words like narcissist, these word are brought up when you want to criticize someone, you want to put someone in their place, but that people have a place in a hierarchy, and they try to attain or maintain a place, or they want to keep certain people in another place, this is what's important and is the biggest motivator behind people's actions
a narcissist is just a beautiful person, everyone who is treated like they are beautiful become narcissists, if they are conscious of social politics and how to get along, they will hide it well and they will be called charming or nice, but they are still narcissists they simply are more socially adept and are better at avoiding negative judgment