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I'm really annoyed by questions like these and people who are asking 'em, and usualy answer in a very subtle/intellectual/reasoned manner, but it seems that it baffles them even more and makes uncomfortable somewhy, so they persist with some other nonsense.. it's really a futile "discussion", I don't believe in "settling down" would be my honest answer, but it would bring a whole lotta other "directions" of possible "discussion" I'm not even remotely interesting participating in.
What would be the best, witty, maybe harsh (shutting up) answer to that one, in your opinion?
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Flip answer: “I’m gay.”
Serious answer: It depends on who is asking and what you think their motives are for asking. Are they just being nosey and rude? Do they actually care about you? Why they are asking should determine the kind of answer you give.
I have a relative who used to ask me that when I was younger. It just so happens that this woman’s husband has cheated on her numerous time and even fathered two other children outside of his marriage. The last time she asked me when I was going to settle down I asked her, “How many times has your husband cheated on you? Is that the kind of settling down I should be doing?”
She has never asked me the "settling down" question ever again. :-*
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I get asked that shit all the time. I never give a direct answer, just something like...''I am settled down. I've had my motorcycle for 6 years''
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Flip answer: “I’m gay.”
Serious answer: It depends on who is asking and what you think their motives are for asking. Are they just being nosey and rude? Do they actually care about you? Why they are asking should determine the kind of answer you give.
I have a relative who used to ask me that when I was younger. It just so happens that this woman’s husband has cheated on her numerous time and even fathered two other children outside of his marriage. The last time she asked me when I was going to settle down I asked her, “How many times has your husband cheated on you? Is that the kind of settling down I should be doing?”
She has never asked me the "settling down" question ever again. :-*
Cripes, that's brutal. Would loved to be just standing there as that line was delivered. ;D
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BayGBM>I could drop the gay card lol, tho' usualy they are "in the know" that I'm quite the opposite.. And as a rule, people who are asking this are people who are in no position to even try to "teach" me "life" (whatever that means).. So yes, they are being rude and nosey. I guess I'll start going personal way too, they are asking for it.
Other category are people who pretend "to care" and I don't want to be too harsh on them.. The diplomatic way never works as they are usualy too dumb to get it, some kind of black/stronger humor would be best I guess..
Tho' whoever is asking that, imho it's still rude. It's like "Are you going to make my life choices? Another one from a similar category is "Aren't you afraid you are gonna fuck yourself up with that bodybuilding stuff?" (but it's a lot more simple to answer this one. Usualy - "Are you asking whether I'm afraid to die from it? No, I'm not". Shuts them up like magic.).
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Cripes, that's brutal. Would loved to be just standing there as that line was delivered. ;D
I wish you could have been there, my friend; it was a wonderfully rich moment; perhaps one of the best ownings I have ever delivered. She finally had to learn what too many getbiggers have come to know.
HTexan,
You know I have no qualms with you friend, but do you really think it's wise to make an enemy out of Bay?
You know the man is surgical when it comes to executing an owning and will pace himself just right, until he has you where he wants you.
what I learned from this thread is not to mess with baygbm !
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Homosexuality=sin
I'm a godless, blasphemious, cynical and nihilistic atheist, doomed to be extincted by god loving christians and muslims, etc.. so I couldn't care less.. Unfortunately I'm still not a homo.. Oh well..
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I just laugh and say I am.
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Ask them why you should have to "settle" for anything.
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I dont like when as soon as you mention you have dated a girl people assume that your wish is to commit and/or get married ???
"When are you going to tie the knot" = instant nasuea for me
Any good comebacks on that one?
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look them straight in the eye and ask them "are you truly happy?"
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"When I find a woman who can stand my presence for more than 10 consecutive minutes."
After a bit of insincere flattery they usually begin to move along, at which point I say "2 minutes 14 seconds. You'll never make the cut, sweetheart."
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I'm really annoyed by questions like these and people who are asking 'em, and usualy answer in a very subtle/intellectual/reasoned manner, but it seems that it baffles them even more and makes uncomfortable somewhy, so they persist with some other nonsense.. it's really a futile "discussion", I don't believe in "settling down" would be my honest answer, but it would bring a whole lotta other "directions" of possible "discussion" I'm not even remotely interesting participating in.
What would be the best, witty, maybe harsh (shutting up) answer to that one, in your opinion?
depends, if you want to fuck that broad, say something like "Im a romantic guy, when I find true love". She will probably suck your dick after that so you only got to fuck her and never call the bitch again.
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What does "settling" down mean to you? You all are tossing this term around yet not defining it, thus making it rather difficult to adequately provide any sort of answer to your (quandary perhaps?).
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look them straight in the eye and ask them "are you truly happy?"
Good one! ;D
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"When I find a woman who can stand my presence for more than 10 consecutive minutes."
After a bit of insincere flattery they usually begin to move along, at which point I say "2 minutes 14 seconds. You'll never make the cut, sweetheart."
(http://greenobles.com/data_images/alan-alda/alan-alda-02.jpg)
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A related question is “When are you going to have a baby?” or “Don’t you miss not having kids?”
No. There was a brief period when I felt like I missed not having kids, but it passed very quickly when I got nieces and nephews. I think being an uncle is way more fun than being a parent. I get all the joys having the kids around with none of the headaches. I can play with them all I want (their parents love having a break) and then give them back. I can have them for the weekend (or longer) and then give them back. I can take them shopping and spoil them all I want without having to deal with the consequences of that. I get all the love from the kids and their parents get to be the bad guys who punish, spank, or put them in timeout.
If I want to give them my time, I can (and they love it) but I don’t have to… and it’s not expected of me.
If I want to spend money on them—a lot or a little—I can (and they love it) but I don’t have to… and no one expects it of me.
If I want to put them in private school or fund their college education, I can, but I don’t have to… and no one expects it of me.
All the fun and none of the headaches of parenting! Sweet! ;D
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A related question is “When are you going to have a baby?” or “Don’t you miss not having kids?”
No. There was a brief period when I felt like I missed not having kids, but it passed very quickly when I got nieces and nephews. I think being an uncle is way more fun than being a parent. I get all the joys having the kids around with none of the headaches. I can play with them all I want (their parents love having a break) and then give them back. I can have them for the weekend (or longer) and then give them back. I can take them shopping and spoil them all I want without having to deal with the consequences of that. I get all the love from the kids and their parents get to be the bad guys who punish, spank, or put them in timeout.
If I want to give them my time, I can (and they love it) but I don’t have to… and it’s not expected of me.
If I want to spend money on them—a lot or a little—I can (and they love it) but I don’t have to… and no one expects it of me.
If I want to put them in private school or fund their college education, I can, but I don’t have to… and no one expects it of me.
All the fun and none of the headaches of parenting! Sweet! ;D
LOL I wish you were my kids' uncle... I'd send them to you for the weekend so I could get some sleep and they could get some college paid for.
:)
Their actual uncle = more likely to hit them up for money hahahaha
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A related question is “When are you going to have a baby?” or “Don’t you miss not having kids?”
No. There was a brief period when I felt like I missed not having kids, but it passed very quickly when I got nieces and nephews. I think being an uncle is way more fun than being a parent. I get all the joys having the kids around with none of the headaches. I can play with them all I want (their parents love having a break) and then give them back. I can have them for the weekend (or longer) and then give them back. I can take them shopping and spoil them all I want without having to deal with the consequences of that. I get all the love from the kids and their parents get to be the bad guys who punish, spank, or put them in timeout.
If I want to give them my time, I can (and they love it) but I don’t have to… and it’s not expected of me.
If I want to spend money on them—a lot or a little—I can (and they love it) but I don’t have to… and no one expects it of me.
If I want to put them in private school or fund their college education, I can, but I don’t have to… and no one expects it of me.
All the fun and none of the headaches of parenting! Sweet! ;D
hahaha yes my mom is so jealous of how much my niece likes me, always wondering why. simple -- i don't try to teach her "good morals" ::)
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When somebody old says to me "When are you going to settle down and get married and have kids"? I reply "When are you going to fall down and break your hip?"
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I dont get the settling down bit, but I cant stand the I get the I should have a car, and be done school. When they know full well I took time off to pay for my fucking school and would rather cut my dick off than get in debt. It drives me up the wall because of the people saying this shit are heavily in debt and those that arent have made horrible life decisions like working as a car mechanic.
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I dont get the settling down bit, but I cant stand the I get the I should have a car, and be done school. When they know full well I took time off to pay for my fucking school and would rather cut my dick off than get in debt. It drives me up the wall because of the people saying this shit are heavily in debt and those that arent have made horrible life decisions like working as a car mechanic.
How old of a fella are you?
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I dont get the settling down bit, but I cant stand the I get the I should have a car, and be done school. When they know full well I took time off to pay for my fucking school and would rather cut my dick off than get in debt. It drives me up the wall because of the people saying this shit are heavily in debt and those that arent have made horrible life decisions like working as a car mechanic.
Maybe they like cars and dislike student debt. Btw, I never met a diesel mechanic in West Aus mining earning less than $100/ hr. Some guys are on $150. That's $300k pa. Still feeling snooty?
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LOL I wish you were my kids' uncle... I'd send them to you for the weekend so I could get some sleep and they could get some college paid for.
:)
Their actual uncle = more likely to hit them up for money hahahaha
It's not just college; private school tuition hurts too!
Pre-Kindergarten and Kindergarten (full day)
$19,990
Grades 1-5
$21,220
Grades 6-8
$22,760
Grades 9-12
$24,440
Ouch!
I never have to wake up for a 2am feeding for the baby.
I never have to change a dirty diaper or even buy a diaper (I hear they can be expensive. And you can go through 3-5 of them per day sometimes.)
I never have to deal with a toddler throwing a temper tantrum.
I've never been called by the school principal because junior was misbehaving.
I never have to worry about the kids growing out of their clothes and having to buy new ones every year.
I never have to worry about my own parents or other relatives criticizing my parenting skills (I've seen this happen in families a lot!)
If I want to play house with one person for years or sleep with a different ho every night, I can do that without worrying about how it would impact "the kids."
Uncles get all the joys and fun of having kids without any of the headache or limitations. If I don't want to spend time with the kids, or prefer to leave them behind so I can go clubbing, go on a cruise, or treat myself to some new toy, I can do that without any feelings of guilt or worrying about how I have to secure their future because they are not my responsibility.
;D
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How old of a fella are you?
25.
Maybe they like cars and dislike student debt. Btw, I never met a diesel mechanic in West Aus mining earning less than $100/ hr. Some guys are on $150. That's $300k pa. Still feeling snooty?
Well here he makes about 11.75, and it costs about 20k to do the program including tools etc. So nuts to debt, this aint austrailia mate.
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A related question is “When are you going to have a baby?” or “Don’t you miss not having kids?”
No. There was a brief period when I felt like I missed not having kids, but it passed very quickly when I got nieces and nephews. I think being an uncle is way more fun than being a parent. I get all the joys having the kids around with none of the headaches. I can play with them all I want (their parents love having a break) and then give them back. I can have them for the weekend (or longer) and then give them back. I can take them shopping and spoil them all I want without having to deal with the consequences of that. I get all the love from the kids and their parents get to be the bad guys who punish, spank, or put them in timeout.
If I want to give them my time, I can (and they love it) but I don’t have to… and it’s not expected of me.
If I want to spend money on them—a lot or a little—I can (and they love it) but I don’t have to… and no one expects it of me.
If I want to put them in private school or fund their college education, I can, but I don’t have to… and no one expects it of me.
All the fun and none of the headaches of parenting! Sweet! ;D
Dude, I am with you. I have nephews and nieces and this is enough.
I have never been married, either, and I think my family and friends are now finally aware that "settling down" is not in my life cards.
From what I see from peers, settling down is accepting an ever-decreasing sexual partnership, giving up one's youthful passions and slaving for more and more money so as to satisfy the demands of the crew back home. A place, by the way, that has long since been an oasis from the madness of this world.
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^lol
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Just tell them settling down is catabolic, they'll understand.
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I have been married over twenty years, but if someone asked me this question, I suppose I would have to go all "Squadfather" on them.
"Settle down?" hahahahahahaha, oh brother ::) Epic skinnyfat twink bottom bitch trying to give advice. You won't recover.
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Just tell them settling down is catabolic, they'll understand.
haha
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then i relplied" ok, which one of you ladies has a daughter thats hot looking, able and willing to cook, ill take her straight away"
Just tell them settling down is catabolic, they'll understand.
lol
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I get that annoying answer as well "When are you going to settle down." The trick here is give a short answer but enough to shut them up without being rude. Because you'll never know if they're being naive or nosey. Either way just simply reply with "I'll settle down when you find me a good woman."
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I get that annoying answer as well "When are you going to settle down." The trick here is give a short answer but enough to shut them up without being rude. Because you'll never know if they're being naive or nosey. Either way just simply reply with "I'll settle down when you find me a good woman."
Good job mr passive.
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I dont like when as soon as you mention you have dated a girl people assume that your wish is to commit and/or get married ???
"When are you going to tie the knot" = instant nasuea for me
Any good comebacks on that one?
You could say, i'm waiting for our society to take marriage seriously. With the divorce rate somewhere around 50%, I really don't like them odds at this point in time. If the odds drop to around 10%, that's when I'll throw myself into the ring.
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I'm still married to Slayer - always have been always will be :P
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I'm really annoyed by questions like these and people who are asking 'em, and usualy answer in a very subtle/intellectual/reasoned manner, but it seems that it baffles them even more and makes uncomfortable somewhy, so they persist with some other nonsense.. it's really a futile "discussion", I don't believe in "settling down" would be my honest answer, but it would bring a whole lotta other "directions" of possible "discussion" I'm not even remotely interesting participating in.
What would be the best, witty, maybe harsh (shutting up) answer to that one, in your opinion?
Getting married or living with a woman as your partner is great and doesn't require you to setlle down.
It can be a cold , lonely world and having your lover as your best friend can be awesome.
Yes, you should be monogomous but the real key is never having kids.
I have seen too many couples that have kids and it just sucks the life out of 'em.
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look them straight in the eye and ask them "are you truly happy?"
Then you'll get this answer:
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Getting married or living with a woman as your partner is great and doesn't require you to setlle down.
It can be a cold , lonely world and having your lover as your best friend can be awesome.
Yes, you should be monogomous but the real key is never having kids.
I have seen too many couples that have kids and it just sucks the life out of 'em.
Why can't you stay married to one person? Why all these marriages? Were your parents married long?
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I say "You and mom didn't get married til your mid 30's" and just leave it at that.
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25.Well here he makes about 11.75, and it costs about 20k to do the program including tools etc. So nuts to debt, this aint austrailia mate.
So what was your chosen field of study, young man?
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Why can't you stay married to one person? Why all these marriages? Were your parents married long?
People change over the years is the short answer. Here is a couple examples.
One former wife "discovered" she really wanted children ( 4 yrs after we got married ) and that was a non starter for me.
I didn't want to deprive her of her dream of being a mom, but I didn't want to change and become a dad, se we divorced.
The last one graudyally decided she wanted to live a separate , independent life which worked for awhile.
We spent most weekends and vacations together and lived separate during the week.
It was ok but we eventually drifted apart.
Any more questions?
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People change over the years is the short answer. Here is a couple examples.
One former wife "discovered" she really wanted children ( 4 yrs after we got married ) and that was a non starter for me.
I didn't want to deprive her of her dream of being a mom, but I didn't want to change and become a dad, se we divorced.
The last one graudyally decided she wanted to live a separate , independent life which worked for awhile.
We spent most weekends and vacations together and lived separate during the week.
It was ok but we eventually drifted apart.
Any more questions?
If you'd performed your due diligence before hand you could have avoided all that.
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I say "You and mom didn't get married til your mid 30's" and just leave it at that.
Reminds me of the time my dad busted on me...he made the comment at one Thanksgiving gathering, "You know, son, when I was your age I was already married and had a kid." I laughed and said, "Yeah, me." He paused for a moment and said, "That's a good argument, son, but I still think you should get married." >:(
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25.Well here he makes about 11.75, and it costs about 20k to do the program including tools etc. So nuts to debt, this aint austrailia mate.
Starting out it sucks, you got tools and other expenses to pay off. But in the US you can make over 100k fixing cars, once you have enough skill and experience working in the right shop. And you can do it by working no more than 40-50hrs a week, and thats working for someone I am not even talking about owning a business.
Not everyone is cut out for it though, so you have a pay range of 25k to 100k+ across the industry.
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Reminds me of the time my dad busted on me...he made the comment at one Thanksgiving gathering, "You know, son, when I was your age I was already married and had a kid." I laughed and said, "Yeah, me." He paused for a moment and said, "That's a good argument, son, but I still think you should get married." >:(
LOL how old were you when this happened?
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If you'd performed your due diligence before hand you could have avoided all that.
Spot on.
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Starting out it sucks, you got tools and other expenses to pay off. But in the US you can make over 100k fixing cars, once you have enough skill and experience working in the right shop. And you can do it by working no more than 40-50hrs a week, and thats working for someone I am not even talking about owning a business.
Not everyone is cut out for it though, so you have a pay range of 25k to 100k+ across the industry.
True. Just because someone likes cars doesn't mean that it's a Job for them.
Mechanical aptitude & problem solving are very important to have.
My buddy has arkund $250k worth of tools he's accumulated over 15 years & he still bitches about not having certain ones. He makes just under $100,000 a year working for a chain mechanic shop...plus atleast half that amount doing cash side jobs.
You have to build a great reputation in this field & work for a shop that's honest & fair otherwise people will think they're getting fuxked.
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Starting out it sucks, you got tools and other expenses to pay off. But in the US you can make over 100k fixing cars, once you have enough skill and experience working in the right shop. And you can do it by working no more than 40-50hrs a week, and thats working for someone I am not even talking about owning a business.
Not everyone is cut out for it though, so you have a pay range of 25k to 100k+ across the industry.
Thats great advice maybe you should and realize this person I'm talking is set on fucking themselves over living in the middle of nowhere. If you'd performed your due diligence before hand you could have avoided all that.
Are you even listening this kind of mindset ain't gonna work in a marriage people change as they grow older, what he mentioned is typical, the only way to really avoid it is to knock her up quick so it's a nonissue.
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I'm a godless, blasphemious, cynical and nihilistic atheist, doomed to be extincted by god loving christians and muslims, etc.. so I couldn't care less.. Unfortunately I'm still not a homo.. Oh well..
you ll get extinct and so will be your lineage cause you re an immature egotistical individual who s too busy focusing on his little addictions and image to have a woman and a family, not because of christians or muslims... You probably werent loved much by parents who didnt care about you, and as a result you re not able to care about others either, as we subconsciously and automatically reproduce what we ve been exposed to during our childhood and adolescence blindly for most of our adult life. Taking care of you might have been a pain in the ass for them, and as a result taking care of others now you re suposed to be an adult is a pain in the ass for you. Considering we re just a bunch of preprogrammations, the sum of what generated us and that all these conditionnings predetermines our so called "freedom"/ "free will" and deepest thought patterns , let's just say you ve been programmed to disapear or to convert to any kind of religion, philosophy, system of belief that would give a new meaning to your existence.
It might sound fun to be lonely and do whatever you want in your 20s, it s a lot less funny when you hit the 40, let s not even talk about the 50s and later... Now you know why some old lonely people randomly talk to strangers in the street; cause they have no family, nobody else to talk to and to continue life with.
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;D Last time I was in a bar a friends wife asked me what I had against having a wife . I told her nothing . I had two already that week . ;D ;D ;D And the lady I was with was a wife . ;D ;D
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;D Last time I was in a bar a friends wife asked me what I had against having a wife . I told her nothing . I had two already that week . ;D ;D ;D And the lady I was with was a wife . ;D ;D
dude, youre such a badass
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;D Last time I was in a bar a friends wife asked me what I had against having a wife . I told her nothing . I had two already that week . ;D ;D ;D And the lady I was with was a wife . ;D ;D
And that's the problem in today's marriages...too many people do not take their vows to heart or take their marriage seriously...too many are willing to cheat, and not think about their relationship, their partner, their kids, etc. It's about "them" and only them. And chances are they are only replicating what they know---parents divorced or are cheaters. These women (and men) don't think of themselves as wives or husbands, but girlfriends of a higher order.
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And that's the problem in today's marriages...too many people do not take their vows to heart or take their marriage seriously...too many are willing to cheat, and not think about their relationship, their partner, their kids, etc. It's about "them" and only them. And chances are they are only replicating what they know---parents divorced or are cheaters. These women (and men) don't think of themselves as wives or husbands, but girlfriends of a higher order.
you one of them fools that likes to hear themselves talk?
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Getting married or living with a woman as your partner is great and doesn't require you to setlle down.
It can be a cold , lonely world and having your lover as your best friend can be awesome.
Yes, you should be monogomous but the real key is never having kids.
I have seen too many couples that have kids and it just sucks the life out of 'em.
Takes brains and balls to not have kids on this slave planet.
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you ll get extinct and so will be your lineage cause you re an immature egotistical individual who s too busy focusing on his little addictions and image to have a woman and a family, not because of christians or muslims... You probably werent loved much by parents who didnt care about you, and as a result you re not able to care about others either, as we subconsciously and automatically reproduce what we ve been exposed to during our childhood and adolescence blindly for most of our adult life. Taking care of you might have been a pain in the ass for them, and as a result taking care of others now you re suposed to be an adult is a pain in the ass for you. Considering we re just a bunch of preprogrammations, the sum of what generated us and that all these conditionnings predetermines our so called "freedom"/ "free will" and deepest thought patterns , let's just say you ve been programmed to disapear or to convert to any kind of religion, philosophy, system of belief that would give a new meaning to your existence.
It might sound fun to be lonely and do whatever you want in your 20s, it s a lot less funny when you hit the 40, let s not even talk about the 50s and later... Now you know why some old lonely people randomly talk to strangers in the street; cause they have no family, nobody else to talk to and to continue life with.
The only people who don't die alone are the kids who die so young they don't know what alone means...
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you ll get extinct and so will be your lineage cause you re an immature egotistical individual who s too busy focusing on his little addictions and image to have a woman and a family, not because of christians or muslims... You probably werent loved much by parents who didnt care about you, and as a result you re not able to care about others either, as we subconsciously and automatically reproduce what we ve been exposed to during our childhood and adolescence blindly for most of our adult life. Taking care of you might have been a pain in the ass for them, and as a result taking care of others now you re suposed to be an adult is a pain in the ass for you. Considering we re just a bunch of preprogrammations, the sum of what generated us and that all these conditionnings predetermines our so called "freedom"/ "free will" and deepest thought patterns , let's just say you ve been programmed to disapear or to convert to any kind of religion, philosophy, system of belief that would give a new meaning to your existence.
It might sound fun to be lonely and do whatever you want in your 20s, it s a lot less funny when you hit the 40, let s not even talk about the 50s and later... Now you know why some old lonely people randomly talk to strangers in the street; cause they have no family, nobody else to talk to and to continue life with.
Not true. I've been raised in a loving and caring family. And I don't expect to live to 50's, so I don't give a fuck. And If I will - well, brain-computer interface will be advanced enough to tune myself in to the "Matrix" till my least breath (or I could just relate with other "lonely" people. I'm a friendly person.). So - Fail ;)
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Not true. I've been raised in a loving and caring family. And I don't expect to live to 50's, so I don't give a fuck. And If I will - well, brain-computer interface will be advanced enough to tune myself in to the "Matrix" till my least breath (or I could just relate with other "lonely" people. I'm a friendly person.). So - Fail ;)
Hahaha Whatever you say, Rebel without a Cause "Rebel with a pair of daisy duke Capri pants" ::)
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Hahaha Whatever you say, Rebel without a Cause "Rebel with a pair of daisy duke Capri pants" ::)
Who's a rebel? You are projecting something my "friend".. ;)
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If you'd performed your due diligence before hand you could have avoided all that.
hey now, I gave 'em all BOTH inches, hilt deep for a good 30 sec , once a week.