Getbig.com: American Bodybuilding, Fitness and Figure
Getbig Main Boards => General Topics => Topic started by: Cap on January 28, 2007, 08:37:51 PM
-
nannies?? God forbid they watch their own kids? I mean if you are an athlete wife, what the hell do you need a nanny for? That should be deducted from the eventual alimony.
-
i would LOVE a nanny. Raising a baby is the hardest job ever. I've worked landscaping in the florida sun for a few summers. piece of cake compared to a baby.
-
i would LOVE a nanny. Raising a baby is the hardest job ever. I've worked landscaping in the florida sun for a few summers. piece of cake compared to a baby.
but they have nothing else to do....nothing...they dream up the next million dollar head fuck
-
i would LOVE a nanny. Raising a baby is the hardest job ever. I've worked landscaping in the florida sun for a few summers. piece of cake compared to a baby.
{giggle} Oh Rob, ...hang in there. Just think, in another few months, ...he'll be crawling, and able to get into things.
Then when he approaches 2, he'll be able to get into cupboards, up stairs, open the front door and run outside without you even knowing it. Enjoy the relative quiet while you can.... things only heat up... uh, ...get better from here. ;D
-
{giggle} Oh Rob, ...hang in there. Just think, in another few months, ...he'll be crawling, and able to get into things.
Then when he approaches 2, he'll be able to get into cupboards, up stairs, open the front door and run outside without you even knowing it. Enjoy the relative quiet while you can.... things only heat up... uh, ...get better from here. ;D
HAHAHA, ain't that the truth............
I swear to god, never a dull moment...........
-
HAHAHA, ain't that the truth............
I swear to god, never a dull moment...........
Can't take your eyes off them for 2 seconds... not even to pee.
One trick that worked real well for us, was to impress upon Crystal the importance of not going outside without her shoes. {phew} It bought us a few seconds anyway, ...because before she'd run outside, ...she'd always stop to put her shoes on first. Before she would have been out the door and down the street before we knew what happened, ...now we've slowed her down a bit. And you can't chase them either... it only makes them run, ...and they don't always look to see where they're running to... so you gotta coax them back inside somehow or treat 'em like a butterfly and make them come to you. {lol} btw - Don't for a minute think a deadbolt is gonna stop them either. Our precious little gem figured out how to trip the deadbolt... even though she still can't reach it. It's gonna be a blast when Candy is old enough to be her partner in crime. I think my sister's head will explode just trying to keep ahead of them. {rotflol} just picturing it.
-
Puh-leaze. Complaining about a baby? Man babies are a piece of cake. Wait till they start eating all your food, asking for and spending your money, and walking around like they own the place. :)
-
Puh-leaze. Complaining about a baby? Man babies are a piece of cake. Wait till they start eating all your food, asking for and spending your money, and walking around like they own the place. :)
Shhhhhhhhh... you're gonna scare the guy. Soon you'll have him trying to put the little guy back in the womb.
-
nannies?? God forbid they watch their own kids? I mean if you are an athlete wife, what the hell do you need a nanny for? That should be deducted from the eventual alimony.
I'm sure glad my mom raised me and not some nannie or daycare.
-
I'm sure glad my mom raised me and not some nannie or daycare.
Yea look how good you turned out to be ::)
-
but they have nothing else to do....nothing...they dream up the next million dollar head f**k
Shopping for next pair Manolos. Oh, they just opened a new D&C store!
-
Benfun7,
some of us have no choice but daycare. I waited till now to do it, (she is 17 months) but the time has come for her to be social with other children. She is an only child and I don't plan on having anymore. She loves it. She dances and plays with other children who are a little bit older than her. Now she only really wants to sit at her big girl table and eat (she does it at daycare). She is learning to share things, I didn't think she would ever share her elmo knows your name doll, but she does. A few times she does;nt but I or daycare lady say now Jackie you have to share like they share with you and so far it has worked. I think it is hard to find the right daycare. First place I went to, 3 dogs in the house (dont know how they are with kids). 2 older kids outside (ages 7) waiting for the bus and no one watching them. Besides there was only one adult and there were 7 kids (5 kids per one adult in the state of Ct). I did my research and spoke about it to my psychology teacher, right now the best daycare (for her age)is for social skills nothing to do with abc's and 123's. That I will look for when she turns around 3. Everything has pros and cons. A good thing is the daycare she is in, isnt a big place it's a private home. Less likely to get sick alot. Now my hairdresser who spends 275 a week in a big daycare plus food, her 8 month old has gotten 6 ear infections and 3 colds in 7 months. the baby now hows tubes in her ears to cut back on the ear infections. Also, my daycare is only 120 a week, she provides foods and snacks. Hell last week she took 3 kids to chuck-e-cheese. Also, the daycare is around the corner from my dads office and he and my uncle can be at her house in 2 seconds if anything happens (god forbid). I know the house is safe as she rents from my uncle and dad. It does suck and I miss her like crazy but she does have a lot of fun. When I walk up to the door I hear and see her playing and stuff. Last week she was holding another girls hand dancing. She wouldnt have that at home.
-
being a parent is hard. even if you were financially set with ten million in the bank, it's a 24/7 job, and no one can work 24/7. They say it takes a villiage to raise a baby, and I believe it. I try to spend the day giving him as much stimulus as possible. Right now we're watching baby einstein in the bouncer, working on repeating "hiiiii. hiiiiii. hiiiiiiiiiii" 10,000 times. ALso I am tasing him with the smell of a poptart.
anyway, i love visitng family, playgrounds, anywhere where he can say hi and meet people and watch. my wife and i are lucky to be doing a dual-parent household (rare these days!) and it's still a beast to do. I watch him all day while she's at work, we do dinner/family time, then I start working in the evening and she plays with him/crashes early.
24/7... alone... oh man, that would be brutal.
-
As much as parents love their kids, ...they do need a break, and they do need adult conversation.
-
getbig is actually good for this. a nice political debate where i get beach bum to reveal he believes Bush knew and let it happen... or showing Mr I's inability to defend Bush's stealing the 2000 vote from 22,000 black voters in FL... times like these keep the wit sharp.
-
My Gf and me watch Orange County Housewife's ATM, I'm amazed at how fucked up these families really are, it's funny but at the same time I really think, that living in such an environment must be shit to say the least.
-
I think day care is good after a while but if the girl has nothing else to do, then she shouldn't need a nanny. Women in past generations didn't need them. Day care is good when they need to start developing social skills. And day care is different than having a live in nanny or a nanny there all the time. These women drop their kid off and never do anything with them. So hwo is that good for the kid?
-
People in past generations didn't need elevators, or automobiles, or pre-sliced bread, or even weight training.
Doesn't mean they should be done away with. I also think you are succumbing to a false impression that rich wives have nothing to do. Throughout the centuries that life has existed on this planet, the wealthy have always had help. That's not likely to change anytime soon.
-
People in past generations didn't need elevators, or automobiles, or pre-sliced bread, or even weight training.
Doesn't mean they should be done away with. I also think you are succumbing to a false impression that rich wives have nothing to do. Throughout the centuries that life has existed on this planet, the wealthy have always had help. That's not likely to change anytime soon.
I'm sorry, shopping is a full time job and so is spending their rich hubby's money. Quite tiring. ::) Plus those nail salons do get lines sometimes. ::)
-
I'm sorry, shopping is a full time job and so is spending their rich hubby's money. Quite tiring. ::) Plus those nail salons do get lines sometimes. ::)
Like I said...you're succumbing to a false impression. How many wealthy wives do you know?
I know plenty, ...and i can assure you their lives are not all shopping and nail salons.
But that's ok...enjoy the fictionalized, glamourized world the film industry has fed you. It's your reality.
-
I'm sorry, shopping is a full time job and so is spending their rich hubby's money. Quite tiring. ::) Plus those nail salons do get lines sometimes. ::)
Their husbands like it, which is why they choose women with the 3H's, and ply them with luxuries, clothes, jewellry etc... if they wanted something different, it would be easy to find.
Not all rich women sit around at home. Some spend a lot of time doing charitable committee work, etc. Also, taking care of a kid is a 24/7 job. Many people who can afford it get extra help or live in nanny for a couple of years so no one goes bonkers.
-
Like I said...you're succumbing to a false impression. How many wealthy wives do you know?
I know plenty, ...and i can assure you their lives are not all shopping and nail salons.
But that's ok...enjoy the fictionalized, glamourized world the film industry has fed you. It's your reality.
I know rich people too and these women don't do anything. What is there for them to do? Honestly? Please tell me what consumes their time.
Their husbands like it, which is why they choose women with the 3H's, and ply them with luxuries, clothes, jewellry etc... if they wanted something different, it would be easy to find.
I think they could find that person but that same girl would see they could get pampered and want more. How many rich wives work? Joining the PTA, give me a break.
-
My Gf and me watch Orange County Housewife's ATM, I'm amazed at how fucked up these families really are, it's funny but at the same time I really think, that living in such an environment must be shit to say the least.
i watched that show yesterday and wanted to strangle everyone on it, there was a spanish looking chick around 25 who got involved with this 40ish yuppie looking guy and the guy told her to quit her job and take care of the house so she did and now she's complaining that she has no independence, hahahaha, then people wonder why most guys hate women.
-
i watched that show yesterday and wanted to strangle everyone on it, there was a spanish looking chick around 25 who got involved with this 40ish yuppie looking guy and the guy told her to quit her job and take care of the house so she did and now she's complaining that she has no independence, hahahaha, then people wonder why most guys hate women.
I will honestly not watch the show again, it's either quit or heartattack.
It's just not what I believe life should be like.
have you seen the one were they look for the sons (baseball player) colleague? The Mother said she could care less what the teachers or the class would be like, all she worries is that the son is getting the best possible start in baseball.
What is that dumb sob supposted to do if he ever drops out of Baseball? If he ever makes it that far?
It's sad to see...
-
I know rich people too and these women don't do anything. What is there for them to do? Honestly? Please tell me what consumes their time.
I think they could find that person but that same girl would see they could get pampered and want more. How many rich wives work? Joining the PTA, give me a break.
Well in the case of Donald Trump, Ivana was refurburshing the Trump hotels.
In the case of Leona Helmsly ...same thing. In the case of my friend Teresa, it was overseeing the operations of over 120 muffin franchises across Canada. I don't know what Belinda Gates does all day, but I strongly suspect it's NOT shopping. And if you think Sam Walton's widow spent 24/7 visiting shopping boutiques, and hair & nail salons... you clearly have never seen her.
Cap86, you're engaged right now huh? In a few years, after you're married, and your wife gives birth to a child, and has to spend the entire day running around looking after that child... ask yourself how much money you would pay to get her some help so she's not completely exhausted 24/7 ...and so your sex life can go back to normal.
And why would you resent how a rich couple decides to spend their money. It's their money not yours.
And if they want to spend it on a nanny, what the heck is it to you? They're living their life, and providing employment to others, and contributing to the economy. And if a woman spends all day power shopping and grooming herself, at least she giving her hubby something enticing and appealing to come home to rather than a tired worn out fat slob too busy and too haggard to run a brush through her hair or wear anything other than sweats with baby vomit down the front.
-
Well in the case of Donald Trump, Ivana was refurburshing the Trump hotels.
In the case of Leona Helmsly ...same thing. In the case of my friend Teresa, it was overseeing the operations of over 120 muffin franchises across Canada. I don't know what Belinda Gates does all day, but I strongly suspect it's NOT shopping. And if you think Sam Walton's widow spent 24/7 visiting shopping boutiques, and hair & nail salons... you clearly have never seen her.
Cap86, you're engaged right now huh? In a few years, after you're married, and your wife gives birth to a child, and has to spend the entire day running around looking after that child... ask yourself how much money you would pay to get her some help so she's not completely exhausted 24/7 ...and so your sex life can go back to normal.
And why would you resent how a rich couple decides to spend their money. It's their money not yours.
And if they want to spend it on a nanny, what the heck is it to you? They're living their life, and providing employment to others, and contributing to the economy. And if a woman spends all day power shopping and grooming herself, at least she giving her hubby something enticing and appealing to come home to rather than a tired worn out fat slob too busy and too haggard to run a brush through her hair or wear anything other than sweats with baby vomit down the front.
A woman doing something with decoration, what a stretch.
Mrs. Gates actually helps run the company and works like a normal person. If I am not mistaken, she had to take over the company because of issues with Microsoft being a monopoly.
My kids will go into preschool and day care eventually but I will not have a nanny go to my house and pay out the ass for that plus my gf does not want to sit around and do nothing. Unlike these women she actually wants to have life that is not defined by me and what I do, which I have the utmost respect for. In fact, I would never marry a woman who didnt want to work. It would be that much easier to get ass raped in a divorce. In fact, I might still get a prenup. I dunno yet but my money will be mine and I plan on stashing a shit load of it away where nobody can touch it except me. When you create a carefree lifestyle for these wmen they get: bored and complain that life is hard, bored and they cheat or bored and they divorce you to live a single rich life.
It's my opinion and I feel sorry for these guys. I would never subject myself to these women. If I was rich I would tell her to work and if she didn't want to that I wouldn't support he lifestyle. Period. And women wonder why men think they areleeches trying to get guys with money.
-
A woman doing something with decoration, what a stretch.
Mrs. Gates actually helps run the company and works like a normal person. If I am not mistaken, she had to take over the company because of issues with Microsoft being a monopoly.
My kids will go into preschool and day care eventually but I will not have a nanny go to my house and pay out the ass for that plus my gf does not want to sit around and do nothing. Unlike these women she actually wants to have life that is not defined by me and what I do, which I have the utmost respect for. In fact, I would never marry a woman who didnt want to work. It would be that much easier to get ass raped in a divorce. In fact, I might still get a prenup. I dunno yet but my money will be mine and I plan on stashing a shit load of it away where nobody can touch it except me. When you create a carefree lifestyle for these wmen they get: bored and complain that life is hard, bored and they cheat or bored and they divorce you to live a single rich life.
It's my opinion and I feel sorry for these guys. I would never subject myself to these women. If I was rich I would tell her to work and if she didn't want to that I wouldn't support he lifestyle. Period. And women wonder why men think they areleeches trying to get guys with money.
For some reason you seem to think these guys are somehow better than the women you speak of. They aren't. They want what they get, and they have no problem paying for it and buying it. Some of the older ones just want a companion who is excellent in the sack... and if they have the money to spend on that, so what. Some of them spend crap loads of money marrying these women, and then they STILL need mistresses on the side and are willing to throw barrells of cash at them too. Bottom line, no trophy wife/gd is going to wind up with a sensitive philosopher.
-
Benfun7,
some of us have no choice but daycare. I waited till now to do it, (she is 17 months) but the time has come for her to be social with other children. She is an only child and I don't plan on having anymore. She loves it. She dances and plays with other children who are a little bit older than her. Now she only really wants to sit at her big girl table and eat (she does it at daycare). She is learning to share things, I didn't think she would ever share her elmo knows your name doll, but she does. A few times she does;nt but I or daycare lady say now Jackie you have to share like they share with you and so far it has worked. I think it is hard to find the right daycare. First place I went to, 3 dogs in the house (dont know how they are with kids). 2 older kids outside (ages 7) waiting for the bus and no one watching them. Besides there was only one adult and there were 7 kids (5 kids per one adult in the state of Ct). I did my research and spoke about it to my psychology teacher, right now the best daycare (for her age)is for social skills nothing to do with abc's and 123's. That I will look for when she turns around 3. Everything has pros and cons. A good thing is the daycare she is in, isnt a big place it's a private home. Less likely to get sick alot. Now my hairdresser who spends 275 a week in a big daycare plus food, her 8 month old has gotten 6 ear infections and 3 colds in 7 months. the baby now hows tubes in her ears to cut back on the ear infections. Also, my daycare is only 120 a week, she provides foods and snacks. Hell last week she took 3 kids to chuck-e-cheese. Also, the daycare is around the corner from my dads office and he and my uncle can be at her house in 2 seconds if anything happens (god forbid). I know the house is safe as she rents from my uncle and dad. It does suck and I miss her like crazy but she does have a lot of fun. When I walk up to the door I hear and see her playing and stuff. Last week she was holding another girls hand dancing. She wouldnt have that at home.
You sound like a really good mom. :)
-
benfun7..I do try. I know I make mistakes hell all parents do. So far she has pretty good days at daycare, it's only been a week. A few times she has a fit in the am's but I think she realizes this is a permanet thing and mommy isnt around her 24/7. But the best part of my day is when I come to get her, she runs to me saying mama..
-
For some reason you seem to think these guys are somehow better than the women you speak of. They aren't. They want what they get, and they have no problem paying for it and buying it. Some of the older ones just want a companion who is excellent in the sack... and if they have the money to spend on that, so what. Some of them spend crap loads of money marrying these women, and then they STILL need mistresses on the side and are willing to throw barrells of cash at them too. Bottom line, no trophy wife/gd is going to wind up with a sensitive philosopher.
Oh I think it's sad that women go for guys like this because you are right, they have an ego. If they didn't have $ they would be jerking off on Getbig the internet of hot women. It's sad really. I know if I were in a rich position I would be very very selective of who I screwed/married.
-
she runs to me saying mama..
Hell, i'm 19 and I still do that. ;D
-
I know if I were in a rich position I would be very very selective of who I screwed/married.
Man I think you should do that rich or poor. lol ;D
-
Hell, i'm 19 and I still do that. ;D
lmaoooooooooooooooooooo I think that is cute....
-
A woman doing something with decoration, what a stretch.
Ivana did a heckuva lot more than mere decoration.
The place was condemned. She oversaw the entire project from top to bottom, from gutting it to restoring it to become a jewel landmark within the Trump family of properties. She brought it in ahead of schedule and underbudget. Of everyone on the trump payroll at the time, Ivana was Donald's greatest and most profitable asset.
Mrs. Gates actually helps run the company and works like a normal person. If I am not mistaken, she had to take over the company because of issues with Microsoft being a monopoly.
As is typical in many family run business empires. Just because the wife doesn't get the publicity, doesn't mean she's sitting home eating bon bons. In addition, you fail to consider, quite often these women are quite literally 'the wind beneath the wings' of many a successful person. They are a team, without which the husband quite often is unable to function. No one ever does it alone. For everyone with fame, glory, riches, success etc., there is an entire team whose effforts contributed towards that. If you think the contributions of lesser known, or lesser applauded members of that team amount to nothing, ...try pulling their contribution and see what results. You could have the fastest ferrarri on the planet, ...but pull the spark plug and that car ain't going nowhere.
My kids will go into preschool and day care eventually but I will not have a nanny go to my house and pay out the ass for that
If you were rich, ...it wouldn't be paying out the ass now would it?
plus my gf does not want to sit around and do nothing. Unlike these women she actually wants to have life that is not defined by me and what I do, which I have the utmost respect for. In fact, I would never marry a woman who didnt want to work.
Then why the hostility for those who choose differently for their lives. Must everyone whose life has nothing to do with yours make the same choices you would for their lives?
It would be that much easier to get ass raped in a divorce. In fact, I might still get a prenup. I dunno yet but my money will be mine and I plan on stashing a shit load of it away where nobody can touch it except me.
Good Luck if you go that route. Most states invalidate pre-nups signed without full disclosure. that's bargaining in bad faith and it's the quickest route to getting a pre-nup invalidated, and towards sodomization in a divorce... but hey... some people need to find out the hard way.
When you create a carefree lifestyle for these wmen they get: bored and complain that life is hard, bored and they cheat or bored and they divorce you to live a single rich life.
Why would you even marry a woman with such character flaws to begin with? ::)
It's my opinion and I feel sorry for these guys. I would never subject myself to these women. If I was rich I would tell her to work and if she didn't want to that I wouldn't support he lifestyle. Period. And women wonder why men think they areleeches trying to get guys with money.
Well if you would never subject yourself to these women, then you have nothing to worry about and certainly nothing to bitch about. Why are you getting upset over someone else's lifestyle that apparently works for them, and quite frankly has nothing to do with you?
-
Hell, i'm 19 and I still do that. ;D
;D
-
Jag, seriously when I want your opinion I'll let you know. You don't read everything obviously and go on the attact. I agreed about Mrs. Gates. She does alot and liek I said runs half the company. I can state the obvious if I choose and can point out that it is a waste of money to leave your child being raised by someone else, usally and illegal or some teen or early twenty year old, when mothers are the "better nurturers"? Tell me that. These bitches just want to be pampered and want zero responsibility. Period. Again, why do you think men don't take many women seriously, despite the accomplishments of many. I'll answer, because of bitches like the ones I describe. Thanks for playing.
BTW, I will take all necessary steps on the prenup to not pay and I will keep everything that I want to keep in my name, everything. Add in that fact that I will use the "Mr. Intensone" tactic in the case of divorce proceedings.
-
Jag, seriously when I want your opinion I'll let you know. You don't read everything obviously and go on the attact.
How were my comments an attack? I simply raised some points and asked you a few question?
I agreed about Mrs. Gates. She does alot and liek I said runs half the company.
I noticed that. I simply pointed out that quite often rich wives who utilize live in nannies quite often participate in the empire regardless of the size, and regardless of the credit they get for doing so.
I can state the obvious if I choose and can point out that it is a waste of money to leave your child being raised by someone else, usally and illegal or some teen or early twenty year old, when mothers are the "better nurturers"? Tell me that. These bitches just want to be pampered and want zero responsibility. Period.
I doubt 'Bitches' as you describe would be capable of nurturing or raising kids to have proper values would they? In the case of self-centered, narcissistic bitches who only want to be pampered with zero responsibility, I would argue that money spent on a nanny would then infact be very well invested then wouldn't it?
Again, why do you think men don't take many women seriously, despite the accomplishments of many. I'll answer, because of bitches like the ones I describe. Thanks for playing.
Because they're too blinded by fear of the bitches you describe to open their eyes to reality. They're so focussed on what they DON'T want, they gravitate directly towards it. It's like watching a bad car accident on the side of the road. If you're not careful, you end up steering directly into it. The problem I have with your initial comment is the assumption that all rich wives are "bitches", or that their financial status was achieved through marriage. You fail to take into account the couple that worked together to achieve that wealth, or the women who achieve the wealth on their own... or the women who works behind the scenes to keep the empire going. Then there are the wives whose lifestyles or rather whose roles as wives to certain men, require far more of them than is required of the typical North American housewife, and as a result does not have as much time to devote to her children because her role as wife interferes. Having the financial resources to bridge that gap enables her to do so. There's nothing wrong with live-in nannies. Women have been using this support system for years. In many cases, they're called family members, ie: grandparents, older brothers & sisters etc., Wealthy wives can simply afford to add additional members of the family and put them on the payroll. Hiring a single mother as a live-in feeds a number of birds with one worm. It provides stable employment & housing for that single mother, a trusted support for the wife, as well as social interaction, peers, playmates, and new siblings for the kids in both families... which can only benefit their social, emotional, and psychological development.
You have labelled ALL wealthy wives as lazy, selfish narcissistic, sloths with nothing to do but pamper themselves. So in answer to your question, the reason why men like you don't take women seriously has more to do with your own egos and your own myopia than it does with anything else.
BTW, I will take all necessary steps on the prenup to not pay and I will keep everything that I want to keep in my name, everything. Add in that fact that I will use the "Mr. Intensone" tactic in the case of divorce proceedings.
You're young still so you still have room to grow and learn. Good Luck to you in your ...umm ...marriage.
-
I highly doubt you will find a rich wife who is going to want to work and actually raise her kids when hubby has alot of money and she doesn't HAVE to do anything. Why would these women want to do anything? "Our egos" as you so eloquently put it are nonexistent when a woman wants to be pampered and treat like the queen she thinks she is. Gold diggers like these do not want to have responsibility and take advantage of wealth that is not theirs to begin with.
Oh and I have more knowledge than you think and give credit for. I would sooner move to non-extradition country than pay an ex with my earnings and give up property/money that belongs to me solely. If things are bought with my money I will keep record of everything and she will get nothing that was bought with MY money. Joint buys are different. I just assume give those up and never hear about it. Add into it that I will keep cash reserves that no wife of mine will ever see.
-
I highly doubt you will find a rich wife who is going to want to work and actually raise her kids when hubby has alot of money and she doesn't HAVE to do anything. Why would these women want to do anything?
Chris, there is such a thing as a desire to achieve and contribute, not to mention a sense of accomplishment.
One of my girlfriend's was raised as your typical italian princess. I'm sure you're familiar with what I'm refering to. From day one she had a silver spoon in her mouth, ...the best of everything. At 18, she was married well (an arranged marriage to a fabulous man whom she grew to love and respect). She's never HAD to work a day in her life, ...but she does. Hubby keeps insisting she kick back and take it easy. She won't. She has an inner drive to both contribute, and achieve, and be more than just so & so's wife, or so & so's mother. She went from being so & so's daughter, to so & so's wife, then she became so & so's mother, ...but she's never been just her. She prefers to define herself as more than just a wife & mother. It truly depends on the person, what drives them, what fires them up, ...and self motivation and inner drive is not always dependant upon financial status.
True story: When they started the muffin franchises, she ran everything. She did it all from design to dealing with the building contractors, hiring, staffing, costing, merchandising, marketing, pretty much everything. All hubby wanted to do was be in the kitchen and bake muffins. His exact words "I don't wanna be bothered with anything, I just wanna bake muffins... you handle everything else". And that's exactly what she did. At the grand openining, everyone, including all the family members congratulated him on what a fabulous job HE had done putting the business together. His contribution... he stayed in the back and baked muffins. His contribution to the entire thing could quite easily have been done by a $5.oo/hr. teenager, ...but in the end, the credit for everything was given to him. The same with their pizzeria as well.
"Our egos" as you so eloquently put it are nonexistent when a woman wants to be pampered and treat like the queen she thinks she is. Gold diggers like these do not want to have responsibility and take advantage of wealth that is not theirs to begin with.
So why deal with a gold digger? There are those who are specifically looking for gold diggers, and there are gold diggers specifically looking for sugar daddies and sugar mommas. Let them gravitate to each other, and be happy.
Oh and I have more knowledge than you think and give credit for. I would sooner move to non-extradition country than pay an ex with my earnings and give up property/money that belongs to me solely. If things are bought with my money I will keep record of everything and she will get nothing that was bought with MY money. Joint buys are different. I just assume give those up and never hear about it. Add into it that I will keep cash reserves that no wife of mine will ever see.
Quoted for posterity. Feel free to visit back in a few years to shake your head and marvel at your own words. :)
-
I will stick to my guns Jag. Trust me. You bring up some good points and I accept them. I don't deal with gold diggers so I'm fine. My point from the beginning was a matter of necessity and lack of responsiblity on the part of MOST (not all) of these women. Maybe I did not state that well in the beginning but that was the point. Oh and trust me, I will not regret my words on divorce and securing my assets but thanks for thinking of me. ;)
-
I will stick to my guns Jag. Trust me. You bring up some good points and I accept them. I don't deal with gold diggers so I'm fine. My point from the beginning was a matter of necessity and lack of responsiblity on the part of MOST (not all) of these women. Maybe I did not state that well in the beginning but that was the point. Oh and trust me, I will not regret my words on divorce and securing my assets but thanks for thinking of me. ;)
If so, then your wife probably should never quit her job to stay home with the kids. You should both work and do the nanny thing. That way, no one gets screwed in the event of divorce.
-
If so, then your wife probably should never quit her job to stay home with the kids. You should both work and do the nanny thing. That way, no one gets screwed in the event of divorce.
That's the plan. ;D I would never want to stay home and my gf has no plans of it either. We want to both be established, especially before kids. I will use the grandma resource first and then use day care after a couple of years. It will be worth it and day care is cheaper than home nanny care. Honestly, I think I would go insane if she were home all the time and I think working alot will be good to keep me sane. ;D
-
That's the plan. ;D I would never want to stay home and my gf has no plans of it either. We want to both be established, especially before kids. I will use the grandma resource first and then use day care after a couple of years. It will be worth it and day care is cheaper than home nanny care. Honestly, I think I would go insane if she were home all the time and I think working alot will be good to keep me sane. ;D
Nice! She finally gets peace and then... back to the colic and diapers. ;D
Thought: Here's probably THE WORST EVER case of a rich bitch gone VERY VERY wrong. But she only decided to turn herself into catwoman AFTER the husband left her for a younger woman. So whose fault is that really? ;)
http://galleryoftheabsurd.typepad.com/14/2005/08/jocelyn_wildens.html
-
Nice! She finally gets peace and then... back to the colic and diapers. ;D
Thought: Here's probably THE WORST EVER case of a rich bitch gone VERY VERY wrong. But she only decided to turn herself into catwoman AFTER the husband left her for a younger woman. So whose fault is that really? ;)
http://galleryoftheabsurd.typepad.com/14/2005/08/jocelyn_wildens.html
Well, my mom is nosy and intrusive enough, why not let her do it with the grandkids around. ;D If not then I will just deal with it when I am off and use day care for a couple days a week.
-
Well, my mom is nosy and intrusive enough, why not let her do it with the grandkids around. ;D If not then I will just deal with it when I am off and use day care for a couple days a week.
Hypothetically speaking, what if your wife made soooooo much cash she could afford to keep you at home to take care of the children and keep you in the style to which you wish to be accustomed. Would you do it? Would you still have the same feelings about what's yours and hers?
-
Hypothetically speaking, what if your wife made soooooo much cash she could afford to keep you at home to take care of the children and keep you in the style to which you wish to be accustomed. Would you do it? Would you still have the same feelings about what's yours and hers?
Aboslutely. I would go nuts being at home. I really would. I don't have ADD but I really like to always be doing something active. That's why my chosen profession will fit me perfectly. Being in the house would drive me nuts. I tip my hats to stay at home moms. Let's put it this way. If I was married to a celeb or even if my gfmade millions, I would work plain and simple. The thing about what's mine is that if she bought me gifts, they are mine but I am not a moocher. I don't ask for anything now nor do I expect things in life. I'm happy dressing down and being comfortable. A wife beater and a pair of shorts and sandals is good for me in the SUMMA. ;D I'm not fancy so I would expect or really want fancy stuff.
-
Aboslutely. I would go nuts being at home. I really would. I don't have ADD but I really like to always be doing something active. That's why my chosen profession will fit me perfectly. Being in the house would drive me nuts. I tip my hats to stay at home moms. Let's put it this way. If I was married to a celeb or even if my gfmade millions, I would work plain and simple. The thing about what's mine is that if she bought me gifts, they are mine but I am not a moocher. I don't ask for anything now nor do I expect things in life. I'm happy dressing down and being comfortable. A wife beater and a pair of shorts and sandals is good for me in the SUMMA. ;D I'm not fancy so I would expect or really want fancy stuff.
You're what is called in some circles... a ketch! ;)