I never said don't count it I'm just saying it's a material fact that should be mentioned if you're going to write a story crowing about secular liberals being selfish. Religious people tithe to their church to support their church which is an instituion that they presumably derive some benefit. By giving to their church they are, in essence, giving to themselves Seems kind of disingenous to lump that in as charitible giving, especially so if you're going to try to claim some moral superiority about it.
Not necessarily. Again, I'll give you the example I mentioned earlier. The school to which I donated what would normally be my tithe isn't associated with my church. Furthermore, it would not benefit me personally (directly or indirectly) as my children are either too old or too young to attend it, anyway.
I simply realize how valuable a Christian education has been to me and the sacrifices my mother made to keep me in Christian school for nearly all of my childhood. IF that school can help some kids the way that my old school helped me, I'm all for giving them a hand.