That is exactly correct. I can look past someone hating me or a friendship gone sour, and objectively admit that someone is NOT a bad person, just chose the wrong path, etc..
And no, actually, I'm not the old boyfriend... I'm a very old friend - someone who used to hang out with both, before either was together. I actually hung out with them together only once or twice because he immediately isolated her from all her friends and acquaintances who tried to help her see that he wasn't a good "romantic choice".
Am I glad I am not in their lives, and haven't been for years now? Yes. But as I said, it was nice to have put all of that stuff aside and had ONE pleasant exchange this past Spring. I could move on completely, from all of the past ugliness the three of us shared as a result of all of us being stubborn and self-righteous. I guess I wrote such a novel because it has truly been weighing on me and I have lost sleep and have felt sadness over it. That's as honest as I can tell it...
