Was born and lived in Serbia for the first 19 years of my life. If you are not born into the tradition, history and language it can be very hard and scary to understand, I get it when people describe it as unsettling and dreary.
On the other hand, for me, I keep going back to my childhood and thinking more and more about it as I'm growing old in North America, romanticizing about the times long gone.
Is it a shithole...you could say that, since people have been repressed for thousands of years, either by the Ottoman Empire (today known as the Turks) or by their own sadists, recently (Slobodan Milosevic). Living like that you're always in survival mode and so it feels normal.
When I was a kid in the 80's, I lived near a movie theatre and people would come out of a night show and literally piss and shit outside the cinema, just fucking horrible, thinking about it now. Yeah, wars are good, they sterilize societies...