So I dated this girl I met, she has a 8 year old kid. Anyway, the girl kind of freaked me out in the beginning. Before we went on our first date we txted a lot and was telling stuff like "your the first thing I think of in the morning" and after meeting a week in, "I'm crazy about you", then eventually stuff like "I want someone who will be a father to my child" (all under 3 weeks). Alarms went off in my head I'm like whoa, I need to slow this girl down somehow. Thing is she seemed sweet as pie and I genuinely enjoyed being with her, she would cook for me and everything. I didn't know what to do, so I told her let's take things one day at a time, slow. She didn't really like that could tell. Then she wanted commitment, I told her I'm not going anywhere, I don't see and sleep with more then one girl at a time (she knew this early on as it's part of my culture), but I want to take it causally and slow. She wouldn't stop with the commitment stuff so I think at one point I said then have an open relationship, even though I was at her house nearly every single day and she knew and admitted that our relationship was anything but causal or open.
Long story short, we got in an argument, she was out of town for a week, I missed her like hell and wanted to go out. She had a sore throat and ear ache and got pissed that I asked to go out when she was sick. Started yelling at me about all sorts of things, I didn't yell back but asked her to stop yelling 3 times, she wouldn't so I left and didn't talk to her for a week. When we "got back together" things were different txts weren't the same from her. I went to see her one day she was cold to me, took me an hr to warm her up but oddly she said she had to go to her friend "Katie's" place to hang out. Well funny thing she put on full makeup, lip gloss, nice outfit, perfume. Stupid thing I believed her at the time. I went back to her place (her not knowing but always had permission in the past) that night around 11:30pm, she still wasn't home. She shows up at midnight and pissed that I was there, I was like huh, you told me I could always come anytime I wanted. Eventually told me she went on a date with someone a couple nights ago BUT still pretended this evening she was with "Katie".
Freaking ripped me in half. I told her don't waste my time, if you don't want to be in this relationship tell me from know, she said I don't know. Like a fool I chased her for a month and she treated me like shit, I'd txt her and get back 5 words. Then out of the blue she called me and talked for hours about random stuff. She continued to call but every time I asked her out I would get "I'll let you know". Eventually I put her on the spot and asked if she wanted a relationship with me or not, she said "I don't know yet you don't want me to make a decision yet I'm going through tough time my cousin is dying". Then txts me at night "Going to sleep, but you are right you should know, we should work on a friendship and see, but that's all I can give you". WTH
Sorry it's long, kind of had to know the events. Thing is I really fell for her and call me nuts I miss her like hell. What are your methods for successfully getting back with an ex?