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Do you agree or disagree with this woman's husband?
From today's "Dear Abby:"
Dear Abby:
I need some serious advice. I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a year ago. My condition is stable. I have taken the necessary precautions such as dietary changes, excercise and prescription medications.
My husband and I have been married for 8 years. This is my second marriage and his third. My husband is a very stubborn man. Once he makes a decision he stands by it until death.
He has recently announced that should I become incapacitated and unable to perform my "wifely duties," he is going to find a "sex buddy." What should I do about this announcement?
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i voted openly cheat but i just did it to look hardcore here ;D
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thats shitty my mom has RA its not disease that just affects you physically it makes you very dependent on others at times which can be very frustrating mentally and emotionally. Hopefully this guy was saying it in a joking manner if not this guy needs to have his ass kicked.
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I would cheat, but I would be discreet about it. Discreet, in this case, does not mean secretive. I would not parade my escapades in his face or do anything that would be obviously mean-spirited and hurtful, but I am not going to go without sex. Period. (I would not expect him to go without sex if the situation were reversed.)
I do not know many men (gay or straight) that would. I believe the men who say they would never cheat in that scenario are lying葉o their spouse, to themselves, or to both.
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For better of for worse.
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For better of for worse.
bump for truth
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Do you agree or disagree with this woman's husband?
From today's "Dear Abby:"
Dear Abby:
I need some serious advice. I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a year ago. My condition is stable. I have taken the necessary precautions such as dietary changes, excercise and prescription medications.
My husband and I have been married for 8 years. This is my second marriage and his third. My husband is a very stubborn man. Once he makes a decision he stands by it until death.
He has recently announced that should I become incapacitated and unable to perform my "wifely duties," he is going to find a "sex buddy." What should I do about this announcement?
LOL i just realized the contradiction there...with playboys point "for better or worse" and his decision to find a sex buddy...LOL this dude sounds like a real piece of fuking work.
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Here's the problem, as I see it. A lot of married women use sex as leverage or don't feel it is a part of a normal marriage. I know one dude whose wife wasn't in the mood for 3 years. The tried counseling, changing drugs, talking and once he got tired of begging and kissing her ass some other chick gave him a little. The guy felt like a teenager, LOL! His wife was upset that he couldn't read her mind and had sex with someone else. Not having sex with her husband for three years wasn't a problem for her so it shouldn't be a problem for him, apparently.
If the 'Dear Abby' lady's hubby said he's dump her, I'd say he was a jerk. All he said was that enjoying regular sex was a priority.
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Here's the problem, as I see it. A lot of married women use sex as leverage or don't feel it is a part of a normal marriage. I know one dude whose wife wasn't in the mood for 3 years. The tried counseling, changing drugs, talking and once he got tired of begging and kissing her ass some other chick gave him a little. The guy felt like a teenager, LOL! His wife was upset that he couldn't read her mind and had sex with someone else. Not having sex with her husband for three years wasn't a problem for her so it shouldn't be a problem for him, apparently.
If the 'Dear Abby' lady's hubby said he's dump her, I'd say he was a jerk. All he said was that enjoying regular sex was a priority.
Now this I totally agree with the chick in that scenario sounds like a little girl not a woman Ive noticed that alot of the younger immature girls have that "you should know what im thinking and what i want" as well as use sex as leverage attitude which is complete bullshit imho. That being said that still doesnt excuse this guys actions if he where to go out and do what he said he was going to do in my opinion.
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I would cheat, but I would be discreet about it. Discreet, in this case, does not mean secretive. I would not parade my escapades in his face or do anything that would be obviously mean-spirited and hurtful, but I am not going to go without sex. Period. (I would not expect him to go without sex if the situation were reversed.)
I do not know many men (gay or straight) that would. I believe the men who say they would never cheat in that scenario are lying葉o their spouse, to themselves, or to both.
Gay men seem to need sex much more than straight men.
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I would cheat, but I would be discreet about it. Discreet, in this case, does not mean secretive. I would not parade my escapades in his face or do anything that would be obviously mean-spirited and hurtful, but I am not going to go without sex. Period. (I would not expect him to go without sex if the situation were reversed.)
I do not know many men (gay or straight) that would. I believe the men who say they would never cheat in that scenario are lying葉o their spouse, to themselves, or to both.
Incidentally, how long do you think you could go without sex without becoming psychologically unstable?
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I didn't vote yet, I'm thinking.......if the husband/wife agree that it would only a sexual relationship, is it still cheating? Would that be openly cheating or discreetly cheating?
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I'd divorce her.
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Back in the day men had a wife and a mistress. He loved the wife and did freaky stuff with the mistress. From what I understand it worked out okay...lol. I was denied sex for 6 months and I was never so close to cheating in my life. Days after we broke up I was "back in the saddle" so to speak. Torture. I think I should sue her for carpel tunnel.
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Back in the day men had a wife and a mistress. He loved the wife and did freaky stuff with the mistress. From what I understand it worked out okay...lol. I was denied sex for 6 months and I was never so close to cheating in my life. Days after we broke up I was "back in the saddle" so to speak. Torture. I think I should sue her for carpel tunnel.
LOL hahahah
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Back in the day men had a wife and a mistress. He loved the wife and did freaky stuff with the mistress. From what I understand it worked out okay...lol. I was denied sex for 6 months and I was never so close to cheating in my life. Days after we broke up I was "back in the saddle" so to speak. Torture. I think I should sue her for carpel tunnel.
Seriously, I don't get it. I have gone for draughts of more than a year with no sex. BAY really shocked me in that respect... :o
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I am just a young horny guy who likes sex and not having any for six months was lame. I had wrist issues and she tried to tell me that it was going on Getbig, but I knew the truth.... She wouldn't even do a Dutch Rudder on me. What kind of shit is that? ;D
Seriously though, can you imagine doing everything she wanted (vocalized) and still not getting laid. A week later I'm treating girls with little or no respect and I am getting laid. Live and learn.
If I get married and my wife holds out for 3 years I will pop in some porn and start jerking it right in front of her. "Sorry babe, if you won't get me off then Jenna will."
It's fair enough. I am never getting laid again so I am not too worried about a situation like this.
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It's fair enough. I am never getting laid again so I am not too worried about a situation like this.
Lucky you!
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dutch rudder?
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Seriously, I don't get it. I have gone for draughts of more than a year with no sex. BAY really shocked me in that respect... :o
Is it really shocking that men do not want to go without sex? As I said previously, the men who say they would never cheat in this scenario are lying葉o their spouse or to themselves!
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It's fair enough. I am never getting laid again so I am not too worried about a situation like this.
You've gone gay?!
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Is it really shocking that men do not want to go without sex? As I said previously, the men who say they would never cheat in this scenario are lying葉o their spouse or to themselves!
Men are different. Like I said, I have gone for 15 months or so without sex. Unlike in gay world I can't just go to a dark room or find a gloryhole. In that respect it is much easier to be gay.
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You've gone gay?!
I wish; unfortunately I am a 9 or 9.5 on that famous scale.
No, I just don't do random, one night stands...so that doesn't leave many options open. In fact in gay world it is much easier to get laid than in straight world.
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I wish; unfortunately I am a 9 or 9.5 on that famous scale.
No, I just don't do random, one night stands...so that doesn't leave many options open. In fact in gay world it is much easier to get laid than in straight world.
Famous scale?!
You'd better get over the female issues, D.
Life's too short.
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Famous scale?!
You'd better get over the female issues, D.
Life's too short.
I have no issues. I just wish they were normal human beings.
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I have no issues. I just wish they were normal human beings.
Normal doesn't exist in people.
We're all dysfunctional in some way.
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Normal doesn't exist in people.
We're all dysfunctional in some way.
True... :-\ But women are REALLY dysfunctional... :P
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what are we considering cheating? Are we talking about going to a "spa" and getting a happy ending or are we talking full on bumping uglies? Or are we considering anything including kissing cheating? I just want to see were people chime in.
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what are we considering cheating? Are we talking about going to a "spa" and getting a happy ending or are we talking full on bumping uglies? Or are we considering anything including kissing cheating? I just want to see were people chime in.
I would consider full on penetration of the lower extremeties to be cheating and maybe a little oral if you "finish".
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I would consider full on penetration of the lower extremeties to be cheating and maybe a little oral if you "finish".
Depends on where you "finish". ;D
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Depends on where you "finish". ;D
Nah, if you "finish", the act is done, there is no stopping, it's too late. If you haven't finished yet, you can always fall back on the "we realized it was wrong and stopped" excuse. ;D
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Nah, if you "finish", the act is done, there is no stopping, it's too late. If you haven't finished yet, you can always fall back on the "we realized it was wrong and stopped" excuse. ;D
I was thinking more along the lines of a facial, LOL! Supposedly it doesn't really count if things are finished in that manner. :)
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I was thinking more along the lines of a facial, LOL! Supposedly it doesn't really count if things are finished in that manner. :)
If you orgasm, it is finished, doesn't matter where you put it, you're still done.
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christmas is coming, so maybe the gift of a pearl necklace. But i like the excuse, lol.
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If you orgasm, it is finished, doesn't matter where you put it, you're still done.
Not true.
A lot of guys 'finish first'. Does that mean the woman can say it never happened?
The other way you can say "I realized it was wrong and finished myself off. Her face just kinda got in the way!"
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buwahaha, collateral damage.
"I swear I was just cleaning it and it went off"
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buwahaha, collateral damage.
"I swear I was just cleaning it and it went off"
Exactly!!
It would be rude to finish up things with her if they were started someplace else. :)
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it's good to be a gentleman.
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Men are different. Like I said, I have gone for 15 months or so without sex. Unlike in gay world I can't just go to a dark room or find a gloryhole. In that respect it is much easier to be gay.
Yes, you can. There is plenty of casual, anonymous, and one night stand sex in the straight world so don't kid yourself into thinking there is anything "gay" about that. You say casual sex is not your thing.... fine. So be it. But that has nothing to do with your orientation.
In public and via PM you have asked some rather loaded questions about women. Questions that reflect your biases and baggage. Examining and unloading that baggage may go a long way in helping your relationships with women. Making summary judgments about all women is certainly not going to enable your social life; it is time to do some work on yourself. Not all handicaps and incapacitations are physical. ::)
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today we are having a 27 hours tv program to help a foundation that take care of handicapped people, all kind, this was started by jerry lewis in usa i think, and it was copied down here, after watching some stories, i just couldnt resist to give those kids a chance to live the dream, if we can call it dream thats it.
We just donated us$2000, i say we because i have a family, and it was our decission. god gave me the chance to be pretty wealthy, so no doubt im down with the handicapped people.
Just wanted to share that with you all, even if that means most will call me a pussy :)
And you know what? i feel pretty good for helping these kids
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today we are having a 27 hours tv program to help a foundation that take care of handicapped people, all kind, this was started by jerry lewis in usa i think, and it was copied down here, after watching some stories, i just couldnt resist to give those kids a chance to live the dream, if we can call it dream thats it.
We just donated us$2000, i say we because i have a family, and it was our decission. god gave me the chance to be pretty wealthy, so no doubt im down with the handicapped people.
Just wanted to share that with you all, even if that means most will call me a pussy :)
And you know what? i feel pretty good for helping these kids
You're a good man benz and you have a wonderful, giving family.
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You're a good man benz and you have a wonderful, giving family.
You know, all jokes aside, im pretty close with those kids, i visit them once a year, there are handicapped and autist (is that correct?) and they all just want to be normal, its not their fault to be like that, if somebody has broke my heart, its those kids.
wonderful kids, all looking for a chance to be normal, if the goverment does not help them, they can be sure they have a friend here atleast...
They are awesome, thats all i can say, and i love to see my children being friends of them.
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I would prop her up and have her watch me violate other women.
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I would cheat, but I would be discreet about it. Discreet, in this case, does not mean secretive. I would not parade my escapades in his face or do anything that would be obviously mean-spirited and hurtful, but I am not going to go without sex. Period. (I would not expect him to go without sex if the situation were reversed.)
I do not know many men (gay or straight) that would. I believe the men who say they would never cheat in that scenario are lying葉o their spouse, to themselves, or to both.
Spot on
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Yes, you can. There is plenty of casual, anonymous, and one night stand sex in the straight world so don't kid yourself into thinking there is anything "gay" about that. You say casual sex is not your thing.... fine. So be it. But that has nothing to do with your orientation.
In public and via PM you have asked some rather loaded questions about women. Questions that reflect your biases and baggage. Examining and unloading that baggage may go a long way in helping your relationships with women. Making summary judgments about all women is certainly not going to enable your social life; it is time to do some work on yourself. Not all handicaps and incapacitations are physical. ::)
So because I am not a fan of casual sex I have a mental/emotional handicap? ???That is strange logic indeed.
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Is it really shocking that men do not want to go without sex? As I said previously, the men who say they would never cheat in this scenario are lying葉o their spouse or to themselves!
Bullshit Bay, I love the woman I am with, and I would never cheat on her under any circumstances. I'm not saying other people in the same circumstance shouldn't, I'm just saying that i wouldn't. If you can't understand that, you are lying to yourself about what you perceive as love. If you take the physical aspect away, and your feelings wane, you don't truly love that person. Don't confuse sex and intimacy.
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Bullshit Bay, I love the woman I am with, and I would never cheat on her under any circumstances. I'm not saying other people in the same circumstance shouldn't, I'm just saying that i wouldn't. If you can't understand that, you are lying to yourself about what you perceive as love. If you take the physical aspect away, and your feelings wane, you don't truly love that person. Don't confuse sex and intimacy.
You just owned Bay...epically.... ;D
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I would have voted "divorce the fool" if that was an option.
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You just owned Bay...epically.... ;D
I'm not trying to own Bay, but he needs to understand that there are some of us who are completely committed to our partners. I know that he's gay and he's dealt with closet homos, but that does not make him the be all end all voice on what people will and won't do when it comes to relationships and monogamy. If my partner was in a brain dead coma I would still not cheat on her. yes, it would be difficult, and there would be various moments of rationalization for cheating and great temptation to cheat, but a moment of pleasure would never be worth a lifetime of guilt.
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Do you agree or disagree with this woman's husband?
From today's "Dear Abby:"
Dear Abby:
I need some serious advice. I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a year ago. My condition is stable. I have taken the necessary precautions such as dietary changes, excercise and prescription medications.
My husband and I have been married for 8 years. This is my second marriage and his third. My husband is a very stubborn man. Once he makes a decision he stands by it until death.
He has recently announced that should I become incapacitated and unable to perform my "wifely duties," he is going to find a "sex buddy." What should I do about this announcement?
There is no choice.......you remain faithful.
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There is no choice.......you remain faithful.
Only until the divorce is final, right?
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Only until the divorce is final, right?
hahahahahaa
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There is no choice.......you remain faithful.
We agree for once Coach. Good call.
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We agree for once Coach. Good call.
you sure you wanna agree on relationship issues with a guy of his track record.
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Well, he agrees that remaining faithful is the right thing to do.
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I'm not trying to own Bay, but he needs to understand that there are some of us who are completely committed to our partners. I know that he's gay and he's dealt with closet homos, but that does not make him the be all end all voice on what people will and won't do when it comes to relationships and monogamy. If my partner was in a brain dead coma I would still not cheat on her. yes, it would be difficult, and there would be various moments of rationalization for cheating and great temptation to cheat, but a moment of pleasure would never be worth a lifetime of guilt.
Epic ownage....again. ;D
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You all are a BIG bunch of liars! I agree its the RIGHT thing to do....... But come on now people.... ::) If you couldnt have sex with someone EVER again you would just settle for that? NOT ME!
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You all are a BIG bunch of liars! I agree its the RIGHT thing to do....... But come on now people.... ::) If you couldnt have sex with someone EVER again you would just settle for that? NOT ME!
I am already there so..no worries. ;D
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I am already there so..no worries. ;D
So what you are telling me Decide is that "Marriage" is another word for "incapacitated"? LOL!
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marriage is a religious/government program designed to get people to conform and obey.
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marriage is a religious/government program designed to get people to conform and obey.
(http://motive-8.net/political/conspiracy.jpg)
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So what you are telling me Decide is that "Marriage" is another word for "incapacitated"? LOL!
Uh, I guess ??? I'm not married though... ???
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I am already there so..no worries. ;D
Explain yourself!
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Explain yourself!
I am a chronic loser who gets no pussy. :-\
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I am a chronic loser who gets no pussy. :-\
But you would if you got some right? Its not like you throw up your hand in the "stop" position and demand to maintain your celebacy.....
Actually now that I think about it, your statement has no bearing on the topic. You dont even have a spouse. You have wasted my time and everyone elses that reads your posts in this thread. You sir are an inconsiderate single guy!
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Do you agree or disagree with this woman's husband?
From today's "Dear Abby:"
Dear Abby:
I need some serious advice. I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a year ago. My condition is stable. I have taken the necessary precautions such as dietary changes, excercise and prescription medications.
My husband and I have been married for 8 years. This is my second marriage and his third. My husband is a very stubborn man. Once he makes a decision he stands by it until death.
He has recently announced that should I become incapacitated and unable to perform my "wifely duties," he is going to find a "sex buddy." What should I do about this announcement?
I find it amazing that women expect from men undying loyalty to the end, no matter what. They have no consideration for the strong biological male urge to ejaculate. They truly believe that, if they go incapacitated, that their husbands should go for the rest of their lives without ever having sex again, even if they still have 30 years to live. It is incredible how selfish women are.
SUCKMYMUSCLE
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I find it amazing that women expect from men undying loyalty to the end, no matter what. They have no consideration for the strong biological male urge to ejaculate. They truly believe that, if they go incapacitated, that their husbands should go for the rest of their lives without ever having sex again, even if they still have 30 years to live. It is incredible how selfish women are.
SUCKMYMUSCLE
Very true.
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you two seem perfect for each other
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Do you agree or disagree with this woman's husband?
From today's "Dear Abby:"
Dear Abby:
I need some serious advice. I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a year ago. My condition is stable. I have taken the necessary precautions such as dietary changes, excercise and prescription medications.
My husband and I have been married for 8 years. This is my second marriage and his third. My husband is a very stubborn man. Once he makes a decision he stands by it until death.
He has recently announced that should I become incapacitated and unable to perform my "wifely duties," he is going to find a "sex buddy." What should I do about this announcement?
Firstly, I find it quite interesting that he's already on his 3rd marriage.
As far as this scenerio goes, if she can't have normal sex because of medical problems there are other things I'm sure she could do for him. But in the event that she couldn't do anything at all (I would assume she would have to be bed ridden and paralized) I think it would be wrong and low of him. Life isn't all about sex and considering they have been married 8 years and this is his 3rd...I'm going to guess he isn't a spring chicken in his prime. For him to have said this to her...well, I don't believe he really has love for her.
And I would feel exactly the same way if the roles were reversed and it was a husband asking this question of his wife.
If god forbid something happened to Michael and he couldn't ever have sex again, I would love him just the same and that wouldn't matter. If I needed it that bad...there's always plastic ;) lol
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I would never cheat