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An acquaintance/friend is moving and I kinda offered to help her move because she mentioned that nobody with a truck (guys) would help her move stuff. Also keep in mind we talked about going out for dinner or something, prior to this. She lives about 30 minutes away, so it's not exactly on my way but I said if she can't find anyone else that I would help. So is this a way to score points or look like a sucker?
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Waddaya think? ;D ;D
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Waddaya think? ;D ;D
My first thought was sucker...lol, but I was giving myself the benefit of the doubt. ;D
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Go with your gut instinct... if you think you're being a sucka... you are.
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Go with your gut instinct... if you think you're being a sucka... you are.
I just err on the side of caution with women.
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I just err on the side of caution with women.
As you should... Nothing good ever comes from being "nice".
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An acquaintance/friend is moving and I kinda offered to help her move because she mentioned that nobody with a truck (guys) would help her move stuff. Also keep in mind we talked about going out for dinner or something, prior to this. She lives about 30 minutes away, so it's not exactly on my way but I said if she can't find anyone else that I would help. So is this a way to score points or look like a sucker?
You will be looked at as a decent person, not a sucker.
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You will be looked at as a decent person, not a sucker.
true but the decent guy rarely ever gets the ass, trust me i am the proverbial nice guy...its the dude that said nah i got something to do that day that will be tapping that ass the first night in her new place if she is the normal girl...not saying not to if she is a friend, just my 2 cents.
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true but the decent guy rarely ever gets the ass, trust me i am the proverbial nice guy...its the dude that said nah i got something to do that day that will be tapping that ass the first night in her new place if she is the normal girl...not saying not to if she is a friend, just my 2 cents.
I see your point, but "good" or "bad", the guy with the confidence to close the deal is going to tap that ass.
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An acquaintance/friend is moving and I kinda offered to help her move because she mentioned that nobody with a truck (guys) would help her move stuff. Also keep in mind we talked about going out for dinner or something, prior to this. She lives about 30 minutes away, so it's not exactly on my way but I said if she can't find anyone else that I would help. So is this a way to score points or look like a sucker?
You have gave me good advices, so heres my advice for you friend
Being a gentleman wont make you look like a sucker
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I see your point, but "good" or "bad", the guy with the confidence to close the deal is going to tap that ass.
bump for truth
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Get your date right after the move, clean up and go out and seal the deal while she's still thankful for your help. ;)
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Get your date right after the move, clean up and go out and seal the deal while she's still thankful for your help. ;)
I did plan to bring a change of clothes...lol.
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I did plan to bring a change of clothes...lol.
Wouldn't hurt to borrow her shower, would it? ;)
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You will be looked at as a decent person, not a sucker.
Good answer! ;D
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You are what you think you are.
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It's a way to help her out of a difficult situation.
From a woman's perspective... I say you could be looked upon as a good person or not.
That's going to depend on YOU and how you conduct yourself on the day of the move.
One caveat tho, you mentioned, you'd previously asked her out. Did she say yes or no?
If you're going to help her move, help her move. I know you'll probably be looking to score some points, but don't press the issue. if you make her feel obligated to you for helping her move, she may secretly start to resent you, ...and far worse than seeing you as a sucker, ...she may see you as slime who takes advantage of a damsel in distress. Not all women are as blunt and straightforward with their feelings as I am. Infact, I'd say the majority of women keep hostilities and/or resentments to themselves and never express them, ...but man-oh-man do they ever let it simmer inside. They'll smile to your face, all sweet & charm, ...but inside they're seething. You don't ever want to get into that area. Don't press it.
Now Jake will naturally chime in and advise you to do the exact opposite of whatever I suggest. ;D
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It makes you a good person as well as a good friend. A lot of people tend to look the other way when someone is moving and don't offer help. Just keep in mind what goes around...comes around. ;)
...just make sure she doesn't sit on her butt while you do all the work, lol.
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Good answer! ;D
Agreed. Nothing wrong with helping people in a difficult situation. Just don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.
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blah blah blah, PM me if you want to get in her pants.
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It's a way to help her out of a difficult situation.
From a woman's perspective... I say you could be looked upon as a good person or not.
That's going to depend on YOU and how you conduct yourself on the day of the move.
One caveat tho, you mentioned, you'd previously asked her out. Did she say yes or no?
If you're going to help her move, help her move. I know you'll probably be looking to score some points, but don't press the issue. if you make her feel obligated to you for helping her move, she may secretly start to resent you, ...and far worse than seeing you as a sucker, ...she may see you as slime who takes advantage of a damsel in distress. Not all women are as blunt and straightforward with their feelings as I am. Infact, I'd say the majority of women keep hostilities and/or resentments to themselves and never express them, ...but man-oh-man do they ever let it simmer inside. They'll smile to your face, all sweet & charm, ...but inside they're seething. You don't ever want to get into that area. Don't press it.
Now Jake will naturally chime in and advise you to do the exact opposite of whatever I suggest. ;D
Yeah, the date's already planned. I don't mind helping because I know her and it sounds like most guys that she know pretty much told her "no" because they wouldn't get any from her after, or at least that would be my guess.
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You will be looked at as a decent person, not a sucker.
Agree...
If she looks at you as a sucker..that wouldn't be very decent of her
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yes
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your a heartbreak waiting to happen.
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your a heartbreak waiting to happen.
Well, this is why I come here for advice. I know that a few women and a lot of guys will throw out their .02. 8)
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Yeah, the date's already planned. I don't mind helping because I know her and it sounds like most guys that she know pretty much told her "no" because they wouldn't get any from her after, or at least that would be my guess.
The only question you have to ask yourself is this:
Do you like her?
If she was a buddy of yours, would you help him move?
If the answer is yes to those questions... then help her move anyway... I'd help my buds move so why not this chick?
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An acquaintance/friend is moving and I kinda offered to help her move because she mentioned that nobody with a truck (guys) would help her move stuff. Also keep in mind we talked about going out for dinner or something, prior to this. She lives about 30 minutes away, so it's not exactly on my way but I said if she can't find anyone else that I would help. So is this a way to score points or look like a sucker?
Either you did or didn't. Did she ask you first among the others, or were you last on the list? And did she say yes to going to dinner before asking you for help? And did she If not, then, yeah you would be seen as a sucker. Or did you "kinda" not get an answer? She would be trading your service for dinner.
Since we don't know the whole story, we can only go by the facts. She might indeed, like Jag said, look upon you as a descent person helping out. But as someone said, go with your gut. If you need to ask, then you the deal, she thinks she has a sucker. And it will only get worse.
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for him to post it on a message board and dwell on it means this will not end well, stop overanalysing and just wait to see what happens, go on with your life.
No offense bro, but i think she is using you...your a "nice" guy
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The only question you have to ask yourself is this:
Do you like her?
If she was a buddy of yours, would you help him move?
If the answer is yes to those questions... then help her move anyway... I'd help my buds move so why not this chick?
Like her? Yeah. I would def help a buddy move.
Parker: Yeah I did. She agreed to dinner way before.
Quick: Stella knows why I posted here. I haven't made the best choices with women lately so I figure I'd throw it out there, couldn't hurt right? Def not dwelling on it but certainly looking to keep my head on straight. ;D
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Like her? Yeah. I would def help a buddy move.
Parker: Yeah I did. She agreed to dinner way before.
Quick: Stella knows why I posted here. I haven't made the best choices with women lately so I figure I'd throw it out there, couldn't hurt right? Def not dwelling on it but certainly looking to keep my head on straight. ;D
do me a favour and think of something else besides that lady, if it dont pan out your going to be a depressed cookie..but good luck anyway
(I know i sound rude, but im actually trying to help you like i have helped few of the other guys here)
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do me a favour and think of something else besides that lady, if it dont pan out your going to be a depressed cookie..but good luck anyway
(I know i sound rude, but im actually trying to help you like i have helped few of the other guys here)
I agree that he does sound way into this girl... but I hope that's just the internets talking.
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do me a favour and think of something else besides that lady, if it dont pan out your going to be a depressed cookie..but good luck anyway
(I know i sound rude, but im actually trying to help you like i have helped few of the other guys here)
I do, my running. Lol. Thanks though. I think my goal was just to not make an ass out of myself (too late, lol) as my transition back into single life has not been smooth, for numerous reasons. Lol
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I agree that he does sound way into this girl... but I hope that's just the internets talking.
step back a little, check yourself, are you making a big deal of the whole thing? is she constantly on your mind? if you want to help her move then thats good, but if your doing it to get some ass its not going to work..
did she ask you for dinner? or did you ask her?
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step back a little, check yourself, are you making a big deal of the whole thing? is she constantly on your mind? if you want to help her move then thats good, but if your doing it to get some ass its not going to work..
did she ask you for dinner? or did you ask her?
BINGO!!!
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BINGO!!!
Want to help, not doing it to get ass. Lol.
The only thing constantly on my mind is work and starting my career.
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just be a gentleman and let the chips fall where they may
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just be a gentleman and let the chips fall where they may
Good advice from an old ass man.
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If you're doing it because you are helping a friend out, then you are not a sucker because you should be there to help a friend when in need. If you are doing it because you want to get a little ass or think you might get a little ass...and that is not what she has in mind, then yes, you will be a sucker.
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just be a gentleman and let the chips fall where they may
good advice
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Making a thread here about something doesn't necessarily mean it's something that is constantly on a person's mind. Sometimes that may be the case and sometimes not.
cap didn't make 5 threads about the situation...in that case we might wonder if it's constantly on his mind ;D
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Making a thread here about something doesn't necessarily mean it's something that is constantly on a person's mind. Sometimes that may be the case and sometimes not.
cap didn't make 5 threads about the situation...in that case we might wonder if it's constantly on his mind ;D
Caps a good guy, his a young dude too, so if he sounds like a bitch you know why.
He will be fine..i've had a private chat with him
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He will be fine..i've had a private chat with him
tmi :-X
j/k ;D
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tmi :-X
j/k ;D
huh? sorry laura, what does tmi mean
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huh? sorry laura, what does tmi mean
Man, you're young too, TMI means: Too Much Info. ;D
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Man, you're young too, TMI means: Too Much Info. ;D
Not necessarily youth, ...could just be a different culture with different colloquial terms.
If I said BYU, Provo residents might think I mean Brigham Young University, but someone elsewhere would know.