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Getbig Female Info Boards => Open Talk for Girl Discussion => Topic started by: Lynchie on March 13, 2009, 12:46:26 PM
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I feel like I've reached the end of my intellectual wits here with this fucking woman.
So I like her, a lot. Problem is, she is stuck in a very unhappy marriage with this real dick of a guy who I offered to gladly stomp his guts out. He treats her like shit (I know, i've been in the house when he was there and heard them argue) and she wants to leave, promises herself she will leave but can't get round doing it. She rings me daily, practically in tears that she is so unhappy, but can't bring herself to go. She does not need his money, have her own career, her own house, they don't have sex, she does not want him in the house. She have me round there, we have sex, make dinner together, watch TV, joke around as if we've been together for years, cuddle, kiss, finish each other's sentences, etc. The things you do when you're in a relationship I guess, yet, we're not. ::) . I want to be, but I'm afraid I'll be the rebound guy when she does leave him eventually. For some reason, women seem to love short bald assholes that treat them like shit and will actually cry herself a river when she does leave. So she says anyway. I refuse to be a rebound guy for a little dipshit like that.
At the moment, emotionally, I can walk away without having grief/sense of loss stomp my guts too badly, but I don't want to. I feel there can be something good with this woman, if only she can sort her fucking life out. She knows what she needs to do, she says so herself without me prompting her or putting any ideas in her head, yet she does not do it. Sometimes when I'm with her, he would ring and she would be all nice and charming on the phone, frustrating the hell out of me. She says she is just trying to keep the peace. The peace for what?? Does she actually intend to leave him?
She does have a lot of shit going on in her life at the moment with her family, her brother recently committed suicide, then her mom tried to kill herself over that, all sorts of nasty shit. So I can understand that there is enough drama in her life at the moment without adding the stress of divorce too. I try my very best not to pile on more shit, but for fuck sake, how long do I need to wait before it just becomes sad and me just a crutch for her to lean on??
Am I in a position to ring up and make demands at all? Tonight I wanted to see her (her period finished, so happy times again!) but asshole is at home and he wants to take her out. She's been trying on excuses the whole day but he insists on taking her out. So she's been sending me messages constantly apologising, telling me how much she wants me tonight, how much she hates being with him, but there is nothing she can do otherwise it'll be war again. What's a guy to do?
I also don't know why the fuck I post this on Getbig, but hey, there is some really smart people on here, and if they don't act like dicks most of the time, some can actually come up with pretty enlightening stuff or a new direction of thought. That is what I'm after I guess.
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you sound like a pretty tough guy. ::)
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If I was you
I'd tell her I'm done and if she leaves all the drama and miserable existance behind , I'd be more than willing to see her again
but not until she's done with all of the grief
honestly , you're IMO enabling her to continue this as long as she can get away with it
I say "get away with" because she's just letting it go on and on --> with both of you
There comes a time when everyone else's needs and wants become secondary to yours and the ones you "love"
Right now it seems like she has no intention on rocking the boat , she's "content" in a way to keep you and relish in all your attention and has you on call in case she needs you ... meanwhile ..you want to see her and her husband gets what he wants instead
that shows where her priorities are pretty clearly , since you said she doesn't need his money and it's her house
I certainly do hope that he's the one that told you they don't have sex
cuz unless you were born yesterday and don't know , she's like any other woman in that position .. telling you what you need to hear .. on top of playing on your sympathy .. I'd bet money she loves to hear how badly you want to hurt him ..
all in all .. you know all of this , which is why you're feeling like you're at the end of your rope with it all
I don't want you to think I'm minimizing how you feel for her and how well you two get on with each other , I'm just saying it doesn't mean it's a good place to stay in and all this drama will take a toll ... in the long run it won't be forgotten either, right now you sound like she's innocent and he's an ass because you hear her "excuses" and think they can be called "reasons" .. there is no reason I can see for her to stay .. what is it accomplishing ?
truth is when you get "involved" with a married woman you gotta know in your gut if she isn't running to you , she's staying with him , even if only for a day it shows how much ( little ) "you" mean to her
I wish you well :)
but I gotta add .. it's really not cool to be banging this broad and acting like a couple in the house she shares with another man :(
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What you say make sense, but it's certainly not so easy when you're the one in the situation. I'll be gutted if I lose her because of my impatience, but on the other hand, it's been two months now, stacked with promises and very slow action. I wouldn't say she tells me what to hear, I've been around the block enough with lying women to have a good idea when I'm being fed a line. What to do.
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2 months later and she's going out with him instead of you :-\
believe me I know it sux , this puts the decision in your hands ... not an easy thing to live with when you are feeling like it means you're being impatient
I see it as eight weeks have gone by , and still he gets what he wants ? and you're feeling bad ? seems like that says she knows where you are when she's with him ... how about telling her you have a date ? I wonder how well that would go over ?
I didn't say she's "lying" , I said telling you what you need to hear so she can keep it all the same as long as possible .. it's like she's enjoying you a lot more than you're enjoying her .. and she does know what she's doing to you when she tells you how bad it is to be "stuck" in the place she's in
we all know it causes compassionate reactions and leads you to feel guilty if you don't feel bad for her .. now it feels selfish if you think about yourself
game well played ... intentionally or not
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I feel like I've reached the end of my intellectual wits here with this fucking woman.
So I like her, a lot. Problem is, she is stuck in a very unhappy marriage with this real dick of a guy who I offered to gladly stomp his guts out. He treats her like shit (I know, i've been in the house when he was there and heard them argue) and she wants to leave, promises herself she will leave but can't get round doing it. She rings me daily, practically in tears that she is so unhappy, but can't bring herself to go. She does not need his money, have her own career, her own house, they don't have sex, she does not want him in the house. She have me round there, we have sex, make dinner together, watch TV, joke around as if we've been together for years, cuddle, kiss, finish each other's sentences, etc. The things you do when you're in a relationship I guess, yet, we're not. ::) . I want to be, but I'm afraid I'll be the rebound guy when she does leave him eventually. For some reason, women seem to love short bald assholes that treat them like shit and will actually cry herself a river when she does leave. So she says anyway. I refuse to be a rebound guy for a little dipshit like that.
At the moment, emotionally, I can walk away without having grief/sense of loss stomp my guts too badly, but I don't want to. I feel there can be something good with this woman, if only she can sort her fucking life out. She knows what she needs to do, she says so herself without me prompting her or putting any ideas in her head, yet she does not do it. Sometimes when I'm with her, he would ring and she would be all nice and charming on the phone, frustrating the hell out of me. She says she is just trying to keep the peace. The peace for what?? Does she actually intend to leave him?
She does have a lot of shit going on in her life at the moment with her family, her brother recently committed suicide, then her mom tried to kill herself over that, all sorts of nasty shit. So I can understand that there is enough drama in her life at the moment without adding the stress of divorce too. I try my very best not to pile on more shit, but for fuck sake, how long do I need to wait before it just becomes sad and me just a crutch for her to lean on??
Am I in a position to ring up and make demands at all? Tonight I wanted to see her (her period finished, so happy times again!) but asshole is at home and he wants to take her out. She's been trying on excuses the whole day but he insists on taking her out. So she's been sending me messages constantly apologising, telling me how much she wants me tonight, how much she hates being with him, but there is nothing she can do otherwise it'll be war again. What's a guy to do?
I also don't know why the fuck I post this on Getbig, but hey, there is some really smart people on here, and if they don't act like dicks most of the time, some can actually come up with pretty enlightening stuff or a new direction of thought. That is what I'm after I guess.
Married women are bad news...even if you're the one married to them :D
Seriously...I know I sound square, but there is no justification for dating a married woman or man. Nothing good can come from it. I realize you can't control how you feel, but you can control what you do.
This is getbig.com, so flame away.
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captain save a ho
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Just sent her a scathing message aimed for the jugular. Let's see if she gets back. To be honest, I think I've had enough. The more I think about it the more wound up I get. I'm too young to get my blood pressure up over a piece of skirt.
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I'm too young to get my blood pressure up over a piece of skirt.
You are learning, Grasshopper.
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Just sent her a scathing message aimed for the jugular. Let's see if she gets back. To be honest, I think I've had enough. The more I think about it the more wound up I get. I'm too young to get my blood pressure up over a piece of skirt.
It's a Friday night , you should be out with your mates having a good time instead of worrying about your blood pressure :)
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Can't, work soon. Tomorrow night I'll be having a few beverages. :P
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you are making your own agony dude. Get the fuck outta there. Stop all communication now and move on.
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I feel like I've reached the end of my intellectual wits here with this fucking woman.
So I like her, a lot. Problem is, she is stuck in a very unhappy marriage with this real dick of a guy who I offered to gladly stomp his guts out. He treats her like shit (I know, i've been in the house when he was there and heard them argue) and she wants to leave, promises herself she will leave but can't get round doing it. She rings me daily, practically in tears that she is so unhappy, but can't bring herself to go. She does not need his money, have her own career, her own house, they don't have sex, she does not want him in the house. She have me round there, we have sex, make dinner together, watch TV, joke around as if we've been together for years, cuddle, kiss, finish each other's sentences, etc. The things you do when you're in a relationship I guess, yet, we're not. ::) . I want to be, but I'm afraid I'll be the rebound guy when she does leave him eventually. For some reason, women seem to love short bald assholes that treat them like shit and will actually cry herself a river when she does leave. So she says anyway. I refuse to be a rebound guy for a little dipshit like that.
At the moment, emotionally, I can walk away without having grief/sense of loss stomp my guts too badly, but I don't want to. I feel there can be something good with this woman, if only she can sort her fucking life out. She knows what she needs to do, she says so herself without me prompting her or putting any ideas in her head, yet she does not do it. Sometimes when I'm with her, he would ring and she would be all nice and charming on the phone, frustrating the hell out of me. She says she is just trying to keep the peace. The peace for what?? Does she actually intend to leave him?
She does have a lot of shit going on in her life at the moment with her family, her brother recently committed suicide, then her mom tried to kill herself over that, all sorts of nasty shit. So I can understand that there is enough drama in her life at the moment without adding the stress of divorce too. I try my very best not to pile on more shit, but for fuck sake, how long do I need to wait before it just becomes sad and me just a crutch for her to lean on??
Am I in a position to ring up and make demands at all? Tonight I wanted to see her (her period finished, so happy times again!) but asshole is at home and he wants to take her out. She's been trying on excuses the whole day but he insists on taking her out. So she's been sending me messages constantly apologising, telling me how much she wants me tonight, how much she hates being with him, but there is nothing she can do otherwise it'll be war again. What's a guy to do?
I also don't know why the fuck I post this on Getbig, but hey, there is some really smart people on here, and if they don't act like dicks most of the time, some can actually come up with pretty enlightening stuff or a new direction of thought. That is what I'm after I guess.
Her mouth says she does'nt wont him but her action says that she does'nt wont you 100%! You said that ya'll have been together for over a year, wtf she could'nt have had family problems the whole time. Oh, think about this what does she tell him when your not their, it cant be that bad he's not leaveing. Also what if she did leave him, who is to say that she would'nt pull the same shit with someone else as she is doing with you! Some people just wont to have a little something on the side and the whole time it's no where as bad as she crying it is. You get someone on the side and then see how she reacts!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You are a shitbag for messing around with a married woman.
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In my weak defense, she only told me a short while ago she was married, I didn't know all along. I would NEVER have gone into this had I knew from the start.
Anyway, so she came round to my place at 6am this morning just as I got back from work and... well ... I've never heard anyone apologize like this before. The chemistry have also never been this good.
She now have an ultimatum, pick one of us by next Saturday, or I'm out. She promise to fuck him off this week and get divorce papers ready. We'll see I guess.
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In my weak defense, she only told me a short while ago she was married, I didn't know all along. I would NEVER have gone into this had I knew from the start.
Anyway, so she came round to my place at 6am this morning just as I got back from work and... well ... I've never heard anyone apologize like this before. The chemistry have also never been this good.
She now have an ultimatum, pick one of us by next Saturday, or I'm out. She promise to fuck him off this week and get divorce papers ready. We'll see I guess.
While it is good that you wouldn't have dated her if you had known she was married, still, one has to ask, how could you not know? I am afraid you are setting yourself up for heartache or worse by not being strong enough to walk away.
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is this the same girl ?
http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=259394.0
In my weak defense, she only told me a short while ago she was married, I didn't know all along. I would NEVER have gone into this had I knew from the start.
if you didn't know from the start it shows she's deceptive and that's a character flaw that just doesn't disappear
after you found out you kept seeing her , for two reasons , the power of the pu$$ and she told you she wasn't happily married
TBH , you should have made the ultimatum the minute she told you , you didn't ... that led to her to know she had you on the hook and could keep you there
Anyway, so she came round to my place at 6am this morning just as I got back from work and... well ... I've never heard anyone apologize like this before. The chemistry have also never been this good.
yeah , I bet the chemistry was better than ever :-\ , sorry to say this ,but that was because she knew what to do .... and she didn't do it immediatly after your scathing message ... why doesn't that tell you that she will do what she wants first .. and deal with you next ? and why is that good enough for you ?
She now have an ultimatum, pick one of us by next Saturday, or I'm out. She promise to fuck him off this week and get divorce papers ready. We'll see I guess.
You gave her a week ... ( after you nutted ) to leave another man , after she went out with him , and then came to screw you ... after a night of crying and working up some remorse ? .. ? .. ?
wow. . . no ... sorry ... there's only a weekend to make it thru until Monday when a lawyers office opens right ? She could spend it in a motel room .. and should have already gotten a room before she came to see you , more like , right after the message you sent
You should man up ... call her husband , meet someplace public and calmly tell him everything , hopefully he would tell you his side .. and most likely tell you they have had sex at least once in the last 8 weeks .. she should have NO problem with all that ... if she is being honest with you
You have a huge pair of rose colored glasses on and see her as the better of the two
in all honesty she's worse ... she came on to you .. as a married woman ... went to bed with you on the first date .. neglecting to tell you she was married
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this Lynchie dude is a moron.sorry man just callin it like I see it.you deserve the drama that will soon be entering your life.
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plain and simple...... call it quits....... these stories NEVER end on a good note.
Find a good woman who loves you for who you are and does not keep secrets from you.
Don't make things difficult on yourself..... cut this romance off ASAP.
TALK TO A COUNSELOR IF NEED BE. Don't play with fire any longer.
IMHO
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w8m8,
Can't be the same girl..... "She's not like that". :)
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LOL, I can't imagine any pussy that good to deal with all the drama. If she is married, you better hope her husband feels the same way about the marraige as she does.
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Forgot about this thread. Yea, that ended last week. Already working on getting some new tail. I'm was gutted for about an afternoon before my best female mate let me fuck her to get over this broad. Yes, we have that type of relationship, totally dysfunctional and great. Anyway, thanks for all the various inputs, I'll let this thread die a natural death now since further discussions is pretty much pointless.
Lesson learned, these things NEVER fucking work out, Oh well ;D
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Hopefully you learned something from the situation.
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Yup, when a woman looks you in the eyes and insist that she is telling the truth, she is lying.
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Yup, when a woman looks you in the eyes and insist that she is telling the truth, she is lying.
I would love to try that theory on a guy but I can't get them to stop staring at my chest to even look me in the eye ;D
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I would love to try that theory on a guy but I can't get them to stop staring at my chest to even look me in the eye ;D
Stop telling boring stories.
;D
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Stop telling boring stories.
;D
I have been censored by the "Moral Authority".
Boring is all I have left :'(
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I have been censored by the "Moral Authority".
Boring is all I have left :'(
Damn those right wingers!
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I would love to try that theory on a guy but I can't get them to stop staring at my chest to even look me in the eye ;D
EYES is always the first place i look on a woman, sexiest part of a woman's body is her eyes.
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EYES is always the first place i look on a woman, sexiest part of a woman's body is her eyes.
The eyes is where you can tell if she is interested in YOU.
I usually look at the ass first though. ;D
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The eyes is where you can tell if she is interested in YOU.
I usually look at the ass first though. ;D
I also notice the legs / ass.
Tits are second and I will look into her eyes to see if she's into me... after that, everything else is secondary.
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I feel like I've reached the end of my intellectual wits here with this fucking woman.
So I like her, a lot. Problem is, she is stuck in a very unhappy marriage with this real dick of a guy who I offered to gladly stomp his guts out. He treats her like shit (I know, i've been in the house when he was there and heard them argue) and she wants to leave, promises herself she will leave but can't get round doing it. She rings me daily, practically in tears that she is so unhappy, but can't bring herself to go. She does not need his money, have her own career, her own house, they don't have sex, she does not want him in the house. She have me round there, we have sex, make dinner together, watch TV, joke around as if we've been together for years, cuddle, kiss, finish each other's sentences, etc. The things you do when you're in a relationship I guess, yet, we're not. ::) . I want to be, but I'm afraid I'll be the rebound guy when she does leave him eventually. For some reason, women seem to love short bald assholes that treat them like shit and will actually cry herself a river when she does leave. So she says anyway. I refuse to be a rebound guy for a little dipshit like that.
At the moment, emotionally, I can walk away without having grief/sense of loss stomp my guts too badly, but I don't want to. I feel there can be something good with this woman, if only she can sort her fucking life out. She knows what she needs to do, she says so herself without me prompting her or putting any ideas in her head, yet she does not do it. Sometimes when I'm with her, he would ring and she would be all nice and charming on the phone, frustrating the hell out of me. She says she is just trying to keep the peace. The peace for what?? Does she actually intend to leave him?
She does have a lot of shit going on in her life at the moment with her family, her brother recently committed suicide, then her mom tried to kill herself over that, all sorts of nasty shit. So I can understand that there is enough drama in her life at the moment without adding the stress of divorce too. I try my very best not to pile on more shit, but for fuck sake, how long do I need to wait before it just becomes sad and me just a crutch for her to lean on??
Am I in a position to ring up and make demands at all? Tonight I wanted to see her (her period finished, so happy times again!) but asshole is at home and he wants to take her out. She's been trying on excuses the whole day but he insists on taking her out. So she's been sending me messages constantly apologising, telling me how much she wants me tonight, how much she hates being with him, but there is nothing she can do otherwise it'll be war again. What's a guy to do?
I also don't know why the fuck I post this on Getbig, but hey, there is some really smart people on here, and if they don't act like dicks most of the time, some can actually come up with pretty enlightening stuff or a new direction of thought. That is what I'm after I guess.
This woman ain't something to collect if you are looking for a serious relationship. With all the turmoil she's in (most of which is a result of her own self image, not the outside world), you're probably in for a real headcase.
And no reason to blame that guy she's with. All she needs to do is to say "no" and leave him, yet she does not do it (while probably knowing that he won't change anyway, most people never do). She obviously don't have strong boundaries (ref. to the "self image" comment) (well, many don't haha, but that does not mean that you should accept it)
Grow up, make up your mind, and act on the decision.... You don't need Getbiggers to tell you what to do (which is part of the problem here: you're asking for other peoples opinions instead of being clear about what you want in life, and acting on those goals and standards), you need to figure out what you really want in life and then acting based on that (a vital part of being a grown, mature man).
Not trying to diss you or anything, but come on man, what are you thinking?? ::)
Good luck :-*
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I feel like I've reached the end of my intellectual wits here with this fucking woman.
So I like her, a lot. Problem is, she is stuck in a very unhappy marriage with this real dick of a guy who I offered to gladly stomp his guts out. He treats her like shit (I know, i've been in the house when he was there and heard them argue) and she wants to leave, promises herself she will leave but can't get round doing it. She rings me daily, practically in tears that she is so unhappy, but can't bring herself to go. She does not need his money, have her own career, her own house, they don't have sex, she does not want him in the house. She have me round there, we have sex, make dinner together, watch TV, joke around as if we've been together for years, cuddle, kiss, finish each other's sentences, etc. The things you do when you're in a relationship I guess, yet, we're not. ::) . I want to be, but I'm afraid I'll be the rebound guy when she does leave him eventually. For some reason, women seem to love short bald assholes that treat them like shit and will actually cry herself a river when she does leave. So she says anyway. I refuse to be a rebound guy for a little dipshit like that.
At the moment, emotionally, I can walk away without having grief/sense of loss stomp my guts too badly, but I don't want to. I feel there can be something good with this woman, if only she can sort her fucking life out. She knows what she needs to do, she says so herself without me prompting her or putting any ideas in her head, yet she does not do it. Sometimes when I'm with her, he would ring and she would be all nice and charming on the phone, frustrating the hell out of me. She says she is just trying to keep the peace. The peace for what?? Does she actually intend to leave him?
She does have a lot of shit going on in her life at the moment with her family, her brother recently committed suicide, then her mom tried to kill herself over that, all sorts of nasty shit. So I can understand that there is enough drama in her life at the moment without adding the stress of divorce too. I try my very best not to pile on more shit, but for fuck sake, how long do I need to wait before it just becomes sad and me just a crutch for her to lean on??
Am I in a position to ring up and make demands at all? Tonight I wanted to see her (her period finished, so happy times again!) but asshole is at home and he wants to take her out. She's been trying on excuses the whole day but he insists on taking her out. So she's been sending me messages constantly apologising, telling me how much she wants me tonight, how much she hates being with him, but there is nothing she can do otherwise it'll be war again. What's a guy to do?
I also don't know why the fuck I post this on Getbig, but hey, there is some really smart people on here, and if they don't act like dicks most of the time, some can actually come up with pretty enlightening stuff or a new direction of thought. That is what I'm after I guess.
Run, Forrest, Run...
You will be in the same predicament, if you were with her. Who's the say the guy wasn't a nice guy in the beginning. It's lie seein the end of a fight and both combatants have wounds, you don't know who struck first.
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off her and yourself... :-*
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I would love to try that theory on a guy but I can't get them to stop staring at my chest to even look me in the eye ;D
Stop dealing dudes with the mentality of a 22 yr old...It's not hard to look a woman in the face while talking---even if she is half naked.
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Just a quick update on this story, not that i think anyone is interested, but still doing it.
I forgot I still had her on Skype, so about an hour ago, I was in bed on the laptop with this girl I met 2 days ago humping my leg. Skype was on, and guess who logged on?
She's like 'You there?'.. ' yea, what do you want?' So she goes to give this pathetic rap on how it was all her fault, how sad she's been, if I wont consider giving her another chance, etc etc.
So I go downstairs to make coffee and let this chick in the bed take over the conversation, for fun.
I get back upstairs and this broad has only gone and invited the ex over. She will open the door half naked and tell this bitch to fuck off for good and slam the door in her face.
Ok, I had NOTHING to do with this, I don't support or condone it. I just hope the ex would get some of her own medicine back in the process.
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Just a quick update on this story, not that i think anyone is interested, but still doing it.
I forgot I still had her on Skype, so about an hour ago, I was in bed on the laptop with this girl I met 2 days ago humping my leg. Skype was on, and guess who logged on?
She's like 'You there?'.. ' yea, what do you want?' So she goes to give this pathetic rap on how it was all her fault, how sad she's been, if I wont consider giving her another chance, etc etc.
So I go downstairs to make coffee and let this chick in the bed take over the conversation, for fun.
I get back upstairs and this broad has only gone and invited the ex over. She will open the door half naked and tell this bitch to fuck off for good and slam the door in her face.
Ok, I had NOTHING to do with this, I don't support or condone it. I just hope the ex would get some of her own medicine back in the process.
Why not just do a threesome?
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Why not just do a threesome?
no fuckin doubt.
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no fuckin doubt.
Just seems like a wasted opportunity.
He already knows she's a skank so there's no harm in asking.
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Just seems like a wasted opportunity.
He already knows she's a skank so there's no harm in asking.
This is beginning to look like that Seinfeld episode where George has two girlfriends who refuse to end their relationships with him.
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So I like her, a lot. Problem is, she is stuck in a very unhappy marriage with this real dick of a guy who I offered to gladly stomp his guts out. He treats her like shit (I know, i've been in the house when he was there and heard them argue) and she wants to leave, promises herself she will leave but can't get round doing it.
there is your answer....
admit it or not..she'll always be happier with an ass-hole and treat the nice ones with indifference...
for it...move on..dont play the knight in shining armour
LEAVE and cut ALL ties...2 months from now you'll pm and thank me
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there is your answer....
admit it or not..she'll always be happier with an ass-hole and treat the nice ones with indifference...
for it...move on..dont play the knight in shining armour
LEAVE and cut ALL ties...2 months from now you'll pm and thank me
brutal truth.
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LOL you deserved what you got, no offense just being honest you said in your original post that you didnt want to be the rebound guy but guess what bro you were all along.
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Maybe Lynchie is just naive.
People who cheat are whores. Nothing more, nothing less.
I always find it funny when people are surprised when someone cheating with them lies. That person didn't care about vows taken before friends, family, spouse and God (in most cases) but they're really so worried about lying to someone else. Hit them all you want, just don't believe a word they say. :)
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Maybe Lynchie is just naive.
People who cheat are whores. Nothing more, nothing less.
I always find it funny when people are surprised when someone cheating with them lies. That person didn't care about vows taken before friends, family, spouse and God (in most cases) but they're really so worried about lying to someone else. Hit them all you want, just don't believe a word they say. :)
LOL truth right there or i find it equally amusing when somebody cheats and the person they cheated on stays with them and they get cheated on again.
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LOL truth right there or i find it equally amusing when somebody cheats and the person they cheated on stays with them and they get cheated on again.
Aesop figured it out long ago: "The Farmer and the Snake
ONE WINTER a Farmer found a Snake stiff and frozen with cold. He had compassion on it, and taking it up, placed it in his bosom. The Snake was quickly revived by the warmth, and resuming its natural instincts, bit its benefactor, inflicting on him a mortal wound. "Oh," cried the Farmer with his last breath, "I am rightly served for pitying a scoundrel.""
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Maybe Lynchie is just naive.
People who cheat are whores. Nothing more, nothing less.
I always find it funny when people are surprised when someone cheating with them lies. That person didn't care about vows taken before friends, family, spouse and God (in most cases) but they're really so worried about lying to someone else. Hit them all you want, just don't believe a word they say. :)
I know man, but for fuck sake, surely people can change? Not sure if I mentioned it here, but she has cheated on every single boyfriend she ever had, by her own admission that is. I wanted to be the one that changed that, if only she was able to ween herself of her old man's cock. The funny thing however is, I'm boning this new broad now and the ex is something I cannot figure out why I ever worried about it. All I ever got from that relationship is just another notch on my wall.
If you could allow me to indulge melodrama for just a second. Ever girl I ever had, inhabited on some level, a different corner of my heart. When she left, that part dies. It's as if my heart is becoming smaller every time, so is my patience. I've noticed that as I'm getting older and the ex's and flings become more and more, I also become more skeptical and more of an ass, due to past experiences. I have less tolerance for women and their shit. If I was 21 still, I would still be running after this chica and trying to make it work, now I've tried loosely for about 8 days, and fucked her off.
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Why not just do a threesome?
No need, this new gal can fit my whole wanger and two balls into her mouth, so nothing left for a 3rd party.
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This woman ain't something to collect if you are looking for a serious relationship. With all the turmoil she's in (most of which is a result of her own self image, not the outside world), you're probably in for a real headcase.
And no reason to blame that guy she's with. All she needs to do is to say "no" and leave him, yet she does not do it (while probably knowing that he won't change anyway, most people never do). She obviously don't have strong boundaries (ref. to the "self image" comment) (well, many don't haha, but that does not mean that you should accept it)
Grow up, make up your mind, and act on the decision.... You don't need Getbiggers to tell you what to do (which is part of the problem here: you're asking for other peoples opinions instead of being clear about what you want in life, and acting on those goals and standards), you need to figure out what you really want in life and then acting based on that (a vital part of being a grown, mature man).
Not trying to diss you or anything, but come on man, what are you thinking?? ::)
Good luck :-*
When I seriously pressed her on why she is not breaking up, she said that 'it's not on her list of priorities' now. She does have serious issues in her private life, which is now doubt influencing her.
Also, what's wrong with asking what other people would've done? Maybe I thought of myself too hasty, too impatient and just wanting to confirm my own suspicions by drawing on experience gained by others.
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I know man, but for fuck sake, surely people can change? Not sure if I mentioned it here, but she has cheated on every single boyfriend she ever had, by her own admission that is. I wanted to be the one that changed that, if only she was able to ween herself of her old man's cock. The funny thing however is, I'm boning this new broad now and the ex is something I cannot figure out why I ever worried about it. All I ever got from that relationship is just another notch on my wall.
If you could allow me to indulge melodrama for just a second. Ever girl I ever had, inhabited on some level, a different corner of my heart. When she left, that part dies. It's as if my heart is becoming smaller every time, so is my patience. I've noticed that as I'm getting older and the ex's and flings become more and more, I also become more skeptical and more of an ass, due to past experiences. I have less tolerance for women and their shit. If I was 21 still, I would still be running after this chica and trying to make it work, now I've tried loosely for about 8 days, and fucked her off.
People don't change, best we can hope for is to learn. At least if we learn, there's a chance to deal with our own BS better.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Period.
The real question isn't why you'd want to hang out with a slut but why is your self esteem so low? Animals can smell fear and certain people can smell low self esteem a mile away. Instead of hopping from skank to skank you should spend some time working on yourself before messing things up and missing out on a good woman.
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Aesop figured it out long ago: "The Farmer and the Snake
ONE WINTER a Farmer found a Snake stiff and frozen with cold. He had compassion on it, and taking it up, placed it in his bosom. The Snake was quickly revived by the warmth, and resuming its natural instincts, bit its benefactor, inflicting on him a mortal wound. "Oh," cried the Farmer with his last breath, "I am rightly served for pitying a scoundrel.""
The Scorpion and the Frog
One day, a scorpion looked around at the mountain where he lived and decided that he wanted a change. So he set out on a journey through the forests and hills. He climbed over rocks and under vines and kept going until he reached a river.
The river was wide and swift, and the scorpion stopped to reconsider the situation. He couldn't see any way across. So he ran upriver and then checked downriver, all the while thinking that he might have to turn back.
Suddenly, he saw a frog sitting in the rushes by the bank of the stream on the other side of the river. He decided to ask the frog for help getting across the stream.
"Hellooo Mr. Frog!" called the scorpion across the water, "Would you be so kind as to give me a ride on your back across the river?"
"Well now, Mr. Scorpion! How do I know that if I try to help you, you wont try to kill me?" asked the frog hesitantly.
"Because," the scorpion replied, "If I try to kill you, then I would die too, for you see I cannot swim!"
Now this seemed to make sense to the frog. But he asked. "What about when I get close to the bank? You could still try to kill me and get back to the shore!"
"This is true," agreed the scorpion, "But then I wouldn't be able to get to the other side of the river!"
"Alright then...how do I know you wont just wait till we get to the other side and THEN kill me?" said the frog.
"Ahh...," crooned the scorpion, "Because you see, once you've taken me to the other side of this river, I will be so grateful for your help, that it would hardly be fair to reward you with death, now would it?!"
So the frog agreed to take the scorpion across the river. He swam over to the bank and settled himself near the mud to pick up his passenger. The scorpion crawled onto the frog's back, his sharp claws prickling into the frog's soft hide, and the frog slid into the river. The muddy water swirled around them, but the frog stayed near the surface so the scorpion would not drown. He kicked strongly through the first half of the stream, his flippers paddling wildly against the current.
Halfway across the river, the frog suddenly felt a sharp sting in his back and, out of the corner of his eye, saw the scorpion remove his stinger from the frog's back. A deadening numbness began to creep into his limbs.
"You fool!" croaked the frog, "Now we shall both die! Why on earth did you do that?"
The scorpion shrugged, and did a little jig on the drownings frog's back.
"I could not help myself. It is my nature."
Then they both sank into the muddy waters of the swiftly flowing river.
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People don't change, best we can hope for is to learn. At least if we learn, there's a chance to deal with our own BS better.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Period.
The real question isn't why you'd want to hang out with a slut but why is your self esteem so low? Animals can smell fear and certain people can smell low self esteem a mile away. Instead of hopping from skank to skank you should spend some time working on yourself before messing things up and missing out on a good woman.
Just briefly motivate how you got to me having a low self esteem?
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Faust, that's a very nice story.
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Just briefly motivate how you got to me having a low self esteem?
It's the women's board and I just don't have the time (right now) to explain it in a way that would fall within Stella's guidelines for being nice.
Just take my word on this and start asking yourself why crap like this happens. Ask enough times and you'll see I'm right. :)
If genuinely asking yourself doesn't help I'll take the time to explain it in a way Stella/Cheri can tolerate. There's always the Y board if you can stand the uncensored/unedited/unvarnished opinion but I honestly wouldn't recommend it.
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People don't change, best we can hope for is to learn. At least if we learn, there's a chance to deal with our own BS better.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Period.
The real question isn't why you'd want to hang out with a slut but why is your self esteem so low? Animals can smell fear and certain people can smell low self esteem a mile away. Instead of hopping from skank to skank you should spend some time working on yourself before messing things up and missing out on a good woman.
honestly and in all sincerity the best advice ever given on getbig...you should listen to kaje lynchie.
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Just briefly motivate how you got to me having a low self esteem?
Are you the type of guy who wants/needs to be in a relationship?
iono about your self esteem bro but in general ppl who jump from relationship to relationship are looking for approval...i.e. getting your self worth from others approval of you, they like me, they fuk me, must mean others see me in a favorable light...Another problem is that you end up losing yourself in all the different relationships and bs that you go through bro.
A HEALTHY relationship is a guy and a girl each with their own lives and then the guy+girl with their lives together, im not saying their independent lives are secret only that they have activities and friends that arent entirely inclusive to their relationship with their Sig. other. You simply jump from relationship to relationship it sounds like never developing YOU as an individual i know you will probably disagree with this but be honest with yourself b/c nobody else is going to be. Simply like this bro you cant ever really know who you are if your always in a relationship b/c in a relationship youre always making decisions based of both of you and not just you, you will be alot more happy being in a relationship when you are happy and content even when you are not in one.
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Either she leaves him, or you leave. If she chooses to stay with him, make sure he gets a copy of the texts. If you've ever recorded you guys gettin busy, make sure he sees that also. Honestly I wouldn't want the hoochie. If she'll cheat on that guy, she'll cheat on you.
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It's the women's board and I just don't have the time (right now) to explain it in a way that would fall within Stella's guidelines for being nice.
Just take my word on this and start asking yourself why crap like this happens. Ask enough times and you'll see I'm right. :)
If genuinely asking yourself doesn't help I'll take the time to explain it in a way Stella/Cheri can tolerate. There's always the Y board if you can stand the uncensored/unedited/unvarnished opinion but I honestly wouldn't recommend it.
Explain away, it's impossible for me to take offence on the internet. Why does it happen? Don't know, it's happened twice now, out of 40 odd girls I've had the past 10 years or so. It usually breaks off because they want too much too fast. Sometimes a girl comes round that I really like and either it does work out or it doesn't.
I would not say I have low self esteem, eventhough you seem pretty set on it ;D . If anything, I'm too arrogant and that have cost me girls in the past.
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Are you the type of guy who wants/needs to be in a relationship?
iono about your self esteem bro but in general ppl who jump from relationship to relationship are looking for approval...i.e. getting your self worth from others approval of you, they like me, they fuk me, must mean others see me in a favorable light...Another problem is that you end up losing yourself in all the different relationships and bs that you go through bro.
A HEALTHY relationship is a guy and a girl each with their own lives and then the guy+girl with their lives together, im not saying their independent lives are secret only that they have activities and friends that arent entirely inclusive to their relationship with their Sig. other. You simply jump from relationship to relationship it sounds like never developing YOU as an individual i know you will probably disagree with this but be honest with yourself b/c nobody else is going to be. Simply like this bro you cant ever really know who you are if your always in a relationship b/c in a relationship youre always making decisions based of both of you and not just you, you will be alot more happy being in a relationship when you are happy and content even when you are not in one.
No, i don't want to be in relationships, I never actively seek them, I seek out the sex. Sometimes a girl comes around that's harder to get than others, and I pull out all the stops to get her, on rare occasions she gets away. Bloody hell, this is the women board hey ;D
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Explain away, it's impossible for me to take offence on the internet. Why does it happen? Don't know, it's happened twice now, out of 40 odd girls I've had the past 10 years or so. It usually breaks off because they want too much too fast. Sometimes a girl comes round that I really like and either it does work out or it doesn't.
I would not say I have low self esteem, eventhough you seem pretty set on it ;D . If anything, I'm too arrogant and that have cost me girls in the past.
Asking yourself once or twice won't get the answer. Besides..... if you're really that far from seeing the obvious there's no point to giving an answer.
I'm respecting the tone Estella wishes this forum to have, not your feelings.
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No, i don't want to be in relationships, I never actively seek them, I seek out the sex. Sometimes a girl comes around that's harder to get than others, and I pull out all the stops to get her, on rare occasions she gets away. Bloody hell, this is the women board hey ;D
LOL bro sex is a relationship it may not be a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship but it is nonetheless a relationship and falls right inline with you seeking approval from others...in response to your other post arrogance is often a cover for insecurity.
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Ok Dr Phil and friends, I'm insecure, or something. The only guy ever moan a bit about girls and try and chase some tail. Gotcha, I'll get myself checked out. Right now I'm off to the gym and then a date. Ciao
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Ok Dr Phil and friends, I'm insecure, or something. The only guy ever moan a bit about girls and try and chase some tail. Gotcha, I'll get myself checked out. Right now I'm off to the gym and then a date. Ciao
Dr. phil is a fuking joke, only person who will really know for sure is you and the only way that will happen is if youre honest with yourself, being defensive about it really only shows we hit a nerve...not trying to be a dick you asked for advice, dont ask if you dont wanna hear the answer.
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Dr. phil is a fuking joke, only person who will really know for sure is you and the only way that will happen is if youre honest with yourself, being defensive about it really only shows we hit a nerve...not trying to be a dick you asked for advice, dont ask if you dont wanna hear the answer.
gotta agree with you on this tonymctones.Seems like this Lynchie guy needs to work on himself before he can work on any kind of relationship.
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damn, Doc laying the smack down in this thread.
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Little bro..run, run far away. Not cool to keep seeing a married woman. When I was very young I dated a woman who told me she was divorced...then not "officially" but they have been separated and papers were in the works..then I found out they had been separated for almost 2yrs!! She had her own place and I had been there so I had no way of knowing she was technically married but, I told her straight, call me when you can show me proof the papers are filed and I walked.
Long story short, I moved on, they finally filed almost a YEAR later cause he got some other chick prego.
If you like her, and think she likes you...make her prove it. Though I must warn you, there are a lot of characture flaws there that won't change. She needs time...alone to figure out her shit as do you. If she files and relationship hops to you, it will be doomed.
I'd say have her file, stay "friends" while dating others, no sex with eachother for at least a year..then see if you two are still a good match. Right now, you are a distraction from her shitty life. A tool...that's it.
Both of you are codependant and need counseling to figure out why.
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I have a girlfriend who is "separated" from her husband, ...but not divorced.
They've been separated since the late 80's. they have NEVER made the divorce official, ...and she likes it like that.
It's her excuse for not committing to anyone else. "I can't marry you, because I'm technically already married".
That didn't go over so well with one of her boyfriends. He blew a gasket because she refused to make it official. It's not even like she even communicates with her ex. infact, I doubt she'd even know where or how to find him if it came right down to it, ...but it keeps her from having to walk down the aisle ever again. Sometimes the lack of finality in a situation is not by accident, but by design.
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I have a girlfriend who is "separated" from her husband, ...but not divorced.
They've been separated since the late 80's. they have NEVER made the divorce official, ...and she likes it like that.
It's her excuse for not committing to anyone else. "I can't marry you, because I'm technically already married".
That didn't go over so well with one of her boyfriends. He blew a gasket because she refused to make it official. It's not even like she even communicates with her ex. infact, I doubt she'd even know where or how to find him if it came right down to it, ...but it keeps her from having to walk down the aisle ever again. Sometimes the lack of finality in a situation is not by accident, but by design.
True but , whats the point of a relationship if they don't want a committment? Sex you say??? Fine, find a FWB...she sleeps with others as do you..but he seems to actually "like" this chick or he wouldn't give a crap about the husband if she was just a piece of ass.
So basically Lynchie..if you just want to F**k around and not be tied down at least find one that is low drama (perferably not married), they do exist...this chick will not be low drama. She IS tied down, seems to not mind it or said drama and wants ass on the side. It appears, she uses you to to make her feel better with the "wounded tiger" bit..she likes the victim role, you want to play hero. Her own little entertaining soap opera.
...this chic needs help.
Honestly you've gotten a LOT of great advice here but ultimately its up to you. If you want all here to give you advice just so you can shoot back an reply defending your or her actions hoping to "convince" us of something or to tell you what you want to hear...it won't happen. Most here have years of experience in the dating world and many may have similar experiences and I have yet to hear a positive outcome...have you?
No need to reply rudely if I insulted or angered you...being a little defensive is normal. But just think about it.