Lets put our big boy pants on for a minute. Real men dont hit women ever.
You are at a club, some chick throws a drink at you. You and her jar at the mouth for a bit. She picks up a bottle and breaks it and starts jabbing at your throat/face/body. Are you going to handle your business? Or are you going to allow her to put you in the hospital, where you are staring up at the lights, not knowing if you are to make it out alive?
I've seen it where 4'11 chicks have gone to town on dudes who "didn't want to hit a woman"...
Protect yourself. Regardless if she is a female or not, you let the courts handle the rest.