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I havn't been on a "date" for a long time. I'm gona meet up with this girl I met at a club. Any ideas? I was maybe just thinking I might invite her over to watch a dvd ;)
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what's the age(s)?
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Mid twenty's.....
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Go to a quiet bar / restaurant - that way you can have a drink or a meal and get to know one another face to face. Sitting watching a dvd in silence might not be the best way to go.
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I agree, should be somewhere public
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I havn't been on a "date" for a long time. I'm gona meet up with this girl I met at a club. Any ideas? I was maybe just thinking I might invite her over to watch a dvd ;)
Do:
-show up with a nice bouquet of roses
-shower and get cleaned
-dress appropriately
-compliment her beauty and her outfit
-act yourself
-make sure you have money
-pay for the bill
-pick her up and drive the both of you
-be responsible, courteous and polite at all times
-strike up conversation with her and look her in the eyes when you talk to her.
Don't:
-be cheap
-go dutch on the bill
-showoff
-talk about topics that may end up in major disagreement such as religion, politics, etc.
-over compliment her
-invade her space
-worry about a second date when you haven't even got through the first yet.
-be boring and quiet
Hope this helps :D
PB
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I havn't been on a "date" for a long time. I'm gona meet up with this girl I met at a club. Any ideas? I was maybe just thinking I might invite her over to watch a dvd ;)
Take her out of a movie:
1. than if you like her you have something to talk about
2. If you don't like her you can dump her after the movie and say you have an early day
3. If you like her than you can go out after the movie for a drink or coffee
4. It is not too forward as it is in a public place.
Good Lucj!
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Take her out of a movie:
1. than if you like her you have something to talk about
2. If you don't like her you can dump her after the movie and say you have an early day
3. If you like her than you can go out after the movie for a drink or coffee
4. It is not too forward as it is in a public place.
Good Lucj!
This sounds like a good idea. nzmuscle, if you take her to your place to watch a DVD, if you don't like her it may be hard to get her to leave. :-\
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Take her out of a movie:
1. than if you like her you have something to talk about
2. If you don't like her you can dump her after the movie and say you have an early day
3. If you like her than you can go out after the movie for a drink or coffee
4. It is not too forward as it is in a public place.
Good Lucj!
I wouldn't take her to a movie just yet. I would wait till the 4th or 5th date. In a movie theatre you can't converse with her or get to know her. The awkward silence could kill the date. Just my 2 pennies.
PB
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More 2 cents worth...
If you already made the connection to hook up at the club and you both know what you want and where it will end up, then you can just invite her over to watch a flick, and maybe cook her something decent if you know how, or order in. Obviously you'd have more than beer to offer her, spotless place, etc...
On the other hand, it's acceptable to ask her over even if you aren't sure, but you're hoping like hell... if you're an amazing chef and are using that as your preamble. This can be a successful strategy since she will more than likely have a glass of wine or two, eat well and most importantly, is already there.
If you're not sure where it's going, you could take her out to eat somewhere casual... (the movie/coffee idea is good too if you don't mind sitting next to a stranger for an hour and a half) Doing the formal thing first time is just so awkward and stilted. I would take her somewhere where the tables allow you to sit close, and you can order shared dishes...Asian, Indian, etc... Be normal, be weird... just don't be fake or overly smooth, women hate that. Also, not all girls like to be told they're beautiful etc., all the time, because that's what they always hear... some would rather be teased good-naturedly. It shows you notice something human about her and seems less like BS. Don't go on and on about yourself, especially about your training :-\, unless you're willing to listen to her about hers. Look her in the eyes but it's usually better to stay away from that intense predator face that says you're moving in for the kill. :P The rest depends on your great skills of seduction...
Good luck and remember, we're all counting on you.
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Do:
-show up with a nice bouquet of roses
-shower and get cleaned
-dress appropriately
-compliment her beauty and her outfit
-act yourself
-make sure you have money
-pay for the bill
-pick her up and drive the both of you
-be responsible, courteous and polite at all times
-strike up conversation with her and look her in the eyes when you talk to her.
Don't:
-be cheap
-go dutch on the bill
-showoff
-talk about topics that may end up in major disagreement such as religion, politics, etc.
-over compliment her
-invade her space
-worry about a second date when you haven't even got through the first yet.
-be boring and quiet
Hope this helps :D
PB
sounds like metrosexual bullshit.
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sounds like metrosexual bullshit.
Nope. Just proper ettiquette.
PB
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You guys are pretty good! Great ideas!!
Deedee you seem like an expert at this 8) Ill try not to talk about my training too much!
Playboy thats a good list! Not metro at all, plenty of good tips there.
You're right about maybe not bringing her over to mine straight away, we got on well at the club but we were both pretty drunk and could be more awkward without alcohol.
I think ill roll with the taking her to a quiet place and have a meal and a couple of drinks and see where it leads to from there.....
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I would'nt invite her to your place she may think your trying to get in her pants and I wouldnt take her to the movies unless you guys have had talks on the phone. What about window shopping (depending where you live). Dont make it a long evening make her wanting another date.. thats a true test
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I would'nt invite her to your place she may think your trying to get in her pants and I wouldnt take her to the movies unless you guys have had talks on the phone. What about window shopping (depending where you live). Dont make it a long evening make her wanting another date.. thats a true test
The movies is an ok idea, im really not a very patient person and sitting in one place for a coulpe of hours drives me pretty crazy... and I think window shopping would really try my patients as well... dont want to Meltdown on first date!
Its set for Thursday so ill let you guys know how it all goes.
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careful bringing her to your home. then she knows where you live. lots of psycho chicks out there.
;D
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careful bringing her to your home. then she knows where you live. lots of psycho chicks out there.
;D
Hahaha aint that the truth ;D
I think this ones ok, although it's always the ones you least suspect.....
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Is it still warm where you live? Forget the movies, forget the DVD. Take her somewhere where you can do something fun and physical together, perhaps even add some competition of some sort to the mix, shoot some baskets, go to the beach, etc. By doing this both of you will be enjoying the activities and will not be focusing so much on being perfect and what the other thinks. Chances are there will be plenty of opporunities to break the personal space barrier often as well, with some sort of activity. By the end if she had a good time, laughed alot, did not feel pressured for sex etc., you will most likley end the date on a very positive note.
Then again if this is really more of just a hookup and you're not looking for more than that, then do the DVD.
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Is it still warm where you live? Forget the movies, forget the DVD. Take her somewhere where you can do something fun and physical together, perhaps even add some competition of some sort to the mix, shoot some baskets, go to the beach, etc. By doing this both of you will be enjoying the activities and will not be focusing so much on being perfect and what the other thinks. Chances are there will be plenty of opporunities to break the personal space barrier often as well, with some sort of activity. By the end if she had a good time, laughed alot, did not feel pressured for sex etc., you will most likley end the date on a very positive note.
Then again if this is really more of just a hookup and you're not looking for more than that, then do the DVD.
Its the start of summer here in NZ, so that's a good thought...
It's a fairly odd thing... I'm off to London for good in a month and by a very strange co-incidence shes doing the same thing a week after me!
So maybe if all goes well here we could see each other over there as well?
Or maybe shes just after a hook up before she goes? Only time will tell I guess...
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Is it still warm where you live? Forget the movies, forget the DVD. Take her somewhere where you can do something fun and physical together, perhaps even add some competition of some sort to the mix, shoot some baskets, go to the beach, etc. By doing this both of you will be enjoying the activities and will not be focusing so much on being perfect and what the other thinks. Chances are there will be plenty of opporunities to break the personal space barrier often as well, with some sort of activity. By the end if she had a good time, laughed alot, did not feel pressured for sex etc., you will most likley end the date on a very positive note.
Then again if this is really more of just a hookup and you're not looking for more than that, then do the DVD.
Reminds me of when someone took me golfing for the first time... I left with a sprained wrist from driving a club into the ground and was a complete wreck from looking generally like an idiot. Wasn't exactly romantic. :-\
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Its the start of summer here in NZ, so that's a good thought...
It's a fairly odd thing... I'm off to London for good in a month and by a very strange co-incidence shes doing the same thing a week after me!
So maybe if all goes well here we could see each other over there as well?
Or maybe shes just after a hook up before she goes? Only time will tell I guess...
Wow... sounds like teh stars are aligned! I hope it works out for you... it's always great to know someone when you move to a new country, since it can be a little overwhelming at first.
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dinner ...movie...then some coffee and chitchat or bar and chitchat is my staple..
even if yall know its only about fucking make a friggin evening of it...why people wanna get it over with quickly is beyond me...once ya come bro the excitement is over... :-\
PS if ya know you wont wanna talk to her anymore after you finish...go to her place...its always easier to leave then asking someone to leave...
g'luck
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PS if ya know you wont wanna talk to her anymore after you finish...go to her place...its always easier to leave then asking someone to leave...
g'luck
Toxy, I think he said he's interested in more than just a one-night thing.
Also, it's not a great idea for women to bring strange men to their homes. I got this from a cop I knew, and it makes sense. Men will be less likely to commit violent acts or rape or murder in their own homes because it can be traced too easily, and the body is hard to get rid of, etc. They'll usually prefer to do these at a woman's house where they can just disappear afterward. It's not a good idea to bring a guy to your house if you don't know him.
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Toxy, I think he said he's interested in more than just a one-night thing.
Also, it's not a great idea for women to bring strange men to their homes. I got this from a cop I knew, and it makes sense. Men will be less likely to commit violent acts or rape or murder in their own homes because it can be traced too easily, and the body is hard to get rid of, etc. They'll usually prefer to do these at a woman's house where they can just disappear afterward. It's not a good idea to bring a guy to your house if you don't know him.
Nzmonster, remember this when you're out looking for your next victim.
On another note: it's hard to invite yourself over to her house. See what happens and if you two hit it off you can invite her for a drink or something in your house.
There was a research done lately and women were actually more likely to wanna have sex on the first date then men.
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Nzmonster, remember this when you're out looking for your next victim.
On another note: it's hard to invite yourself over to her house. See what happens and if you two hit it off you can invite her for a drink or something in your house.
There was a research done lately and women were actually more likely to wanna have sex on the first date then men.
I LOVE MODERN WOMEN!
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I havn't been on a "date" for a long time. I'm gona meet up with this girl I met at a club. Any ideas? I was maybe just thinking I might invite her over to watch a dvd ;)
Just because it's a date doesn't mean it has to be traditional.
Think outside the box.
Get to know her first before you worry about time investment and proper dating.
Hang out with her first in a casual way.
Pool, movies, hiking.....whatever it is that you both find common enjoyment in.
If you find that it's progressing, then you can move on to dinner and inviting her over to your place.
I think people jump the gun in these situations and it ends badly due to unrealistic expectations.
Obviously, if you are interested in her and she you, there is some mutual attraction.
Take it for what it is and let it develop.
It's just life......nothing more.
In "sheep terms", you want to let her hand-feed you before she'll be comfortable stroking your wool.
Understand?
DIV
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Haha cheers div ;D
Appreciate you putting it in a way I could understand!
I hear what your sayin', I don't think there's any reason to stress over these things.... If it's all good then cool, if it aint then move on.
Just been out of the game a while so I thought i'd see what kids these days were doin for fun.
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Just because it's a date doesn't mean it has to be traditional.
Think outside the box.
Get to know her first before you worry about time investment and proper dating.
Hang out with her first in a casual way.
Pool, movies, hiking.....whatever it is that you both find common enjoyment in.
If you find that it's progressing, then you can move on to dinner and inviting her over to your place.
I think people jump the gun in these situations and it ends badly due to unrealistic expectations.
Obviously, if you are interested in her and she you, there is some mutual attraction.
Take it for what it is and let it develop.
It's just life......nothing more.
In "sheep terms", you want to let her hand-feed you before she'll be comfortable stroking your wool.
Understand?
DIV
Love the "sheep terms" Div. Very well put. :)
PB
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I guess it also depends where you are. If you live in a big city, going hiking could mean spending three hours in a car both ways, which is probably six hours longer than you want to be with a new person, unless you really hit it off and don't want to leave the person. :) Also, climate doesn't always make pool an option, sadly... same with a variety of other outdoor activities. Sometimes you luck out and can do something like tennis, or train together etc. If those are options, then great. If not, you're stuck with getting together for dinner, movies, etc...
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Toxy, I think he said he's interested in more than just a one-night thing.
Also, it's not a great idea for women to bring strange men to their homes. I got this from a cop I knew, and it makes sense. Men will be less likely to commit violent acts or rape or murder in their own homes because it can be traced too easily, and the body is hard to get rid of, etc. They'll usually prefer to do these at a woman's house where they can just disappear afterward. It's not a good idea to bring a guy to your house if you don't know him.
good lord woman...what kinda men do ya date ??? i always go to the girls house....but then again most people end up being comfy around me...kinda like they've known me ages :)
only girlfriends get to come to my place..
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good lord woman...what kinda men do ya date ??? i always go to the girls house....but then again most people end up being comfy around me...kinda like they've known me ages :)
only girlfriends get to come to my place..
LOL! Well, I never dated tons of people... I prefer the looking across the room and meeting someone's eyes and just knowing, strategy. Besides when you date a bunch of people you have to juggle them, then you have to decide which one you want to sleep with, and if you don't really want to sleep with any of them, you have to do the fending off thing... ech too complicated. I was making a general statement... a cop friend told me the statistics once, so I just always pass on the info to women if the subject comes up. Oh and btw, guys always say they prefer to go to a girl's house so they can leave when they want... well, truth is, men are just as hard to get out of the house. They want to hang around and have breakfast, etc... it's an urban legend that guys leave right after the fun. ;)
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nu uh...i haul ass and usually end up back at my bar after i leave...unless its late..but i NEED the sound of an AC and a fan to be able to sleep...i HATE staying over...and only way i will is if i really like her..in which case inside i'm usually thinking " do i have an extra bottle of afrin in my car" (cant breath without it)...does she have a stand fan someplace she'll be willing to put in her room...does she expect me to spoon all nite (my arm always falls asleep >:( )
no..but seriously..i usually only wanna stay with her after sex is when i really do like her..otherwise i cant wait to get out..and am usually running an inside clock to wait/cuddle long enough to be polite... :-\
if u have had opposite experiences...then u r prolly a good looking gal :)
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Love the "sheep terms" Div. Very well put. :)
What can I say, bro?
People relate in different ways.
Some of us are sheep, while others of us are carnivores.
If he's truly as gentle as a sheep, he'll have no problem making a woman at ease and eventually she WILL be stroking his wool.
LOL! Well, I never dated tons of people... I prefer the looking across the room and meeting someone's eyes and just knowing, strategy. Besides when you date a bunch of people you have to juggle them, then you have to decide which one you want to sleep with, and if you don't really want to sleep with any of them, you have to do the fending off thing... ech too complicated. I was making a general statement... a cop friend told me the statistics once, so I just always pass on the info to women if the subject comes up. Oh and btw, guys always say they prefer to go to a girl's house so they can leave when they want... well, truth is, men are just as hard to get out of the house. They want to hang around and have breakfast, etc... it's an urban legend that guys leave right after the fun. ;)
I'm also not the type to date a bunch of people at the same time. I know within the first meeting what the possibility is of anything developing.....friendshi p, FWB or LTR. I also don't go over to a woman's pad or invite her over to mine until after several dates, meetings. I suppose you could say I'm an exclusive type person. There isn't really a gray area with me in terms of relationships. I am honest and I let a woman know where she stands with me. If I see after meeting that there are differences that preclude a LTR, but there is still physical attraction, I might consider a FWB situation. Most women aren't mature enough for something like that. If there's a mental connection but no physical chemistry, a friendship is possible.
One thing I cannot do, however, is be strictly platonic with someone I have a physical attraction to. It never works and I won't even go there now.
It's sad in a way, but I know myself well enough to know that a conflict of interests never works out in my favor as it pertains to women.
If I can't look at her without picturing her naked on all fours from the back ass up, then a friendship isn't in the cards.
DIV
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just don't brag about your rapist wit ;)