse of me (scarfing down a burger like a fat ass) and gave me this huge smile when she noticed me looking back at her, it just made me feel like nothing else in the world mattered.
If any of you are thinking of being parents, feel free to shoot me any questions or concerns that you may have, I'll give it to you straight and won't sugarcoat anything.....
And if you choose that this is not for you... I don't judge you, and I totally understand. Just like marriage, Kids are not for everybody, if you're happy in your life as is, then more power to you.
Yes I was happy before I had a baby... I was VERY happy actually... but now I'm feeling a different type of happiness.
- Living the dream!
Wait until she becomes a teenager we will see if you are singing the same tune.
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Best be fitting that nose brace on her early!
...just kidding, glad you are happy :D
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Same here, but more of an accident than a decision. Lol.
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Best be fitting that nose brace on her early!
...just kidding, glad you are happy :D
Thankfully she got her mother's looks. Looks like a mini carbon copy of her.... Kid got lucky she didn't get my ugly mug / features! lol
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Thankfully she got her mother's looks. Looks like a mini carbon copy of her.... Kid got lucky she didn't get my ugly mug / features! lol
How many tv's are in the baby's room?
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Parents saying they are happy is a mute point though, even if you are happy it's part of the contract, you can't gripe about your decision once it's done. If your kids happen to seeing what you said later in life that would be odd. :D So once parent, never complain to anyone, at least not publicly. If unhappy, lie and keep the truth to yourself forever. :)
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What a nice story....... :)
Wasn't sure if I wanted (more like could handle) having a child.....Thank God my wife put the pressure on... ;D
Now, I couldn't imagine my life without my son.....almost 15 fun (for the most part) years and counting. Enjoy...... :)
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Thanks Wiggums....
Side note.... I may be coming to Vegas for work next month. If I get a chance to step away from the schedule, you wanna grab some food?
Yes Sir. That'd be great. Hit me up.