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Alright, so here's what is going on. I have never been on a blind date before and I have one coming up. It is going to be a casual dinner from what I understand. There will be another "couple" there but my question is should I go in thinking it is just another date or is there any extra tips you ladies would like to throw my way?
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Alright, so here's what is going on. I have never been on a blind date before and I have one coming up. It is going to be a casual dinner from what I understand. There will be another "couple" there but my question is should I go in thinking it is just another date or is there any extra tips you ladies would like to throw my way?
Don't go re-arranging the furniture, ...it might confuse her, and make sure her white cane is within easy reach.
Oh ya, ...don't play with her seeing-eye dog, ...remember, ...it's a working dog. :P
But seriously, just go in with the attitude you're going to meet a new person and possibly make a new friend.
When you meeet her, ...if she's not your cup of tea, and you know right off the bat there's not gonna be a love connection, sit back, have fun, and get to know her like a new friend. You might just make a new friend out of it.
If she's someone who makes your heart skip a beat, ...don't talk with your mouth full. ;D
Oh ya... Have a Good Time!
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Lol, jag that was def funny. I will definitely try and relax. I think the one thing I was worried about was if I wasn't attracted to her. I am used to taking girls out to whom I am attracted so this is simply uncharted waters to me.
I promise I won't feed the dog any candy either...lol
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whats her name on here
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whats her name on here
Lol, well I didn't want to tell anyone buuuuuuuttttttt....Stell a and I were going to meet at a dog park and see if we hit it off; the other couple being our dogs. Awkward....
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hahaha ;D
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Lol, well I didn't want to tell anyone buuuuuuuttttttt....Stell a and I were going to meet at a dog park and see if we hit it off; the other couple being our dogs. Awkward....
What if the dogs start fornicating? You should think these things through man...
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Let her do all the talking.
Nod your head and pretend to be interested.
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Lol, jag that was def funny. I will definitely try and relax. I think the one thing I was worried about was if I wasn't attracted to her. I am used to taking girls out to whom I am attracted so this is simply uncharted waters to me.
I promise I won't feed the dog any candy either...lol
I know what you mean. I've done a few blind dates myself, and... well, let's just say, I will no longer trust my friends to set me up on them. It's amazing how people who know you so well can get it soooo horrendously wrong. (http://www.jaguarenterprises.net/images/em/shrug.gif)
I've made a few good friends that way though. one guy I'd been set up with at least 3 x's. HA!
I first met the guy in 1991. It wasn't a romantic thing. He was renting a corporate suite right next door to my apartment. There was what we'll say "an incident", that disgusted and infuriated me so much, I left a note with the concierge at the front desk, asking him to call me. We agreed to meet in the tea salon at the Sutton Place hotel, and I showed him some very important information I thought he should know. It was one of those "I'm not making any statements about anything, but I believe, there is some information that were you aware of it's existence that you would want to know". Then I showed him the info, ...and his eyes nearly popped out of his head. He was extremely grateful, and asked me out to dinner as a way of saying thank you for saving his ass. I figured why not? and I went. we had a great time, dinner, dancing, and lots of fun. But there was no love connection or sparks. About 6 months later, my friend Ray says he wants to fix me up with this multi-millionaire... that he thought we'd be perfect together. He wouldn't tell me his name, just that he wanted us to meet. One night when I was over at his place going through his talent books, ...guess who pops by. He called the guy and told him to come over, the girl he wanted him to meet was there. Guess who he was? Yep. We had a few drinks, I picked which ones of Rays girl's I'd be willing to possibly rep, and I called it a night. Then in 1993, my girlfriend calls me and says her & her boyfriend were coming down to Harbourfront for a boat cruise, and her boyfriends friend came over at the last minute,... why don't I join them for lunch on the cruise? guess who? Yep same guy. We're now great friends... but no sparks. Everytime I find myself in downtown TO, I'll pop by his hang out where he "holds court" and say hello. I often run into him during the film festival though, ...cause it seems like just about every night, he's got the VIP lounge cordoned off to everyone except the celebrities and his friends. Most everyone that has ever tried to set me up on a blind date completely missed the mark. There's only one guy who I later discovered had a good eye for that kind of thing. I had vowed not to go on blind dates anymore. The guy never gave up though... he insisted I attend a grand opening of some new health club being opened by the brother of [name deleted]. He asked me to attend to support his friends efforts. Well it turns out the guy who he'd been trying to fix me up with was a partner in the club. It turns out he was actually a pretty decent pick. He's got at least 7 or 8 marriages under his belt now. I've only ever had 1 blind date that was so horrendous, I wanted to smack the guy who fixed me up with him. ;D
Just go in there with the goal of having fun, and don't have expectations of sparks, just have fun and roll with it.
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Let her do all the talking.
Nod your head and pretend to be interested.
You brat!
Cap,
Don't listen to him. He's too jaded & cynical. Just be yourself and have fun... no expectations, ...just roll with it.
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You brat!
Cap,
Don't listen to him. He's too jaded & cynical. Just be yourself and have fun... no expectations, ...just roll with it.
I'm sweet!!!
Listen to me, Cap. Less talk = better chances. :)
Don't let Judi lead you down the path to lonlieness.
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Let her do all the talking.
Nod your head and pretend to be interested.
LOL ;D
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I'm sweet!!!
Listen to me, Cap. Less talk = better chances. :)
Don't let Judi lead you down the path to lonlieness.
(http://www.jaguarenterprises.net/images/rotflmao.gif)
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I think a healthy mix between dr and judi will serve me well.
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I think a healthy mix between dr and judi will serve me well.
Ignore Judi if you're hoping to get anywhere.
Like most women, her favorite topic will most likely be herself.
Any talking by you just interrupts the conversation. :)
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Ignore Judi if you're hoping to get anywhere.
Like most women, her favorite topic will most likely be herself.
Any talking by you just interrupts the conversation. :)
Yeah, I can remember a date going awry because I apparently talked too much. Keep in mind I was answering questions. Lol
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Yeah, I can remember a date going awry because I apparently talked too much. Keep in mind I was answering questions. Lol
See?!
Judi is leading you astray.
Talk less, score more.
Don't actually listen, though. Most of what they say will be nonsense so there's really no point to paying attention.
Just nod and feign interest. :)
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I think a healthy mix between dr and judi will serve me well.
Now you got it! :)
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Now you got it! :)
I bet he shut up and things went surprisingly well. :)
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I'm sweet!!!
Listen to me, Cap. Less talk = better chances. :)
Don't let Judi lead you down the path to lonlieness.
He's right....
It's like asking a man and a woman where is the the gas station that is down the street. A man will tell you, "Oh, it's right down the street on your left" A woman, on the other hand, will tell you, " Go up the street (the opposite direction), around the corner, pass the boutique, thru 3 traffic lights and make a right"
This just to get to the same destination.
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Parker,
Please tell these people how sweet I am.
Judi is messing with a n****'s rep. :)
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Parker,
Please tell these people how sweet I am.
Judi is messing with a n****'s rep. :)
Can't do that, Or that's make us both look :-X. Soon she'll accept that fruit of knowledge is neither sweet nor tart, but goes down just as smooth.
But I'll say this, your rap is "sweet". Because your dropping knowledge like ain't no tomorrow.
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I just feel a little bad for Cap because he really wants to believe Judi is being helpful.
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I just feel a little bad for Cap because he really wants to believe Judi is being helpful.
I think, that many women do that are being "helpful", it's just that they give the "Cinderella" version aka non-realistic, yet idealistic version of what they say they want, but men give the realistic version of what will go down, due to prior experiences and trial and error. Women don't have that experience.
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I think, that many women do that are being "helpful", it's just that they give the "Cinderella" version aka non-realistic, yet idealistic version of what they say they want, but men give the realistic version of what will go down, due to prior experiences and trial and error. Women don't have that experience.
Why not just admit they like to do most of the talking and get in the last word? Just seems like things would be a lot easier.
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Heres how to score big, get a $20 bill and about 100, $1 bills stuff them in your wallet with the $20 on the outside of your cash wad. shove a 14" salami in your shorts and be totally rude to her. I promise you'll have her between the sheets before the night is over! ;)
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Heres how to score big, get a $20 bill and about 100, $1 bills stuff them in your wallet with the $20 on the outside of your cash wad. shove a 14" salami in your shorts and be totally rude to her. I promise you'll have her between the sheets before the night is over! ;)
Lol...
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Why not just admit they like to do most of the talking and get in the last word? Just seems like things would be a lot easier.
True, have you ever notice women don't want guys to talk about themselves, but want a good listener? To listen to them talking about themselves. So as you said, "just nod your head", I say give a couple smiles, and say "uh huh", "Yeah", "and so", if women can fake orgasms, men can fake being interested.
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True, have you ever notice women don't want guys to talk about themselves, but want a good listener? To listen to them talking about themselves. So as you said, "just nod your head", I say give a couple smiles, and say "uh huh", "Yeah", "and so", if women can fake orgasms, men can fake being interested.
Hahaha.
I'll let you guys know after tonight. The other couple bailed so it's just us.
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Hahaha.
I'll let you guys know after tonight. The other couple bailed so it's just us.
Have a great time! :) The bitterites on this thread are making it sound like you're doing this as an obligation or something, and just have to get through it. ;D I hope not, and that the star of romance and/or passion shines bright tonight.
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Hahaha.
I'll let you guys know after tonight. The other couple bailed so it's just us.
Make sure you "handle business" before hand ala "something about Mary" so you're not nervous. ;)
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Make sure you "handle business" before hand ala "something about Mary" so you're not nervous. ;)
Hahaha, a chaos classic.
So we went out and had a good time. Dinner and then a movie. I let her do a majority of the talking which turned out to be good. There were no sparks but I had a genuinely good time and would definitely hang out with her again to see if anything came of it. I think she was pissed though because she might been expecting a little bit more from me. Just the vibe I got.
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Hahaha, a chaos classic.
So we went out and had a good time. Dinner and then a movie. I let her do a majority of the talking which turned out to be good. There were no sparks but I had a genuinely good time and would definitely hang out with her again to see if anything came of it. I think she was pissed though because she might been expecting a little bit more from me. Just the vibe I got.
You did the right thing but probably didn't pretend to be interested well enough. :)
Next time.. just comment on key topics except pets. Last thing you want to do is fake interest in pet pics on a cell phone. I'd advise dumping anyone with a pet pic on their person, but that's just me.
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So we went out and had a good time. Dinner and then a movie. I let her do a majority of the talking which turned out to be good. There were no sparks but I had a genuinely good time and would definitely hang out with her again to see if anything came of it. I think she was pissed though because she might been expecting a little bit more from me. Just the vibe I got.
Details, Details!!
Pretty? Same interests? Do you remember what she was wearing? Dinner (Dutch)? Movie?
You did the right thing but probably didn't pretend to be interested well enough. :)
Next time.. just comment on key topics except pets. Last thing you want to do is fake interest in pet pics on a cell phone. I'd advise dumping anyone with a pet pic on their person, but that's just me.
Personally I feel the same way about somebody with pictures of their kids...
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Details, Details!!
Pretty? Same interests? Do you remember what she was wearing? Dinner (Dutch)? Movie?
Personally I feel the same way about somebody with pictures of their kids...
You're the best, OS!!
I have mine on caller ID but can't see any point boring people with their pics.
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Details, Details!!
Pretty? Same interests? Do you remember what she was wearing? Dinner (Dutch)? Movie?
Yeah! :)
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Ladies,
Men don't usually notice clothes, makeup, shoes, etc.... to any extent.
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Ladies,
Men don't usually notice clothes, makeup, shoes, etc.... to any extent.
Unfortunately I do, but it usually is if the outfit is tastefully done, with a hint of cleavage...
I'm terrible...But I pay attention to details that most people don't. Hahaha, a chaos classic.
So we went out and had a good time. Dinner and then a movie. I let her do a majority of the talking which turned out to be good. There were no sparks but I had a genuinely good time and would definitely hang out with her again to see if anything came of it. I think she was pissed though because she might been expecting a little bit more from me. Just the vibe I got.
Glad to here it went well...
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I will only notice extremes with hair. Really good or terrible are all I can notice.
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I will only notice extremes with hair. Really good or terrible are all I can notice.
Would you notice this?
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He needs an afro pick with the "Black Power" fist on the handle stuck up there. :)
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He needs an afro pick with the "Black Power" fist on the handle stuck up there. :)
Those picks were the shit..
I will only notice extremes with hair. Really good or terrible are all I can notice.
i notice hair, but also eyes, plucked eyebrows and colorful outfits and BB's (bouncy boobs)
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i notice hair, but also eyes, plucked eyebrows and colorful outfits and BB's (bouncy boobs)
Is there something you'd like to tell us? :)
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Is there something you'd like to tell us? :)
I told you I notice things most people don't. Dreads, Afros ( not like that dude) and cornrows. If a chick sets that off with some "Summer Colors" like those Maxidresses (with those BB's)...Oh, it's on...All Jeromeos can go home
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Which begs the question, what was she wearing Cap? Was it hooked up right?
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Ever look at Cosmo, Vogue, etc?
Most of the crap is butt ugly.
Generally, women dress for other women.
Most men could not care less what a girl is wearing.
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Ever look at Cosmo, Vogue, etc?
Most of the crap is butt ugly.
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Hideous!!
Obviously something a gay guy came up with because he hates women.
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Hideous!!
Obviously something a gay guy came up with because he hates women.
Michael Kors!
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I wish women would stop letting gay men dress them. They don't like (can't use the P-word here) women and have no idea what attracts a man.
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Hahaha, a chaos classic.
I think she was pissed though because she might been expecting a little bit more from me. Just the vibe I got.
Elaborate on this. Do you think she wanted more physically like for you to make a move, or more like a different personality/looks?
At least you had a good time and things weren't terrible. Was she good looking?
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Elaborate on this. Do you think she wanted more physically like for you to make a move, or more like a different personality/looks?
At least you had a good time and things weren't terrible. Was she good looking?
See we're not the only ones....chaos wants details too :)
And re: those specific shoes I would guess that possibly all the females here think they are not attractive!
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Elaborate on this. Do you think she wanted more physically like for you to make a move, or more like a different personality/looks?
At least you had a good time and things weren't terrible. Was she good looking?
I apologize in advance if any of this sounds shallow because I am not a super model (lol)...right chaos?
She was cute but not my normal type. Better body than face but still attractive. Just enough cleavage showing for her to not come off as a slut but just enough to catch my eye. ;D Pretty athletic build, which was nice. No beer gut like a lot of college age girls...lol. Can't exactly describe the dress per se but it was nice. Pretty eyes, which is always a plus.
As far as your question C, I really got the vibe during the movie that she wanted me to start making a physical move. I just wasn't feeling it last night. Nice casual dinner, a funny movie...I had fun.
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I apologize in advance if any of this sounds shallow because I am not a super model (lol)...right chaos?
She was cute but not my normal type. Better body than face but still attractive. Just enough cleavage showing for her to not come off as a slut but just enough to catch my eye. ;D Pretty athletic build, which was nice. No beer gut like a lot of college age girls...lol. Can't exactly describe the dress per se but it was nice. Pretty eyes, which is always a plus.
As far as your question C, I really got the vibe during the movie that she wanted me to start making a physical move. I just wasn't feeling it last night. Nice casual dinner, a funny movie...I had fun.
Just remember the 'less talk' rule. :)
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I apologize in advance if any of this sounds shallow because I am not a super model (lol)...right chaos?
She was cute but not my normal type. Better body than face but still attractive. Just enough cleavage showing for her to not come off as a slut but just enough to catch my eye. ;D Pretty athletic build, which was nice. No beer gut like a lot of college age girls...lol. Can't exactly describe the dress per se but it was nice. Pretty eyes, which is always a plus.
As far as your question C, I really got the vibe during the movie that she wanted me to start making a physical move. I just wasn't feeling it last night. Nice casual dinner, a funny movie...I had fun.
Cool. If you guys decide to hit up a second date maybe you can decide then if there can be "more" or if she'll be a fling or a friend with benefits. ;D
Just remember the eyes tell it all. ;)
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Just remember the eyes tell it all. ;)
Have you been watching Family Jewels w/Gene Simmons ;D
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Have you been watching Family Jewels w/Gene Simmons ;D
No. That's what attracted me to my wife, beautiful eyes. ;)
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Cool. If you guys decide to hit up a second date maybe you can decide then if there can be "more" or if she'll be a fling or a friend with benefits. ;D
Just remember the eyes tell it all. ;)
Yeah, I'll play it by ear with her. I def want to enjoy the single life and date around to see what else women have to offer besides the head aches I used to get...lol.
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No. That's what attracted me to my wife, beautiful eyes. ;)
Ever watch Bugs Bunny? "Tell me more about my eyes"
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Yeah, I'll play it by ear with her. I def want to enjoy the single life and date around to see what else women have to offer besides the head aches I used to get...lol.
Glad to hear you had a good time. Sounds like you found a workable mix between my & Jake's suggestions. :)
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Glad to hear you had a good time. Sounds like you found a workable mix between my & Jake's suggestions. :)
Pretty much reads like he shut the heck up. :)
You probably do all the talking on a date. Doesn't admitting that's exactly how you like things take some of the pressure off? :)
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Pretty much reads like he shut the heck up. :)
You probably do all the talking on a date. Doesn't admitting that's exactly how you like things take some of the pressure off? :)
Why not you too? :) Damn you whine.
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Why not you too? :) Damn you whine.
Another one that does all the talking. :)