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Getbig Female Info Boards => Open Talk for Girl Discussion => Topic started by: Parker on November 01, 2008, 08:16:56 AM
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Would that have a bearing on the relationship, if the person picked a jacked up person or a very pretty person to cheat on you with. Or does it even matter
Here is Miss Brown Sugar's theory..
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I can't get it to play ???
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Paker, Parker... Parker.
You should have just called because you probably won't get an honest answer here. :)
Here's the general rule: people prefer to be cheated on with a better looking person because it preserves the ego. If your partner jumps into bed with a fat, busted person it means they were unhappy with you and it didn't have much to do with sex.
It's a lot easier to be rejected over looks than personality. :)
BTW, Cheating is wrong.
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shouldnt make a difference as it's about trust
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Paker, Parker... Parker.
You should have just called because you probably won't get an honest answer here. :)
Here's the general rule: people prefer to be cheated on with a better looking person because it preserves the ego. If your partner jumps into bed with a fat, busted person it means they were unhappy with you and it didn't have much to do with sex.
It's a lot easier to be rejected over looks than personality. :)
BTW, Cheating is wrong.
I knew i wouldn't get real answers here. But I thought i'd try... At least Miss Brown Sugar gave in, plus I like looking at her ;D. Check her vids....
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I knew i wouldn't get real answers here. But I thought i'd try... At least Miss Brown Sugar gave in, plus I like looking at her ;D. Check her vids....
I'm a pain in the ass, if my girl left it wouldn't have anything to do with looks. :)
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Mine did cheat on me with and eventually go on to date someone who was "busted". I'd say it was probably worse than if she cheated with someone good looking.
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Mine did cheat on me with and eventually go on to date someone who was "busted". I'd say it was probably worse than if she cheated with someone good looking.
Another pain in the ass? :)
J/K. Probably just had one of those 'special people' who couldn't get enough attention... ever!!
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Another pain in the ass? :)
J/K. Probably just had one of those 'special people' who couldn't get enough attention... ever!!
Mine seriously could not deal with me doing something else but show her attention. It got real old.
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Mine seriously could not deal with me doing something else but show her attention. It got real old.
Why can't people pay attention to themselves?
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Mine seriously could not deal with me doing something else but show her attention. It got real old.
I hear that. My college gf was like that.
Couldn't stand me working for a living, took too much time away from her...
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I hear that. My college gf was like that.
Couldn't stand me working for a living, took too much time away from her...
That's just ridiculous.
Being cheated on is painful, regardless. I do recall asking myself, "wtf?" about the people they (mult cheaters in my past) cheated with. I hope to not be cheated on again to find out if the other person's attractiveness makes a difference or not.
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Why can't people pay attention to themselves?
I do, sometimes twice a day. :-[
;D
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I hear that. My college gf was like that.
Couldn't stand me working for a living, took too much time away from her...
That's how mine was. I'd work 12 hours day in addition to being a full time student and would still go to games, dinner, movies, etc and when I wanted down time I got shit for it.
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That's how mine was. I'd work 12 hours day in addition to being a full time student and would still go to games, dinner, movies, etc and when I wanted down time I got shit for it.
And where is she now? :D
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And where is she now? :D
Lol, reading the forum....jk. C'mon you know.
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Lol, reading the forum....jk. C'mon you know.
;D
How's it going over there, getting non-stop weekend action?
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How's it going over there, getting non-stop weekend action?
Haha, slower than on my trip but the Halloween weekend was fun. I do have to say that the past two weeks of getting hit on by cougars has been nice. Not bragging or anything, but the disparity between young women and experienced women ;D is really starting to show.
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Haha, slower than on my trip but the Halloween weekend was fun. I do have to say that the past two weeks of getting hit on by cougars has been nice. Not bragging or anything, but the disparity between young women and experienced women ;D is really starting to show.
Plus older women want to prove they can hang with a young buck like yourself, they'll go farther out of their way to make sure you're satisfied. ;)
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Plus older women want to prove they can hang with a young buck like yourself, they'll go farther out of their way to make sure you're satisfied. ;)
You're no slouch in the women department yourself big guy.
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You're no slouch in the women department yourself big guy.
I've been off the market for awhile, but I can remember the good ol' days. ;D
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Mine did cheat on me with and eventually go on to date someone who was "busted". I'd say it was probably worse than if she cheated with someone good looking.
See, if a chick chooses a busted dude, it could be a signal or about a personality issue. you said, "show her attention", that's prolly what the busted dude did...
If the dude looked good, you could at least hold your head up, but then again she still cheated.
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I'd be better for my ego (and confidence) if she cheats on me with a goodlooking person.
I'd "prefer" if she does it with a nice guy for some reason. I'd be pretty pissed of if she just sleeps with some douchebag.
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See, if a chick chooses a busted dude, it could be a signal or about a personality issue. you said, "show her attention", that's prolly what the busted dude did...
If the dude looked good, you could at least hold your head up, but then again she still cheated.
Between making money to take her out, school and then taking her out was I not supposed to get some alone time?
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Between making money to take her out, school and then taking her out was I not supposed to get some alone time?
Alone time might lead to thinking. Thinking might lead to realizing you're happier alone. :)
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Alone time might lead to thinking. Thinking might lead to realizing you're happier alone. :)
I really am. The only time I get "lonely" is when I am horny...lol.
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I really am. The only time I get "lonely" is when I am horny...lol.
At least your smart enough to not confuse the two. :)
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At least your smart enough to not confuse the two. :)
With today's societal morals it is dumb to stay into a relationship for sex when you can hit up a bar or college party, especially if you need to get laid that bad.
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With today's societal morals it is dumb to stay into a relationship for sex when you can hit up a bar or college party, especially if you need to get laid that bad.
Did you know they figure 1 in 3 college bar-flies has an STD?
At least in a relationship, you have it 'on call'....
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Did you know they figure 1 in 3 college bar-flies has an STD?
At least in a relationship, you have it 'on call'....
::) STD's are over rated. A few crabbies never hurt anyone.
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Did you know they figure 1 in 3 college bar-flies has an STD?
At least in a relationship, you have it 'on call'....
You can still get STDs from a girl in a relationship. Who says you can't have it on call and be single? ;D
What about cougar bars?
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You can still get STDs from a girl in a relationship. Who says you can't have it on call and be single? ;D
What about cougar bars?
Definately a must if you're young and studly like yourself Cap! I bet you could land 2-3 cougars at a time. 8)
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Definately a must if you're young and studly like yourself Cap! I bet you could land 2-3 cougars at a time. 8)
No, I mean the STD quotient at the Cougar bar....lol.
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No, I mean the STD quotient at the Cougar bar....lol.
Oh, it may be pretty high, those horny old ladies have had years to gather their STDs. ;D
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Oh, it may be pretty high, those horny old ladies have had years to gather their STDs. ;D
Hopefully it will be just good ole syphillis and I can get the shot...lol.
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Hopefully it will be just good ole syphillis and I can get the shot...lol.
Hell some of these STD's they got nowdays will make yer pecker explode or fall off in a matter of minutes.
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Between making money to take her out, school and then taking her out was I not supposed to get some alone time?
Hell your right. You need that time...
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Hell your right. You need that time...
Most people can't handle being alone and fill their emotional space up with people and things.
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I'll say from this girls view .. yes it makes a difference if a man of mine "cheated" on me with some ugly chick , it's almost insulting , and yes ego deflating aswell
I would rather be "cheated" on with a hot pretty chick , I can understand that temptation better
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Better looking is easier to understand than more compatible. You really can't change looks too much without surgery.
A less attractive person usually means the person was rejecting who you are.... or a the very least who they think you are.
That rule doesn't count for total pigs that will hit anything.
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No matter how loyal and quality your mate is... they WILL cheat on you if the offer is good enough.
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No matter how loyal and quality your mate is... they WILL cheat on you if the offer is good enough.
I disagree and believe there are good people out there.
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That's just ridiculous.
Being cheated on is painful, regardless. I do recall asking myself, "wtf?" about the people they (mult cheaters in my past) cheated with. I hope to not be cheated on again to find out if the other person's attractiveness makes a difference or not.
Multiple?
Maybe it's not them... Maybe it's you.
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Sara's a hottie so I doubt that would be the case. Often people show their true colors after you have been with them for awhile. You may see the real person, not like it and cheat. It could work that way but I don't really know, never done it.
"Hotties" tend to be high maint, Cap1. :)
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Danielson? Lol
Sorry, must have been looking at one of his posts.
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No matter how loyal and quality your mate is... they WILL cheat on you if the offer is good enough.
I disagree and believe there are good people out there.
I'm with doc on this one, "cow"boy.
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Whatever chaos....
You hate humanity just as much as I do....
And that's ok :)
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Whatever chaos....
You hate humanity just as much as I do....
And that's ok :)
:o
That's not nice! >:(
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Sara's a hottie so I doubt that would be the case. Often people show their true colors after you have been with them for awhile. You may see the real person, not like it and cheat. It could work that way but I don't really know, never done it.
No Offense to Sara, but how does being hot equate to not being the problem?
There is zero correlation there.
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No Offense to Sara, but how does being hot equate to not being the problem?
There is zero correlation there.
Dude,
"Hotties" take changes in relationship status pretty hard. Every day people tell them how great they are and when someone finally gets to know them.... bam!! It's over.
People who get too much attention sometimes forget to work on the inside stuff. There's a chick at the gym a lot of guys are trying to run game on, she's very pretty but not attractive at all. Always has a sour puss, can't say hi, won't let people work in between sets, not pleasant to speak to, etc.... but with a bangin' body someone's always going to put up with her for a short time.
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Dude,
"Hotties" take changes in relationship status pretty hard. Every day people tell them how great they are and when someone finally gets to know them.... bam!! It's over.
People who get too much attention sometimes forget to work on the inside stuff. There's a chick at the gym a lot of guys are trying to run game on, she's very pretty but not attractive at all. Always has a sour puss, can't say hi, won't let people work in between sets, not pleasant to speak to, etc.... but with a bangin' body someone's always going to put up with her for a short time.
Being attractive will get you a lot farther than anything else at the starting gun.
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Being attractive will get you a lot farther than anything else at the starting gun.
But if you're ugly on the inside people will eventually find out. :)
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Dude,
"Hotties" take changes in relationship status pretty hard. Every day people tell them how great they are and when someone finally gets to know them.... bam!! It's over.
People who get too much attention sometimes forget to work on the inside stuff. There's a chick at the gym a lot of guys are trying to run game on, she's very pretty but not attractive at all. Always has a sour puss, can't say hi, won't let people work in between sets, not pleasant to speak to, etc.... but with a bangin' body someone's always going to put up with her for a short time.
Yeah, a short time... but then when they get tired of them they're gone... That's my point.
Maybe she IS the problem.
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Yeah, a short time... but then when they get tired of them they're gone... That's my point.
Maybe she IS the problem.
Someone doesn't necessarily have to be a problem for things to not work out, maybe people just don't have a good fit.
We're all messed up in some way, maybe finding someone with a crazy that matches up well with your own is the key. :) Some people DO have too much crazy going on for a successful relationship but maybe that's the exception rather than the rule.
A few years ago this loser was whining about being dumped by his GF for cheating... a lot. I, being a kind, loving and sweet person, asked what the big deal was. This schmuck actually had the balls to say "because I love her", LOL! I said if you loved her you wouldn't have cheated. Haven't quite figured it out but he really sort of stopped talking to me after that. ???
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Someone doesn't necessarily have to be a problem for things to not work out, maybe people just don't have a good fit.
We're all messed up in some way, maybe finding someone with a crazy that matches up well with your own is the key. :) Some people DO have too much crazy going on for a successful relationship but maybe that's the exception rather than the rule.
A few years ago this loser was whining about being dumped by his GF for cheating... a lot. I, being a kind, loving and sweet person, asked what the big deal was. This schmuck actually had the balls to say "because I love her", LOL! I said if you loved her you wouldn't have cheated. Haven't quite figured it out but he really sort of stopped talking to me after that. ???
True... I'm still blaming her.
;D
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Dude,
"Hotties" take changes in relationship status pretty hard. Every day people tell them how great they are and when someone finally gets to know them.... bam!! It's over.
People who get too much attention sometimes forget to work on the inside stuff. There's a chick at the gym a lot of guys are trying to run game on, she's very pretty but not attractive at all. Always has a sour puss, can't say hi, won't let people work in between sets, not pleasant to speak to, etc.... but with a bangin' body someone's always going to put up with her for a short time.
Where I used to work, there were two C.O.'s that were twins. Banging light skinned sistas. I would always greet everybody, because i raised to speak to everybody. I would say hi, whenever they came on shift, but they never spoke, I didn't care, at least I could say I had manners. But these chicks were loud mouths, so they looked pretty and petite, but as soon as they opened their mouth, it's all she wrote.
Now I know why they are single...
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Where I used to work, there were two C.O.'s that were twins. Banging light skinned sistas. I would always greet everybody, because i raised to speak to everybody. I would say hi, whenever they came on shift, but they never spoke, I didn't care, at least I could say I had manners. But these chicks were loud mouths, so they looked pretty and petite, but as soon as they opened their mouth, it's all she wrote.
Now I know why they are single...
LOL!
Some people will spend an hour on hair, make-up and clothes before going out and won't take 5 seconds to work on their attitude. :)
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I can agree that I know a couple great looking girls that are real high maintenance and have driven away some real patient guys I also know. It's sad yet funny to watch, but I have to imagine there are some normal good looking women. Most probably either pick losers (which happens all the time) or they are the loser.
Doc, they do that shit when I see them at the gym at 6:30 in the morning.
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I can agree that I know a couple great looking girls that are real high maintenance and have driven away some real patient guys I also know. It's sad yet funny to watch, but I have to imagine there are some normal good looking women. Most probably either pick losers (which happens all the time) or they are the loser.
Doc, they do that shit when I see them at the gym at 6:30 in the morning.
It's the frigging gym, not a nightclub.
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Maybe the kids were in high school or something?
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Maybe the kids were in high school or something?
How many of us are so important that going the amount of time a workout takes without talking on a phone is unreasonable?
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Dude I got bitches callin me 27/7 yo....
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Dude I got bitches callin me 27/7 yo....
;D
How'd you get 3 extra hours in a day ???
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The same way your president got those extra 7 states.
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The same way your president got those extra 7 states.
LOL, it's ebonics math. ;D
BTW, I didn't vote for either of those spermswappers.
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LOL!
Some people will spend an hour on hair, make-up and clothes before going out and won't take 5 seconds to work on their attitude. :)
LOL, actually, one of the women was suppose to come in mid shift, like 7pm, but somebody said make that 8pm, she still has to do her hair and makeup, which was flawless. And sure enough, she came in at 8pm...
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Multiple?
Maybe it's not them... Maybe it's you.
I'm not saying that I didn't, at some point, do something to allow that to happen. But it's not that there's something wrong with me as a person. While I appreciate the, "hottie," compliments, there is much, much more to me. I've never depended on my looks, or how other see me to get by. Quite the opposite. I"m not perfect, but I am intelligent, focused, loyal, and honest.
Where I do claim culpability is choosing the men that cheated. I knew in my gut that something was off, but I ignored it because that initial infatuation was so amazing.
To say that everyone who is attractive is high-maintence, or somehow lacking substance is an undeserved stereo-type. Get to know the person before coming to any conclusions about who they are.
And your points on people getting by on their looks, therefore not working on themselves as individuals is true for both men and women. I've known more than one man that has been told how good-looking he is, and uses that as a way to justify some truly apprehensible behavior.
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I'm not saying that I didn't, at some point, do something to allow that to happen. But it's not that there's something wrong with me as a person. While I appreciate the, "hottie," compliments, there is much, much more to me. I've never depended on my looks, or how other see me to get by. Quite the opposite. I"m not perfect, but I am intelligent, focused, loyal, and honest.
Where I do claim culpability is choosing the men that cheated. I knew in my gut that something was off, but I ignored it because that initial infatuation was so amazing.
To say that everyone who is attractive is high-maintence, or somehow lacking substance is an undeserved stereo-type. Get to know the person before coming to any conclusions about who they are.
And your points on people getting by on their looks, therefore not working on themselves as individuals is true for both men and women. I've known more than one man that has been told how good-looking he is, and uses that as a way to justify some truly apprehensible behavior.
Nice response.
You should post more often.
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I'm not saying that I didn't, at some point, do something to allow that to happen. But it's not that there's something wrong with me as a person. While I appreciate the, "hottie," compliments, there is much, much more to me. I've never depended on my looks, or how other see me to get by. Quite the opposite. I"m not perfect, but I am intelligent, focused, loyal, and honest.
Where I do claim culpability is choosing the men that cheated. I knew in my gut that something was off, but I ignored it because that initial infatuation was so amazing.
To say that everyone who is attractive is high-maintence, or somehow lacking substance is an undeserved stereo-type. Get to know the person before coming to any conclusions about who they are.
And your points on people getting by on their looks, therefore not working on themselves as individuals is true for both men and women. I've known more than one man that has been told how good-looking he is, and uses that as a way to justify some truly apprehensible behavior.
My god, hot and smart, well there goes that stereotype....
as far as high maintenance, the Great Omarosa, had said that high maintenance means, "you can't maintain it yourself, so therefore you someone to either help you or to pay for it."
In all seriousness the first paragraph was very telling.
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My god, hot and smart, well there goes that stereotype....
as far as high maintenance, the Great Omarosa, had said that high maintenance means, "you can't maintain it yourself, so therefore you someone to either help you or to pay for it."
In all seriousness the first paragraph was very telling.
Pics?!
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Nice response.
You should post more often.
Thanks :) I'll try. It's nice to have topics of conversation that interest me and that I feel I have something to contribute.
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There are a couple posted on this board somewhere.... it'd probably be easier to go here......
www.myspace.com/redhot_sara
Great smile!! I don't have a myspace page and can't see any other pics.
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Great smile!! I don't have a myspace page and can't see any other pics.
Thanks...
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Thanks :) I'll try. It's nice to have topics of conversation that interest me and that I feel I have something to contribute.
You see this is what I try to do, I try get topics that make one think. But many times the women don't bite, either out of not wanting to make themselves look bad or being hypocritical.
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Dude,
"Hotties" take changes in relationship status pretty hard. Every day people tell them how great they are and when someone finally gets to know them.... bam!! It's over.
People who get too much attention sometimes forget to work on the inside stuff. There's a chick at the gym a lot of guys are trying to run game on, she's very pretty but not attractive at all. Always has a sour puss, can't say hi, won't let people work in between sets, not pleasant to speak to, etc.... but with a bangin' body someone's always going to put up with her for a short time.
LOL one of the best pieces of advice Ive ever gotten is "no matter how hot she is somebody is tired of putting up with her shit" and its so true.
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My god, hot and smart, well there goes that stereotype....
It's always surprising when you get that combo huh?
Nice post Sara.
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You see this is what I try to do, I try get topics that make one think. But many times the women don't bite, either out of not wanting to make themselves look bad or being hypocritical.
Well, I'm not afraid of voicing my opinion. In fact, I enjoy it. I like intellectually stimulating conversation. I think there may be a third reason for women not jumping into the mix. Some of the guys here can be pretty brutal. Not everyone is okay with dealing with it. I think i got hit pretty hard the first couple days I was posting.... i'm not worried about being insulted, and I don't care if you don't agree with me :)
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Like most people, I would much prefer that my girl cheated with someone who was very attractive. I'd like to think (1) she has some taste and (2) can pull in the hot ones. Actually I'm sure of it. The only question is whether she does ;D
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Well, I'm not afraid of voicing my opinion. In fact, I enjoy it. I like intellectually stimulating conversation. I think there may be a third reason for women not jumping into the mix. Some of the guys here can be pretty brutal. Not everyone is okay with dealing with it. I think i got hit pretty hard the first couple days I was posting.... i'm not worried about being insulted, and I don't care if you don't agree with me :)
Third reason... Men aren't judged, long term, on looks. In the end men are judged on the degree to which we can provide stability.
Parker could have just as easily asked "Would it matter if your signif other cheated w/ a younger person" and gotten the same results. :)
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I'm not saying that I didn't, at some point, do something to allow that to happen. But it's not that there's something wrong with me as a person. While I appreciate the, "hottie," compliments, there is much, much more to me. I've never depended on my looks, or how other see me to get by. Quite the opposite. I"m not perfect, but I am intelligent, focused, loyal, and honest.
Where I do claim culpability is choosing the men that cheated. I knew in my gut that something was off, but I ignored it because that initial infatuation was so amazing.
To say that everyone who is attractive is high-maintence, or somehow lacking substance is an undeserved stereo-type. Get to know the person before coming to any conclusions about who they are.
And your points on people getting by on their looks, therefore not working on themselves as individuals is true for both men and women. I've known more than one man that has been told how good-looking he is, and uses that as a way to justify some truly apprehensible behavior.
Fair enough... I don't know you, and it could just be nature in general.
I wish you well on the next one... There's always a next one.
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Now ladies if you cheated on your boyfriend with the dude in this link, what would your girlfriends say? And to the dudes who have answered, what your boys would say if and you say as well?
http://www.modelmayhem.com/pic.php?pic_id=486a5c31d3590&date=2008-07-01%2012:32:51&id=753156&pid=7366516&the_count=35 (http://www.modelmayhem.com/pic.php?pic_id=486a5c31d3590&date=2008-07-01%2012:32:51&id=753156&pid=7366516&the_count=35)
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That guy's probably seen more cooter than a retired Gynecologist.
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That guy's probably seen more cooter than a retired Gynecologist.
I agree
I was tryin' to post a pic that females would be okay with. Because if i posted a pic of a pretty woman, women are too picky about how pretty another female is...so add a dude that they all would go for (well some would admit to going for)
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I'd say cheating is cheating.
If she just wanted to have a little safe fun with someone else it probably wouldn't be a huge deal.
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I'd say cheating is cheating.
If she just wanted to have a little safe fun with someone else it probably wouldn't be a huge deal.
I guess when you get down to it, yeah, cheating is cheating...
I knew a chica i used to work with, her man was fat slob who worked in a Sub shop (he could eat all day!), She went to a strip club, and I asked her during lunch, what she thought and did she prefer their physiques over slob boy, she said the predicable, "Oh no, I love my man's body, and i didn't find the attractive at all." When i stopped working at that place, every time i came back to visit, she would always be "throwing it" at me. Yet, she was engaged (the rock was pathetic)....
I think attractive dudes are fun for many women, but due to their own self esteem issues, they know that that man is willing to stray....
Now if we can get more women to comment on this matter....
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I guess when you get down to it, yeah, cheating is cheating...
I knew a chica i used to work with, her man was fat slob who worked in a Sub shop (he could eat all day!), She went to a strip club, and I asked her during lunch, what she thought and did she prefer their physiques over slob boy, she said the predicable, "Oh no, I love my man's body, and i didn't find the attractive at all." When i stopped working at that place, every time i came back to visit, she would always be "throwing it" at me. Yet, she was engaged (the rock was pathetic)....
I think attractive dudes are fun for many women, but due to their own self esteem issues, they know that that man is willing to stray....
Now if we can get more women to comment on this matter....
I really don't believe we'll get a lively discussion on how the appearance of one's mate factors into self-esteem, here or anyplace else. :) It's a safer to pretend things like that don't matter, Parker. Wondering how their looks make us feel might lead to speculation about how our appearance affects them on an emotional level. :)
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Now ladies if you cheated on your boyfriend with the dude in this link, what would your girlfriends say? And to the dudes who have answered, what your boys would say if and you say as well?
http://www.modelmayhem.com/pic.php?pic_id=486a5c31d3590&date=2008-07-01%2012:32:51&id=753156&pid=7366516&the_count=35 (http://www.modelmayhem.com/pic.php?pic_id=486a5c31d3590&date=2008-07-01%2012:32:51&id=753156&pid=7366516&the_count=35)
I would say he bears a distinct resemblance to my wife's ex-boyfriend. The guy in the picture is bulkier, but my wife's ex is taller and a better basketball player (he's a pro).