The idea of her was way more interesting than the person. Yes.. it was tight and exciting but I would have rather had sex with her and went home way sooner.
That's because people 'romanticise' other people all the time.
Romanticising refers to attaching a set of (positive) attributes to a person so they end up being an embodiment of the ideal person in your dreams. This is only done with people you don't know (well).
For example, if I see a girl who's stunningly beautiful, I'll automatically see her as: very feminine, clean, slightly shy, good sense of humor, great in the sack, faithful, warm and genuine etc etc. In other words, I will see all the good characteristics I want to see in a girl IF she looks the way I picture my ideal girl to be.
When your expectations turn out to be untrue (as they almost always do
), it leads to disappointment. When your expectations turn out to partly true, it leads to attraction. When they are mostly true, it becomes romance and when they're 100% true (and the feeling is mutual), it is love.
I think we all romanticise cause it gives us hope and helps us get over depression, low points, past break ups etc. It's like a fuel we all need. Hot chicks give us hope
Such a deal!