...unless you are prepared to do so on every ensuing meeting/interaction/date you have with her in the future.
I have witnessed this many times with my staff, case in point:
Last year, one of my assistants' new boyfriend brought a dozen, beautiful, long-stemmed roses to her workplace as an early V-Day gift. He'd wanted impressed all of her co-workers, and make her feel great.
He accomplished both goals.
Then, several months later, she became somewhat flummoxed.
I outwardly heard her speak of "Dave" in less than glowing terms.
Something like:
"You know, "Dave" used toi bring me flowers and cvandies on almost every date we had had early on.
But, not anymore. He kinda just comes over, plops on the coutch, and asks, "what's too eat?"
My employee goes on to say: "I don't know what has gone wrong, we have so mych fun...etc.
And she goes on and on for days with same old refrain.
Here's MY hypothesis;
Dave was acting in a fradulent fashion.
Even if he din't think that he was...he was presenting himself as a fine, young, professional in the community who dutifully and expectedly brought the obligatory offer of flowers, because that is waht most gals expect.
I'd wager most of these same gals end up lamenting, in time, that their "squires" were no longer bringing them flowers or what not, either.
Ladies: It's because these young (and not so young) squires just wanted to look good, make a good impression, and get thir feet in thye proverbial door.
Now, in the idealistic, romantic, devoid-of-right thinking world, technically, if these guys were not purveying themselves as a man who comes to a door with flowers, as in..."{Hello, Honey, I have this perfect bouquet for you, darling , and this is who he is representing himself, technically, then, if he IS who he says he IS...well, then, he must bring flowers foir every single date, courtship, and day during a marriage, whet6her its one that's anulled in three days or powers on until Methuselah arises from hi grave.
Don't bring the flowers, boys, unless you REALLY mean it...and then are able to do it forever!
This is just my take on the largely BS worlds of courting and relations.
Comments?
Dr. D
