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Getbig Female Info Boards => Open Talk for Girl Discussion => Topic started by: xxxLinda on September 13, 2006, 03:02:32 PM
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I still need to know... If you were me and you found an exlover left logged on to getbig and read all of his posts and then wound him up (ON GETBIG) and then he kicked in your door and got arrested at the third pub... Whatdoyado?
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um...you're not peg, right ::)
no, I'm Linda. I found tingnting logged onto my compter, remember?
I need to know what to do about the criminal damage report.
xL
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okay, i'll modify it.
Paul? I could get them all to drop charges...
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okay, i'll modify it.
Paul? I could get them all to drop charges...
MAYBE NOT
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Maybe I am slow but I couldn't follow your train of thought on the original post.
But honestly do you really want or need a bunch of outsiders giving you advice on such a matter?
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yeah
go to the court and see if they have a domestic counselor...they'd be more well versed on this
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Maybe I am slow but I couldn't follow your train of thought on the original post.
But honestly do you really want or need a bunch of outsiders giving you advice on such a matter?
well, i know that, but i cannot tell anyone i know, it's only on getbig
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yeah
go to the court and see if they have a domestic counselor...they'd be more well versed on this
I thought about that. I thought I might drop charges n suggest anger management
do they listen?
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FANTASTIC HAIL AND THUNDER STORMS HERE
xxxL
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I'll pm you or you pm me if you seriously want my two cents
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do you know about bail and about recinding orders?
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do you know about bail and about recinding orders?
Because I haven't a clue
xL
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um...you know, this is a serious thing. get advice from the pros, the court can set you up with a domestic counselor for free
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ting? I haven't looked to see if you've been logged on.
but, if you took the landlady at Kendricks a bunch of flowers (and apologised ((I have done so already)))
and shook the hand of the man at the Prince of Wales and the Elephant and Castle and the Chippenham) where you got arrested, you might be able to forgive and for.... go
xL
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um...you know, this is a serious thing. get advice from the pros, the court can set you up with a domestic counselor for free
I've already said I'm not pressing charges, i'm scared of him
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okay...why don't you get the court to give you the domestic counselors number...it's free...they also probably have that information in the emergency room of the hospital...reallly you should talk to them, they know their stuff
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hi, thanks. I only fucked him the once or twice. He used my computer and left himself logged on here. Then I went mental.
it's not my place to suggest much. Anger management and leaving off the nasty drugs might be a good idea though. Would the police hear me if I said that?
xxx
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also, what about his wife and kid. I gotta go
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unfaithful
inhertiance
read them threads. I've got to speak again tomorrow to the cops xL
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please do yourself a favor and talk to the court's domestic counselor...they usually work with a seperate organization, so they are impartial
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tell his wife that
xL
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Ting, can we corroagrebbbbbberrrrrrva teate the story so as your wife and 11-year old daughter need never know?
xxx
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or else i'll press charges and c u in court
with lots of love
Linda
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or else i'll press charges and c u in court
with lots of love
Linda
RSO
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what's rso?
is that like RIP? (rest in peace
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restraining order
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I'll pm you or you pm me if you seriously want my two cents
two bucks, yes please
xL
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I went through this before myself and with a friend that I helped too
things rarely get better
things tend to get worse
get a support group and network
thats all
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WOW!!! This was one hard thread to follow although i tried...no more pub stops for awhile, ok xxxLinda?
Lisa
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Ya it was, and I'm still confused. ???
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Ya it was, and I'm still confused. ???
If I was only allowed to speak on this topic I could clear it up in just a couple posts..:)
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If I was only allowed to speak on this topic I could clear it up in just a couple posts..:)
and you can't why??
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and you can't why??
I promised Ms Stella I would be good and not engage in activities that could upset the delicate balance of the feminine echosystem here..:) Surfice to say I am in the camp that thinks sometimes what is seen is not what actually is true.
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I've already said I'm not pressing charges, i'm scared of him
If thats the case I would honestly go to the police or get a lawyer involved and get a restraining order against him. These kinds of situations never get better. Only worse. Try to move on. There are lots of people out there that would be happy to be with you, LindaXXX.
PB
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I promised Ms Stella I would be good and not engage in activities that could upset the delicate balance of the feminine echosystem here..:) Surfice to say I am in the camp that thinks sometimes what is seen is not what actually is true.
You know damn well. But.....
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restraining order
that might be my best bet
ta
xL
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be happy
Thanks, playbody.
I realise I'm banging on about this way too much, but it's still happening.
And, at risk of repeating myself, I repeat:
I brought this bloke home from the pub: Last Friday in July. That was nice. Then he came back to my house on the following Monday. I made him a cup of tea and he said are you online? He went on my computer and left himself logged onto getbig. I found his thread and went mental.
I promise I've had a life since, but I'm still debating. I feel sorry for him. He
oh fuck it.
the cops are still phoning me. The landlady at the pub he trashed after he kicked in my door has forgiven him too. I feel sorry for his wife and kid (if they're not fictional
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things rarely get better
things tend to get worse
i disagree. things can only get better
xL
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can you tell us this bloke's getbig name?
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WOW!!! This was one hard thread to follow although i tried...no more pub stops for awhile, ok xxxLinda?
Lisa
no, i can still go to the pub. he's barred.
He logged back on on the Wednesday (2nd August) and read all of the crap I'd written. Then Always Sore and YoMammaBeenLurking and Deedee and flower egged me on. We sent him spare. Then he kicked in my door and took out 3 or 4 local pubs.
xLinda
don't know whether anyone got hurt
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can you tell us this bloke's getbig name?
it's a little name: tingnting
sorry, cheri, it's a very long story
xL
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Thanks, playbody.
I realise I'm banging on about this way too much, but it's still happening.
And, at risk of repeating myself, I repeat:
I brought this bloke home from the pub: Last Friday in July. That was nice. Then he came back to my house on the following Monday. I made him a cup of tea and he said are you online? He went on my computer and left himself logged onto getbig. I found his thread and went mental.
I promise I've had a life since, but I'm still debating. I feel sorry for him. He
oh f**k it.
the cops are still phoning me. The landlady at the pub he trashed after he kicked in my door has forgiven him too. I feel sorry for his wife and kid (if they're not fictional
Its Playboy, but i'll forgive you LindaXXX. ;)
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paul j brady. if you look on the inheritance thread, you can read his ebay account, his gambling habits and his payforsex account.
also, my details have been internetted there.
xL
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Its Playboy, but i'll forgive you LindaXXX. ;)
i like spelling things funny. Thanks for forgiving me playbuddy
xxxLinda
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it's a little name: tingnting
sorry, cheri, it's a very long story
xL
He's mean >:( But he's also in Time-Out ;D
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oh really? he's barred from getbig too?
that will really piss him off
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this is not a good idea, as he can still read it as a guest. He's more obsessed with getbig than i am.
I'm still scared of him (he lives down the road) and i'm still standing in the comfort of my living room on my computer. Sad eh?
At one point it made me feel powerful. Every day I feel something different. I need to get past this
xxx
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If I was only allowed to speak on this topic I could clear it up in just a couple posts..:)
pleeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssssss e, Always?
I'm asking really nicely xL
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this is not a good idea, as he can still read it as a guest. He's more obsessed with getbig than i am.
I'm still scared of him (he lives down the road) and i'm still standing in the comfort of my living room on my computer. Sad eh?
At one point it made me feel powerful. Every day I feel something different. I need to get past this
xxx
I guess just ignore, don't provoke and always stay cautious would be the best advice. He'll eventually realize there's more to his life and move on.
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i provoked him big time, here.
I cannot ignore it as the cops expect me to give evidence
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always stay cautious would be the best advice.
thanks
xL
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i used to live in bliss, now it's all gone crap shaped
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i like spelling things funny. Thanks for forgiving me playbuddy
xxxLinda
Ok Linda triple X
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someone really needs to add "her" name to the approved list... ;)
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If you were me, you'd give up. Goodnight. Gotta go do something productive.
But I'm so tired xxxL
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Speaking from experience...
Sorry if this comes across harsh, and it might sound like I am simplifying your problem, but the answer will still break down to one or two things.
If your going to play with a married man you had better be ready to get burned.
When push comes to shove he is going to go back to his wife and kids, and you are going to be an outsider.
If his wife finds out and he has been keeping it a secret your probably going to get blamed for the entire thing by his wife and him as well.
My advice is walk away, get a restraining order if it really makes you feel safer, but it will make him angry.
You have got to break all ties now, even chatting about it on here leaves a small door open if he is going to read it. Married men might be fun to play with from time to time but you can't keep them.
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I don't think she wants to "keep him" at least I hope not! :o
I think the problem is she's feeling guilty because she egged him on, and now wants to drop charges and is not sure what to do.
My take on the situation, ...yes, you egged him on, ...however, there comes a time in everyperson's life where they have to take responsibility for their actions. So you pissed him off bfd. It's not like you made him kick your door in, or trash neighbourhood pubs. He did that of his own free will.
He's an idiot for cheating in the first place, 2nd for leaving himself logged on to your computer, and 3rd for behaving in a socially unacceptable & unlawful way.
You've made him an offer to grow up, bury the hatchet, pay for the damages and let bygones be bygones.
If he chooses not to accept it... press charges. Follow thru. Don't allow yourself to be intimidated.
You wanna drop charges so his wife won't find out? ??? wtf! There are consequences for innapropriate behaviour and if you refuse to stand up for yourself, then you deserve to be victimized.
Just my 2 cents
ps - Sounds like a possible domestic abuser in the making (if he's not one already).
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I don't think she wants to "keep him" at least I hope not! :o
I think the problem is she's feeling guilty because she egged him on, and now wants to drop charges and is not sure what to do.
My take on the situation, ...yes, you egged him on, ...however, there comes a time in everyperson's life where they have to take responsibility for their actions. So you pissed him off bfd. It's not like you made him kick your door in, or trash neighbourhood pubs. He did that of his own free will.
He's an idiot for cheating in the first place, 2nd for leaving himself logged on to your computer, and 3rd for behaving in a socially unacceptable & unlawful way.
You've made him an offer to grow up, bury the hatchet, pay for the damages and let bygones be bygones.
If he chooses not to accept it... press charges. Follow thru. Don't allow yourself to be intimidated.
You wanna drop charges so his wife won't find out? ??? wtf! There are consequences for innapropriate behaviour and if you refuse to stand up for yourself, then you deserve to be victimized.
Just my 2 cents
ps - Sounds like a possible domestic abuser in the making (if he's not one already).
I strongly agree with that point
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I don't think she wants to "keep him" at least I hope not! :o
I think the problem is she's feeling guilty because she egged him on, and now wants to drop charges and is not sure what to do.
My take on the situation, ...yes, you egged him on, ...however, there comes a time in everyperson's life where they have to take responsibility for their actions. So you pissed him off bfd. It's not like you made him kick your door in, or trash neighbourhood pubs. He did that of his own free will.
He's an idiot for cheating in the first place, 2nd for leaving himself logged on to your computer, and 3rd for behaving in a socially unacceptable & unlawful way.
You've made him an offer to grow up, bury the hatchet, pay for the damages and let bygones be bygones.
If he chooses not to accept it... press charges. Follow thru. Don't allow yourself to be intimidated.
You wanna drop charges so his wife won't find out? ??? wtf! There are consequences for innapropriate behaviour and if you refuse to stand up for yourself, then you deserve to be victimized.
Just my 2 cents
ps - Sounds like a possible domestic abuser in the making (if he's not one already).
made him...LMAO
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someone really needs to add "her" name to the approved list... ;)
sorry, what does that mean?
xxx
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made him...LMAO
sorry, twice...
what does LMAO mean?
xxx
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Speaking from experience...
Sorry if this comes across harsh, and it might sound like I am simplifying your problem, but the answer will still break down to one or two things.
If your going to play with a married man you had better be ready to get burned.
When push comes to shove he is going to go back to his wife and kids, and you are going to be an outsider.
If his wife finds out and he has been keeping it a secret your probably going to get blamed for the entire thing by his wife and him as well.
My advice is walk away, get a restraining order if it really makes you feel safer, but it will make him angry.
You have got to break all ties now, even chatting about it on here leaves a small door open if he is going to read it. Married men might be fun to play with from time to time but you can't keep them.
thanks, original.
Unfortunately I didn't know he was married and he certainly didn't look or act it.
I didn't find out till he left himself logged on at my house ("unfaithfull" thread.
I got myself involved and...
Anyways, if he's really been married 11 years I would imagine Mrs Brady has a fair idea about his life.
I am so sorry for going on and and on about this. I just don't know what to do. Jag says I ought press charges. That's scary. I've already said I won't. I've offered to go to all the landlords of all the local pubs and explain and apologise.
I've said I'd like to leave it all looking better than it was. That's my preferred way of living.
Instead I set my flat on fire the night after he took out my door and it's going to be extremely difficult to get things looking better.
I must not provoke anyone, ever again. It's not my style and I'm crap at it anyway. Just gets you in trouble and you'll never win (not that I ever intended to).
& instead I've begun getting drunk most nights and pissing people off. Same difference, really...
xL
Speaking from experience...
Sorry if this comes across harsh
And this is all new experience for me. But I really really need harsh reality.
with thanks, Linda
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bury the hatchet
but always leave the handle sticking out
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I don't think she wants to "keep him" at least I hope not! :o
I think the problem is she's feeling guilty because she egged him on, and now wants to drop charges and is not sure what to do.
My take on the situation, ...yes, you egged him on, ...however, there comes a time in everyperson's life where they have to take responsibility for their actions. So you pissed him off bfd. It's not like you made him kick your door in, or trash neighbourhood pubs. He did that of his own free will.
He's an idiot for cheating in the first place, 2nd for leaving himself logged on to your computer, and 3rd for behaving in a socially unacceptable & unlawful way.
You've made him an offer to grow up, bury the hatchet, pay for the damages and let bygones be bygones.
If he chooses not to accept it... press charges. Follow thru. Don't allow yourself to be intimidated.
You wanna drop charges so his wife won't find out? ??? wtf! There are consequences for innapropriate behaviour and if you refuse to stand up for yourself, then you deserve to be victimized.
Just my 2 cents
ps - Sounds like a possible domestic abuser in the making (if he's not one already).
If he chooses not to accept it... press charges. Follow thru. Don't allow yourself to be intimidated.
Thanks so much judi, that's the best advice I've had. I still haven't talked to anyone about it. All my friends have big problems too at the moment and I'm mostly listening to them... So that is good. Takes me out of myself. I'm beside myself.
xxxxxLinda
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if you were me you'd keep a diary and shut the fuck up
xxxL
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no, I'm Linda. I found tingnting logged onto my compter, remember?
I need to know what to do about the criminal damage report.
xL
kick in your door...hmmm
1) dont drop any charges
2) you prolly get you ip dynamically..so go to "start" " type in "cmd"
on the screen that pops up type in "ipconfig/release" then "ipconfig/renew"
there you have a new ip now and he prolly cant break into putter again..
chance your pasword on getbig..
hope this helps..
and linda do you really NEED us to tell you what to do about ANY human that breaks down your door....think like the gentry woman!
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o...and if he ws married the he is a douche to being with..what the heck r ya doing with him?
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kick in your door...hmmm
1) dont drop any charges
2) you prolly get you ip dynamically..so go to "start" " type in "cmd"
on the screen that pops up type in "ipconfig/release" then "ipconfig/renew"
there you have a new ip now and he prolly cant break into putter again..
chance your pasword on getbig..
hope this helps..
and linda do you really NEED us to tell you what to do about ANY human that breaks down your door....think like the gentry woman!
thanks Tox.
I meant to get back on this ages ago, just to re-iterate that he doesn't have my password or my ip or nothing. He cannot get into my account.
The only reason I'm here is that he left himself logged into getbig on my computer one night. And that was like 8 weeks ago so I'm almost over it.
I've found a lovely new younger, muscleryer man. Half Thai. Mostly hairless, which is wierd.
but anyways, the reason I am posting is that the police phoned me again just now. If you want me to explain the mess again I will, but in the short version...
Paul's court date has been put off or has not yet come up. He's therefore still terrorising women and doing 5 sluts a year (or hookers or something) >>>and pity the wife and child.
I've got (I think) all the pubs to drop charges. But the cops still expect me to press charges for Criminal Damage. I haven't said I won't. I said why don't you go pick him up for something else but they're too busy. I'm now being 'phoned by PC Webster. The arresting officer PC Found is off on paternity leave...
Tingnting (Pauli) is probably laughing. He did say he'd only get a fine (which he can afford).
Gotta go, I'm childminding tonight. Gotta earn some dosh.
xL