I'm surprised that everyone takes it for face value...when someone says "you're sweet" do they JUST mean you're sweet? No. Could also mean "that's nice, but I don't want to talk to you anymore" or "i want to have sex with you" or "i expected you to be a bitch" or "you have a good personality, too bad you're ugly"
And I'm not married and waaay to young for that. I just picked up on things from watching my parents.
Also, you never know what your wife knows but doesn't acknowledge. ;-)
Exactly. A bunch of insecure men get their dander up when they think referring to the wife as "the boss" might actually mean every man who says that means he's relinquished his role as a man and completely devoted himself to licking her bootheels. Spare me. It's more as you pointed out, or as ESFitness pointed out (and the way I admitted too): it's just a chickenshit cop-out. But a man can't be bothered to tackle every issue hands on and head-on. Sometimes, you need to take a play off, and just blame it on the wife. Lord knows my wife blames me for all kinds of shit I didn't do when she chats with her girlfriends. Doesn't bother me one bit. She can't be expected to take accountability for every single thing.
That's why we got married - share, and share alike. Support (and this is one of those perverted ways married couples support each other...and it works, however odd and perhaps dysfunctional it may be).
And I may act dumb around my wife, but I'm far from it. She knows the games I play, and I know she knows. But I do it anyways, because 7 or 8 times out of 10, she's too lazy to call me on it. That's a .700 batting average...not too bad if I do say so myself. That's hall of fame numbers right thurr.
I work quite hard to set the bar pretty low for her expectations of me. That way, if something even the least bit extraordinary happens (i.e. I finally clean a bathroom for the first time in 7 years), I get to walk around the house with chest out, trumpeting what an amazing man I am, and I am truly expecting her to be surprised, shocked, and awed. And she probably feels a certain sense of surprise when I do it (also clouded with a sense of "jesus h. christ, he cleaned a bathroom. big deal"). But mostly surprise.
And then I get to tell her "hey, I was reading your Cosmo (admittedly beta move), and it told me that you (girls) love it when your husband does the chores so you don't have to. That it gives you more time to think about me (your husband) and how hot I am. So, by my count, I've earned something extra special. So why don't you head upstairs and get comfortable." Though this doesn't always work, it does work more than 50% of the time. She knows she probably shouldn't, but she does. I know she's reluctantly giving in, but it doesn't phase me one bit.
Marriages are arrangements once the honeymoon is over. It's a bartering system. You can't be ga-ga in love forever.
I don't know where I'm going with this...
