Here are five things you need to know about interacting with fat fatshionistas:
1. You Need to Get Over It.
Seriously, take a seat. Actually, take several.
If you're offended by me showing my stomach or the way my thighs jiggle, you need to f*ck off. My body is my own and no one has the right to tell me what to do with it. Period.
Boohoo, you have to look at a fat woman's body.
You do realize that we live in a world filled with violence and oppression, right? Start getting angry about that and leave my fatness out of it.
ACTUALLY I DON'T HAVE TO LOOK AT YOU AT ALL. WHY SHOULD I?
DON'T TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD BE ANGRY AT.
2. Don't Stare. I'm a Person, Not Eye Candy.
The most common reaction I get from others when I wear revealing clothing are stares. Some people will sort of roll their eyes or look disgusted; others will just stare as if I'm some kind of art exhibit at a museum. Either way, there are a lot of stares.
Look, I understand that I'm challenging your views on fat womanhood and forcing you to question your beliefs and attitudes, but keep this contemplation to yourself. Yes, I do notice when you're looking. Yes, it does make me feel uncomfortable.
I'm not some sort of object to be admired; I'm a human being first and foremost. Respect my right to choose to be fabulous and move it along.
ADDRESSED IN POINT 1.
3. Keep (Most, But Especially Negative) Comments To Yourself
You might have the urge to shame me for daring to own my sexiness as a fat girl, or you may even want to compliment me for my taste. But either way, I really don't want to hear about it.
I'm just trying to get a latte at Starbucks, get to class or finish writing an article; I really don't want to engage in conversation about my identity.
Sure, positive comments can be cool, flattering even, but I notice a lot of these comments are objectifying. If you have something nice to say, find an even nicer way to say it. If you're about to tell me I have nice tits, don't. Just tell me I look nice today.
I can appreciate a good compliment, but I also don't want to hear comments about my body. Stick to my outfit; as a fatshionista, that's what I care about the most, anyway.
NOT THE LEAST BIT INTERESTED IN INTERACTING WITH YOU.
4. Never, EVER, Fat Shame Me
My mom has this thing she likes to do when I decide to show skin; tell me I don't look "appropriate." It's funny how everywhere I go in the summertime, I see girls wearing short-shorts, but the second I show some upper thigh, suddenly, I don't look "appropriate."
What exactly is appropriate and who invented this stupidity?
Part of being an adult means choosing my own attire. The law only requires that I cover my nipples (don't even get me started about that) and my genitalia; everything else is fair game. So since I haven't started practicing public nudity yet, I'm good.
These comments she makes stay with me and because I'm a fat girl with an eating disorder, trigger me. That's why it's even more important to me than anything that people be respectful, because if they aren't it can send me into a spiral.
If you think I'm gross or need to cover up, refer to number 1 and 3 on this list.
AGAIN- DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO.
5. Let Me Know I'm Doing Some Good
Some days, I need encouragement, like anyone else. So seeing people like my Instagram photos of my bare belly or telling me I look beautiful in a YouTube comment makes me feel good.
More importantly, it encourages me to keep pushing boundaries.
So if you think what I'm doing is awesome, or if you even like an outfit I'm wearing, tell me. You don't have to give me a full-out compliment, but even just favoriting a picture or tweet, or sharing this article is enough.
In fact, it's the best thing you can do.
GOOD?- BY BEING AN ABSURD BITCHY GLUTTON?
