To attract a particular woman a man needs
-to remind her of her father(s)/grandfather(s)/brother(s)
-to be of the same social class and generation as you
-be able to provide a shelter and food for her and potential offspring
-to look good facially
-to look good physique wise
And to attract a particular man a woman needs:
-to remind you of your mother(s)/grandmother(s)/sister(s)
-to be of the same social class and generation as you
-be able to provide you with love/care/attention and sexual favors, being able to care for an offspring
-to look good facially
-to look good physique wise
We are all completely conditionned to follow these subconscious preprogrammations. And it's only the tip of the iceberg; most of the time we re only doing what our ancestors did, the strategies of survival we use daily and make our "psychism" are a mix of theirs, we re just not aware of it.
Most of the time when we think we "discover" a passion or preferance for something or someone, it's just the passion or preferance of one or several of our ancestors had for it, saved, embeded in us, "I" being the sum of your ancestors personalities.