I think the OP is right in some sense, but ive also looked thru a friends tinder and lots of the guys on there are pretty hot (unless they use just old and good angled pics) So i dont see how the frumpy dad bod is going to get that first date. If you lack a healthy social network of single friends, it becomes even harder as our married friends with kids start to drop their single friends who lack the same life style. So they wont be "recommending" you to their other single friends looking for a mate. My wife has some pretty ugly friends who do tinder and do the dating thing and they are mid 30s and all i hear is that they complain about every guy they date "didnt try to kiss me", "didnt dress very well", blah blah. You would think at 34, and you want a husband, you would look pass that surface level shit, but i think inside every 35 yr old women is a highschool aged princess cheerleader who still wants the popular guy, and they dont want to settle for less.
I also ask myself the same question the OP does cuz you see these super hot women of that age, and im always curious what tpe of dude in that age range is banging them. Im hetero and can easily acknowledge a good looking guy...lately i dont see many my age that are good looking. The good looking guys at this age are few and far between and when u do see them, and talk to them, you can understand why they are still single. I just picture the gable tostee guy. Kind of like an upper 20s-early 30s guy who still styles his hair like a highschool prep, has semi resemblence of abs, and wear cools clothes. These are the guys who get laid now i think