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The current topics are kinda boring...IMO. So I want to get some good opinions on a very HOT topic.
I'm watching Dr. Phil yesterday on a show about cheaters. These particular couples were married...which really strikes a nerve with me...but were still together. One woman on the show whom had two affairs was admitting "if I did not get caught, I would still be doing it". Her husband just sat there...wanting to work on the relationship. As sorry as I felt for this man...I felt that if he was taking the abuse, then he deserved it. The same for the wives that were on the same show.
Where do you draw the line between LOVE and RATIONALITY? Personally, I am a 1 strike and your out. Bob and I have had the discussion, he knows my views on this topic. He messes up ONCE and he is gone...no questions asked!! I am the type of woman that would much rather be alone, and split custody than constantly worrying whether my husband is being faithful. I'm not a snooper, and I don't check up on my husband...I don't feel I should have to. But why is it that women...and men...feel that its something that they should put up with. There are so many great people in this world....THAT STAY FAITHFUL. I cant see wasting my time on someone who doesn't.
Am I being unreasonable?
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i saw the same episode. Shut up AS. Anyway, the Black guy was an ass. Personally if you cheat you should be thrown out on your ass.
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I laughed at that guy....he is one of those guys (back in my single days) that I would have made think he was going to get some and then leave him with a heavy set of BLUE BALLS! Total arrogance! He made himself look really insecure and immature on the show.
But in his defense...his wife knew in the 8 freakin years she dated him that he was a cheater...why on earth would she marry him.
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because u wanna believe in someone...u think they can change..i dunno...maybe people allow it because they have low self-esteem...
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she was dumb. I'm sorry but serioulsy she was dumb for that. His entire attitued was crap. She wasn't unattractive and even she admitted it so it's not self-esteem issues she had. He is the kinda guy i hate. Well i hate any pretty boy, or rich guy, or any guy for that matter, lol.
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There are psychological studies that Monogomamy is not natural.
Now, each individual when entering in a relationship knows how much sh#t he/she will take.
Nothing is absolute.
Some men think that "spreading sperm" is a natural urge.
Some women think that " Sex=Money=power, which is a natural order.(original sin, even though Eve was NOT there when that edict was spoken.)
When you come upon the actual decision that your mate has mated with another, for whatever reasons...
Give me feedback on deeds, not on speculations.
Sandra
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this is a hot topic... lol.
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I've been on both sides of the fence with this...I've been cheated on, and I've cheated.
I cheated simply because I could...and because I was immature. It was more of a game than anything to me. Almost like a "see if I can get away with it" attitude. Even though I did not feel bad at the time...I do now. I've even wanted to call my ex and tell him, but I am married and completely inlove with my husband...I don't feel its necessary to drag up old shit with someone I used to have a relationship with.
I was cheated on in high school....when hormones are at their peak. I blame the atmosphere for that. I can't really hold that against the poor guy.
I think at a certain age...you have to start taking responsibility for your actions.
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me thinks you are preggars and having emotions... :)
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me thinks you are preggars and having emotions... :)
me thinks you're right.
too much time on my hands...hey, this meerkat manor show is kinda cute though.
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me thinks you're right.
too much time on my hands...hey, this meerkat manor show is kinda cute though.
lol. Even though I didn't say it... congrats on the baby girl. You're bound to be a great mom. :)
(But you're right though about boring threads.)
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lol. Even though I didn't say it... congrats on the baby girl. You're bound to be a great mom. :)
(But you're right though about boring threads.)
hey thanks...I am going to give it my best shot! The crap I am reading is bogus...Bob and I are just going to "wing" this whole parenting thing.
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hey thanks...I am going to give it my best shot! The crap I am reading is bogus...Bob and I are just going to "wing" this whole parenting thing.
Well, don't give him too much grief. :)
Guess I'm next in line...
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Well, don't give him too much grief. :)
Guess I'm next in line...
Sorry you need premission from BKS and were afraid thats not going to happen...:)
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>:( My ex-husband cheated on me in high school. We dated, broke up and got back together 3 times, each time he told me it wouldn't happen again. After the 3rd time I didn't go back to him. He enrolled in the military, got the girl he cheated on me with pregnant and was forced to marry her because of it. I didn't see him again for 20 years. We met up again at our high school reunion, he was out of the service, but still worked for the government. He told me the military changed him, that he was a different person. We ended up getting back together and then married. Guess what? He was not a changed man. We were together not even two years and he was having an affair. With a girl who was only 20. We obviously split up (he thought he would be living the life with a 20 year old, and at the time didn't care that we ended) and as soon as we did, the girl dumped him. He spent 6 months trying to get me to take is ass back. Tried even harder when he found out I started seeing Mike. :) Ahhhhh my just rewards!
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i agree with AS lol
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well they say someones elses trash is another persons treasure..and laura u are mikes treasure cuz your ex treated u like trash..
i have to say some do change...
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well they say someones elses trash is another persons treasure..and laura u are mikes treasure cuz your ex treated u like trash..
i have to say some do change...
Some do hun. Some do. It all depends on why they cheated, had they every cheated on someone before, and how often did they get caught.
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Some do hun. Some do. It all depends on why they cheated, had they every cheated on someone before, and how often did they get caught.
I think that some men cheat because of insecurities. Society says that women worry about their looks because of what they see in the mags, and movies. Its known to be normal for a woman to want to be like someone else. Unfortunatly, I don't think the same applies for men. Even though they may have the same thoughts and emotions as us women, they have the stigma of "masculinity" hanging over their head...preventing them from speaking on it. Their way of dealing with this is to conquer more women. Whether they are in a relationship or not. It makes them feel more "manly" or even attractive because they can meet a woman and she may sleep with him. We all know that generally, men think with their dicks...but I think it is because of society NOT instincts. The whole spreading the seed factor went out the door with the cave men. Sorry boys...its not a good excuse!
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The current topics are kinda boring...IMO. So I want to get some good opinions on a very HOT topic.
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(But you're right though about boring threads.)
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Where do you draw the line between LOVE and RATIONALITY? Personally, I am a 1 strike and your out. Bob and I have had the discussion, he knows my views on this topic. He messes up ONCE and he is gone...no questions asked!! I am the type of woman that would much rather be alone, and split custody than constantly worrying whether my husband is being faithful. I'm not a snooper, and I don't check up on my husband...I don't feel I should have to. But why is it that women...and men...feel that its something that they should put up with. There are so many great people in this world....THAT STAY FAITHFUL. I cant see wasting my time on someone who doesn't.
I agree w/this.
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weak people cheat
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weak people cheat
true! nice to hear it come from a man
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Didn't mean it that way. I think proschic just meant lately they've been getting more fluff-oriented... and I agreed. But of course, this board is great! :D
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>:( My ex-husband cheated on me in high school. We dated, broke up and got back together 3 times, each time he told me it wouldn't happen again. After the 3rd time I didn't go back to him. He enrolled in the military, got the girl he cheated on me with pregnant and was forced to marry her because of it. I didn't see him again for 20 years. We met up again at our high school reunion, he was out of the service, but still worked for the government. He told me the military changed him, that he was a different person. We ended up getting back together and then married. Guess what? He was not a changed man. We were together not even two years and he was having an affair. With a girl who was only 20. We obviously split up (he thought he would be living the life with a 20 year old, and at the time didn't care that we ended) and as soon as we did, the girl dumped him. He spent 6 months trying to get me to take is ass back. Tried even harder when he found out I started seeing Mike. :) Ahhhhh my just rewards!
Does eh...does Mike know about all this?
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Didn't mean it that way. I think proschic just meant lately they've been getting more fluff-oriented... and I agreed. But of course, this board is great! :D
oh, so sorry Stella :-\....you have to forgive me! I am hormonal and feeling philosophical. I normally drive Bob crazy with my antics, but he is out of town....you guys are next in line.
Hey Deedee...you are next in line? I assume the baby makin is in your mind.
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weak people cheat
I guess for the most part, that's true. However, in some cases, it's hard to judge. I worked with someone who's wife had lyme's disease (going on several years) and she was in bed most of the time. He did everything... took care of two kids, the cooking, housework, was the sole earner, and from what I could tell from their phone conversations, the wife wasn't exactly the easiest person to get along with. He always said he would never leave his wife and have the children suffer, but I know he cheated on her... and once or twice, I could hear him talking to "her" on the phone. He sounded so happy. I just don't know that I blamed him so much, although it was dishonest and morally wrong... :-\
If I lived with someone I loved for 10 or 20 years, I don't know that I would dump the relationship because of one mistake. But who knows, I say that, but...
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oh, so sorry Stella :-\....you have to forgive me! I am hormonal and feeling philosophical. I normally drive Bob crazy with my antics, but he is out of town....you guys are next in line.
Hey Deedee...you are next in line? I assume the baby makin is in your mind.
Lol, it's been coming up in the conversation lately... but think we'll wait a little before taking the plunge.
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You laides talk a big game...on paper. The truth is all you ladies LOVE 'the bad boy' and the drama associated with one. You all say they'll get dumped, no questions asked I don't take no crap blah blah blah but sheeeeet, you don't fool me. For the most part...maybe not all but generally speaking you ladies LOVE being mistreated.
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You laides talk a big game...on paper. The truth is all you ladies LOVE 'the bad boy' and the drama associated with one. You all say they'll get dumped, no questions asked I don't take no crap blah blah blah but sheeeeet, you don't fool me. For the most part...maybe not all but generally speaking you ladies LOVE being mistreated.
I've been with the "bad boy" types before who DID NOT cheat. A girl wants the bad boy to try to change him. I don't need to change anybody. I want a MAN...who thinks and does for himself. I'm not the "momma" type to my man. I've got a baby on the way, and she is the ONLY child I will take care of.
You can talk in generals with women...and you may be right, but as for ME....its just not going to happen. I don't disagree with what you are saying...but i am the exception to that rule.
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(But you're right though about boring threads.)
Deedee, posts like these are making this a hostile posting environment for the droves of women who might potentially post here. I hope you will amend your ways soon.
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Deedee, posts like these are making this a hostile posting environment for the droves of women who might potentially post here. I hope you will amend your ways soon.
I apologized. :D
And then, I posted a serious thread. :)
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Lol, it's been coming up in the conversation lately... but think we'll wait a little before taking the plunge.
:o :o :o
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:o :o :o
I still have a few years left Miggy... ;)
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wanna go to paris? ;)
Ok as far as your post concerning the guy whose wife had lyme's disease,that is a tough call, but cheating is horrible in my book.
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wanna go to paris? ;)
Ok as far as your post concerning the guy whose wife had lyme's disease,that is a tough call, but cheating is horrible in my book.
Well, it's more sad than anything else... but lots of people end up staying together after the love dies. I met someone on a business trip who confided that he had been with his wife since they were seventeen, so 20 years. He said they hadn't had any sex in ten years. :o He said they were friends more than anything else, but he would never stray. Still, that must be a hard way to live. :'(
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Well, it's more sad than anything else... but lots of people end up staying together after the love dies. I met someone on a business trip who confided that he had been with his wife since they were seventeen, so 20 years. He said they hadn't had any sex in ten years. :o He said they were friends more than anything else, but he would never stray. Still, that must be a hard way to live. :'(
that's farking incredible. I guess some people have more manageable drives.
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And others are just really practical about it all. What is it they say about the French... they're already shopping for the mistress before the honeymoon is over.
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You laides talk a big game...on paper. The truth is all you ladies LOVE 'the bad boy' and the drama associated with one. You all say they'll get dumped, no questions asked I don't take no crap blah blah blah but sheeeeet, you don't fool me. For the most part...maybe not all but generally speaking you ladies LOVE being mistreated.
Nice throw out to cover your ass... ::)
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Didn't mean it that way. I think proschic just meant lately they've been getting more fluff-oriented... and I agreed. But of course, this board is great! :D
oh, so sorry Stella :-\....you have to forgive me! I am hormonal and feeling philosophical.
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but i am the exception to that rule.
I agree. I'm not sure I ever endured "bad boy behavior" but there's no way in h*** I'd put up w/that crap now.
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Does eh...does Mike know about all this?
yes, why do you ask block?
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Is it cheating if the spouse knows about it, and condones the extra-marital affair?
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Is it cheating if the spouse knows about it, and condones the extra-marital affair?
I think that's called sharing your milk and cookies. :)
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Is it cheating if the spouse knows about it, and condones the extra-marital affair?
No...thats call "will do anything to keep my CASH COW"
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Technically speaking... I think it's called polyamory.
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Yep, that's what it's called, ...and I can't wait for it to be legal. :D j/k
I heard of one situation where the couple loved each other dearly, but the wife was stricken with MS and was wheelchair bound. For years she encouraged her husband to get some of his needs met outside of their marriage. Now the two women are great friends, they even go on vacations together. They're like one big happy family. :D
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Lol Judi!!!
I used to know this really sweet, cute, kind, adorable, intelligent... did I say adorable... paramedic who trained at my gym. We used to talk all the time, then he moved to Toronto. Two years later I catch a doc on polyamory, and guess who's in it? He and his partners also seemed like they made the right choice for themselves, and it didn't look like a hareem situation at all. (Lots of group hugs it seemed.) You never know about people...
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Lol Judi!!!
I used to know this really sweet, cute, kind, adorable, intelligent... did I say adorable... paramedic who trained at my gym. We used to talk all the time, then he moved to Toronto. Two years later I catch a doc on polyamory, and guess who's in it? He and his partners also seemed like they made the right choice for themselves, and it didn't look like a hareem situation at all. (Lots of group hugs it seemed.) You never know about people...
Does the occasional 3-some fall into that category?
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men are only as loyal as there options realise it ladies its true
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men are only as loyal as there options realise it ladies its true
not true. I am loyal and I have had options. I believe in respecting someone
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ok sorry, i take that back men and women are as loyal as there options because if brad pitt showed up at your door your wife would be gone
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The current topics are kinda boring...
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The current topics are kinda boring...IMO. So I want to get some good opinions on a very HOT topic.
I'm watching Dr. Phil yesterday on a show about cheaters. These particular couples were married...which really strikes a nerve with me...but were still together. One woman on the show whom had two affairs was admitting "if I did not get caught, I would still be doing it". Her husband just sat there...wanting to work on the relationship. As sorry as I felt for this man...I felt that if he was taking the abuse, then he deserved it. The same for the wives that were on the same show.
Where do you draw the line between LOVE and RATIONALITY? Personally, I am a 1 strike and your out. Bob and I have had the discussion, he knows my views on this topic. He messes up ONCE and he is gone...no questions asked!! I am the type of woman that would much rather be alone, and split custody than constantly worrying whether my husband is being faithful. I'm not a snooper, and I don't check up on my husband...I don't feel I should have to. But why is it that women...and men...feel that its something that they should put up with. There are so many great people in this world....THAT STAY FAITHFUL. I cant see wasting my time on someone who doesn't.
Am I being unreasonable?
I saw that episode too. I was so pissed at the woman who had the two affairs that I wanted to kick the 50" Sony. She even admitted to cheating and more then one time. Meanwhile her husband just sits there like a dope while his wife embarasses him on national television. People like that do not know what they want in life. There is no excuse for cheating on a spouse what so ever. It seems to me that marrige has ZERO value now a days. They should change it from "better or for worse" to "until you get sick of your mate".
PB
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not true. I am loyal and I have had options. I believe in respecting someone
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I saw that episode too. I was so pissed at the woman who had the two affairs that I wanted to kick the 50" Sony. She even admitted to cheating and more then one time. Meanwhile her husband just sits there like a dope while his wife embarasses him on national television. People like that do not know what they want in life. There is no excuse for cheating on a spouse what so ever. It seems to me that marrige has ZERO value now a days. They should change it from "better or for worse" to "until you get sick of your mate".
PB
Unfortunately this does seem to be the case... :(
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not true. I am loyal and I have had options. I believe in respecting someone
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I believe that Migs isn't the only man that feels this way. :)
ok sorry, i take that back men and women are as loyal as there options because if brad pitt showed up at your door your wife would be gone
Brad Pitt? No way. Brad Pitt is definitely NOT a catch as far as I'm concerned. Unless you want to be worried if he's going to cheat on you. :P
As far as any "celebrities" go, they have just as many problems as non-celebrities....Just as there are people in your community that look like they "have it all together" and actually don't, the same thing goes for celebs. I cannot think of one person I would leave my husband for.....unless he started beating me or cheating on me....then I would leave him for ME.
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LIke i said, i respect the person i'm with. Especialy since i don't think many would put up with me lol. If i ever got anywheer close to cheating on a gf, then i would break up with her and let her know before i cheated. If that makes sense.
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If he/she cheats once, he/she will do it again. Especially if their partner finds out & doesn't kick their ass. Period. There is a certain type of person that has the ability to do that to another human being. Bless their heart, but boot their bullshit.
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LIke i said, i respect the person i'm with. Especialy since i don't think many would put up with me lol. If i ever got anywheer close to cheating on a gf, then i would break up with her and let her know before i cheated. If that makes sense.
I like you more and more everyday! Why can't men have those kind of balls!! Atleast the girl can respect your honesty and openess after the fact. Its better than having the "baby, I'm so sorry" convo! That just drags on and on!!!
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thanks. I just believe in talking things out and being honest with your SO. If you aren't honest with yourself you cant be honest with anyone
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thanks. I just believe in talking things out and being honest with your SO. If you aren't honest with yourself you cant be honest with anyone
What is the longest time you have been in a commited relationship good sir?
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By commited do you mean the both of us? lol cheating b*tch lol
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By commited do you mean the both of us? lol cheating b*tch lol
Yes. or you can break it up to just include your side if that makes it seem better...:)
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4 years
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4 years
Really that long but you said at one time you have never been "in Love" or had Love Stories? Were you just sharing space?
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Really that long but you said at one time you have never been "in Love" or had Love Stories? Were you just sharing space?
I think there is a possibility to "love" someone without being "in love" with them. I was in a 3 yr relationship where there was love...but I was not in love with him. I can say that now because I know the difference between the two.
I don't know if this is Migs case.......
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I think there is a possibility to "love" someone without being "in love" with them. I was in a 3 yr relationship where there was love...but I was not in love with him. I can say that now because I know the difference between the two.
I don't know if this is Migs case.......
Sorry but that only happens to girls. We are always on the recieving end of the "I love you but not in love with you.." speech. When a guy is no longer in love we tend to wander away from our own pasture... ;D
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Really that long but you said at one time you have never been "in Love" or had Love Stories? Were you just sharing space?
no i've been in love. never had any love stories though. mostly tragedies. besides i was getting played so totalky sucked. ASk deedee, she'll fill ya in.
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no i've been in love. never had any love stories though. mostly tragedies. besides i was getting played so totalky sucked. ASk deedee, she'll fill ya in.
I hate to bring you up when we are talking it just depresses the both of us... ;D
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well it sucked like hell. I've been in love, but never was loved. damn women
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well it sucked like hell. I've been in love, but never was loved. damn women
I'm sure that wasn't true. Unfortunately you can't force someone to stay in love with you, and when it falters, one of two things will happen. You get broken up with, or the other person causes something to happen so you will break up with them.
Courage... :'(
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it is true. i hven't been loved. Been used. my own fault for trusting that bleeds for a week and yet lives. kidding,
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it is true. i hven't been loved. Been used. my own fault for trusting that bleeds for a week and yet lives. kidding,
Guess you're not ready to move on yet. How long has it been? :(
Isn't it long enough to start filling out your dance card and learn to trust again.
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Guess you're not ready to move on yet. How long has it been? :(
Isn't it long enough to start filling out your dance card and learn to trust again.
i said i was kidding. speaking of which i might takedance lessons. stop laughing
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i said i was kidding. speaking of which i might takedance lessons. stop laughing
Good plan. Find a studio that gives ballet, tap and modern jazz classes along with the other stuff. Lots of single girls to be found. ;)
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actually i was goona do it for myself. just to learn how to dance better. I'll let the girls thing work itself out on its own
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it is true. i hven't been loved.
Bullcrap. We love you you idiot >:(
my own fault for trusting that bleeds for a week and yet lives.
that's funny ;D
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Bless their heart, but boot their bullshit.
I like this line :)
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Bullcrap. We love you you idiot >:(
Yeah i feel the love coming out from you ::)
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As it pertains to cheating, I think most people are weak-willed and susceptible to the right set of circumstances if their relationship is not based on a solid foundation.
Ultimately, that foundation is what keeps a relationship healthy....
I've never been cheated on and I've never cheated on someone, mainly because I was careful about who I got involved with from the start.
I'm picky in several ways.....and I find out about a woman long before the relationship ever becomes heavy.
I tend to attract the "good girl" types, and they've told me I have badboy tendencies without the badboy behaviour.
A happy medium I suppose....
I don't tolerate drama and I like clean, open communication.
I think relationships are alot easier than people make them out to be.
If both people want it, they can work through issues.....
DIV
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As it pertains to cheating, I think most people are weak-willed and susceptible to the right set of circumstances if their relationship is not based on a solid foundation.
What you say is fundamentally true. The human heart IS weak and frail. If that were not so, we'd be without two thirds of the world's greatest literature
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As it pertains to cheating, I think most people are weak-willed and susceptible to the right set of circumstances if their relationship is not based on a solid foundation.
Ultimately, that foundation is what keeps a relationship healthy....
I've never been cheated on and I've never cheated on someone, mainly because I was careful about who I got involved with from the start.
I'm picky in several ways.....and I find out about a woman long before the relationship ever becomes heavy.
I tend to attract the "good girl" types, and they've told me I have badboy tendencies without the badboy behaviour.
A happy medium I suppose....
I don't tolerate drama and I like clean, open communication.
I think relationships are alot easier than people make them out to be.
If both people want it, they can work through issues.....
DIV
Sounds like you got your shit together DIV! LUCKY ASS PALE GIRLS......... ;)
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What you say is fundamentally true. The human heart IS weak and frail. If that were not so, we'd be without two thirds of the world's greatest literature
That's how I'm different. I'm a rational person and I don't let my emotions run me, which is counter to what I've seen in general from people. I can vocalize my concerns without getting emotional, whereas most women I've been with cannot.
Sounds like you got your shit together DIV! LUCKY ASS PALE GIRLS......... ;)
I prefer pale women, but the mental makeup is more important than aesthetics relationship-wise.
If it was simply about pale women, longterm relationships would not be an issue.
DIV
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That's how I'm different. I'm a rational person and I don't let my emotions run me, which is counter to what I've seen in general from people. I can vocalize my concerns without getting emotional, whereas most women I've been with cannot.
I prefer pale women, but the mental makeup is more important than aesthetics relationship-wise.
If it was simply about pale women, longterm relationships would not be an issue.
DIV
Those are two seemingly uncorrelated thoughts in the same post. You say that your emotions don't run you, and then you allude that longterm relationships are an issue?
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That's how I'm different. I'm a rational person and I don't let my emotions run me, which is counter to what I've seen in general from people. I can vocalize my concerns without getting emotional, whereas most women I've been with cannot.
DIV
Thats because women run off 90% emotion and 10% rationality. (add pregnancy, and the rationality goes out the door!!) Unfortunatly most of us (women) are bread to have the "fairy tale" fantasies about their men giving up jobs, friends, hobbies, and even family to simply love us. None of which is rational!!! I think that if a couple spends 24/7 with each other and doesn't express their OWN individuality...they will end up killing each other!!
God bless my parents for teaching me to take care of myself first, and being who I am...then adding it to a relationship. I've never had the drama, arguing, and crazy shit happen that I hear from my guy friends!!
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Those are two seemingly uncorrelated thoughts in the same post. You say that your emotions don't run you, and then you allude that longterm relationships are an issue?
You're making assumptions based on your own interpretation of my words. Big no-no. LTR's are an issue because most women aren't able to deal with me because I am not emotional like they are. Some have been too clingy or possessive derived from an overall sense of inadequacy with themselves...
I am an independant person and I prefer women who are the same way. Some can handle it, others cannot.
Thats because women run off 90% emotion and 10% rationality. (add pregnancy, and the rationality goes out the door!!) Unfortunatly most of us (women) are bread to have the "fairy tale" fantasies about their men giving up jobs, friends, hobbies, and even family to simply love us. None of which is rational!!! I think that if a couple spends 24/7 with each other and doesn't express their OWN individuality...they will end up killing each other!!
God bless my parents for teaching me to take care of myself first, and being who I am...then adding it to a relationship. I've never had the drama, arguing, and crazy shit happen that I hear from my guy friends!!
I don't know about the pregnancy as I don't have kids and would not date a woman who does. I'd have to be with a woman for a few years before I'd commit to having kids with her.
The type of women I've been attracted to don't live in fantasyland, that is a given.
DIV
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You're making assumptions based on your own interpretation of my words. Big no-no. LTR's are an issue because most women aren't able to deal with me because I am not emotional like they are. Some have been too clingy or possessive derived from an overall sense of inadequacy with themselves...
I am an independant person and I prefer women who are the same way. Some can handle it, others cannot.
DIV
I wasn't making assumptions. I was asking the question. But if I was making assumptions, your answer seems to bear them out. Some women are overly possessive, clingy, etc. Some men are also very clinical in the way they express themselves. And, although I personally could never be with such a man, I have known some who confuse independence with selfishness.
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I wasn't making assumptions. I was asking the question. But if I was making assumptions, your answer seems to bear them out. Some women are overly possessive, clingy, etc. Some men are also very clinical in the way they express themselves. And, although I personally could never be with such a man, I have known some who confuse independence with selfishness.
No, I'm not an emotional person.
That is why I attract a certain type of woman.
I am certainly not user-friendly.
I also am picky, so it limits the types of women available to me.
DIV
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Also, you shouldn't have to work in a relationship. Everything should come naturally. You should treat eachother like best friends. You should be able to tell eacheother anything and more importantly you shouldn't have to act any differently when your around eachother. I've always believed that a solid friendship makes for a better relationship.
PB
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No, I'm not an emotional person.
That is why I attract a certain type of woman.
I am certainly not user-friendly.
I also am picky, so it limits the types of women available to me.
DIV
What kind of woman does an unemotional man attract? (You said "good girls" are attracted to you.) Are they the kind of women who want to change you?
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Also, you shouldn't have to work in a relationship. Everything should come naturally. You should treat eachother like best friends. You should be able to tell eacheother anything and more importantly you shouldn't have to act any differently when your around eachother. I've always believed that a solid friendship makes for a better relationship.
PB
I guess that finally, when all is said and done, the best relationships are solid friendships.
(Still nice to keep a little of the mystery going though... :) )
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i need to find morally casual women. lol
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I guess that finally, when all is said and done, the best relationships are solid friendships.
(Still nice to keep a little of the mystery going though... :) )
Romance too. Romance is the key to a solid relationship. You've gotta keep your other half feeling loved and cared for. Otherwise why be with that person? It doesn't take much to make a person's day. Either by buying flowers and having them delivered to her place of work, love notes, sexy emails, etc. Lots of things that one could do for their signifigant other. The problem is people just don't take the time or put in any effort to do it.
PB
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Romance too. Romance is the key to a solid relationship. You've gotta keep your other half feeling loved and cared for. Otherwise why be with that person? It doesn't take much to make a person's day. Either by buying flowers and having them delivered to her place of work, love notes, sexy emails, etc. Lots of things that one could do for their signifigant other. The problem is people just don't take the time or put in any effort to do it.
PB
:)
Yes, and I remember when we had the romance thread going, mostly everyone said it was the tiny everyday things that meant the most. Nothing like getting a good lust e-mail out of the blue, or coming home to find some little surprise waiting for you, whatever it is, or even getting an invitation to go for lunch...
(or wearing the fishnets for him even though you find them kinda sleazy ;))
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Yes, and I remember when we had the romance thread going, mostly everyone said it was the tiny everyday things that meant the most. Nothing like getting a good lust e-mail out of the blue, or coming home to find some little surprise waiting for you, whatever it is, or even getting an invitation to go for lunch...
(or wearing the fishnets for him even though you find them kinda sleazy ;))
Fishnets!!!LOL, LOl...don't remind me...LMFO!!! God love ya Deedee...you just made my Monday:)
PB
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What kind of woman does an unemotional man attract? (You said "good girls" are attracted to you.) Are they the kind of women who want to change you?
Nah....
I wouldn't be interested in a manipulative woman, they don't get far with me. I attract independent, responsible, good girl types.....
Women who accept me for who I am, yet are a true dichotomy to my personality. The girl I am with now is heavy in to literature, has a degree in performing arts, prefers trips up to the mountains, likes yoga....
She is a dichotomy unto herself as well.
Is a Christian, yet likes edgy men who are not so straight-laced.
She's a true complement to me in just about every way.
When we go out to dinner, people give us strange looks because we don't look like two people who would have anything in common.
DIV
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someone mention fishnets?
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someone mention fishnets?
Oh yes.....My good angel Deedee is gonna model some for me....right Deedee :P
PB
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The girl I am with now is heavy in to literature, has a degree in performing arts, prefers trips up to the mountains, likes yoga....
DIV
I like this girl. Keep her. :)
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Oh yes.....My good angel Deedee is gonna model some for me....right Deedee :P
PB
Lol, the reason I remembered about the fishnets and the girl who didn't want to wear them... was because I was thinking to myself... I'm with HER! :P
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Okay, so here's a really important question about cheating that could be a matter of life and death.
Some really angry chick called my cell phone by mistake last night and left a horrible message to the effect that she knew I was messing around with her "man" and she was going to f**k me up and a bunch of other terrible things, then she was going to bust a cap in my ass. It sounded to me like she was really serious, so I saved the message and let a few people listen to it at work to see if they agreed with me. They did, and the guys especially enjoyed listening to it multiple times.
Here's my dilemma. Since angry chick doesn't know she called the wrong number... will she become murderous if cheating chick doesn't stop messing with her "man?" Cheating chick probably doesn't know that angry chick knows about her cheating ways and is probably blissfully making out with the guy right this minute. If cheating chick gets her head blown off, am I somehow morally responsible. Should I have called angry chick back and let her know she called the wrong number...at least that would have given angry chick the opportunity to call cheating chick and give her fair warning of her intentions. At the same time, angry chick sounds like a lunatic so I don't want to get involved.
What to do... ???
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Call her back and tell her it was the wrong number. Karma is a bitch, if you feel that you should call due to the mixup and it may protect someone then do it. The worst thing that can happen if you call is you get a pissed off chick on the phone.
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Call her back and tell her it was the wrong number. Karma is a bitch, if you feel that you should call due to the mixup and it may protect someone then do it. The worst thing that can happen if you call is you get a pissed off chick on the phone.
I think you're right. I'm going to call. I'd hate to read about some girl getting shanked over a guy... and know it was my fault. :-\
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I think you're right. I'm going to call. I'd hate to read about some girl getting shanked over a guy... and know it was my fault. :-\
Besides, the call back will give you some more content for this little story ;D
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Besides, the call back will give you some more content for this little story ;D
Lol, I just can't get over how much the guys around here like listening to a message of a woman screaming obscenities and threatening murder. ;D
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Lol, I just can't get over how much the guys around here like listening to a message of a woman screaming obscenities and threatening murder. ;D
I can't speak for everyone else, but messages like that are a walk in the park for me. Lunatic ex remember? :-X ;D
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let em kill each other. Hi pookie, you too deedee
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Okay, so here's a really important question about cheating that could be a matter of life and death.
Some really angry chick called my cell phone by mistake last night and left a horrible message to the effect that she knew I was messing around with her "man" and she was going to f**k me up and a bunch of other terrible things, then she was going to bust a cap in my ass. It sounded to me like she was really serious, so I saved the message and let a few people listen to it at work to see if they agreed with me. They did, and the guys especially enjoyed listening to it multiple times.
Here's my dilemma. Since angry chick doesn't know she called the wrong number... will she become murderous if cheating chick doesn't stop messing with her "man?" Cheating chick probably doesn't know that angry chick knows about her cheating ways and is probably blissfully making out with the guy right this minute. If cheating chick gets her head blown off, am I somehow morally responsible. Should I have called angry chick back and let her know she called the wrong number...at least that would have given angry chick the opportunity to call cheating chick and give her fair warning of her intentions. At the same time, angry chick sounds like a lunatic so I don't want to get involved.
What to do... ???
In all honesty....don't get involved. It has nothing to do with you. Delete the message and move on. By persuing this you will only open up doors to a world of new stress and problems for yourself and for something that has nothing to do with you. Hope this helps Deedee:)
PB
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Lol, the reason I remembered about the fishnets and the girl who didn't want to wear them... was because I was thinking to myself... I'm with HER! :P
You would look hot in them ;)
PB
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I would save the message but don't call the woman back...if she calls again with another horrible message let the authorities handle it
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Thanks for all the answers. It really did sort of bother me...
However, the story ends with little drama. While I was wondering whether or not to call, she called me back, still thinking my celly number belonged to cheating chick. Anyway, 3 seconds into the convo she could tell from my Canadian accent that I was not cheating chick and she had the wrong number. She slammed down the phone and that was it.
If I were cheating chick, I think I'd be getting on top of that greyhound schedule right about now... :P
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Thanks for all the answers. It really did sort of bother me...
However, the story ends with little drama. While I was wondering whether or not to call, she called me back, still thinking my celly number belonged to cheating chick. Anyway, 3 seconds into the convo she could tell from my Canadian accent that I was not cheating chick and she had the wrong number. She slammed down the phone and that was it.
If I were cheating chick, I think I'd be getting on top of that greyhound schedule right about now... :P
I would be more pissed at the fact that she slammed the phone down on you. How rude...and its not like you asked for those calls either.
PB
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I like this girl. Keep her. :)
That's my intention, Deedee.
I never go in to a relationship without sizing them up first and determining whether it's worth it to try.
I'm not the type to just jump in to relationship for the sake of it.
DIV
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Thanks for all the answers. It really did sort of bother me...
However, the story ends with little drama. While I was wondering whether or not to call, she called me back, still thinking my celly number belonged to cheating chick. Anyway, 3 seconds into the convo she could tell from my Canadian accent that I was not cheating chick and she had the wrong number. She slammed down the phone and that was it.
If I were cheating chick, I think I'd be getting on top of that greyhound schedule right about now... :P
It always humors me how women get murderous when it pertains to cheating ex's.
It takes two to cheat, after all.
She should be confronting the boyfriend first, then worry about murdering the other woman.
DIV
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It always humors me how women get murderous when it pertains to cheating ex's.
It takes two to cheat, after all.
She should be confronting the boyfriend first, then worry about murdering the other woman.
DIV
The "other woman or man" doesn't always know that they're dating a married person.
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The "other woman or man" doesn't always know that they're dating a married person.
Spot on.
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She should be confronting the boyfriend first, then worry about murdering the other woman.
DIV
That's the part I don't get. Why confront the woman? ???
It's the cheaters butt that needs straightening out. I would invite the other woman out for a drink.
There's the possibility she doesn't know, ...and learning about her would give guidance on how to proceed.
Years ago, this guy I knew was sleeping with 3 of my girlfriends. It wasn't serious with any of them, they were all using him for his ...ahem skills :P, but he pretended like each one of them was the only woman in the world. They all knew he was seeing other women, ...and I felt extremely uncomfortable because I knew all three. They'd dish holding nothing back. The hilarious part was his MO didn't change from woman to woman.
About 2 months later, he started hitting on me. I was so grossed out I said to him point blank:
"Oh Puleaze! I suppose next you're gonna ask me ________________?"
You should have seen his face! That was precisely the very next question that was about to leave his lips.
He turned bright red, and said "You obviously know a few things about me". I had to laugh out loud at that point, ...and said "Yeah! Too much to ever let you get any closer. Save it for someone who might be impressed by it, ...'cause I AM NOT THAT GIRL!" A few weeks later, I was dining with the other 3 women, and who should walk into the restaurant? ...yep you guessed it. He was entertaining a client. Talk about uncomfortable. That poor guy was squirming in his seat the entire time.
Everytime laughter erupted from our table, he sank in his seat just a little bit more.
He obviously thought we were talking about him, comparing notes, and laughing.
And you know what... he was right! ;D
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Jag, you really put him in his place w your inimitable wit. Thanks for sharing another wonderful story.
You have such flair. :-*
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The "other woman or man" doesn't always know that they're dating a married person.
Perhaps sometimes..........but not most of the time.
DIV
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Cheaters suck, plain and simple, whether they are male or female. There is no need to cheat. If you are not happy with the one you are with, end the relationship. They may be surprised and hurt, but it's a far easier pain to get over than the pain of finding someone you loved and thought loved you with another.
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Cheating is a shitty thing to do, but its something that pretty much every guy (and many women) do regularily. In my opinion its unreasonable to expect your guy wont stray.
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Keep them extra busy at home, I always say. :)
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A guy whose happy at home has less reason to cheat, but you cannot watch him 24/7 and if hes horny and its there hes fucking it :(
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A guy whose happy at home has less reason to cheat, but you cannot watch him 24/7 and if hes horny and its there hes fucking it :(
You're just all kittens and a ray of sunshine, aren't you? >:(
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The idea of all men cheating is sad and upsetting to other girls. To me thats like getting mad at gravity if an acorn falls on your head. I do not think its ideal, but thats life :)
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The idea of all men cheating is sad and upsetting to other girls. To me thats like getting mad at gravity if an acorn falls on your head. I do not think its ideal, but thats life :)
men dont cheat....
males do....
as in....
women aren't whores....
females r...
...box..in...out...so on n so forth...
..i'll be here all week folks.
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Speakling of sad and upsetting...
:P
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Guys just need to go through a learning curve. Once they get busted and they see how bad it affects a chick when they cheat I doubt there would be many that would do it again.
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Guys just need to go through a learning curve. Once they get busted and they see how bad it affects a chick when they cheat I doubt there would be many that would do it again.
some of us have NEVER cheated...
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some of us have NEVER cheated...
Well sir I fell sorry for those men. The forbidden fruit is only natural to take and to deprive yourself of that is to deprive yourself of life.
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Well sir I fell sorry for those men. The forbidden fruit is only natural to take and to deprive yourself of that is to deprive yourself of life.
no Sir i feel sorry for thee...
honour..before life....
i'd never leave a fallen soldier behind...u would...
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When you get older you will realize it doesn't make you a man to stick your dick in every girl that will allow you to stick it in.
yo..i del my message i posted earlier...but in short....i lost someone i loved like u did...i used to wake up dry heaving cause i missed her so bad mang....so i'm truly sorry for your loss....i know what it feels like to sit by a grave..
cheers mate....
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Since she passed away and I figured out i'd never marry again,
good for you mang....she's waiting for you in the afterlife :)
...dont fall in love or marry again....have your fun..but remember her.. :)
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You believe a word this guy says? Do you also believe that he turned into a black/hispanic guy with curly hair for his back pic?
no one lies about losing som....i dunno..i believe him...
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I havn't become a man yet? Jeeze grandpa, you can tell life has dealt you a rough hand. Maybe I should ask advice from your "23 year old f**k buddy", she seems manly enough.
give the guy a fucking break mang....he's been thru enough k...
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I wanted to die so bad but life goes on.
so did i...
i'm sorry mate..
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Even though she was a bitch to me, if I knew something personal that would hurt her in real life, i'd not mention it. But some folks are just clods that way, they must hate themselfs or something. So they hurt someone else to make their own pitiful life seem better.
rooster mate...i've known cher and mike here for a while..
they r truly in love...they make us sick sometimes about how much they r in love :) (and u should respect her just for that)
and they r good folk :)
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The girl i'm fucking isn't really named Tonya. I didn't want to use your sisters real name.
Grow up bitch.
You are the most immature 50 year old ever. I am done talking to you. Keep photoshopping pics and passing off other people as you, Old Frozzor Rooster.
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Old Rooster your problem is that you think you're the only one in the world to go through shit like that. Seriously pops there are people on these boards who have had it a lot worse than you.
So just realise no one gives a f**k about your life, go to counseling or some shit but don't come on these boards being all high and mighty because your can't deal with the shit in your life.
I can't deal with the shit in my life? Um, where did you get that notion child?
I make wads of money......I raise a 12 year old on my own, I even find the time to coach her soccer and softball team.
I post crap nonsense on a board on the internet and you base my life on this shit? Good god son, think about that, who is the real loser if words on a computer screen actually bother you? The answer is YOU are the loser.
While you are banging your keyboard in anger thinking of any way possible to ruin my day, to belittle me, to call me an old man like thats gonna hurt me. um, while you are doing all that and going through all those emotions, i'm sitting here laughing my ass off, handling buisness that needs handling in my gym, laughing and goofing with Tonya. And you think i'm the one that can't handle life?
God you are a classic moron.
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You are the most immature 50 year old ever. I am done talking to you. Keep photoshopping pics and passing off other people as you, Old Frozzor Rooster.
OK Danielson, thats enough Wax on Wax off for the day anyway, tomorrow I teach you PAINT THE FENCE! UP!!!! DOWN!!!!!!!
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You are the most immature 50 year old ever. I am done talking to you. Keep photoshopping pics and passing off other people as you, Old Frozzor Rooster.
So i'm pretending to be a 50 year old? Yeah thats my plan stan, I figured i'd join a site of young kiddies and pretend to be 48. Damn you figured me out!
haha, Tonya just called you a silly dipshit and she never disses anyone. So you are One of a Kind!
Have a good weekend peaches.
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Then I wish them a life full of happiness.
good show mate! :)
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good show mate! :)
If I can ask without it hurting to answer, how long ago did you lose your love?
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So i'm pretending to be a 50 year old? Yeah thats my plan stan, I figured i'd join a site of young kiddies and pretend to be 48. Damn you figured me out!
haha, Tonya just called you a silly dipshit and she never disses anyone. So you are One of a Kind!
Have a good weekend peaches.
Another time old man, and stfu about tonya unless you are going to post a pic of her tits already, it's standard protocol around here.
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I can't deal with the shit in my life? Um, where did you get that notion child?
I make wads of money......I raise a 12 year old on my own, I even find the time to coach her soccer and softball team.
I post crap nonsense on a board on the internet and you base my life on this shit? Good god son, think about that, who is the real loser if words on a computer screen actually bother you? The answer is YOU are the loser.
While you are banging your keyboard in anger thinking of any way possible to ruin my day, to belittle me, to call me an old man like thats gonna hurt me. um, while you are doing all that and going through all those emotions, i'm sitting here laughing my ass off, handling buisness that needs handling in my gym, laughing and goofing with Tonya. And you think i'm the one that can't handle life?
God you are a classic moron.
My god you're even more far gone than I had initially thought. Do you see me bragging about my life in every post I make? For that matter do you see anyone else on these boards bragging about every detail of their life?
1) You have huge self esteem issues.
2) You are living in denial about having these issues.
3) You are screwing an ugly bird.
4) Obvious mid-life crisis.
Hope this helps.
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My god you're even more far gone than I had initially thought. Do you see me bragging about my life in every post I make? For that matter do you see anyone else on these boards bragging about every detail of their life?
1) You have huge self esteem issues.
2) You are living in denial about having these issues.
3) You are screwing an ugly bird.
4) Obvious mid-life crisis.
Hope this helps.
*sniffle sniffle* Yes, that helped. I'm forever grateful.
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If I can ask without it hurting to answer, how long ago did you lose your love?
99...i ws away on a trip..i kept calling her man..when i returned...i thought she had dumped me for someone else while i ws away..i mean what do you think when you call 20 times and no one picks up.....then her sister picked up the phone and told me...her sis didn't really know me but julie had written about me in her diary....i remember it didn't feel real for months...i kept expecting her to call or pick up the phone..and THAT fucking sounds like a line out of a fucking movie but thats EXACTLY how it felt ...like i'd start dialing her # and then i'd stop myself and tell myself that she wasn't gonna pick up...and i'd go to her grave...and it sounds wrong but i wanted to dig up her grave soooo..so fucking many times..and i'd think...i just wanna see her 1 more time..but then i'd think...what if her body is all rotted away and she dosen;t look the same..and...and thAT THought makes ya wanna puke..so ya do..and then ya dry heave..and then ya think ya just wanna smell her one..just one more time..no matter how bad her body smells..sorry mate..got carried away there..
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My god you're even more far gone than I had initially thought. Do you see me bragging about my life in every post I make? For that matter do you see anyone else on these boards bragging about every detail of their life?
1) You have huge self esteem issues.
2) You are living in denial about having these issues.
3) You are screwing an ugly bird.
4) Obvious mid-life crisis.
Hope this helps.
Although you just really pissed tonya off and now shes mad at me for asking her to whip her shirt up and lemme take a snapshot of them bewbies.
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old rooster you know you love to post your pict...especially before you protan your face ;)
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old rooster you know you love to post your pict...especially before you protan your face ;)
Lies all Lies!
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You tell yourself all the pain will go away one day
no u dont......
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I wouldn't screw you ya ugly hag. See thats one she can be proud of.
hag?? ROFLMAO, please look in the mirror Old_Rooster, not to mention I wouldn't give you the offer of a screw? And I'm not the one questioning if I am too old to go into a club. ::)
I'm also not the one claiming that I am honoring my deceased wife by not marrying again...but have become a slut. Yup, I'm sure that is something she can be proud of! ::)
walk a mile in smeones elses shoes Cher
ok without meaning to be mean..i'm gonna give ya an example...
you have kids and NOT with mikey...i'm SURE at some point the person u had them kids with you told him " i love you"...so if you did and if you did love him enough to bear his babies...why r you with mikey?
...i date also cher...i lost someone also...i'm not over her...and i'm sure this guy is NOT over his loss...its not nice of you 2 bring it up...
cause..you didn't like it when i brought up the guy you had babies with..and yet you have not had babies with mikey...now you dont like me bringing that up do ya???
its hurts when folks bring that up cher...
Toxi, don't talk to me about walking in someone else's shoes regarding this, cuz you don't know me. I walk in those shoes every day.
I never said he wasn't over his loss either. And I am most positive that he will never be over such a loss, but don't go braggin that you won't marry another but will slut yourself off. That isn't kewl and I can tell you that if I passed, if my significant other found love I would be happy for them, but if they just went and screwed around with everyone and anyone...well then...let's just say I wouldn't be pleased.
Regarding your loss Toxi, I read what you wrote and I am truly sorry for your loss as well, but again, I am sure she wouldn't appreciate or condone you sleeping with every Toni, Denise and Tammi you could find! >:(
As far as me and Michael not having babies.....you know nothing of that and don't pretend that you do. We are in our 40's and neither of us have the desire to have babies. We prefer to enjoy our lives together, doing the things we love. We both consider ourselves too old to start raising children. Neither of us want kids who at 16 have almost 60 year old parents.
Even though she was a bitch to me, if I knew something personal that would hurt her in real life, i'd not mention it. But some folks are just clods that way, they must hate themselfs or something. So they hurt someone else to make their own pitiful life seem better.
I was not a bitch to you. I even was on your side regarding clubs. All I stated was your comment regarding "marriage vs slut was wrong". Maybe you should think about what you put out there before you actually put it out there. Think about it. If you were the one who when through a painful experience (cancer) and eventually left "what you consider your soul mate"....would you want your ex-wife saying "I was married to the love of my life 8 years, never strayed and since she passed away and I figured out i'd never marry again, i've become such a slut."? I doubt it.
Well Old_Rooster
You got over 50 replies to http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=107228.msg1545742#msg1545742 (http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=107228.msg1545742#msg1545742)
...and since you've now turned this thread into a stupid testosterone induced bickering match,
...and because you're not an Approved Poster, why don't you keep your promise and GO AWAY?
:) Judi ... you're da bomb! :)
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A guy whose happy at home has less reason to cheat, but you cannot watch him 24/7 and if hes horny and its there hes fucking it :(
I don't necessarily think that's true.
I've never cheated on any girlfriend I've had.
I have and do have opportunities, but it's not worth it to me.
I don't look at sex in pure animalistic terms, there has to be a connection of some kind with a woman before I'll even desire to have sex. I'm too much of an all or nothing type guy to go halfway...
If I'm having sex with a woman, it's because I really want her, not because she's just a piece of meat to devour.
I'd get more satisfaction out of masturbating than fucking someone I had no investment in.
DIV
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And no offense to you either sandy, but you sound like someone who's been severely scorned. I have been cheated on by past men...but it's wrong to assume that all men are like that. Some women cheat on their sig others...does that make all women cheaters?
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And no offense to you either sandy, but you sound like someone who's been severely scorned. I have been cheated on by past men...but it's wrong to assume that all men are like that. Some women cheat on their sig others...does that make all women cheaters?
Agreed.
PB
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And no offense to you either sandy, but you sound like someone who's been severely scorned. I have been cheated on by past men...but it's wrong to assume that all men are like that. Some women cheat on their sig others...does that make all women cheaters?
Actually, I've never caught a man I've been with cheating, though Im sure its gone on. Im speaking based on my brothers, guy friends, fuck friends, coworkers, university experiences etc... You havent and youll never see a derogatory comment about men on account of this so the scorned angle is probably a case of you projecting your reaction to the idea that all men cheat on me.
Now, dont get me wrong, I am sure in the history of man there have been non cheaters, but they are few and far between, and I'd wager to guess most of em were too ugly to fuck :D.
Women cheat too, but I doubt its as often, and I think the motivation is usually a bit different.
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Actually, I've never caught a man I've been with cheating, though Im sure its gone on. Im speaking based on my brothers, guy friends, f**k friends, coworkers, university experiences etc... You havent and youll never see a derogatory comment about men on account of this so the scorned angle is probably a case of you projecting your reaction to the idea that all men cheat on me.
Now, dont get me wrong, I am sure in the history of man there have been non cheaters, but they are few and far between, and I'd wager to guess most of em were too ugly to f**k :D.
Women cheat too, but I doubt its as often, and I think the motivation is usually a bit different.
I don't think its fair to say that your signifigant other was cheating when you haven't even caught him in the act. Its one thing if you bust him but if he's on the up and up then your just going to snooker yourself out of a great guy. Not everyone is a cheating slime, Sandy.
PB
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I don't think its fair to say that your signifigant other was cheating when you haven't even caught him in the act. Its one thing if you bust him but if he's on the up and up then your just going to snooker yourself out of a great guy. Not everyone is a cheating slime, Sandy.
PB
God I hope not. That would totally suck. >:(
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No offense Division, but I'm not buying it. You dont read like the type of guy who has to beat the ladies off with a stick; consequently, it sounds to me like you are rationalizing the fact you dont get laid very often, thus giving credence to the "men are only as faithful as their options" addage :)
I'm not going to post pics, but Jodi has seen me and you can get her opinion or she can show you what I look like.
I'm a personal trainer and I mostly attract middle-aged women or college age.
I don't have sex outside of relationships, because I need a connection with a person before I'll ever consider anything physical.
......but sex is offered, esp by the married women I come in contact with.
So it's not so much that I'm beating women off with a stick, but just not accepting what they're offering.
There are other trainers who hook up all the time, but that's not me.
Your generalizing all men only makes you look bitter and scorned.
DIV
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Why do you immediately assume I think you're ugly ? (Although because your mind went there Im guessing you are)
I was making an indictment of your attitude; you seem markedly insecure and that is the biggest turn off in the world, even if you do look like a Mexican Brad Pitt :D
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Why do you immediately assume I think you're ugly ? (Although because your mind went there Im guessing you are)
I was making an indictment of your attitude; you seem markedly insecure and that is the biggest turn off in the world, even if you do look like a Mexican Brad Pitt :D
Beauty or lackthereof is dependant on the perception of the individual. I didn't assume anything, but I did state what the reality was in my situation because you did assume that I don't "read like the type of guy who has to beat the ladies off with a stick".
What I seem like to you and what I am in reality don't necessarily correlate. I think the only arrogance here is you thinking you know me.
As I said before, if you want to know for yourself, ask Jodi.
Your argumentative nature sounds familiar, though..........like someone name "jimmy".
DIV
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I didn't assume anything,
I'm not going to post pics, but Jodi has seen me and you can get her opinion or she can show you what I look like.
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You made a foolish statement and I'm giving you full disclosure and a way to determine for yourself what I look like.
Take it for what it's worth.......but don't get miffed.
DIV
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As was previously stated, you are the one who made your looks an issue, I simply said I doubt you get women :)
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As was previously stated, you are the one who made your looks an issue, I simply said I doubt you get women :)
......and that's not an assumption?
Off a message board no less. :D
It's not an issue, but your way of making grand generalizations is.
I just happen to have called you on it.
DIV
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As was previously stated, you are the one who made your looks an issue, I simply said I doubt you get women :)
How could you say that if you know nothing about him in the first place ??? I don't think Division should have to entail his every move of his personal love life on the internet. Leave it alone now and be happy 8)
PB
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......and that's not an assumption?
Off a message board no less. :D
It's not an issue, but your way of making grand generalizations is.
I just happen to have called you on it.
DIV
That was not a generalization my child, it was an extrapolation
(Look it up ;D)
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It seems (and keep in mind I am young) that the women I have done alot for, esp initially trying to make a good impression were the ones that fucked me over by cheating. I treated my current gf with respect but I learned my lesson and it has lasted longer. The women who cheated on me made me into a big dick and when I was single I hooked up with a lot of chicks and showed no respect. I'll never understand why young women like the bad boy all the time when they get dicked over. The girls I treated the worst were always on a leash. I could treat them like garbage and they would always come back. It seems these same girls like cheaters as well.
A very good post and very true. When I was younger I always wondered often about that myself. I have noticed tons of women with jackass guys that treat them like crap yet they do not steer clear from these men.
PB
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How could you say that if you know nothing about him in the first place ??? I don't think Division should have to entail his every move of his personal love life on the internet. Leave it alone now and be happy 8)
I think she has a crush on me.
Why else would she follow me around the forum?
I'll just ignore her from now on....
DIV
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I think she has a crush on me.
Why else would she follow me around the forum?
I'll just ignore her from now on....
DIV
That's what I always thought about SuckMyMuscle's bizarre stalking habits of me. But he always insists it's because I'm a bitch, whore, c*nt, dyke. So you really never know what people's motivations are.
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I have a question for you gals...would you consider your husand cheating if he were chatting online with other women and hiding it from you? Is that cheating?
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I have a question for you gals...would you consider your husand cheating if he were chatting online with other women and hiding it from you? Is that cheating?
Obviously it would depend on the subject of their conversations. Why would they hide it if the conversations was not in some way...flirtatious?
Is it actually cheating??? No, but in my opinion it is dangerous (relationship wise) to carry on with hidden conversations with the opposite sex ... as that's being a sneak. If that form of "relationship" between the 2 online people continues what comes next? An actual meeting??
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Yes, you are. I feel the same way but sometimes people are human. It's in our genes to mess up at times. If the other party wants to forgive and forget. Then so be it. But there are consequences to doing so like paranoia that they will do it again. I never thought that someone would ever be faithful to me. I'm afraid all the time but it's my backround that has led me to be this way. Who can change it. ME. . .
That's why I work out and have a strong support from my significant other. I also like people like yourself that think the same as me. It's kinda ironic how I experienced domestic violence my whole life and then this man I'm with now. Would never hurt a fly. I thank god everyday for him. . .
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I'm 24, check this out..
I'm friend with a chick for a few month, she falls in love with me, I don't wnat ot date she has 2 kids from a previous relationship, which she was almost married, left the guy because he was a bum...
Anyways, shes was a cool chick so i said, f it, let's give this a whirl....
Things were great for 2 years, marriage talk, cars in our names, insurance...balh blah blah the whole sHAbang
I find out shes meeting up with guys off the net, and taking loads in the mouth.
Then she has a breakdown "dont leave me, dont leave me.." fuck that...
She gets diagnosed with bi polar...i feel bad i go back like a POOR effing smuck...she keeps lieing on top of lies...i didnt realize what bi polar was at the time..i still feel bad for the chick, things were perfect now she snapped..
Fucking women are all bi polar..
Ill never get married or love again..
fucking all bullshit..be free..be happy..be positve and take care of urself.
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I'm 24, check this out..
I'm friend with a chick for a few month, she falls in love with me, I don't wnat ot date she has 2 kids from a previous relationship, which she was almost married, left the guy because he was a bum...
Anyways, shes was a cool chick so i said, f it, let's give this a whirl....
Things were great for 2 years, marriage talk, cars in our names, insurance...balh blah blah the whole sHAbang
I find out shes meeting up with guys off the net, and taking loads in the mouth.
Then she has a breakdown "dont leave me, dont leave me.." fuck that...
She gets diagnosed with bi polar...i feel bad i go back like a POOR effing smuck...she keeps lieing on top of lies...i didnt realize what bi polar was at the time..i still feel bad for the chick, things were perfect now she snapped..
Fucking women are all bi polar..
Ill never get married or love again..
fucking all bullshit..be free..be happy..be positve and take care of urself.
JCL...you are 24!
Why on earth are you worried about getting married or love right now. This is the time for you to enjoy life and not worry about chicks. Especially ones with BABIES!! They are on a different wave length than you. You need to be hitting the clubs with your boys and trying to get laid. Thats it.
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JCL...you are 24!
Why on earth are you worried about getting married or love right now. This is the time for you to enjoy life and not worry about chicks. Especially ones with BABIES!! They are on a different wave length than you. You need to be hitting the clubs with your boys and trying to get laid. Thats it.
Been there, done that, MANY times.
Was past that found someone that gave me that urge to settle down, I was content, I matured, I was happy with myself being with one person...
I can't bring myself to be sleeping around anymore...I dunno...I'm better then that.
MAybe im dumb, and have it all wrong...not sure.