There is a great deal of emotional and physical abuse in this society, which seems to be self-perpetuating, generation after generation. A person is abused in some way as a child. The abused person then has a child. The abused person needs retribution and release, so the abused person becomes the abuser in order for this to happen.
What the abused person wanted to do to his/her parent, he/she instead now does to the child. The abused person is now in control. While this sounds extremely harsh, it is important to remember that the abused person often acts on survival instincts.
The abused/now abuser is not able to get past his/her own pain. To the abused/now abuser, the child in front of him/her becomes the abused/now abuser as a child. The child is a surrogate stand-in for the abused/now abuser, without any other identity to whom the abused/now abuser can relate.
This is the only way that the abused/now abuser knows in his/her attempt to work his/her way out of his/her own Original Imprinting. He/she has a need to control his/her own childhood situation, and this is the best replication of that experience. This does not justify the action, only explains it. Thus, the cycle perpetuates itself.
When the abused/now abuser does not have a child with whom to work out the Original Imprinting, the abused/now abuser often picks someone of authority or someone perceived as weak or helpless; someone who the abused/now abuser can harm without perceived retribution.
