the only thing you have control over is your own life, and only if you were raised correctly, or if you reverse engeenered how you were conditionned to keep the good, and removed the bad soon enough. Very few people free themselves from the underlying subconscious unadaptated schemes inherited from their parents, family and are able to really take control over their own life. Even when you reach that point, you figure what you can do and what you cant is still... predeterminated. You can only be the sum of what precedes you and you have to sort what is suitable and what isnt.
You can only have an influence on your woman or kids, but not even total control. And you better be smart and enjoy reading to have a GOOD influence on em and not fuck em up.
It means this thread is pointless.