Author Topic: Lady's opinion of an ex boyfriend... (Read 7251 times)

coltrane · « **Reply #50 on:** April 10, 2009, 09:58:55 AM »

Well she is moving here in a matter of days.. took a new job here.. she gave up everything to move her to be with me.. i think that speaks volumes..

i'll keep you guys posted.. i honestly think she just doesn't wanna scare me off with news that she correxpondes with him more than she tells me...

drkaje · « **Reply #51 on:** April 10, 2009, 10:11:36 AM »

Quote from: coltrane on April 10, 2009, 09:58:55 AM

Well she is moving here in a matter of days.. took a new job here.. she gave up everything to move her to be with me.. i think that speaks volumes..

i'll keep you guys posted.. i honestly think she just doesn't wanna scare me off with news that she correxpondes with him more than she tells me...

There are things people only learn the hard way.

coltrane · « **Reply #52 on:** April 10, 2009, 10:31:31 AM »

Quote from: drkaje on April 10, 2009, 10:11:36 AM

There are things people only learn the hard way.

Boy o boy... you must've really really been screwed over before to be such a woman hater!

drkaje · « **Reply #53 on:** April 10, 2009, 10:36:18 AM »

Quote from: coltrane on April 10, 2009, 10:31:31 AM

Boy o boy... you must've really really been screwed over before to be such a woman hater!

No need to get defensive, LOL!

Being that close to the situation makes seeing what is obvious impossible.

Enjoy the ride!!

tonymctones · « **Reply #54 on:** April 10, 2009, 11:17:20 AM »

Quote from: coltrane on April 10, 2009, 09:58:55 AM

Well she is moving here in a matter of days.. took a new job here.. she gave up everything to move her to be with me.. i think that speaks volumes..

i'll keep you guys posted.. i honestly think she just doesn't wanna scare me off with news that she correxpondes with him more than she tells me...

I agree that does speak volumes, The FACT that you cant or wont stop checking her emails also speaks volumes...I agree with kaje i dont think this will end well. You wont let it go, she probably wont stop emailing with him, it will come out sooner or later better now then in a week or two...so either let it go completely or address the situation now.

coltrane · « **Reply #55 on:** April 10, 2009, 11:17:35 AM »

Quote from: drkaje on April 10, 2009, 10:36:18 AM

No need to get defensive, LOL!

Being that close to the situation makes seeing what is obvious impossible.

Enjoy the ride!!

not defensive at all, but i think you're being very near-sighted due to past relations of your own.

Thanks for your advice though.

coltrane · « **Reply #56 on:** April 10, 2009, 11:19:18 AM »

Quote from: tonymctones on April 10, 2009, 11:17:20 AM

I agree that does speak volumes, The FACT that you cant or wont stop checking her emails also speaks volumes...I agree with kaje i dont think this will end well. You wont let it go, she probably wont stop emailing with him, it will come out sooner or later better now then in a week or two...so either let it go completely or address the situation now.

It's not so much that she does communicate with him (basically about nothing)... it's more that she doesn't feel comfortable telling me.. i've always told her i am understanding about ex's ect.. and she has told me about some of his emails... just not all..

i'm totally overracting here...

tonymctones · « **Reply #57 on:** April 10, 2009, 11:27:08 AM »

Quote from: coltrane on April 10, 2009, 11:19:18 AM

It's not so much that she does communicate with him (basically about nothing)... it's more that she doesn't feel comfortable telling me.. i've always told her i am understanding about ex's ect.. and she has told me about some of his emails... just not all..

i'm totally overracting here...

All that is besides the point im trying to make

You will not stop reading her emails, she will more then likely continue emailing with him and lying to you about it(for whatever reason) this will eat away at you until you either bring it up or you get caught either way its bad...so like i said either stop reading them(probably not gonna happen) or communicate with her about it if you dont like i said it will just eat away at you and like kaje said earlier the relationship as a whole.

coltrane · « **Reply #58 on:** April 10, 2009, 11:34:26 AM »

well she is moving and will have a different email account anyway.. so i have to stop..

Thanks for the advice though

24KT · « **Reply #59 on:** April 10, 2009, 12:05:06 PM »

Quote from: coltrane on April 10, 2009, 09:58:55 AM

Well she is moving here in a matter of days.. took a new job here.. she gave up everything to move her to be with me.. i think that speaks volumes..

So does the fact that you are reading her email.

drkaje · « **Reply #60 on:** April 10, 2009, 12:06:08 PM »

Let me correct your sentence before Migs, Judy or Tony does it.

Quote from: coltrane on April 10, 2009, 11:34:26 AM

well she is moving and will have a different email account anyway.. so i have to stop.. but i won't stop wondering.

Migs · « **Reply #61 on:** April 10, 2009, 01:29:49 PM »

Quote from: drkaje on April 10, 2009, 12:06:08 PM

Let me correct your sentence before Migs, Judy or Tony does it.

damn you took the fun away from it, lol

drkaje · « **Reply #62 on:** April 10, 2009, 02:17:50 PM »

Quote from: Migs on April 10, 2009, 01:29:49 PM

damn you took the fun away from it, lol

I bet she's smart enough to use the same password next time.

tonymctones · « **Reply #63 on:** April 10, 2009, 04:21:35 PM »

Quote from: drkaje on April 10, 2009, 02:17:50 PM

I bet she's smart enough to use the same password next time.

hahaha no doubt he will try

Parker · « **Reply #64 on:** April 11, 2009, 01:39:27 PM »

Quote from: Deedee on April 09, 2009, 04:08:12 PM

That's the advice he's looking for, so what you said is fine. You're right, she knows he's looking at emails. Duh. Doesn't mean she's doing anything wrong. Maybe she just not sure and wants an out and his reading of the emails gives her the chance eventually to say he's suffocating her. Maybe she really wants to trust him and is testing him. Who knows. Doesn't mean though that she's screwing around or doing anything wrong. Maybe, she just doesn't want to get really involved with someone who invades privacy without permission. Guys who beat women usually do that. On the other hand, maybe they're both 18, where these kinds of things matter and you have to ask others what to do.

And guys who are insecure about their position with the woman in their lives.
Stop reading the emails Coltrane. And stop asking about them and the dude, or you will drive a wedge btween the two of you, and possibly even driving her towards the dude. Then next you'll be saying is "see I knew you were seeing him"

If the table full of food, why complain. Enjoy it, until it runs out.

Parker · « **Reply #65 on:** April 11, 2009, 01:41:37 PM »

Quote from: drkaje on April 09, 2009, 01:47:48 PM

If she's done with him why would there be e-mails to friends?

You are getting played. She knows the e-mails are being read. This is all a game so you'll look like more of a jerk than she does when this finally blows up in your face. Instead of being the guy who booted a lying chick you'll end up whining about how it's all your fault for checking the e-mails.

Chicks are smarter about stuff like this than men. I doubt there's a female here who believes she isn't on to your snooping. Reads to me like you're hooked up with a princess who is never 'wrong'. Maybe she just feels entitled to more attention than one guy can give so still talking with the ex seems relatively right

Da-yum

Geo · « **Reply #66 on:** April 11, 2009, 07:50:49 PM »

Quote from: drkaje on April 09, 2009, 07:31:18 AM

Save yourself some hassle and boot this chick.

that'll never work...

if he's so whipped he has to check her E-mail, then he's probably too whipped to fire her...

drkaje · « **Reply #67 on:** April 11, 2009, 08:27:12 PM »

Quote from: Geo on April 11, 2009, 07:50:49 PM

that'll never work...

if he's so whipped he has to check her E-mail, then he's probably too whipped to fire her...

Never thought I'd ever have to do this but....... Geo, you're right.

Deedee · « **Reply #68 on:** April 11, 2009, 08:36:44 PM »

Quote from: Parker on April 11, 2009, 01:39:27 PM

And guys who are insecure about their position with the woman in their lives.
Stop reading the emails Coltrane. And stop asking about them and the dude, or you will drive a wedge btween the two of you, and possibly even driving her towards the dude. Then next you'll be saying is "see I knew you were seeing him"

If the table full of food, why complain. Enjoy it, until it runs out.

You're bright.

Migs · « **Reply #69 on:** April 11, 2009, 08:51:08 PM »

deedles!

i just like saying that

Deedee · « **Reply #70 on:** April 11, 2009, 09:07:12 PM »

Quote from: Migs on April 11, 2009, 08:51:08 PM

deedles!

i just like saying that

I like saying miggly.

Migs · « **Reply #71 on:** April 11, 2009, 09:08:04 PM »

Happy Easter! i ate your chocolate bunny

Deedee · « **Reply #72 on:** April 11, 2009, 09:12:54 PM »

Quote from: Migs on April 11, 2009, 09:08:04 PM

Happy Easter! i ate your chocolate bunny

It's tomorrow, really! Happy Easter to you and your family.

Fine if you ate the bunny. I ate all the shellfish. Hehehe

Migs · « **Reply #73 on:** April 11, 2009, 09:18:17 PM »

meanie!

i'm making steak with a sauteed mushroom sauce, potato salad, corn, and some other yummy stuff. I have some Spanish garlic shrimp too. Any fun plans?

Parker · « **Reply #74 on:** April 12, 2009, 05:08:14 PM »

Quote from: Migs on April 11, 2009, 09:18:17 PM

meanie!

i'm making steak with a sauteed mushroom sauce, potato salad, corn, and some other yummy stuff. I have some Spanish garlic shrimp too. Any fun plans?

You make me think of food, then I look at your avatar. Then I think of food. Do you think men have breast fetishes because of being breastfed, or is that just a urban myth.