I would like to see an honest study done on the adopted children of gay couples...I wonder how many of the children "become" gay/bi later on in life...Would be interesting. But no doubt the numbers would be fudged by the Hierarchy's media. no pun...I could see the Rosie O'Donnell's of the world pressuring her kids into being gay...
I've wondered about this too. A lot of homophobes bring this up as a concern, but how many straight parents have forced heterosexuality on their gay kids? Probably an enormous amount. And how many straight parents have shamed their children into hiding, drugs and alcohol abuse or even suicide?
I always think about my best friend when I hear about these debates. My best friend, P, moved out East to Montreal for work, which surprised a lot of us as most kids move out to Alberta to make ridiculous oil money. And then we found out he moved there because he's gay.
He comes from the most hardcore Christian family I've ever met, and looking back on things he was always fighting with his brothers and always called people gay, homo, homo, etc. My heart aches to think about the secret he kept from everyone and how alone he must have felt, and still feels. I actually spoke to OMR and sent a heartfelt plea to ask how I should approach my friend about it, but I still haven't been able to bring it up because it's not a discussion I'd want to have over the phone.
The last I heard he has found a partner but there's a lot of conflict and struggles for them. I think they both haven't told their family and they fight about it a lot. I found this all out when his brother and also a best friend of mine, D, came to me high on ecstasy and told me everything. He was turning to alcohol and drugs because of all the worrying he was doing over his brother who came out. He's had a few substance abuse issues and did great for a while until he became concerned with his brother. He's deeply concerned and conflicted because there's nothing we can really do to help other than to be there for him.
I asked D what his parents would think if we all sat down and had a talk, and he said his parents would never talk to him again, end of story.... their sister and a couple other brothers know. I talked to them too and they all said the same thing and how they felt so terrible for P. So their family dynamic is fucked up, all because of someone else's stupid opinion which shouldn't mean anything. It's not fair for homosexuals to have to deal with that shit when everyone could just wipe off their pussies and stop holding a bias against gay people. I'm angry at his stupid Christian parents because despite being otherwise good people, they let their shitty religion dictate how they view gay people and they're convinced that they'll all burn in hell as a punishment for their "sins". And they will even say goodbye to their very own child and let him burn in hell... fucking pieces of shit.
Didn't put the names down here in case they're reading this post. If you're reading this P, gimme a call any time, bro. Love you.
