jack good post man. i was pretty niave when i got married. i fell for the "princess" wedding, jesus boy doing our vows (im an atheist- still pissed to this day we paid thAt fucker), annoying mother in law with her formal bullshit, 6 and 6 bridemaids and groosman, very old fashion, etc. etc. at the time, i just didnt care. kinda like, oh well sure whatever. as im 30s now, my friends getting married are doing destination weddings, fun stuff with small group of friends, etc. looks so fun, so i am kinda still pissed we did the stupid dog and poney show. that seems like the shit that goes on when you are in your twenties getting married. so my advice, wait till your an adult like age 30 and up. 25 is no adult.
financially speaking, marriage was great for us. my savings was shit, and my wife earns double what i earn. we were able to buy a house, and move up in investments, etc. also, like you said, my wife is very thrifty amd always looks for the best deal. friends we have in their thirties who are marrying are still doing the townhouse or rental thing. so combining assets really can propel you forward much faster.
now, this might not be important to many people. its really not to me. i argue alot about what we buy because id be fine with a shack in the woods. that always seems to be where people argue, is the life style. people have expectations. my expectation was big savings, retire early and small modest home and never worry about money. wife loves work, and wants big houses, nice things. thats our one main wedge, which sucks.
honestly, i was depressed single (wasnt getting laid bcause i wasnt confident (this was before tindr, which
ooks fun and easy) was lonely, had no one to watch dogs when i traveled). i also get depressed being married. so much hot asss out there, and you always thinkg " wow i bet that girl really has it all...nice person, loving, hot, etc...but you never really know. grass is always greeener. its a mental illness which i have. im never satisfied. i do KNOW that if i was single, id still be miserable though. i think im better off married honestly. like others said, working on happiness is the hard part and thats what im goin focus on for 2017. any tips are welcom!
Theres some good points too your post the part I agree on is the financial gains moving you forward faster IF your wife has a good career etc, the issue is for a lot of men is that if they are the dominant earner in the marriage and gathers most if not all the asserts IF (and usually) when things turn bad...well we all know the outcome...
Theres a tired but true old saying...those that play together...stay together, most of us as men are animals bye nature...when we want someone new...we hunt them and usually stop @ nothing until we get them...the Thrill of the case...the smell of fresh meat and all that crap.
Then after the chase is over and as time moves bye we slowly but surely lose that thrill it’s no longer a challenge, the thrill, excitement etc add kids too the mix and everything that goes with it, we start too long for a new hunt.
I’m not saying all of us think like this but IMO MOST of us think like this...sooner or later...the thirst wins...and in return you as a man LOSE...your asserts...your kids...nearly everything.
For those men out there that are SMART...they have a wife that has a actual career earns good money helps generate the asserts and make sure they do as much together as possible it’s that very thing that most of us lose sight of...then you pay, it all boils down too making smart decisions BEFORE the fact ticking the right boxes BEFORE the fact...unfortunately for most us men...it’s the wrong head ticking those boxes.
