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When you are looking at men do you look for certain aesthetic features that are independant of race or do you prefer certain races over others who just happen to possess more of those qualities.
ex: Do you find yourself more attracted to Hispanic/Italian guys because of the darker features, due to the features themselves, or do you just like Hispanic/Italian guys.
Do you like caucasian men because they possess blue eyes, the color itself, or do you like caucausian men and they just happen to have blue eyes?
I'm hoping to get some good perspective on this........
Thanks in advance.
DIV
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why? what kinda guys are you looking for? Just kidding.
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why? what kinda guys are you looking for? Just kidding.
I'm trying to get insight from women on this.......
It would help me understand some things.
DIV
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I'm trying to get insight from women on this.......
It would help me understand some things.
DIV
i'm just playing with you. Hopefully you wont get the, its more about his personality, blah blah. Things you'll hear will be, nice chest, arms. eyes smile.
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When you are looking at men do you look for certain aesthetic features that are independant of race or do you prefer certain races over others who just happen to possess more of those qualities.
ex: Do you find yourself more attracted to Hispanic/Italian guys because of the darker features, due to the features themselves, or do you just like Hispanic/Italian guys.
Do you like caucasian men because they possess blue eyes, the color itself, or do you like caucausian men and they just happen to have blue eyes?
I'm hoping to get some good perspective on this........
Thanks in advance.
DIV
Ok DIV, I'll bite.
Not particularly looking, ...however I find myself physically attracted to aesthetic features independent of race.
That being said, ...it really is more of an energy thing for me. I find myself attracted more towards a man's energy than anything else. Then there's the personality, intelligence, attitude etc.,
As for the eyes thing, ...it's more the man behind the eyes than it is any specific eye color.
Race is unimportant as far as I'm concerned. I have never met a man in any race that I couldn't say was unattractive. I think it has more to do with culture than race ...at least for me.
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hmmmm....
I'll be honest when I say that have always been attracted to darker features, ie....dark hair, eyes, and tan skin. I am cuban, which I think attributes to my preference. But like Jag said, race has never really been a factor. I can only speak for myself, but the way a man carries himself, his attitude, mannerisms, and personality are larger factors than just looks. I've dated gorgeous men that had the personality of a rock, and normal looking ones that were fun to be with.
IMO, it all boils down to using all of your relationships (good and bad) to your benefit. Take something from all of them, and use it towards finding that "perfect person".
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When you are looking at men do you look for certain aesthetic features that are independant of race or do you prefer certain races over others who just happen to possess more of those qualities.
ex: Do you find yourself more attracted to Hispanic/Italian guys because of the darker features, due to the features themselves, or do you just like Hispanic/Italian guys.
Do you like caucasian men because they possess blue eyes, the color itself, or do you like caucausian men and they just happen to have blue eyes?
I'm hoping to get some good perspective on this........
Thanks in advance.
DIV
My ex-wife noticed how thick my wallet was when we met, i'm totally convinced of it now.
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I've always been attracted to darker skin and squinty eyes (I don't know why) and fairly muscular. So to answer your question-the features determine it not the race but certain races tend to have those qualities. Anyway the current guys I am dating are blonde, and definitely not that muscular...even if I am attracted to certain types doesn't mean I only date that type.
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Initially, I'm attracted to dark hair and eyes. But I've dated red heads, blondes and a baldy as well.
I also prefer muscular to overweight. I am not attracted to skinny men.
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There are women, who like you, have very focused tastes. Then there are those who don't have such rigorous requirements. Although I have mostly been attracted to darker guys because I am blonde, don't have any big prerequisites. Do however definitely fall of my chair for the kind of man who is physically bigger rather than skinny (or the amazing pearman) and has the kind of seething eyes that will instantly transmit his aberrant mental process to me. But that makes me like 90% of the other women. See STella's post above.
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I've always been attracted to darker skin and squinty eyes (I don't know why)
i'm down right cross eyed babe...
you'd love me!
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For all you gals that say you are attracted to darker men, ...don't rule out the blonds.
Years ago, the town I grew up in was predominantly Italian. It was the equivalent of living in Woodbridge (Play will understand the reference) I used to find myself attracted to darker men, then I found myself intensely attracted to a gorgeous blond haired green-eyed italian guy named GianCarlo. {swoon}. Later when I moved to Cali, I noticed there are some good looking blondes out there. I guess being up here in Canada, most blondes always seemed so pale & lifeless. I admit tho, I can be especially smitten with the dark Irish look. Brunettes with bright blue eyes make me {swoon} Hi Tascha! I still wanna sit on Bob's lap. :P
Not very partial to skinny. He doesn't have to be built like a Mack Truck or Ron Coleman, ...in fact, I'd probably run in the other direction if I saw something as big as Ron Coleman approaching, ...just not skinny. If he was built like Anthony Catanzaro I'd be a very happy camper {drool} :P Too much muscle is a turn off, ...for me anyway.
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I've always been attracted to darker skin and squinty eyes (I don't know why)
What do you think of Richard Gere?
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Most caucasians actually have brown eyes. And only a minority has blond/red hair. Most is brown/black.
That being said, i think you're too preoccupied with race DIV. In almost all your post you're making generalisations and bringing in people's skin color. A guy that takes care of himself (body and hygiene), looks decent and has confidence will be popular, whatever race he has.
It's a bit in our culture to associate blond hair with female traits and black hair with manliness, thats why a lot of girls say they want the dark, mysterious type. But in reality it doesnt matter much, look at pro bb, the most pop with the girls is gunther.
I don't care where a girl comes from. I've dated a morrocan girl, a black girl, a jewish girl, and a bunch of white girls with every kind of hair/eye color. If she looks good and has the charm, i'll go for it.
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Most caucasians actually have brown eyes. And only a minority has blond/red hair. Most is brown/black.
That being said, i think you're too preoccupied with race DIV. In almost all your post you're making generalisations and bringing in people's skin color. A guy that takes care of himself (body and hygiene), looks decent and has confidence will be popular, whatever race he has.
It's a bit in our culture to associate blond hair with female traits and black hair with manliness, thats why a lot of girls say they want the dark, mysterious type. But in reality it doesnt matter much, look at pro bb, the most pop with the girls is gunther.
I don't care where a girl comes from. I've dated a morrocan girl, a black girl, a jewish girl, and a bunch of white girls with every kind of hair/eye color. If she looks good and has the charm, i'll go for it.
I'm not preoccupied with it any more than it is a reality in life, Faustian.
That is, in certain areas it's a non-issue, but in others it is the main issue. I don't think I concentrate on it more than other people, just that I'm more honest about it.
I'm just so specific when it comes to women, both intellectually and aesthetically.......that I've never really been attracted to someone who was the opposite of what I usually go for.
I think a Jewish girl would be interesting, a real clash of style and flavor.
DIV
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My fav...Dark Hair, light eyes. I have dated only one blonde guy and I truly wasn't diggin the hair.
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i'm down right cross eyed babe...
you'd love me!
I've seen pics of you, you aren't crossed eyes and actually pretty close to my type other then being thinner then me
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I've seen pics of you, you aren't crossed eyes and actually pretty close to my type other then being thinner then me
Ha ha. ;D
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I think a Jewish girl would be interesting, a real clash of style and flavor.
Lmao...and a whole lot of attitude, Division. ;D Oh yeah...and a nose to go right along with that.
For me, it's an entire look and set of mannerisms, expressions, movement, attitude. There are some guys who are nice to look at but I wouldn't want to actually go out with them (these are usually the pretty boys; I feel uncomfortable around them, like I have to be on my best behavior and not dribble water down my chin or trip in my heels...the typical, day-to-day stupid things I do). I personally like green eyes, but that's just because I think they are so pretty. But any color eyes will do if the eyes are very expressive and have a certain look and appeal to them.
I like strong features and almost a rough appearance. I like if something is just slightly out of place. Some sort of imperfection that actually adds to the whole look and appearance of the guy. It makes him seem more human.
I personally like a taller guy (most of the guys I've gone out with have been 5'11" to 6'3"), but I think that has to do with my attempt to even out the gene pool for future little Jodi's that might inhabit this place one day (the thought scares me too). I like more of the Men's Fitness type of muscular than the bodybuilding type...small waist, flaring shoulders, cute shelf booty, thick quads.
At the end of the day, though, if he opens his mouth and what comes out is stupid, then the door is slammed shut on him. And if he doesn't have a sense of humor (especially a dry one), then he won't go far with me. So it should go without saying that while the looks will attract me in the first place, the personality and intellect will become the "make or break" factors.
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I've seen pics of you, you aren't crossed eyes and actually pretty close to my type
i'm genuinely flattered hon :)
other then being thinner then me
only for a few more months cutie...only for a few more months...ciggys..beer and no training make for a skinny tox...you dont squat more than 300 do ya :-[
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For all you gals that say you are attracted to darker men, ...don't rule out the blonds.
Years ago, the town I grew up in was predominantly Italian. It was the equivalent of living in Woodbridge (Play will understand the reference) I used to find myself attracted to darker men, then I found myself intensely attracted to a gorgeous blond haired green-eyed italian guy named GianCarlo. {swoon}. Later when I moved to Cali, I noticed there are some good looking blondes out there. I guess being up here in Canada, most blondes always seemed so pale & lifeless. I admit tho, I can be especially smitten with the dark Irish look. Brunettes with bright blue eyes make me {swoon} Hi Tascha! I still wanna sit on Bob's lap. :P
Not very partial to skinny. He doesn't have to be built like a Mack Truck or Ron Coleman, ...in fact, I'd probably run in the other direction if I saw something as big as Ron Coleman approaching, ...just not skinny. If he was built like Anthony Catanzaro I'd be a very happy camper {drool} :P Too much muscle is a turn off, ...for me anyway.
you'd fall soo hard for my friend jesse..i'll see if i can convince the sissy to post a pic..he's so shy...dunno why though..dood looks like a cross between kobain and pitt..... >:( ..yeah..i'm jeleous >:(
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Lmao...and a whole lot of attitude, Division. ;D Oh yeah...and a nose to go right along with that.
For me, it's an entire look and set of mannerisms, expressions, movement, attitude. There are some guys who are nice to look at but I wouldn't want to actually go out with them (these are usually the pretty boys; I feel uncomfortable around them, like I have to be on my best behavior and not dribble water down my chin or trip in my heels...the typical, day-to-day stupid things I do). I personally like green eyes, but that's just because I think they are so pretty. But any color eyes will do if the eyes are very expressive and have a certain look and appeal to them.
I like strong features and almost a rough appearance. I like if something is just slightly out of place. Some sort of imperfection that actually adds to the whole look and appearance of the guy. It makes him seem more human.
I personally like a taller guy (most of the guys I've gone out with have been 5'11" to 6'3"), but I think that has to do with my attempt to even out the gene pool for future little Jodi's that might inhabit this place one day (the thought scares me too). I like more of the Men's Fitness type of muscular than the bodybuilding type...small waist, flaring shoulders, cute shelf booty, thick quads.
At the end of the day, though, if he opens his mouth and what comes out is stupid, then the door is slammed shut on him. And if he doesn't have a sense of humor (especially a dry one), then he won't go far with me. So it should go without saying that while the looks will attract me in the first place, the personality and intellect will become the "make or break" factors.
Jodi,
When I think Jewish girl, you don't come to mind, features-wise.
I'm thinking thick dark curly hair, more pale, dark eyes..........with the nose you do have.
I kind of expect the attitude, but it's not such a big deal if the woman has the intelligence to back it up.
The prettyboys could not handle you, neither intellectually nor sexually.
I know this for a fact.
It would take a rougher man to dominate you......and to deal with you in general.
DIV
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i'm down right cross eyed babe...
you'd love me!
LOL!!! Since we're advertising for the hell of it:
I'm Italian, darker skinned, dirty blond haired, blue/green eyed. I may be 5'6" tall but you know what they say....its not the size of the wand, its the magic you can possess with it ;)
PB
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LOL!!! Since we're advertising for the hell of it:
I'm Italian, darker skinned, dirty blond haired, blue/green eyed. I may be 5'6" tall but you know what they say....its not the size of the wand, its the magic you can possess with it ;)
PB
100% Italian PB? dark skin, blonde hair, light eyes ... Northern Italy decent?
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So I'm taking it that Barbara Streisand doesn't do anything for you, huh, Division? ;D Lol! J/K!
I do need a very strong, very confident, very unique sort of guy. I can easily walk all over someone, and if that happens or if I get wind of that fact, I lose respect for the guy very quickly. There is a fine line between making sure I have my independence and control over my life and me running ramshod all over someone else and controlling him. I absolutely detest weak guys. That doesn't mean I want an asshole, though.
One thing I don't like is a hairy guy.
I do like strong eyebrows for some reason. Not unibrows, mind you...lol! And full lips are nice. The pencil thin lips really turn me off.
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As realistic as I can figure I score a 60 to 70% on the Jodi-Male-Approval scale.
:D
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LOL!!! Since we're advertising for the hell of it:
I'm Italian, darker skinned, dirty blond haired, blue/green eyed. I may be 5'6" tall but you know what they say....its not the size of the wand, its the magic you can possess with it ;)
PB
Hmmm... I've never quite heard it put like that before... I think I like it.
pssst - are you trying to tell us something. That might be a little TMI ;)
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As realistic as I can figure I score a 60 to 70% on the Jodi-Male-Approval scale.
:D
You must have been docked points for being hairy, huh? Lol! You know, 60 to 70% is still failing in most of the public school systems. Just messin' with ya! ;)
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You must have been docked points for being hairy, huh? Lol! You know, 60 to 70% is still failing in most of the public school systems. Just messin' with ya! ;)
No it's the green eyes that I don't have. That must be the 30 to 40% I'm missing. ;)
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As long as the eyes are intense, full of personality, and have a little mischief in them, I like them. Actually, I like them to send a little electric shock through my body. Any color can achieve that. It's the man behind the eyes--not the color--that makes that little spark occur.
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So I'm taking it that Barbara Streisand doesn't do anything for you, huh, Division? ;D Lol! J/K!
I do need a very strong, very confident, very unique sort of guy. I can easily walk all over someone, and if that happens or if I get wind of that fact, I lose respect for the guy very quickly. There is a fine line between making sure I have my independence and control over my life and me running ramshod all over someone else and controlling him. I absolutely detest weak guys. That doesn't mean I want an asshole, though.
One thing I don't like is a hairy guy.
I do like strong eyebrows for some reason. Not unibrows, mind you...lol! And full lips are nice. The pencil thin lips really turn me off.
Obviously not...... :-\
She's not what I picture when I think Jewish, either.
Most Jewish women don't look like either of you.
Been to NYC?
DIV
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Obviously not...... :-\
She's not what I picture when I think Jewish, either.
Most Jewish women don't look like either of you.
Been to NYC?
DIV
I think jewish people from the most part aren't much different (genetically) than caucasians. At least american and european jews. Maybe in America they are a bit darker cause the majority originates from eastern europe. The jewish girl i dated had blond hair and blue eyes. Generalisations are, when dealing with individuals generally useless.
Lol, i know a portuguese girl with blond hair and deep blue eyes. People don't even believe that they're related when she's with her mother cause she's quite dark. People there think she's swedish or something.
Another jewish girl, with NICE legs: sara flom.
http://www.bodybuilders.com/flom.htm
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Now that chick looks jewish!
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I think jewish people from the most part aren't much different (genetically) than caucasians. At least american and european jews. Maybe in America they are a bit darker cause the majority originates from eastern europe. The jewish girl i dated had blond hair and blue eyes. Generalisations are, when dealing with individuals generally useless.
Lol, i know a portuguese girl with blond hair and deep blue eyes. People don't even believe that they're related when she's with her mother cause she's quite dark. People there think she's swedish or something.
Another jewish girl, with NICE legs: sara flom.
http://www.bodybuilders.com/flom.htm
Most of the Jewish women I've ever met had darker features, curly hair, pale to olive complected skin.
None were of the type you describe.
DIV
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This is a ridiculous conversation imo. Most Ashkenazi Jews look like any other caucasian. or european peoples. What about Gwyneth Paltrow... does she look like a Jewish person? If she doesn't, ...then maybe your perception of what a Jew is 'supposed' to look like is skewed.
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There is a wide range of appearances for Jewish women. My mother has lighter brown hair and crystal clear green eyes. My grandmother has light greenish brown eyes, pale skin with lots of freckles, and reddish brown hair.
There are blonde, blue-eyed Jewish women. There are green-eyed, brunette Jewish women. There are brown-eyed, black-haired Jewish women. We come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. We don't fit one certain mold.
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This is a ridiculous conversation imo. Most Ashkenazi Jews look like any other caucasian. or european peoples. What about Gwyneth Paltrow... does she look like a Jewish person? If she doesn't, ...then maybe your perception of what a Jew is 'supposed' to look like is skewed.
I'm not making the claim that all Jews fit one profile, but only what I've encountered personally.
In my experience, most Jewish women I've come in contact with have not looked like Jodi at all, except the nose.... ;)
DIV
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Division, I'm one of a kind. ;)
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Division, I'm one of a kind. ;)
You're being cute, of course........but I've met women before with your A-type personality.
Unfortunately, they all have problems in relationships because they think they are men, essentially.
After I met you, I met another woman like you locally, same personality exactly and we discussed her relationship issues.
Suffice to say, she basically turned off all the men she met because she couldn't/wouldn't let them be men.
Sexually, she would take charge and tell them what was to happen, and then wondered why none of the men called her back.
Initially, she wanted to talk to me about a sexual relationship, but after I recognized her personality type, I dropped that and explained to her why it would be hard to find what she desired.
She didn't want a weak man she would walk all over, yet all the dominant men were just repelled because she wanted to fight them tooth and nail instead of submitting.
A real conundrum.....
I explained that most guys that she found attractive would not accept her attitude sexually or otherwise and she finally understood her choices.
Stay single or play the role of submissive that most women do......
Never found out what the resolution was because I stopped talking to her.
She wanted sex and I, for obvious reasons, wasn't having it so she took it as a slight I suppose.....
Anyway, Jodi, understand there are other women like you, just that they are the minority when it comes to women.
DIV
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Hmmm... I've never quite heard it put like that before... I think I like it.
pssst - are you trying to tell us something. That might be a little TMI ;)
Never Jag, just trying to add a little tobasco to spice up the discussion a little. ;)
PB
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Interesting...you think I want to dominate a man sexually. Not so. I just want to be able to live my life and not be told what to do in my general life. Don't lay down rules for me when it comes to finances, job, education, my free time, who I spend my time with, etc.
The bedroom is a whole other ball of wax.
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Interesting...you think I want to dominate a man sexually. Not so. I just want to be able to live my life and not be told what to do in my general life. Don't lay down rules for me when it comes to finances, job, education, my free time, who I spend my time with, etc.
The bedroom is a whole other ball of wax.
Well........type-A personalities don't switch for sex.
They are like that thoroughly.
As I said, you and this girl were like mirror images and I gave her the same advice I gave you.
Not going in to detail on the forum, but I trust you remember our expansive discussions.
It's not a matter of dominating a man sexually, but that you take initiative which puts men off, at least initially.
It's a man's role to initiate and take over, and that has always been the case.
It's only the feminine or submissive men who'd rather a woman take control.
DIV
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DIV,
I respect your right to have an opinion, and since the decisions and conclusion you make about life, how to live your life, and what's right for you, don't in any way impact mine, ...you are more than welcome to have them, ...HOWEVER, ...the more I hear you talk, ...the more I come to the conclusion that you have issues. :-\
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I remember our discussions, and I also remember stating that I have several paradoxes. Where I'm one way in one faction of life, I'm quite the opposite in a different realm. That's as far as I'll go on a public board.
Well........type-A personalities don't switch for sex.
They are like that thoroughly.
DIV
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DIV,
I respect your right to have an opinion, and since the decisions and conclusion you make about life, how to live your life, and what's right for you, don't in any way impact mine, ...you are more than welcome to have them, ...HOWEVER, ...the more I hear you talk, ...the more I come to the conclusion that you have issues. :-\
To me he comes off as insecure because he his posts convey an urgent need to let everyone know hes in charge, weather its his barking thingsout at his gf, the wetdream of all his clients, or the general condescending tone of his posts. It strikes me as inconsistent that his relationships are so special he is one of the few men who doesn't engage in casual sex, yet he has no problem blabbing details about their sex life such as squirting and the number of orgasms he gave her and her past date rape on the internet.
You have to admit his posts are entertaining :)
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I remember our discussions, and I also remember stating that I have several paradoxes. Where I'm one way in one faction of life, I'm quite the opposite in a different realm. That's as far as I'll go on a public board.
Yes, Jodi......
I knew ahead of time this debate would go nowhere simply because of the forum.
Details.
I like you, Jodi.......just that I think you'll always have a hard time finding the type of man you want.
DIV
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Lets remember the difference between a personal opinion and a personal attack folks. A lot of good points were made but in reality none of us know anything about eachother. Just trying to keep the peace ;)
PB
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Yeah...I know that. But I'm happy being who I am; I've gained a lot of confidence and acceptance of myself over this past year. Besides, I've never done things the easy way. Look at what show I chose to do this year to make my bodybuilding debut on the national stage...the hardest Nationals that has ever been for the women. I like a challenge; I like when things are difficult. Otherwise, I'm bored and I don't have respect for my achievement.
And in understanding what I need from a guy, I'm able to weed out the ones who can't provide those qualities...or simply understand that they are only for the short term and be okay with that.
One day, the stars will align and I'll find the right balance. I just hope I'm not in a retirement home by that point and drooling all over myself...lol!
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Lets remember the difference between a personal opinion and a personal attack folks. A lot of good points were made but in reality none of us know anything about eachother. Just trying to keep the peace ;)
PB
Calling him insecure and inconsistent was rather vicious of me, mom ;D
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Yeah...I know that. But I'm happy being who I am; I've gained a lot of confidence and acceptance of myself over this past year. Besides, I've never done things the easy way. Look at what show I chose to do this year to make my bodybuilding debut on the national stage...the hardest Nationals that has ever been for the women. I like a challenge; I like when things are difficult. Otherwise, I'm bored and I don't have respect for my achievement.
And in understanding what I need from a guy, I'm able to weed out the ones who can't provide those qualities...or simply understand that they are only for the short term and be okay with that.
One day, the stars will align and I'll find the right balance. I just hope I'm not in a retirement home by that point and drooling all over myself...lol!
Oh i'm sure that you won't be in a retirement home Jodi. Ahhhhhhh yes balance....I have found mine after a long time and I am a much happier and better person for it.
PB
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Calling him insecure and inconsistent was rather vicious of me, mom ;D
It wasn't very nice of you either. ::)
PB
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I dunno, PB. I just turned 34. I'm getting up there in years! ;D
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Yeah...I know that. But I'm happy being who I am; I've gained a lot of confidence and acceptance of myself over this past year. Besides, I've never done things the easy way. Look at what show I chose to do this year to make my bodybuilding debut on the national stage...the hardest Nationals that has ever been for the women. I like a challenge; I like when things are difficult. Otherwise, I'm bored and I don't have respect for my achievement.
And in understanding what I need from a guy, I'm able to weed out the ones who can't provide those qualities...or simply understand that they are only for the short term and be okay with that.
One day, the stars will align and I'll find the right balance. I just hope I'm not in a retirement home by that point and drooling all over myself...lol!
As I said, Jodi, I do like you and I respect your volition.....
I am just more of a realist and I think it will be hard to find that savage intellectual you are seeking.
DIV
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I dunno, PB. I just turned 34. I'm getting up there in years! ;D
I'm two years behind you, Jodi and no you're not up there in years. Worry about that when you're 40 :-*
PB
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Hard, but not impossible, Division. I'll just keep telling myself that. ;)
PB, as long as I don't look my age, I'm cool with the numbers. I'm still able to get away with people thinking I'm in my early to mid twenties unless they learn of my career background or really understand what it takes to build a muscular physique. :)
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Hard, but not impossible, Division. I'll just keep telling myself that. ;)
PB, as long as I don't look my age, I'm cool with the numbers. I'm still able to get away with people thinking I'm in my early to mid twenties unless they learn of my career background or really understand what it takes to build a muscular physique. :)
Ya...not alot of people can appreciate a good physique nor do they seem to understand what it takes to build one. Maybe there is someone for you right under your nose and you just don't know it. Your gym. Someone there may appreciate your look and know what it takes to diet, train hard and often and compete. I saw your pics in another thread on this board. You look great, don't settle for anything less:)
PB
PB
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Lets remember the difference between a personal opinion and a personal attack folks. A lot of good points were made but in reality none of us know anything about eachother. Just trying to keep the peace ;)
PB
I know, I thought this board was supposed to be different.
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I know, I thought this board was supposed to be different.
It is. I just felt a little reminder was needed before the differences of opinion got a little outta hand. things started getting a little hot and heavy last night.
PB
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I was rather surprised to be called a transgender, a kook (by Jaguar Enterprises of all people), and Jimmy (who told me on Myspace I should be flattered about it lol), there is nothing wrong with civil disagreement :)
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I know, I thought this board was supposed to be different.
I did as well, Laura.
A respite from the drama of the other sections...
DIV
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I am sure the mods will take care of it. ;)
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Hopefully, also a respite from men holding forth about themselves... :)
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Hopefully, also a respite from men holding forth about themselves... :)
......meaning?
DIV
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......meaning?
DIV
Nothing really. There are some guys who come here and engage in back and forth convo with the women, and then there are those who seem to have a need for an audience and extra attention. Take a look through the threads sometime... you'll see what I mean.
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then there are those who seem to have a need for an audience and extra attention.
This is a silly thing to write as the premise of a message board is to have an audience view your contributions ;)
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Sandy, did you have another screen name prior to this one?
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This is a silly thing to write as the premise of a message board is to have an audience view your contributions ;)
No, I don't think I'm being silly. You're right that the idea of a message board is to have a public forum of opinion, and all the women here post thoughtfully and intelligently. So do most of the men, ;) however, there are some who come to the women's board just to talk endlessly about themselves. (I did say I didn't think it was a big deal).
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and all the women here post thoughtfully and intelligently.
I guess that depends on how liberal your definition of "thoughtfully and intelligently" is. To be sure this board is more civil than others, but there are just as many unintelligent women as men saying things, which is the way it should be as everyone has the right to an opinion.
Speaking of opinions, whoever deleted the first version of my reply should respect mine and grow up :)
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I guess that depends on how liberal your definition of "thoughtfully and intelligently" is. To be sure this board is more civil than others, but there are just as many unintelligent women as men saying things, which is the way it should be as everyone has the right to an opinion.
Speaking of opinions, whoever deleted the first version of my reply should respect mine and grow up :)
Check your PMs
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Im struggling to pinpoint where this alleged attack transpired, please clarify:
Was it referring to the statement Deedee made as "silly" ?
Or referring to the statements DIVISION made as insecure, inconsistent, and condescending ?
Something I'm missing ?
Moderator privileges are not a toy Stella, if either of those constitutes an attack in your eyes I put forward you are not mature enough to handle the position and it is I who should be contacting Ron about you. At the same time please explain why the posts calling me a transgender and a kook were not deleted and those members "warned"...
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Im struggling to pinpoint where this alleged attack transpired, please clarify:
Was it referring to the statement Deedee made as "silly" ?
Or referring to the statements DIVISION made as insecure, inconsistent, and condescending ?
Something I'm missing ?
Moderator privileges are not a toy Stella, if either of those constitutes an attack in your eyes I put forward you are not mature enough to handle the position and it is I who should be contacting Ron about you. At the same time please explain why the posts calling me a transgender and a kook were not deleted and those members "warned"...
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Now don't go all Jag on us. "Moderator privileges are not a toy" ;D
. . . and as one of most deleted members of this board, I would like to note that I fully approve of Stella's methods.
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Im struggling to pinpoint where this alleged attack transpired, please clarify:
Was it referring to the statement Deedee made as "silly" ?
Or referring to the statements DIVISION made as insecure, inconsistent, and condescending ?
Something I'm missing ?
Moderator privileges are not a toy Stella, if either of those constitutes an attack in your eyes I put forward you are not mature enough to handle the position and it is I who should be contacting Ron about you. At the same time please explain why the posts calling me a transgender and a kook were not deleted and those members "warned"...
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Just as an FYI Sandy, Here is the explaination and Rule set forth by the Moderators AND ron:
Open Talk for Girl Discussion
Postive place where you can speak on anything you want, questions, discussion for the girls of Getbig. Any negative attacks will not be allowed.
Moderators: Dina, Ron, STella, The BEAST
This is supposed to be a "friendly" board where most of us come to get away from the childlike behavior that is commonly found on the other boards.
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Im struggling to pinpoint where this alleged attack transpired, please clarify:
Was it referring to the statement Deedee made as "silly" ?
Or referring to the statements DIVISION made as insecure, inconsistent, and condescending ?
Something I'm missing ?
Moderator privileges are not a toy Stella, if either of those constitutes an attack in your eyes I put forward you are not mature enough to handle the position and it is I who should be contacting Ron about you. At the same time please explain why the posts calling me a transgender and a kook were not deleted and those members "warned"...
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Are you aware of the "Report to Moderator" button? If there are posts I have not come across on this board that offend you, please inform me and I'll take care of it.
I've been out of town for 3 days and have come back to a bunch of posts that shouldn't be on this board.
You've made some and others have made some.
Please let me know where the transgender and kook posts are and I'll delete them.
I have sent a PM to a member that I think should be added as a mod to this board, as it needs more attention the more it grows.
If she agrees that she would like to be a mod, I will take the suggestion to Ron.
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Now don't go all Jag on us. "Moderator privileges are not a toy" ;D
. . . and as one of most deleted members of this board, I would like to note that I fully approve of Stella's methods.
Stella wouldn't do it if it were not called for. I trust her judgement.
PB
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Are you aware of the "Report to Moderator" button? If there are posts I have not come across on this board that offend you, please inform me and I'll take care of it.
I've been out of town for 3 days and have come back to a bunch of posts that shouldn't be on this board.
You've made some and others have made some.
Please let me know where the transgender and kook posts are and I'll delete them.
I have sent a PM to a member that I think should be added as a mod to this board, as it needs more attention the more it grows.
If she agrees that she would like to be a mod, I will take the suggestion to Ron.
For the second time, what did I say that was so offensive it had to be deleted ?
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I guess that depends on how liberal your definition of "thoughtfully and intelligently" is. To be sure this board is more civil than others, but there are just as many unintelligent women as men saying things, which is the way it should be as everyone has the right to an opinion.
Your point is not so relevant as a response to mine. I was merely saying that occasionally men come here to hold forth about themselves, and then pages and pages of responses result that really say nothing more than "look at me." The women here, and most of the men, don't talk to each other that way. There's the V board for that. :)
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I was rather surprised to be called a transgender, a kook (by Jaguar Enterprises of all people), and Jimmy (who told me on Myspace I should be flattered about it lol), there is nothing wrong with civil disagreement :)
Sandy, I don't believe I called you a kook. What I said was that you were a quack.
It was in response to your quacking like a duck, and there was no malicious intent whatsoever.
If the comment hurt your feelings, or if you felt demeaned or belittled by it, my apologies.
I was only playfully teasing you, and am sorry if it hurt your feelings.
Judi
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why the posts calling me a transgender and a kook were not deleted and those members "warned"...
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Lol, plus, who called you a transgender?
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Sandy, I don't believe I called you a kook. What I said was that you were a quack.
It was in response to your quacking like a duck, and there was no malicious intent whatsoever.
If the comment hurt your feelings, or if you felt demeaned or belittled by it, my apologies.
I was only playfully teasing you, and am sorry if it hurt your feelings.
Judi
Great point, Jag:)
Thats another thing that we have to be carefull for. Most of us that know you from your past posts know that you are only teasing playfully. There is a difference between teasing playfully and a full out insult to a member causing them embarassment on the board in front of other members. Those remarks made to Division by Sandy saying that he doesn't get women or get laid or something along those lines was wrong and if Division replied to that type of post, he is only doing what any human being with self confidence and self respect would do and that is defend himself.
PB
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Great point, Jag:)
Thats another thing that we have to be carefull for. Most of us that know you from your past posts know that you are only teasing playfully. There is a difference between teasing playfully and a full out insult to a member causing them embarassment on the board in front of other members. Those remarks made to Division by Sandy saying that he doesn't get women or get laid or something along those lines was wrong and if Division replied to that type of post, he is only doing what any human being with self confidence and self respect would do and that is defend himself.
I find Sandy to be baiting, and while I do take people at face value, she seems to enjoy playing games....
I've learned my lesson, though.
DIV
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Great point, Jag:)
Thats another thing that we have to be carefull for. Most of us that know you from your past posts know that you are only teasing playfully. There is a difference between teasing playfully and a full out insult to a member causing them embarassment on the board in front of other members. Those remarks made to Division by Sandy saying that he doesn't get women or get laid or something along those lines was wrong and if Division replied to that type of post, he is only doing what any human being with self confidence and self respect would do and that is defend himself.
PB
If memory serves me correctly, ...there is only one person on these boards that I have ever directed a comment to that was specifically designed to humiliate, belittle, demean, and cause pain. And you know what, ...I was very successful. I humiliated, belittled, demeaned myself in the process, and caused myself alot of pain knowing I had actually purposely said that to another human being. {lol} I know better than to go that route again. :P
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I find Sandy to be baiting, and while I do take people at face value, she seems to enjoy playing games....
I've learned my lesson, though.
DIV
I believe she is another member's 2nd account. ;) The mannerism and writing style is too similar.
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I believe she is another member's 2nd account. ;) The mannerism and writing style is too similar.
"She" writes like a man. Same goes for "MissKaren".
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I believe she is another member's 2nd account. ;) The mannerism and writing style is too similar.
So it is Jimmy as I said all along?
Why is he allowed here, then?
DIV
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So it is Jimmy as I said all along?
Why is he allowed here, then?
DIV
No, I believe it is another female.
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Can we please return to the original topic for this thread?
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Well, once I get past the basics, Nice straight teeth, beautiful hair, soft eyes and great smile, I then work my way to the shoulders. I find myself attracted to men with wide/broad shoulders, I wanna feel muslce when my man hugs me not skin and bones. Then traveling down to the butt, a round tight butt always helps and finally the ......legs. I love musclular legs. And I do find myself attracted to the Brown hair/ Brown eye type of guy. :-*
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One thing I forgot... hands, ...he's gotta have clean hands.
Nothing turns me off more like filthy dirty hands or dirty fingernails on a man.
I don't care if he IS a car mechanic either. Clean those hands!
My old mechanic had the most spotless hands you could imagine. He was ALWAYS washing them.
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I like strong hands and nicely groomed nails. I have very tiny, childlike hands, and I like for them to be engulfed in someone else's.
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As far as I'm concerned, he can only engulf them if his hands are clean, ..if not... he's not touchin' nada :-X
I even hate it when mechanics with dirty hands touch my car... {lol} I don't say anything... but it irks me.
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One thing I forgot... hands, ...he's gotta have clean hands.
Nothing turns me off more like filthy dirty hands or dirty fingernails on a man.
I don't care if he IS a car mechanic either. Clean those hands!
My old mechanic had the most spotless hands you could imagine. He was ALWAYS washing them.
i have nice hands, lol ;)
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As far as I'm concerned, he can only engulf them if his hands are clean, ..if not... he's not touchin' nada :-X
I even hate it when mechanics with dirty hands touch my car... {lol} I don't say anything... but it irks me.
I have palm olive hands :D
PB
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olive oil and shae butter lol
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I like strong hands and nicely groomed nails. I have very tiny, childlike hands, and I like for them to be engulfed in someone else's.
I've got strong hands, but they are roughened and calloused from lifting and not groomed due to the type of work I do.
I've had to shave the callouses off with a razor for past girlfriends.
DIV
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I've got strong hands, but they are roughened and calloused from lifting and not groomed due to the type of work I do.
I've had to shave the callouses off with a razor for past girlfriends.
DIV
Haha, i wear gloves. I know, it's for sissies, but i don't give a fuck.
I love to stroke/touch/caress a female body, with rough hands that seems less enjoyable.
Girls, what do you think about hair?
Short hair? In model all the time? The out-of bed look? Or don't you care at all?
What about bald/balding men?
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Haha, i wear gloves. I know, it's for sissies, but i don't give a f**k.
I love to stroke/touch/caress a female body, with rough hands that seems less enjoyable.
It's less enjoyable for women too.
Girls, what do you think about hair?
Love it., ...especially if it's long, clean, healthy, and well conditioned.
That's not to say I'd never look at a guy with a brush cut, ...just that if I got to choose, it would be long, thick, and perfect for stroking.
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I haven't read this thread but perhaps will.
I thought it was pheronomes?
innit?
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I ate garlic today and I smile funny
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long, thick, and perfect for stroking.
I love long hair (on the head) on men too. But it's extremely rare here. Only the Italians and South Americans grow their hair.
What I cannot stand at present is the unshaven face look. Only a few years ago that would have been against common decency. It's rude and lazy. And hurts me. Nasty.
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i have nice hands, lol ;)
I have a thing about hands too. I love hardworking ones. Front and back. And veins.
oh, and dirty knees.
(it's a footballer gag
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I do like veins in hands too...and in forearms. I love the vein that runs along the length of the bicep.
Ohh...a nice neck. Not short and stubby and not too thin. I like the back of a guy's neck, right along the hairline.
Hmmm...I have callouses on my hands. It's kind of weird for a girl, huh? But in powerlifting, you weren't allowed to wear gloves, and so I never have...even to this day.
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I have callouses on my callouses and I'm proud of them.
I still have beautiful hands and feet.
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hardworking ones.
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I had a lover in Toronto who worked as a photographer. He was drop dead gorgeous, had a nice tuxedo and a new Nikon. He spent the weekend going about in the limo and supposedly taking pics of Nureyev (the ballet dancer who died of aids, this was a long time ago. I was lucky enough to get standing room only the last night and saw Romeo and Juliet. I fainted.
Anyways, the only photo Dani took was of Rudoph's bare feet, in the dressing room after the last performance. it was a fantastic photograph.
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I do like veins in hands too...and in forearms. I love the vein that runs along the length of the bicep.
Ohh...a nice neck. Not short and stubby and not too thin. I like the back of a guy's neck, right along the hairline.
Hmmm...I have callouses on my hands. It's kind of weird for a girl, huh? But in powerlifting, you weren't allowed to wear gloves, and so I never have...even to this day.
Jodi,
I notice one of the first things a woman looks at is my hands. I'm not sure exactly what they are looking for, but it's very common. Besides my face, they look at my hands.
I asked my last girlfriend about this topic and she said my hands are attractive because they are strong, large and warm to the touch. She said that my hands reveal that I work and that is attractive.
I don't wear gloves, so my hands are calloused, but I shave them off when in a relationship because my last girlfriend seemed to prefer it.
DIV
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I notice one of the first things a woman looks at is my hands. I'm not sure exactly what they are looking for, but it's very common.
They're looking to see whether you have a wedding ring.
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unless they're looking at your palms to see how long your life line is.
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They're looking to see whether you have a wedding ring.
xL
That's really the reason?
You know that some guys don't wear their wedding ring all the time, right?
DIV
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That's really the reason?
You know that some guys don't wear their wedding ring all the time, right?
DIV
We do know this, but...rings leave impressions on the fingers. ;)
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That's really the reason?
You know that some guys don't wear their wedding ring all the time, right?
DIV
and they lie.
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Ha ha ha!! You know why girls look at hands, right? ;) You know what they say about big hands and big feet. Lol!
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Ha ha ha!! You know why girls look at hands, right? ;) You know what they say about big hands and big feet. Lol!
I thought it was the big nose.
and I don't like massive ones.
They just hurt.
x
ps: that big hands and feet theory is rubbish. honest!
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Ha ha ha!! You know why girls look at hands, right? ;) You know what they say about big hands and big feet. Lol!
It means the guy has big gloves and shoes?
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It means the guy has big gloves and BOOTS
ho ho ho
funny.
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But he's probably a bighead.....
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We do know this, but...rings leave impressions on the fingers. ;)
Laura,
Why look when you can just ask if the guy is married?
Alot of guys don't wear the ring, esp in the gym and that is when I notice women looking at my hands the most.
I wish women would just speak their minds, even if it's rude....
Things would be easier. ;)
DIV
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Laura,
Why look when you can just ask if the guy is married?
Alot of guys don't wear the ring, esp in the gym and that is when I notice women looking at my hands the most.
I wish women would just speak their minds, even if it's rude....
Things would be easier. ;)
DIV
I know many ladies who actually like a fella with nice big hands! Gotta be strong looking :P
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Laura,
Why look when you can just ask if the guy is married?
Alot of guys don't wear the ring, esp in the gym and that is when I notice women looking at my hands the most.
I wish women would just speak their minds, even if it's rude....
Things would be easier. ;)
DIV
I believe this topic was on approaches, right. Why? Because if they think they are getting away with cheating by taking off their wedding ring..what's to stop them from lying. A woman isn't going to go up to a guy and just ask if it is quiet apparent that he is already taken by marriage. It's pretty simple.
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I believe this topic was on approaches, right. Why? Because if they think they are getting away with cheating by taking off their wedding ring..what's to stop them from lying. A woman isn't going to go up to a guy and just ask if it is quiet apparent that he is already taken by marriage. It's pretty simple.
Don't kid yourself there Laura,
My best friend is married and everytime we pop out for a drink just to catch up, some woman is always making eyes at him and a few of them even hit on him knowing perfectly well that he was married. Yes, he does wear his ring to the few that have approached him he has made it perfectly clear that his is happily married. I guess it just boils down to wether or not anyone cares.
As for the hands thing, I have always found that women are more attracted to the rugged, rough hand. I have rugged hands from the years of training at the gym as I don't believe in wearing gloves. I find they effect my grip. Also from doing construction when I was working my way through school.
PB
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As for the hands thing, I have always found that women are more attracted to the rugged, rough hand. I have rugged hands from the years of training at the gym as I don't believe in wearing gloves. I find they effect my grip. Also from doing construction when I was working my way through school.
I think that's what it is, PB........but with women you can never be completely sure.
They look at different things for different reasons.
I also have the rough hands, from lifting, including the callouses.
DIV