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K, so I have been with the same girl on and off(mainly on) for 3 plus years. She wants a real commitment, but I am not going to marry her anytime soon and she knows this. So she wants to move in together, but she has a 10 year old daughter and that's not my scene. She is aware of a few of my "transgressions" with other women(she is not exactly cool with it, but we seem to work through it when I get caught), although she has no clue how bad it really is. Anyway, last night she broke down in tears cause she heard I slept with one of her friends friends or something. It kind of upset me a bit tbh, I don't like to hurt people I care about. So, I told her I would be a "good boy" as she likes to put it from now on. That means no other women whatsoever. I am not going to talk about how many girls I actually sleep with, cuz I don't have proof and this is Getbig, but there are quite a few. If I am not going to marry this girl should I really stop sleeping with other whores? I am failing to see the upside of this. I could be even more discreet, but don't want to hurt her again. What would you guys do? Dump the bitch?
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K, so I have been with the same girl on and off(mainly on) for 3 plus years. She wants a real commitment, but I am not going to marry her anytime soon and she knows this. So she wants to move in together, but she has a 10 year old daughter and that's not my scene. She is aware of a few of my "transgressions" with other women(she is not exactly cool with it, but we seem to work through it when I get caught), although she has no clue how bad it really is. Anyway, last night she broke down in tears cause she heard I slept with one of her friends friends or something. It kind of upset me a bit tbh, I don't like to hurt people I care about. So, I told her I would be a "good boy" as she likes to put it from now on. That means no other women whatsoever. I am not going to talk about how many girls I actually sleep with, cuz I don't have proof and this is Getbig, but there are quite a few. If I am not going to marry this girl should I really stop sleeping with other whores? I am failing to see the upside of this. I could be even more discreet, but don't want to hurt her again. What would you guys do? Dump the bitch?
you can still give it a try bro, just make sure she understands she could be homeless in a few months in things go sour.
if you give it a try at least you will be able to say "i tried, it didnt work out. family life is not for me"
who knows dude, this could be something that could change your life in a good way
and take what i say with a grain of salt. my longest relationship has only been 4 months ;D i like the whole one night stand scene too ;D
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you can still give it a try bro, just make sure she understands she could be homeless in a few months in things go sour.
if you give it a try at least you will be able to say "i tried, it didnt work out. family life is not for me"
who knows dude, this could be something that could change your life in a good way
and take what i say with a grain of salt. my longest relationship has only been 4 months ;D i like the whole one night stand scene too ;D
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Living together is out of the question. I like to play Wii with her daughter once in a while and she is a good kid, but I am not into raising kids, especially when they are not mine.
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Living together is out of the question. I like to play Wii with her daughter once in a while and she is a good kid, but I am not into raising kids, especially when they are not mine.
there is nothing wrong with raising a kid.............unless they are black :-X
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there is nothing wrong with raising a kid.............unless they are black :-X
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I know, it's just raising someone elses kid is not for me.
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K, so I have been with the same girl on and off(mainly on) for 3 plus years. She wants a real commitment, but I am not going to marry her anytime soon and she knows this. So she wants to move in together, but she has a 10 year old daughter and that's not my scene. She is aware of a few of my "transgressions" with other women(she is not exactly cool with it, but we seem to work through it when I get caught), although she has no clue how bad it really is. Anyway, last night she broke down in tears cause she heard I slept with one of her friends friends or something. It kind of upset me a bit tbh, I don't like to hurt people I care about. So, I told her I would be a "good boy" as she likes to put it from now on. That means no other women whatsoever. I am not going to talk about how many girls I actually sleep with, cuz I don't have proof and this is Getbig, but there are quite a few. If I am not going to marry this girl should I really stop sleeping with other whores? I am failing to see the upside of this. I could be even more discreet, but don't want to hurt her again. What would you guys do? Dump the bitch?
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Sounds like you're emotionally involved, no good if you don't want to marry her. She is playing on your emotions to manipulate you, again, no good.
p.s. When can we expect a housing rebound dammit! >:(
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there is nothing wrong with raising a kid.............unless they are black :-X
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Thats not squadfather ;D
Sounds like you have already made up your mind danielson. baby momma drama is not cool.
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Sounds like you're emotionally involved, no good if you don't want to marry her. She is playing on your emotions to manipulate you, again, no good.
p.s. When can we expect a housing rebound dammit! >:(
The market will never rebound to where it was at, at least not for 10 plus years. Subprime mortgages made it way too easy to purchase houses, along with the other factors we all know too much about, layoffs etc. As far as my problem, of course I am emotionally attached to her. If a Y boarder had a good memory and gave a shit they would remember I posted pics of she and I like 3 years ago, that's a long time to be with someone. Btw, PM me whose gimmick you are. You knew what I did for a living, so I am assuming you are no newb.
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Thats not squadfather ;D
Sounds like you have already made up your mind danielson. baby momma drama is not cool.
Not really my man. I have been giving it a lot of thought all day. For my emotional happiness I should stay with her and just be faithful. Physically speaking, I like to sleep with a lot of different girls, but you know as well as I do that one night stands or sex buddies etc. are not the end all be all. Sure sex is fun, but when you are done fucking someone you don't care about, it's not like anything in your life is better. They leave, you worry about being caught, and the next day it's like nothing happened. When you care about someone, like I do, it's different. Not to be a pussy, but I like going to dinner, boating, and just about everything else with my girl. It's also nice to have a sort of "best friend". This one is tough man. I can't see giving up either tbh. Oh, I forgot to add in the original post that I have been fucking another girl for about 4 months, she lives right across the street from the main bar I go to. I don't really like her, but consider her a friend and she is a great fuck and convenient, so I would have to give her up as well.
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Not really my man. I have been giving it a lot of thought all day. For my emotional happiness I should stay with her and just be faithful. Physically speaking, I like to sleep with a lot of different girls, but you know as well as I do that one night stands or sex buddies etc. are not the end all be all. Sure sex is fun, but when you are done fucking someone you don't care about, it's not like anything in your life is better. They leave, you worry about being caught, and the next day it's like nothing happened. When you care about someone, like I do, it's different. Not to be a pussy, but I like going to dinner, boating, and just about everything else with my girl. It's also nice to have a sort of "best friend". This one is tough man. I can't see giving up either tbh.
Sounds like if you want to keep doing what you are doing its got to be on the very d. low. You keep doing it to this girl and its gonna fcuk her up for many years after..... trust issues with guys etc.
I couldn't do both. It would mess with my head too much. I haven't had a gf since the crack whore and there are girls out there who are on the same page and not down with committment, but need the companionship. I've been 'seeing' this girl for about a year and a half. We go a month without speaking then spend a month together usually. Go for a trip, have a great time and then go about our lives and dont speak for a while again. I've met a few chicks like that.
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The market will never rebound to where it was at, at least not for 10 plus years. Subprime mortgages made it way too easy to purchase houses, along with the other factors we all know too much about, layoffs etc.
captain obvious to save the day ;D
housing market is already rebounding... look at the amount of houses on the market and the amount of buyers making offers on every house... buyers outweigh sellers 50 to 1...every person with a house on the market right now gets to pick and choose and make all kinds of demands... of course the bottom line price on their house isnt what it used to be, but the $$ they were expecting a month or two ago, are being blown out of the water..... time to buy is right now, not a moment later
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captain obvious to save the day ;D
housing market is already rebounding... look at the amount of houses on the market and the amount of buyers making offers on every house... buyers outweigh sellers 50 to 1...every person with a house on the market right now gets to pick and choose and make all kinds of demands... of course the bottom line price on their house isnt what it used to be, but the $$ they were expecting a month or two ago, are being blown out of the water..... time to buy is right now, not a moment later
Yes, Tbombz, it's a buyers market. Is that even a question at this point? People want to know when home "values" will go up, so they can sell(without using a short), re-fi or just feel good about their investments in general. Here is a hypothetical situation. Home A sells for 400,000 thousand in 2003 and the owner owes lets say 360,000. Now home B, which is identical and right next door sells for 150,000 right now. What does that do to the value of home A? Leaves them upside down 210,000. There are many problems with the housing market Taylor, and you are right, buying them cheap is not exactly one of them, it's the repercussions of buying them so cheap. Anytime you have a question, feel free to ask :)
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Sounds like if you want to keep doing what you are doing its got to be on the very d. low. You keep doing it to this girl and its gonna fcuk her up for many years after..... trust issues with guys etc.
I couldn't do both. It would mess with my head too much. I haven't had a gf since the crack whore and there are girls out there who are on the same page and not down with committment, but need the companionship. I've been 'seeing' this girl for about a year and a half. We go a month without speaking then spend a month together usually. Go for a trip, have a great time and then go about our lives and dont speak for a while again. I've met a few chicks like that.
I can be more discreet, but I honestly do not ever want to see her cry like that again. So not sure if I want to risk it. Hurting people I care for is not exactly a good feeling. Btw, I am jealous you get to travel so much. I never go anywhere lately. :(
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Never ever give up any pussy....if you have a chick and she's not crazy, then keep fucking her.....
my solution is to get married and keep fucking other chicks so you have the best of both worlds..
or....offer to stay wiuth her at her place more frequently but keep your apartment....if you can afford it......this way when her and her daughter get to be too much then you can leave and go home....this may satisfy her need to be with you all the time every night....
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Yes, Tbombz, it's a buyers market. Is that even a question at this point? People want to know when home "values" will go up, so they can sell(without using a short), re-fi or just feel good about their investments in general. Here is a hypothetical situation. Home A sells for 400,000 thousand in 2003 and the owner owes lets say 360,000. Now home B, which is identical and right next door sells for 150,000 right now. What does that do to the value of home A? Leaves them upside down 210,000. There are many problems with the housing market Taylor, and you are right, buying them cheap is not exactly one of them, it's the repercussions of buying them so cheap. Anytime you have a question, feel free to ask :)
yes of course, lots of people stuck in an upside down mortgage...those are al the new homebuyers who have only been in their residence for a short amount of time (within the last ten years)... people who have been squatting for 15 years or more.. like my parents who have been living in the same house for almost 30 years... right now is the time of a lifetime... never again will there ever be such an oppurtunity...
we are moving into a brand hew house on the other side of our town... 500 more square feet, 15 thousand free upgrades, my mom gets the agent fee even though she didnt do jack, thousand dollar pottery barn gift card, our choice of lot...etc etc etc....
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yes of course, lots of people stuck in an upside down mortgage...those are al the new homebuyers who have only been in their residence for a short amount of time (within the last ten years)... people who have been squatting for 15 years or more.. like my parents who have been living in the same house for almost 30 years... right now is the time of a lifetime... never again will there ever be such an oppurtunity...
we are moving into a brand hew house on the other side of our town... 500 more square feet, 15 thousand free upgrades, my mom gets the agent fee even though she didnt do jack, thousand dollar pottery barn gift card, our choice of lot...etc etc etc....
I am glad it is working out for you Taylor, sounds like a great deal. You are in the minority though. What about all the people who are old and own their houses free and clear only to see them depreciate by 50%? Some people depend on that for nursing homes or to downsize homes to accommodate a smaller income. Anyway, I am glad you and your family are making the best of this, but like I said earlier you are creating a domino effect(neighbors values) of which we will not see the final results for years to come.
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K, so I have been with the same girl on and off(mainly on) for 3 plus years. She wants a real commitment, but I am not going to marry her anytime soon and she knows this. So she wants to move in together, but she has a 10 year old daughter and that's not my scene. She is aware of a few of my "transgressions" with other women(she is not exactly cool with it, but we seem to work through it when I get caught), although she has no clue how bad it really is. Anyway, last night she broke down in tears cause she heard I slept with one of her friends friends or something. It kind of upset me a bit tbh, I don't like to hurt people I care about. So, I told her I would be a "good boy" as she likes to put it from now on. That means no other women whatsoever. I am not going to talk about how many girls I actually sleep with, cuz I don't have proof and this is Getbig, but there are quite a few. If I am not going to marry this girl should I really stop sleeping with other whores? I am failing to see the upside of this. I could be even more discreet, but don't want to hurt her again. What would you guys do? Dump the bitch?
I was in a similar situation about a year ago. VERY similar.
If you feel grown up and you're happy the way you're life is going I say go for it 100%. It's obvious you care about her and you might even be falling for her hard so take advantage and run with it.
If it doesn't work out then it is what it is. She obviously loves you (for whatever reason, lol) and if she's committed, mature, and got a good head on her shoulders then absolutely give it a try and see what happens.
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you can still give it a try bro, just make sure she understands she could be homeless in a few months in things go sour.
if you give it a try at least you will be able to say "i tried, it didnt work out. family life is not for me"
who knows dude, this could be something that could change your life in a good way
and take what i say with a grain of salt. my longest relationship has only been 4 months ;D i like the whole one night stand scene too ;D
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^^^Good advice^^^
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Sounds like you really care about the girl Danny...so I say make the leap and give it a try.
If it doesn't work out just slap the guns back on, but at least then you won't be wondering what could have been.
And you may just find yourself happy, bro. As much a banging bitches left and right is fun, nothing beats a good relationship
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Sounds like you really care about the girl Danny...so I say make the leap and give it a try.
If it doesn't work out just slap the guns back on, but at least then you won't be wondering what could have been.
And you may just find yourself happy, bro. As much a banging bitches left and right is fun, nothing beats a good relationship
I am leaning that way big guy, but still far from pulling the trigger.
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I am leaning that way big guy, but still far from pulling the trigger.
what a cock, i told you the exact same thing ;D
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what a cock, i told you the exact same thing ;D
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Danny likes me better ;D
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Danny likes me better ;D
i figured this much ;D
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Boot her.
You both want different things.
There's no point no point in wasting time.
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This is what growing up means. You have to choose. You know the answer, you simply need to accept your own decision. She has a child, so you have two people to let down if you decide to try to have your cake and eat it too.
Your best bet if you aren't going to be faithful is to tell her you need to mess around. Not saying she'll go for it, but it beats lying. You might open a can of worms when she might want to do the same. You decide to creep? You can't rely on keeping it secret if two people know about it. Not worth the trouble and pain. Show her respect. God knows you'd flip if the shoe was on the other foot.
You know the deal. Best of luck. :)
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Sounds like you really care about the girl Danny...so I say make the leap and give it a try.
If it doesn't work out just slap the guns back on, but at least then you won't be wondering what could have been.
And you may just find yourself happy, bro. As much a banging bitches left and right is fun, nothing beats a good relationship
qft
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This is what growing up means. You have to choose. You know the answer, you simply need to accept your own decision. She has a child, so you have two people to let down if you decide to try to have your cake and eat it too.Your best bet if you aren't going to be faithful is to tell her you need to mess around. Not saying she'll go for it, but it beats lying. You might open a can of worms when she might want to do the same. You decide to creep? You can't rely on keeping it secret if two people know about it. Not worth the trouble and pain. Show her respect. God knows you'd flip if the shoe was on the other foot.
You know the deal. Best of luck. :)
dude don't listen to this crap....just marry her and keep banging bitches....that "til death do us part" shit is not realistic in this world....that's stuff from 80 years ago....this way you get the best of both worlds..just don't get caught ;D
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I am glad it is working out for you Taylor, sounds like a great deal. You are in the minority though. What about all the people who are old and own their houses free and clear only to see them depreciate by 50%? Some people depend on that for nursing homes or to downsize homes to accommodate a smaller income. Anyway, I am glad you and your family are making the best of this, but like I said earlier you are creating a domino effect(neighbors values) of which we will not see the final results for years to come.
well i guess those people learned the "dont count your chickens before the eggs have hatched" lesson... lol...
anyway on the subject of the chick, id let her down easy if you arent ready to make a commitment. sounds to me like youve got no problem finding other hot chicks to bang...no need to fuck with this ones psyche for no reason
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I'm late to this picnic, but my two cents..........by now (after 3 years) you should know what you want, you say you're not going to marry her anytime soon, don't drag it out, especially if there is a kid involved.
The question you have to ask yourself is what do you want, nobody here can answer that for you.
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I'm late to this picnic, but my two cents..........by now (after 3 years) you should know what you want, you say you're not going to marry her anytime soon, don't drag it out, especially if there is a kid involved.
The question you have to ask yourself is what do you want, nobody here can answer that for you.
True, I thought the same but didn't write it.
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The question you have to ask yourself is what do you want, nobody here can answer that for you.
I spent the whole weekend with her, just got back from the beach actually. She went home, that is what I want. She is making this too complicated!
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I spent the whole weekend with her, just got back from the beach actually. She went home, that is what I want. She is making this too complicated!
we all got to grow up danny, if your not going to marry her or quit cheating on her tell her to fuck off.
if not man up and stop trying to remain a 35 year old teenager.
this this the my brutally honest final opinion. i have actually been thinking about this ever since you started the thread
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we all got to grow up danny, if your not going to marry her or quit cheating on her tell her to fuck off.
if not man up and stop trying to remain a 35 year old teenager.
this this the my brutally honest final opinion. i have actually been thinking about this ever since you started the thread
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She wants more, if you don't, cut her loose and keep banging random whores.
What is stopping you from being in a committed relationship with her? 3 years is a good stretch of time.
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She wants more, if you don't, cut her loose and keep banging random whores.
What is stopping you from being in a committed relationship with her? 3 years is a good stretch of time.
she obviously does something for Danny emotionally......keep her..why not?..if she wanted to leave she would have already since she knows what Dan does on the side....why should Danny leave her?..it's not his fault...I say stay with her and keep banging her until your dick falls off
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she obviously does something for Danny emotionally......keep her..why not?..if she wanted to leave she would have already since she knows what Dan does on the side....why should Danny leave her?..it's not his fault...I say stay with her and keep banging her until your dick falls off
She'll keep pushing for more and with a kid involved it's not going to get easier to get away from her the more the kid is around. If there was no kid, I would agree.
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She'll keep pushing for more and with a kid involved it's not going to get easier to get away from her the more the kid is around. If there was no kid, I would agree.
yeah, wether you like it or not a kid is involved so you gotta think about them......even if its not yours.
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3 years is long enough if your not gonna marry her.especially if she thinks that you will end up getting married.
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If she wants to move in, she will eventually want you to get married.
You will say no, and she will get pissed and then have to move out.
Once there is a kid involved, then you will personally feel more responsibility and will feel worse if you leave her... Which is eventually going to happen.
This moving in thing is just a baby step to her... There's nothing wrong with it, but if you believe whole heartedly that you will never ever EEEEVER want to get married, then you should move on and leave this woman alone.
No good will come from this.
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If she wants to move in, she will eventually want you to get married.
You will say no, and she will get pissed and then have to move out.
Once there is a kid involved, then you will personally feel more responsibility and will feel worse if you leave her... Which is eventually going to happen.
This moving in thing is just a baby step to her... There's nothing wrong with it, but if you believe whole heartedly that you will never ever EEEEVER want to get married, then you should move on and leave this woman alone.
No good will come from this.
continuing to bang this hot chick IS the good :)