we are animals who are programmed to reproduce.. it's not normal, it's "immature" to want to live like a teenage boy for your whole life. Even if your father who regretted everything in his life giving birth to your sorry self included told you to have as much fun as possible instead of marrying/having a family.
Society conditions us to give our best in our 20s/30s to find the best partner with the best genes so we can produce the offspring with the highest odds of survival in the environment we re living in. Good looking, good earning job, power, respect, money, best suburbs.... In our youth we have the maximum testosterone production, we defy, fight, other males for the best females, then in our 30s as natural test production decreases we re genetically engeenered to calm down and focus on transmiting the strategies of survival we inherited/acquired to our offspring.
We are all prisoners of this little game the minute we re spawned into this world. Old people know we re just animals, they have had the time to think about the whole picture and always come to the same conclusion; life is unfair, crual and absurd intrinsically, it's all about your genetics and upbringing 50/50, and before being religious, philosophers, thinkers , believers, we are... animals. It's our animal brain which generates all of these bullshit meanings we give to life, our existences. In the end it's always about killing or getting killed. Some are better trained, conditionned, engeenered bytheir caregivers to dominate the competition, others solely exist to feed the strongest. Just like in any animal or vegetal species.
I agree with most of that (tho' I think that we ARE programmed to do that, but the evolution happened in such a way that we now THINK whether to actually do that and that's natural too, as everything produced bvy evolution is natural. I personally believe that only way to end this shit/struggle/dilemmas is to cure aging. It will be done. It's actually a whole purpose of an evolution... to eliminate as much causes of death as possible. To survive.) but I want to correct you - we haven't been engineered to have lower test production in our 30's because of some sort of "family life" (a male just impregnates a female and "wanders away" to search for another female, if we talk strictly nature) it's merely a fact that humans did not live past 30 back in the time and there was no selective pressure to keep the hormones going. Everything that goes "wrong" with time in our bodies is in a sense - an unfinished evolution (due to lack of selective pressure) and a genetic developmental program that's starts to work "blindly" after a certain age (once again - due to the lack of selective pressure) and all sorts of havoc begins. It's not healthy for the hormones to decrease, it's not healthy for the immune system to become less effective, just like many other factors. We need to fix this, sexual reproduction has done it's job, it's no longer "feasible", it takes too long to have any significant improvement, it's time for a consciously directed evolution.
The mere fact I, as a life form, am pondering thoughts like these means that evolution has reached that point and it probably was heading towards it for a long long time...
BTW - it may be "immature" not to want to have kids, but I'm seriously questioning that idea (of having kids) merely because I'm not happy with a "human condition" and I'm not sure whether it wouldn't be a very egoistical action to spawn another life to possibly suffer that. Even a thought of a possible serious illness, a war, other human beings who are psychopaths and may ruin someones life for ever or aging (which is worst of all, a disgusting humiliation) makes me very doubtful of whether I should.
And in the end - it doesn't even matter, it's a pure "nothingness" at it's best. Just like dogs who breed blindly, or insects, or birds... Who cares?