I think many parents don't know the difference between abuse and discipline, and this is mainly where most problems come from. Anybody and everybody are becoming parents this day and age and not every person is qualified. Sure they are two different things, but a lot of parents can't state the difference. I think a lot of parents "discipline" their children (spank them, etc) thinking it's discipline while the kid on the other hand think it's abuse. I got hundreds of spankings growing up, and I remember telling myself at the time to remember how i felt about it so I wouldn't make the same mistakes when/if I became a parent. Many times when I got spanked, I didn't know why. I wasn't aware any act I did was wrong, and any questioning was deemed as "talking back" and thus more spanking was applied. Did instances like these teach me to become a better person? Apparently not. I think society has this idea that violence is the easiest way out of a situation so this is the method that we apply. For example if someone is doing harm to someone else or just acting like a jerk, many times people say "boy if they did that to me i'd go against their head" etc etc.
