have you heard the element of surprise....he will say he would'nt want a thing
if you truly knew him you would already know without needing to ask us or him what he would like at the moment.
Also the whole idea of buying some material goods cause "everyone does it" / "you have to do it" is a clear sign you re both morons. You re 40 yo..have a "boyfriend"...and feel like you have to buy him a "gift" for "valentine day"... for fuck sake... serious immaturity here.
Gifts dont mean shit especially in our modern societies, you dont buy feelings or make em magically strong and genuine through material goods.
You both sound like extremly shallow individuals.