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Getbig Female Info Boards => Open Talk for Girl Discussion => Topic started by: Nordic Superman on November 25, 2007, 04:41:44 AM
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Feel a bit gay posting this but I need some advice with the women :-X
Basically last two times I've been out on a night out with the lads I've managed to meet 2 women on each occasion (at the displeasure of my mates).
The first one I is a nice girl, problem is, the one I met most recently blows my mind. She's educated, attractive and just does it for me.
I've only been out with her a few times, including last night. We went to a swanky bar in Manchester then went to her house to watch a movie :)
I don't realistically believe I stand a chance with hitting up a relationship with her because she's studying to join the military among other reasons such as her being from a wealthy family. I've already lied to her about my educational credentials (pathetic I know :-\), my only excuse is I was pissed at the time.
I'm very monogamous and I don't know how to handle the situation.
I'm meeting the other girl tonight for a meal, so that's 2 nights on the run with 2 different women. As gay as this sounds I almost feel a little ill this morning :-X
Ladies, any suggestions on how to handle this?
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That's an easy one. Do them both at the same time. You'll feel less guilty. :)
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That's an easy one. Do them both at the same time. You'll feel less guilty. :)
No mate, that's exactly what I don't want to do.
The date last night went too well. I like the girl, it's just that the otherone is amazing. I'll admit I'm too much of a coward to tell the other I just want to be friends :-[
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Go with the one with the better ass.
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Go with the one with the better ass.
Well I've already got my mind set on one, and she does indeed have the best arse.
I need help on how to handle the situation.
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You're still pretty early on in terms of a relationship with either one of them, so I wouldn't worry too much about that. Unless you have already made a commitment to be monogamous with one or the other, I would date both of them for a little while and get to know them better. Maybe you should tell them that you are dating other people and see if either one of them acts unhappy about that?
If you still end up liking the second one that much better after a few more dates or whatever, then talk to her about the possibility of a relationship and come clean with her about whatever it is you lied to her about. :P
If it doesn't look promising and you still like the first girl, then at least you got backup lols...depending on whether or not you are interested in having a relationship with her. But at that point, you should come clean with her too and tell her what your intentions are.
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Date them both variety is the spice of life! When the hot one finally gives in you can get rid of the other one. No need to feel guilty until your married!
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Thanks for the input ripitupbaby, I'll think about what you've said.
Humungous, problem is, I think I must be genetically programmed to feel guilty or something cause I can't help it >:(
You see I don't really like the lying part. I've already had to lie to them both about what I'm upto so that I could see the other one.
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Thanks for the input ripitupbaby, I'll think about what you've said.
Humungous, problem is, I think I must be genetically programmed to feel guilty or something cause I can't help it >:(
You see I don't really like the lying part. I've already had to lie to them both about what I'm upto so that I could see the other one.
First, stop lying! You'll only have to lie more to cover them! Plus when you do finally get caught, you'll probably be dumped. :( Like rip said you should tell them both that you're "kind of" seeing another person and see how they react.
Also, you say you lied to the hot one about your education. You should come clean w/that immediately IMO. That thing could mushroom to an unfixable state. What did you actually say? Unless you stated an all out lie, we could possibly help you "Clintonize" it and it would be true!
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First, stop lying! You'll only have to lie more to cover them! Plus when you do finally get caught, you'll probably be dumped. :( Like rip said you should tell them both that you're "kind of" seeing another person and see how they react.
Also, you say you lied to the hot one about your education. You should come clean w/that immediately IMO. That thing could mushroom to an unfixable state. What did you actually say? Unless you stated an all out lie, we could possibly help you "Clintonize" it and it would be true!
Bacially I lied about my grades at college and university.
She told me the night we met she went to private schools since nursery through to college, I was honestly humbled and intimidated and lied by inflating up my grades :-X
I don't think it's possible for me to tell them I'm seeing other people. Women intimidate the hell out of me, I'm such a fucking coward it's unbelieveable.
You're probably right about the mushrooming thing. I keep running it through my head if she ever met my family and it came out she'd be like "WTF"?
I haven't tried to have a relationship for a while so I'm rusty as hell and telling more lies than pinocchio :'(
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LOL the lies you have told are not THAT bad...at least not yet! As long as you don't let it get any worse!
You don't necessarily HAVE to tell them that you are dating other people, until it gets to the point with one or both of them where that is an important issue, like if they express that they want you to be monogamous with them and/or if they ask you about it (in which case you do not want to lie! ;)) If I went out with a guy a few times, I would not assume that I am the only one he is dating unless he told me that. And if he didn't tell me that, I would only ask if it got to the point where I cared if he was monogamous or not.
And if it gets to that point, then you should be beyond the point where you are intimidated or shy or whatever in front of them...you can't build a successful long-term relationship with ANYONE like that. You have to get to the point where you are comfortable with them and feel like you can talk openly to them about this shit.
If it doesn't get to that point, then it's nothing to worry about, as it can't be much of a relationship. know what I'm sayin'? :)
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Thanks ripitupbaby.
I just met up with the one I think is awesome again. She's immense, I feel like i'm back at school.
I told her I thought she was awesome and that she intimidated me, she kinda understood but probs thinks I'm a big pansy now... :-X
The friends I hang out in CA when I'm living there do that dating more than one women thing. It just seems very alien to me.
You're right about acting like a pansy, I think it's just cause I haven't wanted a relationship to happen for a long time.
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Bacially I lied about my grades at college and university.
She told me the night we met she went to private schools since nursery through to college, I was honestly humbled and intimidated and lied by inflating up my grades :-X
I guess I don't understand why you'd even talk about grades?
I agree w/rip though, lying about grades isn't anything irreparable.
I told her I thought she was awesome and that she intimidated me, she kinda understood but probs thinks I'm a big pansy now... :-X
Seems like telling her the above would take guts and also be flattering to her. But make sure you exude some confidence. Then she'll think you're charming :)
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Seems like telling her the above would take guts and also be flattering to her. But make sure you exude some confidence. Then she'll think you're charming :)
Indeed! 8)
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I guess I don't understand why you'd even talk about grades?
I agree w/rip though, lying about grades isn't anything irreparable.
Dunno, it just came up, I was put on the spot and drunk.
I won't see her again till after Christmas now, I have to goto India for two weeks and she's spending Xmas in South Africa.
Talk about shit timing to meet someone I think is awesome.
More proof the God you pray to doesn't exist Stella! :P
Anyhow, thanks for all the help ladies, I appreciate it.
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First, stop lying! You'll only have to lie more to cover them! Plus when you do finally get caught, you'll probably be dumped. :( Like rip said you should tell them both that you're "kind of" seeing another person and see how they react.
Also, you say you lied to the hot one about your education. You should come clean w/that immediately IMO. That thing could mushroom to an unfixable state. What did you actually say? Unless you stated an all out lie, we could possibly help you "Clintonize" it and it would be true!
STella,
'Clintonizing' isn't a problem. It's when the 'Bushsh*t' starts flying when all hell breaks loose. ;)
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lie about grades....why? To impress? who wants to date a nerd?
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I just want to be friends :-[
homo
;D jk
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lie about grades....why? To impress? who wants to date a nerd?
maybe he really got A's and B's and claims to have gotten C's and D's.
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at any rate, you should correct that before it becomes a problen (ie she finds out the truth)
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lie about grades....why? To impress? who wants to date a nerd?
maybe he really got A's and B's and claims to have gotten C's and D's.
She, she went to private schools from nursery onwards.
I told her I got straight B's at college... It's her own fucking fault I lied... intimidating me like hell :-X
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She, she went to private schools from nursery onwards.
I told her I got straight B's at college... It's her own fucking fault I lied... intimidating me like hell :-X
{giggle} You really should straighten that out with her ASAP. She might even find it flattering,
...but I wouldn't advise you to lie to her again. That's a mjor red flag for most women.
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{giggle} You really should straighten that out with her ASAP. She might even find it flattering,
...but I wouldn't advise you to lie to her again. That's a mjor red flag for most women.
Jag! Long time no speak.....just wondering. Are you getting hit with snow in your area? We got it good in Concord for about 15 minutes and now its bright and sunny. Hope your having a great day :)
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This is way to easy....
first of all...she's from a wealthy family & she's going to join the military?
gee....what does that tell you?
secondly.....what's wrong with just going out & having a good time? If it's meant to be....it will happen all on it's own. If it doesn't....then it saves you time & money spent on trying to make it work with someone thats not compatible with you. All in all....just sit back...& enjoy the new company.
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Jag! Long time no speak.....just wondering. Are you getting hit with snow in your area? We got it good in Concord for about 15 minutes and now its bright and sunny. Hope your having a great day :)
Yep, we got blasted too, but I'm grateful it wasn't as bad as Bracebridge. They got 4 feet of it. :o
Was freezing my boobies off for a few days, but I finally managed to get my bedroom fireplace lit,
so I've been toasty warm ever since. Not too fond of the high winds, but I've got my balaclava so it'll be bearable.
Right now I'm just bracing myself for the weekend. They're predicting some seriously nasty weather for Sunday.
ps - You're in Concord? ...I thought you were in Mississauga?
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Talk about shit timing to meet someone I think is awesome.
More proof the God you pray to doesn't exist Stella! :P
Now now Camel Jockey...I believe God is in control.....
Maybe you two are too young to be together right now and need to experience other parts of life apart and then possibly come back together later when you're both ready to settle down!
Or maybe she is a serial killer! See how God helped you :)
She, she went to private schools from nursery onwards.
I told her I got straight B's at college... It's her own fucking fault I lied... intimidating me like hell :-X
Yes, how dare she >:(
Maybe if it ever comes up again you can say "maybe you misheard me... D's sound a lot like B's" :)
first of all...she's from a wealthy family & she's going to join the military?
gee....what does that tell you?
what ???
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Yep, we got blasted too, but I'm grateful it wasn't as bad as Bracebridge. They got 4 feet of it. :o
Was freezing my boobies off for a few days, but I finally managed to get my bedroom fireplace lit,
so I've been toasty warm ever since. Not too fond of the high winds, but I've got my balaclava so it'll be bearable.
Right now I'm just bracing myself for the weekend. They're predicting some seriously nasty weather for Sunday.
ps - You're in Concord? ...I thought you were in Mississauga?
I live in Mississauga, but I work in Concord. 20 minute drive. All highways.
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{giggle} You really should straighten that out with her ASAP. She might even find it flattering,
...but I wouldn't advise you to lie to her again. That's a mjor red flag for most women.
No she won't find it flattering...she will think you are a liar and will never trust you. You have no choice but to continue to lie about your grades( don't repeat the lies just don't confess) and just be truthfull about everything else...and hope that by the time she finds out you "fibbed" she will already have feelings for you and may understand.... If you fess up before then she will always think in the back of her mind that you are a liar.
Like if you find out a woman has "been around" right off the bat...you will likely not want to be with her...but if you found out her history a year into the relationship...after you really cared for her...you would probably find it a little easier to forget about her past.
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Quick update, the awesome one has met someone whilst I was away :-X
Slightly gutted (not as bad as I thought I would be), but oh well, that's the way the cookie crumbles...
I'm meeting the other on Saturday for a pizza and DVD at her place.
Also met a foreign lady on holiday (had an awesome all-night session with her, watched the sun go down and all that, only wished we met at the beginning), we're still in contact so I don't know whether to even travel to see her again. Pretty sad but fuck it...
Mix this with my most hated period of the year and you have a depressed Nordic Superman :'(
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Remember, the awesome one may not be awesome at all! You didn't get to know her very well yet. Also if she is awesome, maybe her new thing isn't going to work out anyway.
The fact that you have another gal in the wings and met yet another gal on holiday should show you that there are a lot of women out there. Chin up :)
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Remember, the awesome one may not be awesome at all! You didn't get to know her very well yet. Also if she is awesome, maybe her new thing isn't going to work out anyway.
The fact that you have another gal in the wings and met yet another gal on holiday should show you that there are a lot of women out there. Chin up :)
Thanks, but women are my hearts weakness :-\ ... boy they know how to destroy me! You bitches!
I feel strangely like a low life with this other women that I'm treating like a "backup". It's sad and pathetic really, I wouldn't like to be anyone's "backup".
Just off to the noose supplier!
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Thanks, but women are my hearts weakness :-\ ... boy they know how to destroy me! You bitches!
I feel strangely like a low life with this other women that I'm treating like a "backup". It's sad and pathetic really, I wouldn't like to be anyone's "backup".
Just off to the noose supplier!
Don't daudle, be quick about it.
And make sure the knot is secure, ...we wouldn't want it coming loose at the last second
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I feel strangely like a low life with this other women that I'm treating like a "backup". It's sad and pathetic really, I wouldn't like to be anyone's "backup".
So you feel like you are using her? It's good that you feel badly about that...it shows character! Maybe you should end things w/her?
Just off to the noose supplier!
Stop that! Here, maybe this pic will bring you some cheer :)
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So you feel like you are using her? It's good that you feel badly about that...it shows character! Maybe you should end things w/her?
Stop that! Here, maybe this pic will bring you some cheer :)
But I do like spending time with her. It's just the fact that I would have chose the other without question that is eating at me.
I'm not a homo, it's impossible for me to say to her: "look I only want to be friends, but I do want to see you again ok? maybe we can go shopping together" :-X
Wow, I hate those furballs, you've just sent me over the edge!
lol only jk :-*
Thanks for the replys :)
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If you're going to do the "Saddam swing", dude, can I at least have the passwords to your two gimmick accounts?
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If you're going to do the "Saddam swing", dude, can I at least have the passwords to your two gimmick accounts?
Haha, good stuff :D
One of my accounts, the others are being donated to Unicef.