Believe me....I know the question is very general.
I just basically want to get a discussion started and learn about people's experiences with alcoholism.....whether they have suffered or had loved ones suffer.
I also know I can only control myself.
But someone I deeply love is suffering from it and I want to help so badly, and if I can't I want to learn and know so I can try to empathize. I know I truly can't empathize but a little bit of know goes a long way with me.
Funny that - cause I just sent the following Skype to a guy I cut in on my business 2 and a half years ago...
[03:23:15] Me: I'd like a meeting 8am tomorrow morning, Starbucks at Big C Ekkamai.
[03:23:51]
?: OK!
[03:25:09] Me: I would appreciate it if you could not drink before this meeting
[03:26:25] Me: To give you a heads up - I dont think this is going to work out any more. I think your drinking has gotten to the point where you cant function at the capacity needed to perform the role as a CTO
[03:26:38] Me: So the meeting will be to discuss an exit strategy for you
[03:27:16] Me: So I have my ideas of how that would work and I suggest you bring your own ideas to the table too
[03:27:33] Me: but if I get one whiff of booze at the meeting, I'm out of there and you can take or leave the offer I bring
The only reason is for an 8am meet is 'cause then there's a chance he wont drink ahead of time.
I am fucking sick of chasing around after his drunk ass. Doing his job when he's too 'fuzzy' to perform and dealing with him on the phone when he's pissed.
So how to help an alcoholic? Fuck 'em - they don't want help. For some reason they think they are getting away with it. Thinking no-one actually notices the fact they stink of booze or can't add 2+2 half the time.
This thing about them hitting rock bottom - I think that's what it takes to be honest. So fuck supporting them - just let them on their way down