Yes, I've had to involve the landlord, I've even had to call the Police. I'm wasting so much taxpayers money involving every conceiveable social authority. I've been told I can 'do' him for 'Criminal Damage' and for - get this - 'Psychological Injury' (psychological injury being some new sh*t social law-abiding un-enforceable law they've recently come up with).
I will be doing my utmost to protest against his disgusting behaviour as this is no longer an issue about Drum and Bass (sounds like he's winning that computer game), but about his anti-social behaviour. Yet I dislike reporting people. My way forward would be to all get along and treat others as you would wish to be treated. No one does that though these days...
I'm looking to understand the why's and wherefore's of bullying and anti-social behaviour. I need to learn as this has just happened and is new to me. I don't know whether it's 'cos I'm alone and self-sufficient, whether it's because I'm female or whether I appear vulnerable or what. If you've an insight, I need your opinions (the "they love you but can't have you' theory bodes well by me, but seems so horrid and strange). I want to understand.
No, I wasn't bullied at school, I was pretty, clever, fit and funny. I was the sixer of the Pixies in the Brownies, I had every badge. I was popular and I have led a blessed life throughout.
Funny innit, that I thought I'd get old and invisible after approx 40 or 45 and gain a few pounds and let my gray hairs grow in. I had no idea I'd still attract unwanted attention (horrid it is now) at my age.
When I was younger, I could laugh it off and even make the guy feel good after turning him down.
As I aged, I wanted to play scrabble and chat on funny forums on our www and do a bit of gardening and read every book I could lay my hands on, I surely didn't expect to have a stalker. Although he lives upstairs, so he's not exactly stalking, all he has to do his come back to his flat and terrorize me.
I will be pressing charges against him and the 'senior neighbourhood officer' will be here on Tuesday next. She's the one who has told me to get an injunction. Wish me luck...
Oh the trials and tribulations of living in our highly populated London. Oh Ouch.
xL
I still would very much appreciate your insights re: bullying. Please and thanks. Take care.
Oh and one other thing:
Yes, I've been doing my research whilst waiting for a response from you. There's this theory about 'emotional scaffolding'...
So here's me, I had a blessed life with no pain whatsoever, all bliss, kisses and hugs. Fitness and Health and Beauty and Truth and gorgeous people all your life?
Then something horrid and wierd happens and you've no concept of what to think or what to expect. People with 'emotional scaffolding' have lived and learned throughout past pains.
I didn't. I'm new to all this horridness, I'd no idea !
