Good evening,
I am sure that the majority of you are aware that my husband, Martin, joined this forum in early December. Initially, I was pleased with his decision to do so. I assumed that the interaction with fellow bodybuilding enthusiasts and aspiring fighters would be both motivational and educational for my husband. At first my optimism was pleasantly rewarded. Martin would regale me at supper with anecdotes and stories he had read the night before on this "GetBig" message board.
However, over the past several weeks, I have observed an alarming shift in his behavior. Many of you by now know that Martin is a free-spirit with a convivial demeanor. These are the qualities that endear him to friends and family (and it's largely why I fell in love with him). I noticed the changes a few weeks ago. They were subtle at first.
Martin opted to skip a workout session at the gym. This was unusual, but I justified it by making excuses (maybe he doesn't feel well, perhaps work was stressful this week, etc.). Next, his grooming habits changed. Martin began to skip his morning shower. He stopped shaving and brushing his teeth. Worst of all, I have overheard him crying in the bathroom with the door locked for several nights in a row. This is when I knew it was time for me to take action, and it didn't take me long to determine the source of Martin's discouragement.
When I logged in to this account, I decided to read some of the old posts. I was, and still am, utterly disgusted at all of the insults and ad hominem attacks directed towards my husband. Some of you ought to be ashamed. Some users in particular (gordiano, for example) seem particularly agitated by my husband’s existence and seem content to bash him at every possible opportunity. I am pleading with you to stop this right now. I still do believe that my husband could benefit a great deal from this message board, and he has already made many great friends here, but the select few I mentioned who are so negative and cynical are ruining the experience for my husband. I do not know, nor do I care, why they choose to act in this manner. Maybe it is jealousy, or maybe they are bitter and miserable in life. It does not matter. Leave my husband alone!
My ultimate goal in posting this message is to encourage the moderators here to delete the cruel remarks made regarding my husband, and to hopefully delete them before he has a chance to read them. I am also reaching out to those who are behind the attacks, and I beg you to stop. My husband is a kind-hearted man who holds no ill-will towards anyone, and some of you people are destroying his vigor and zest for life. Stop it!
