actually someone was spot on here with being an asshole and doing the "asshole" thing overboard (or maybe im just an asshole).
i treated her like shit for like a year, then one of her close relatives got sick and i didnt give a shit and acted like a jackass demanding her spend time with me and not treat that personV (not directly, but implying it).
she also lost her job and i was paying for everything, we faught several times and i told her she can take her shit and go, coz im paying for everything here and its my house (we used to pay 50/50 when she had a job). i was playing it asshole tough guy and honestly deep down i wanted her gone but i didnt have the balls to break it off, in a sense i guess she did me a favor.
when shed call me from the hospital where shed stay for the whole night id speak to her coldly as if i dont give a shit and like i was doing her a favor talking. the whole thing happened right before that person passed away and she told me she was horribly sorry and she will do whatever i want (including the 3 some soneone suggested)
either way, now i suddenly dont want her to go (wtf? i wanted her to go for a long time)
so i guess i had it coming in a sense
ps: this is not bullshit she told me, this is what actually happened