Author Topic: Toxic Girl Friendships (Read 4655 times)

Deedee · « **on:** December 06, 2006, 08:13:21 AM »

It's come up a few times that women don't trust each other, that they compete with each other when it comes to attracting men, that they feel no loyalty whatsoever to others of their gender.

I'm a little surprised by this. I still have the same best girlfriend I had when I was ten. We live far away from each other but talk all the time and I would drop everything if she needed me and vice versa. My university friends and I are still close and I can't think of one instance where I would have hurt any one of them in any way, especially in the man zone. Some goes for other women I've met along the way, at the gym, at work, etc.

The only toxic relationship I personally could think of was my ex's sister... and it wasn't a friendship by choice. That girl would happily throw you down a flight of stairs, stab you in the heart with a carving knife, or throw battery acid in your face, if it meant she could have something you had that she didn't, but wanted.

Just wondering... what kind of friendships do we have for the most part? Good, bad, toxic?

xxxLinda · « **Reply #1 on:** December 06, 2006, 08:21:34 AM »

you keep the ones you need and you get the ones you deserve?

xL

I'm okay with other women, I love them. Sometimes they're funny to me though, get jealous etc.

xxxLinda · « **Reply #2 on:** December 06, 2006, 08:36:08 AM »

My father's new wife!

Deedee · « **Reply #3 on:** December 06, 2006, 08:38:41 AM »

Well, I won't say I've never been envious, or maybe even jealous, of my girlfriends. Never really over men (their choices,

) but maybe other things like their successes, or bodyparts. I've been furious with them too on occasion. But I would squash it down somehow... not look for a way to "win."

xxxLinda · « **Reply #4 on:** December 06, 2006, 08:40:15 AM »

Quote from: Deedee on December 06, 2006, 08:13:21 AM

women don't trust each other, that they compete with each other when it comes to attracting men, that they feel no loyalty whatsoever to others of their gender.

women only do that when they have extremely low self-esteem. Or else if they are complete and utter selfish bitches.

xxxLinda · « **Reply #5 on:** December 06, 2006, 08:42:37 AM »

Quote from: xxxLinda on December 06, 2006, 08:40:15 AM

selfish bitches.

and you can see them coming a mile off.

no worries.
x

xxxLinda · « **Reply #6 on:** December 06, 2006, 08:44:06 AM »

Quote from: Deedee on December 06, 2006, 08:38:41 AM

been envious, or maybe even jealous

or a way to "win."

Attempt not to do any of those things.

x

proschic · « **Reply #7 on:** December 06, 2006, 08:58:29 AM »

Quote from: xxxLinda on December 06, 2006, 08:40:15 AM

women only do that when they have extremely low self-esteem. Or else if they are complete and utter selfish bitches.

wow..i'm actually agreeing with you on this one xxxL!

I still talk to girlfriends from the 5th grade!! I have a few trusting friends that I would trust around anyone! I think it depends on the person and their situations. NEVER IN MY LIFE have I ever wanted a man, or looks, or materilistic things that my friends have had. There are certain boundaries that you just don't cross when you are in a trusting relationship...this includes your girlfriends as well!

xxxLinda · « **Reply #8 on:** December 06, 2006, 09:03:24 AM »

Quote from: proschic on December 06, 2006, 08:58:29 AM

NEVER IN MY LIFE have I ever wanted a man, or looks, or materilistic things that my friends have had.

well put. love etc.
Linda
x

xxxLinda · « **Reply #9 on:** December 06, 2006, 09:07:52 AM »

Let's talk about the selfish bitches. I've never understood why some people are only out for themselves?

They seem to get ahead though. I couldn't get to sleep at night.

xxx

ToxicAvenger · « **Reply #10 on:** December 06, 2006, 12:07:07 PM »

i thought this thread ws about me

Deedee · « **Reply #11 on:** December 06, 2006, 12:08:42 PM »

Quote from: ToxicAvenger! on December 06, 2006, 12:07:07 PM

i thought this thread ws about me

hehehe... I thought you might. I was going to put a disclaimer, but I wanted you to post here.

ToxicAvenger · « **Reply #12 on:** December 06, 2006, 12:23:55 PM »

Quote from: Deedee on December 06, 2006, 12:08:42 PM

but I wanted you to post here.

that made me feel all important like!

....keep going!

diamond · « **Reply #13 on:** December 06, 2006, 12:45:04 PM »

I think my relationship with other girls (the ones i like) are good.

I have an awesome relationship with my girls, ill do anything for any one of them, I'd be lost without them.

The whole 'all women hate each other' things is rubbish!

DIVISION · « **Reply #14 on:** December 06, 2006, 07:37:49 PM »

Quote from: ToxicAvenger! on December 06, 2006, 12:07:07 PM

i thought this thread ws about me

I did as well.

I thought it was going to be about lil' Junaid prior relationships.

"The Revenge of Poopers"

DIV

msbarbelle · « **Reply #15 on:** December 08, 2006, 07:53:54 AM »

some women simply can't be happy for each other & their success. if life changes (jobs, marriage, children, etc) pull you out of the box they categorized you into they can't handle it. i don't get it but i've seen it many times.
i keep very few close at hand, only the ones i would (and can) trust with my life.

Deedee · « **Reply #16 on:** December 08, 2006, 08:19:30 AM »

Me too. I have my trusted friends and would do anything for them. And I know I can always count on them, and I have. Probably most of us are the same.

There are however, women that you can spot a mile off, and you just know they have "b*tch" written all over them. These women are usually so unintelligent however that they have a hard time hiding their personalities, so you can see right through them and stay away. The thing is though, men have the same kind of social structure too, so it isn't just a "female" thing. Lots of guys are loyal friends for life, would do anything for their boy... and then there are those kind of guys who would stab you in the back, take your girl and your job without blinking twice. I just don't believe it's only a "girl" thing.

Migs · « **Reply #17 on:** December 09, 2006, 08:42:17 AM »

put a group of women in a room and more and likely you'll have some bitch fest after wahile. put some guys in a room and they'll be talking about xbox and football. women are evil! lol

Deedee · « **Reply #18 on:** December 09, 2006, 09:11:08 AM »

See, that's just a cliche. Put a bunch of women in a room and chances are just as good you'll get much laughing. There are lots of women who talk about ideas, not people.

Migs · « **Reply #19 on:** December 09, 2006, 09:14:44 AM »

Quote from: Deedee on December 09, 2006, 09:11:08 AM

See, that's just a cliche. Put a bunch of women in a room and chances are just as good you'll get much laughing. There are lots of women who talk about ideas, not people.

jsut stirring the pot, sugar.

Deedee · « **Reply #20 on:** December 09, 2006, 09:22:32 AM »

Quote from: Migs on December 09, 2006, 09:14:44 AM

jsut stirring the pot, sugar.

Just turning up the heat, sweet lips.

Migs · « **Reply #21 on:** December 09, 2006, 09:39:30 AM »

no comment since you have the power to delete my post on here!

Deedee · « **Reply #22 on:** December 09, 2006, 10:09:09 AM »

Quote from: Migs on December 09, 2006, 09:39:30 AM

no comment since you have the power to delete my post on here!

We would never do that... we welcome discussion on this board. So feel free to let it hang among the girls.

Migs · « **Reply #23 on:** December 09, 2006, 10:11:30 AM »

Quote from: Deedee on December 09, 2006, 10:09:09 AM

So feel free to let hang among the girls.

ROFLMAO

Parker · « **Reply #24 on:** December 10, 2006, 01:23:45 PM »

Men have similar problem. The saying "Bros over ho's" comes mind

I have seen women do some ill mess to each other over a dude.
As a matter of fact, I dated a girl who had best friend who like me, the girl was at her friend's throat. I later found out that a similar situation had happened before me.