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How did you deal with a parent dying?
« on: May 05, 2014, 02:04:36 PM »
Currently staying with a parent who has less than 48 hours to live, struggling to deal with it, hardest thing I've ever done.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #1 on: May 05, 2014, 02:05:14 PM »
Quote from: Army of One on May 05, 2014, 02:04:36 PM
Currently staying with a parent who has less than 48 hours to live, struggling to deal with it, hardest thing I've ever done.

I'm so sorry to hear that, you're in our thoughts brother.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #2 on: May 05, 2014, 02:06:01 PM »
That sucks man......sorry to hear it.

Been there and my method for coping isn`t recommended.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #3 on: May 05, 2014, 02:06:35 PM »
It sucks... I've been there.

My thoughts are with you man... It's never easy. You just stay as strong as possible and when it happens and you have to start planning services, you keep your cool and try to take the burden off of everyone else.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #4 on: May 05, 2014, 02:06:59 PM »
Sorry to hear that man. If you are a man of faith, lean on it.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #5 on: May 05, 2014, 02:09:02 PM »
usually with a pillow
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #6 on: May 05, 2014, 02:09:17 PM »
I've been there bro. It sucks but you just have to stay strong and continue with your life while keeping the memories alive.

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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #7 on: May 05, 2014, 02:14:40 PM »
I have no idea but I am sorry to hear it. Guess my advice is take time to grieve when it's time and don't hold back your feelings.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #8 on: May 05, 2014, 02:41:49 PM »
Sorry to hear that.  Hope you have someone to talk to...not fun to deal with alone
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #9 on: May 05, 2014, 02:42:34 PM »
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #10 on: May 05, 2014, 02:44:46 PM »
be strong

give them nice funeral


all you can do

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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #11 on: May 05, 2014, 02:45:32 PM »
Quote from: Army of One on May 05, 2014, 02:04:36 PM
Currently staying with a parent who has less than 48 hours to live, struggling to deal with it, hardest thing I've ever done.
wish you the best, my father died in 2012. just keep in mind he's going to a better place that helped me get through it.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #12 on: May 05, 2014, 02:45:35 PM »
My advice is to enjoy every single moment you have with that person, as there will be a time in the distant future where something as simple as touching that persons hand would be something you would practically give anything to be able to do.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #13 on: May 05, 2014, 02:47:19 PM »
Hope they had a long-ish sick bed. Sounds dickish, but that allowed me to come to terms with it at my own pace. Unforeseen deaths are the worst IMO, no time for sorting out feelings. Just be there, be honest to them and yourself.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #14 on: May 05, 2014, 02:49:04 PM »
take pics and video, you'll cherish them forever.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #15 on: May 05, 2014, 02:51:07 PM »
It's part of what it means to be alive.  Live long enough and you'll see almost everyone you care about pass away.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #16 on: May 05, 2014, 02:51:56 PM »
Quote from: 240 is Back on May 05, 2014, 02:49:04 PM
take pics and video, you'll cherish them forever.

during the final 48 hrs?
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #17 on: May 05, 2014, 02:54:36 PM »
Time.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #18 on: May 05, 2014, 02:56:40 PM »
my condolences.


we will all be there very soon. literally within moments on the grand time scale.


situations like these I truly feel bad for atheists, believing that you will never see loved ones again is probably a tough pill to swallow.


Quote from: YngiweRhoads on May 05, 2014, 02:51:07 PM
It's part of what it means to be alive.  Live long enough and you'll see almost everyone you care about pass away.

Well stated.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #19 on: May 05, 2014, 03:00:07 PM »
i log on getbig.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #20 on: May 05, 2014, 03:23:58 PM »
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #21 on: May 05, 2014, 03:29:52 PM »
I am very sorry.
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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #22 on: May 05, 2014, 03:34:44 PM »
The best you can do is speak with them.

Reminisce about the best times in life together and express your true emotions.

Let them know how much you care for them and how much they've meant in your life.

Thank them for their hard work and overall efforts in your upbringing.

Ask them to tell you where they think you can improve.

Allow them to get everything off their chest that has haunted them throughout life, regardless of it involving you or not.

Listen, listen and listen some more.

Make sure to make them laugh and laugh with them.

Last, but not least, say I love you and hold their hands during the final moments.

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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #23 on: May 05, 2014, 03:59:21 PM »

its a miracle to even exist when  you think about it, we shouldnt even be here but we are, deep down we know what to do to keep on livin, an i think we all will know a feeling when we are on our way out . the thing is people get sick before they die, and 9 times out of 10 we should be able to fix our sickness. that goes to show that the ball is mostly in our court, we cant fault anyone for our destiney, but theres also no way around of making cruicial mistakes, human species will either die or keep living with one eye and one arm, you aint gonna make it through unscathed

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Re: How did you deal with a parent dying?
« Reply #24 on: May 05, 2014, 04:03:16 PM »
Stay at the person's side and exchange memories, ideas and emotions if possible. After my father died I have said this to many of my friends who I know have a big heart and would realize once a person is gone a mortal link has been removed forever.
The distress that you feel when you had unfinished business is beyond painful, an ache that's heavy on the spirit and soul.
On a more positive note we all are little fragments of a spark eternal that earth's realm can't imprison forever.
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