Trust me. She would absolutely love to meet you.
It's classic case of displacement brought on by chronic closeted self-loathing.
She hates herself for being fat. But rather than admit that in public as most overt self-loathers do, she displaces her anger on those who represent the penultimate of what she wishes she looked like. You represent an alpha, and she knows only slim alpha females have a shot with alpha males. She loathes herself, and displaces her anger onto alphas, be it male or female.
But secretly, she would love to be viewed as beautiful by an alpha. Of course, her self-loathing will never dissipate, and she is damaged goods. In a relationship with an alpha, she will do some, if not all, of the following:
1. smother the alpha for fear of losing them
2. reject the alpha before he can reject her, thus saving her the embrarrassment of being rejected by trying to climb out of her social class. This can also serve as a message to other alphas that perhaps she may even be an alpha...after all, she's rejecting alphas left and right. It's a long-term plan to secure an alpha. The old "hard to get" game.
3. seek continuous reinforcement that the alpha has chosen her, as she can't see what she's done to deserve the social climb. This is often viewed by the other partner as a lack of self-confidence
4. accuse the alpha of unfaithfulness
5. engage in risky or out-of-character sexual behavior with the alpha in an attempt to provide benefits others would not
6. try to discourage the alpha from behaviors/models of thinking that keep him alpha (i.e. try to fatten him up, discourage him, put him down), in an attempt to bring him down to her class where she's less likely to lose him
Her genetic predisposition is to want you, as you would provide superior genetics for her progeny. But her non-lizard brain also warns her that merely birthing your offspring won't provide for them. So she's going to wrestle with the dichotomy of what her lizard brain wants, and what she knows about modern society and how it behaves.
Ping her back. She will do anything for you. Just be careful. If she goes for it and you blow her off when you're done, she'll go psycho on you.