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Title: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: kyomu on April 29, 2010, 12:13:42 PM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?
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Post by: big L dawg on April 29, 2010, 12:14:57 PM
Is Paco ok with this?
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Post by: Wiggs on April 29, 2010, 12:19:18 PM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?

Men get this also...The older you get the less it is.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: kyomu on April 29, 2010, 12:21:36 PM
Is Paco ok with this?
Paco was laughing at me when i talk about this saying that soon i wouldl get huge gynos. >:(
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: benchmstr on April 29, 2010, 12:22:21 PM
dude...kids are awesome.....i have always wanted kids....i am the babysitter for damn near all my friends.....

bench
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: kyomu on April 29, 2010, 12:22:38 PM
Men get this also...The older you get the less it is.
So what age is the peak?
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Army of One on April 29, 2010, 12:22:51 PM
Men get this also...The older you get the less it is.

the less what is?
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Wiggs on April 29, 2010, 12:26:07 PM
the less what is?

the feeling of wanting a kid.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Army of One on April 29, 2010, 12:27:27 PM
the feeling of wanting a kid.

Kyomu is in his forties isnt he?
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: benchmstr on April 29, 2010, 12:29:23 PM
Kyomu is in his forties isnt he?
yeah, but he is shooting test EOD, so age doesnt matter...

bench
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: jwb on April 29, 2010, 12:38:35 PM
MAKE SURE THE POTENTIAL MOTHER ISN'T CRAZY!!!

Besides that, go for it.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: James Blunt on April 29, 2010, 12:42:35 PM
I used to babysit with my ex girlfriend. Kids are so much fun but I couldn't imagine worrying about one everyday. I remember taking her to the store and so many people would just start talking because we had a cute kid with us. Women especially. "You're kid is so cute, she looks just like dad" blahahah I wasn't even her dad.
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Post by: Parker on April 29, 2010, 12:42:58 PM
Studies have been done that show that if a man holds a baby, even a doll representing one, his test levels go down. So, basically no more Lord Taka, but Queen Taka.
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Post by: FREAKgeek on April 29, 2010, 01:02:56 PM
you're becomming gay
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Bodybuilding Related on April 29, 2010, 01:09:12 PM
Please post pics of this new girlfriend of yours Lord Taka.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: DK II on April 29, 2010, 01:14:07 PM
dude...kids are awesome.....i have always wanted kids....i am the babysitter for damn near all my friends.....

bench

Kids ARE awesome.

I am a dad now for 8 months and my life has never been this good.

My dedication in everything has even gone up a lot, because now i feel that i want my son to be proud of me one day!
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Post by: saopl on April 29, 2010, 01:14:18 PM
do you want to pay child support for 18 years?

most girls will not date guys with a kid.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: bigdumbbell on April 29, 2010, 01:29:56 PM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?
it's called gayer
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: dr.chimps on April 29, 2010, 01:32:35 PM
kyomu's biological clock is ticking. TICK TOCK  TICK TOCK    ;D

Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: jaejonna on April 29, 2010, 01:33:56 PM
It happens to the best of us, I know when I'm with my cousins and shit for family functions I think ...hey wouldn't it be cool to have my son/daughter just hanging out with all their cousins playing and what not... then (most of the time) I think about when I go home from work, thinking ..thank God , I don't have some wife wondering why I'm working late ( cause I have to) thinking I'm fucking some other girl, or having a kid asking if Daddy is home yet or not being able to vacation somewhere far away and get plastered with dudes names 'X-factor' from the internet or even just lighting up a blunt in the living room while I check my tube8 updates from 240. Having a kid is great, but one needs to be prepared to leave all the other 'stuff' behind....
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: big L dawg on April 29, 2010, 01:38:20 PM
Kids first word would be Paco no doubt...
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Alex23 on April 29, 2010, 01:41:55 PM
kumyo, you work in a factory?
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: JasonH on April 29, 2010, 01:45:17 PM
kumyo, you work in a factory?

Yes, he and several dozen other workers of Chinese descent work long hours manufacturing Paco's drugs for him. It's a rather illicit actvity. I've said too much already.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Van_Bilderass on April 29, 2010, 01:47:15 PM
Let me guess, the new chick has talked about wanting kids?  :D
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: che on April 29, 2010, 01:50:41 PM
If you still  want to bodybuild, drink ,go out party ,fuck sluts ,take vacations ,sleep at night  and do whatever the fuck you want  , don't have kids yet .
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: affeman on April 29, 2010, 01:51:46 PM
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D

You?? Gay?? No way!!

(http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=328835.0;attach=369059;image)
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: dr.chimps on April 29, 2010, 01:55:42 PM
You?? Gay?? No way!!

(http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=328835.0;attach=369059;image)
That's not gay. That's HARD gay.   ;D
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Van_Bilderass on April 29, 2010, 01:58:10 PM
That's mentally illed gay
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: pellius on April 29, 2010, 01:58:48 PM
kumyo, you work in a factory?

Lord Taka was in HIS factory. He owns the rice cake market in Spain. And a huge market it is.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Big Worm on April 29, 2010, 01:59:59 PM
So what age is the peak?
Kyomu... You're a good man,but once  you have children,you'll be a great man.. Kids bring the best out in good people... I was a knucklehead ,when I had my daughter,I knew games would have to stop..I finished school,bought my home(with mom and dads help) and opened my own business.. You need to have some money put away,when the baby cries,there's no wait til I get paid friday.. My son is my absolute best friend! We work out together,then go to the boxing club afterwards.. Crazy,to see them grow from babies to beautiful,handsome grown ups... But worth all the struggle and sacrifice..
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: pellius on April 29, 2010, 02:00:09 PM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?

Anxiously awaiting comments by uberman. When it comes to social and culture issues this guy is pretty much always on the mark.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: tbombz on April 29, 2010, 02:01:19 PM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?
a buddy of mine just had a kid a few months back. he told me about a month before his girl gave birth he balooned up with water retention.. very noticeable effect.

there has been some studies done on this before, child birth being related to increased estrogen levels in men
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Post by: pellius on April 29, 2010, 02:02:06 PM
Kyomu... You're a good man,but once  you have children,you'll be a great man.. Kids bring the best out in good people... I was a knucklehead ,when I had my daughter,I knew games would have to stop..I finished school,bought my home(with mom and dads help) and opened my own business.. You need to have some money put away,when the baby cries,there's no wait til I get paid friday.. My son is my absolute best friend! We work out together,then go to the boxing club afterwards.. Crazy,to see them grow from babies to beautiful,handsome grown ups... But worth all the struggle and sacrifice..

Awesome post
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: DK II on April 29, 2010, 02:03:02 PM
Lord Taka was in HIS factory. He owns the rice cake market in Spain. And a huge market it is.

Before you talk shit, what monopoly do you own in you country?

Taka has his own factory and owns the rice cake market in Spain, nothing funny about that.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: affeman on April 29, 2010, 02:04:45 PM
Before you talk shit, what monopoly do you own in you country?

Taka has his own factory and owns the rice cake market in Spain, nothing funny about that.

The spanish rice cake mafia is not to fuck with.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: K-1 on April 29, 2010, 02:07:31 PM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?

Not here....I love kids (other peoples kids).

And I can't stand it when my co worker brings her newborn kid in for everybody to hold and then says to me "see ....don't you want one?"

me: "NOPE!...enjoy yours!"

Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: bigdumbbell on April 29, 2010, 02:10:21 PM
Yes, he and several dozen other workers of Chinese descent work long hours manufacturing Paco's drugs for him. It's a rather illicit actvity. I've said too much already.
hehe  lol
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: pellius on April 29, 2010, 02:11:41 PM
Before you talk shit, what monopoly do you own in you country?

Taka has his own factory and owns the rice cake market in Spain, nothing funny about that.

Calm down, DK. You must have misread my post. I said exactly that. By saying he was in HIS factory I thought the implication was obvious that he owns it. And I specifically stated that he owns the market in Spain. I am an unabashed Kyomo fan an admirer. (no homo)
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: bigdumbbell on April 29, 2010, 02:27:39 PM
Before you talk shit, what monopoly do you own in you country?

Taka has his own factory and owns the rice cake market in Spain, nothing funny about that.
that wonderful   good news!    :D
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Post by: Mr Nobody on April 29, 2010, 02:29:09 PM
Entertainments and weekly videos will be over man :'(
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Post by: Fury on April 29, 2010, 02:30:22 PM
Does Paco know about this? He might not be able to handle splitting your love and affection with a child. You should make sure he's OK with this. Make sure to introduce the kid over time so that he can be trained and adjust.
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Post by: Big Worm on April 29, 2010, 02:31:31 PM
Awesome post
Thank you bro...
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Post by: dr.chimps on April 29, 2010, 02:33:46 PM
Calm down, DK. You must have misread my post. I said exactly that. By saying he was in HIS factory I thought the implication was obvious that he owns it. And I specifically stated that he owns the market in Spain. I am an unabashed Kyomo fan an admirer. (no homo)
Me too. Although I'm gonna call you on the 'no homo.' Show me your cards.   ;D
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Post by: XFACTOR on April 29, 2010, 02:37:32 PM
It happens to the best of us, I know when I'm with my cousins and shit for family functions I think ...hey wouldn't it be cool to have my son/daughter just hanging out with all their cousins playing and what not... then (most of the time) I think about when I go home from work, thinking ..thank God , I don't have some wife wondering why I'm working late ( cause I have to) thinking I'm fucking some other girl, or having a kid asking if Daddy is home yet or not being able to vacation somewhere far away and get plastered with dudes names 'X-factor' from the internet or even just lighting up a blunt in the living room while I check my tube8 updates from 240. Having a kid is great, but one needs to be prepared to leave all the other 'stuff' behind....

lol  Too funny!!

  I'm feelin the itch though.  Soon, my wife and I will be the only ones in our group that have not taken that next step.  So hard though man you see how much fun we have.  Our entire life is made up of good times like that, and of course work. Once the babies come those good times come to a hault.  I'm not ready for that hault




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Post by: Mr Nobody on April 29, 2010, 02:40:45 PM
How long before we can get this kid trained on posting skills?
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Post by: dov on April 29, 2010, 02:42:03 PM
Choosing to have a child is single handedly the most selfish thing that anyone can do in life. Don't have a child to fulfill any feeling or emotion of yours. It's not fair to the said child. Getting prego, announcing said pregnancy, showers, congrats, baptisms, pictures, etc.......it's all attention whoring at the highest level and the said child asks for NOTHING!

I've always made it a point of NEVER saying congratulations to a pregnancy. Not to friends, strangers, family, nobody. It's not like it's a huge accomplishment or anything special. Anyone can knock a chick up or get knocked up. Yet, they all expect the glamour and congratulatory attention. Disgusting.
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Post by: XFACTOR on April 29, 2010, 02:44:09 PM
Choosing to have a child is single handedly the most selfish thing that anyone can do in life. Don't have a child to fulfill any feeling or emotion of yours. It's not fair to the said child. Getting prego, announcing said pregnancy, showers, congrats, baptisms, pictures, etc.......it's all attention whoring at the highest level and the said child asks for NOTHING!

I've always made it a point of NEVER saying congratulations to a pregnancy. Not to friends, strangers, family, nobody. It's not like it's a huge accomplishment or anything special. Anyone can knock a chick up or get knocked up. Yet, they all expect the glamour and congratulatory attention. Disgusting.

Agreed!
 The other hard part is that not only am I selfish but wife is selfish with our time.  If I want to train for 2 hours at night I can, and my wife can go get her nails done and hair.  If we want to take off to Aruba for a week we just do it and don't think twice. 
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Post by: Mr Nobody on April 29, 2010, 02:46:34 PM
Choosing to have a child is single handedly the most selfish thing that anyone can do in life. Don't have a child to fulfill any feeling or emotion of yours. It's not fair to the said child. Getting prego, announcing said pregnancy, showers, congrats, baptisms, pictures, etc.......it's all attention whoring at the highest level and the said child asks for NOTHING!

I've always made it a point of NEVER saying congratulations to a pregnancy. Not to friends, strangers, family, nobody. It's not like it's a huge accomplishment or anything special. Anyone can knock a chick up or get knocked up. Yet, they all expect the glamour and congratulatory attention. Disgusting.
Good post
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Post by: Les Grossman on April 29, 2010, 02:49:15 PM
Yes, he and several dozen other workers of Chinese descent work long hours manufacturing Paco's drugs for him. It's a rather illicit actvity. I've said too much already.

From the look of Paco, they're gonna need to start a night shift....
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Post by: Mr Nobody on April 29, 2010, 03:01:19 PM
  Shhhhhh!!! comments like that will stop people from buying my book on advanced load dropping techniques.
LMAO ;D
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: K-1 on April 29, 2010, 03:01:40 PM
Choosing to have a child is single handedly the most selfish thing that anyone can do in life. Don't have a child to fulfill any feeling or emotion of yours. It's not fair to the said child. Getting prego, announcing said pregnancy, showers, congrats, baptisms, pictures, etc.......it's all attention whoring at the highest level and the said child asks for NOTHING!

I've always made it a point of NEVER saying congratulations to a pregnancy. Not to friends, strangers, family, nobody. It's not like it's a huge accomplishment or anything special. Anyone can knock a chick up or get knocked up. Yet, they all expect the glamour and congratulatory attention. Disgusting.

END OF THREAD!
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: che on April 29, 2010, 03:05:39 PM
Choosing to have a child is single handedly the most selfish thing that anyone can do in life.

Obviously you don't have kids
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Post by: #1 Klaus fan on April 29, 2010, 03:08:28 PM
I read that in the end, 80% of all men have children. It's the social norm, and if you don't you're just WEIRD!
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Post by: Fury on April 29, 2010, 03:11:23 PM
I read that in the end, 80% of all men have children. It's the social norm, and if you don't you're just WEIRD!

That number is consistently decreasing.
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Post by: dov on April 29, 2010, 04:11:05 PM
Obviously you don't have kids
No, I don't have any children. Do you agree or disagree with the quoted statement?
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Post by: The True Adonis on April 29, 2010, 04:16:42 PM
Children are a poor investment.  Unless you have a a protected buyer, a good lawyer and the extradition laws are agreeable in case the walls start closing in.
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Post by: dr.chimps on April 29, 2010, 04:20:03 PM
Children are a poor investment.  Unless you have a a protected buyer, a good lawyer and the extradition laws are agreeable in case the walls start closing in.
LOL. Great troll, bro.  ;D
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Post by: dov on April 29, 2010, 04:20:29 PM
I will NEVER understand why anyone would choose to have children.
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Post by: dov on April 29, 2010, 04:21:29 PM
like "Pellius", I'm anxiously awaiting "Uberman" to chime in on this one
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Post by: Kwon on April 29, 2010, 04:22:14 PM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?

You really feel the Brunette is the one?

How long have you two been together?

Don't make a too hasty decision that you'll regret.
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Post by: The True Adonis on April 29, 2010, 04:24:12 PM
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Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: dov on April 29, 2010, 04:26:17 PM
Children are a poor investment.  Unless you have a a protected buyer, a good lawyer and the extradition laws are agreeable in case the walls start closing in.
Agreed...I get a kick out of folks who claim that their kids will take care of them when they're old and I'll have nobody cause I choose not to have children....I laugh in their faces and tell them that they'll be in the same nursing home as me.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: che on April 29, 2010, 04:58:14 PM
No, I don't have any children. Do you agree or disagree with the quoted statement?
In my case I disagree.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: dov on April 30, 2010, 10:35:28 AM
In my case I disagree.
That's all good and well......In me case I don't fall victim to silly social pressures and expectations.
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Post by: James Blunt on April 30, 2010, 10:54:05 AM
That's all good and well......In me case I don't fall victim to silly social pressures and expectations.
Yeah! That's the spirit  ;D

There's enough kids kickin around as it is damnit.
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Post by: The Showstoppa on April 30, 2010, 10:57:05 AM
Seems to me dov's attempts to adopt with his life partner aren't going so well...
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Post by: newmom on April 30, 2010, 11:05:05 AM
you will never now of a greater, deeper love than with your child. Is it easy NO, are there sleepless nights YES..is it the best thing I did..ABSOLUTELY
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Post by: Army of One on April 30, 2010, 11:22:15 AM
you will never now of a greater, deeper love than with your child. Is it easy NO, are there sleepless nights YES..is it the best thing I did..ABSOLUTELY

You are hardly going to publically say you regret it are you.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Howard on April 30, 2010, 11:27:41 AM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?
It is normal to have some positive feelings for a child and think about being a parent.
However, if like me, you rarely feel like that or only with certain kids, you have your answer.
Having a kid will change your life for good. Some bad, some good and it is a crap shoot as to how the kid will turn out or your experience.
I never had kids ( never really wanted to) but as a HS teacher understand why many do.
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Post by: newmom on April 30, 2010, 11:29:17 AM
DB, I couldn't imagine my life without my little one. She keeps me young. I credit her for making me loose all the weight (she doesn't know it because she was 2 when I realized I wanted to be a healthier parent and better role model for her as far as weight wise).
I love the fact that I rush around to take her to ballet, swimming and karate after school.

There is nothing like when she wakes up and says Good morning mommy or when I read to her and kiss her goodnight she says I love you momma..
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: dov on April 30, 2010, 12:04:32 PM
Seems to me dov's attempts to adopt with his life partner aren't going so well...
aint gots no shit like that here in the Gaff pal.....keep you gay ass in Apex
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Fury on April 30, 2010, 12:16:49 PM
So we have people with kids arguing how they're worth it and people without kids arguing that they're not worth it. Lots of headway going to be made here.  ::)
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: che on April 30, 2010, 12:21:47 PM
That's all good and well......In me case I don't fall victim to silly social pressures and expectations.

I respect that.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: jwb on April 30, 2010, 12:35:46 PM
It is normal to have some positive feelings for a child and think about being a parent.
However, if like me, you rarely feel like that or only with certain kids, you have your answer.
Having a kid will change your life for good. Some bad, some good and it is a crap shoot as to how the kid will turn out or your experience.
I never had kids ( never really wanted to) but as a HS teacher understand why many do.
did your sultry 2nd wife end up having any kids howie?
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Tre on April 30, 2010, 12:59:40 PM
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?

Hated my (then) spouse when she was pregnant.  She complained all the time (worse than normal) and then complained about me being mean to her because she was complaining.  So, I skipped town for a while.

Once the baby was born, it sorta hit me and I do remember holding her for the first time.

Even though her mom and I are no longer together, kiddo and I now have the best relationship ever.  We both love the memories we're building together and as a family. 

For all the baby mama has put me through, I wouldn't trade any of it if it meant not having Momo.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: dov on April 30, 2010, 01:12:36 PM
Hated my (then) spouse when she was pregnant.  She complained all the time (worse than normal) and then complained about me being mean to her because she was complaining.  So, I skipped town for a while.

Once the baby was born, it sorta hit me and I do remember holding her for the first time.

Even though her mom and I are no longer together, kiddo and I now have the best relationship ever.  We both love the memories we're building together and as a family. 

For all the baby mama has put me through, I wouldn't trade any of it if it meant not having Momo.

I'm guessing you're in the 60% majority of American disfunction. Typical "I would'nt trade my kid for nothin" must saying. Oh brother! Why can't just one godamm parent say "My kids drive me crazy and if I had it to do all over again there's no way in hell I'd saddle myself with children"? Seriously, societies expectations just keep kickin most folks asses!
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: dov on April 30, 2010, 01:21:23 PM
You are hardly going to publically say you regret it are you.
:-X






















LOL!!!!!!!
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Fury on April 30, 2010, 01:25:16 PM
I'm guessing you're in the 60% majority of American disfunction. Typical "I would'nt trade my kid for nothin" must saying. Oh brother! Why can't just one godamm parent say "My kids drive me crazy and if I had it to do all over again there's no way in hell I'd saddle myself with children"? Seriously, societies expectations just keep kickin most folks asses!

So you think 100% of people regret having children? You sound like you're desperately trying to convince yourself that you made the right choice.  ::)
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Sherief Shalaby on April 30, 2010, 01:25:40 PM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?

if this is considered gay IAM A BIG GAY :-X
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: dov on April 30, 2010, 01:31:17 PM
So you think 100% of people regret having children? You sound like you're desperately trying to convince yourself that you made the right choice.  ::)
60% divorce rate in America = Disfunction......I definetely don't believe that 100% of parents "would'nt change anything" if given the chance. I just wish there was one parent in the entire universe who would actually admit that they can't stand the fact that they have children. Come on, there has to be at least one parent in the world, right? Society won't allow ANYONE to say they regret it. I'm just calling obvious bullshit.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Tre on April 30, 2010, 01:45:39 PM
I'm guessing you're in the 60% majority of American disfunction. Typical "I would'nt trade my kid for nothin" must saying. Oh brother! Why can't just one godamm parent say "My kids drive me crazy and if I had it to do all over again there's no way in hell I'd saddle myself with children"? Seriously, societies expectations just keep kickin most folks asses!

I'm WAY different, though.

If I'd stayed on my own path, I'd likely have a 'normal' job and would probably hate the daily grind.  I'd have money and security, but not be having nearly as much fun.

When our child arrived, I was in the process of starting my own business and once the bills began getting bigger and my portion of that responsibility increased, I had to step up my game on the business front.  While my partner and I have been extremely lucky (got in with the right product at the right time), we have worked hard and gotten a great payoff.  I wouldn't have been nearly as motivated if I didn't have a child.  Back then, it was about having enough money for our young family to survive and over time, it's been about making enough money for us to enjoy life and long-term security.  

I love to ski and it's one of the best daddy-daughter activities I can think of, because it really allows kids to explore their capabilities independently, while knowing that Dad is out of sight, but not far behind.  

My daughter loves softball and is a tremendous player. I can't stand softball (and I'm not a fan of the local politics either), but I've learned more patience and my perspective has been broadened as a result of being the supportive dad. In season, I often practice with her.  I am not a huge fan of watching soccer either, but the kid is great, so I really enjoy watching her play.  

In addition to skiing, she's also a ready-made golf buddy. 

Maybe I just got lucky with my little tomboy, but as far as I'm concerned, kids are great. :)
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: galain on May 01, 2010, 12:33:49 AM
Ok - I'll de-lurk to chime in on this. I have just turned 40 - an age when many of my friends have already had kids for some time.

I know a few couples who steadfastly say they would never be without their kids now that they're there, that their lives would not feel complete without them - but - if given the choice, they would never choose to have their children again.

All but two of the couples I know who have kids have had their relationship suffer (the others are just  beautiful perfect families). Financial stress, time stress, lack of energy - quite a few of my friends (male and female) have wondered aloud if they will still have a relationship by the time their kids are teens and a little more independent.

I am child free. My wife and I have been together for 17 years. Perhaps kids would make us happier - perhaps not. It's very hard to imagine. All I know is that we are both still madly in love, both extremely happy with our life and to date, have never felt any biological or social need to reproduce. I see how deeply in love parents are with their children - which is fantastic - but I also notice the collateral damage that comes to a lot of families and I don't regret at all the decisions my wife and I have made.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Purge_WTF on May 01, 2010, 01:08:01 AM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?

  I decided in my teens that I didn't want kids of my own. I recently became an uncle, and even though my niece is adorable, I still haven't chaged my mind.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: CalvinH on May 01, 2010, 06:27:04 AM
Kids and women are both tools of the devil.at least you can fuck women >:(
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Tapeworm on May 01, 2010, 06:43:22 AM
Ok - I'll de-lurk to chime in on this. I have just turned 40 - an age when many of my friends have already had kids for some time.

I know a few couples who steadfastly say they would never be without their kids now that they're there, that their lives would not feel complete without them - but - if given the choice, they would never choose to have their children again.

All but two of the couples I know who have kids have had their relationship suffer (the others are just  beautiful perfect families). Financial stress, time stress, lack of energy - quite a few of my friends (male and female) have wondered aloud if they will still have a relationship by the time their kids are teens and a little more independent.

I am child free. My wife and I have been together for 17 years. Perhaps kids would make us happier - perhaps not. It's very hard to imagine. All I know is that we are both still madly in love, both extremely happy with our life and to date, have never felt any biological or social need to reproduce. I see how deeply in love parents are with their children - which is fantastic - but I also notice the collateral damage that comes to a lot of families and I don't regret at all the decisions my wife and I have made.


Holy shit.  A non gimmick who can spell and isn't queer as a football bat.  Post more.  Save us.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: galain on May 01, 2010, 08:29:50 AM
Holy shit.  A non gimmick who can spell and isn't queer as a football bat.  Post more.  Save us.

Ha. I actually used to post a little now and then, many years ago, but have been happy enough just lurking for awhile. Maybe I'll be more active if I think I have anything useful to say. We'll see!
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Sherief Shalaby on May 01, 2010, 08:24:26 PM
Ok - I'll de-lurk to chime in on this. I have just turned 40 - an age when many of my friends have already had kids for some time.

I know a few couples who steadfastly say they would never be without their kids now that they're there, that their lives would not feel complete without them - but - if given the choice, they would never choose to have their children again.

All but two of the couples I know who have kids have had their relationship suffer (the others are just  beautiful perfect families). Financial stress, time stress, lack of energy - quite a few of my friends (male and female) have wondered aloud if they will still have a relationship by the time their kids are teens and a little more independent.

I am child free. My wife and I have been together for 17 years. Perhaps kids would make us happier - perhaps not. It's very hard to imagine. All I know is that we are both still madly in love, both extremely happy with our life and to date, have never felt any biological or social need to reproduce. I see how deeply in love parents are with their children - which is fantastic - but I also notice the collateral damage that comes to a lot of families and I don't regret at all the decisions my wife and I have made.


because your are 40 and the choice is still in your hands but may be 10 years later you will regret!!.. and of course may be not!!..
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: newmom on May 02, 2010, 03:41:59 AM
Kids and women are both tools of the devil.at least you can fuck women >:(
::) ::) ::)
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: outby43 on May 02, 2010, 04:26:14 AM
kids ruin freedom.  That is the main reason why my wife and I don't have any.  There are many others though.  They are expensive, I don't like shit and piss, I hate trying to explain shit over and over,  then when they get older you have to deal with hauling them around all over the place for this or that.  Then the time comes for rebellion,  smart asses, getting in trouble with friends,  me hitting on their girlfriends when they get to college...lol.  It's a bad scene all around.  Leave the kid in the bottom of a rubber and enjoy your life.

A friend of mine said he has kids so he is not alone when he gets old.  He said I will be all alone at Christmas with no one to share it with.  I thought that was a selfish reason to have kids.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: newmom on May 02, 2010, 04:28:09 AM


A friend of mine said he has kids so he is not alone when he gets old.  He said I will be all alone at Christmas with no one to share it with.  I thought that was a selfish reason to have kids.

that sure as hell is right there.
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: outby43 on May 02, 2010, 04:29:36 AM
that sure as hell is right there.

no response to why I don't have kids?
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: newmom on May 02, 2010, 04:34:13 AM
because that is yours and the wifes choice, nothing wrong with it at all. I have no qualms about people's reasoning for wanting or not wanting kids. Did you want me to start an e-fight ;D
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: outby43 on May 02, 2010, 04:36:20 AM
because that is yours and the wifes choice, nothing wrong with it at all. I have no qualms about people's reasoning for wanting or not wanting kids. Did you want me to start an e-fight ;D

lol.  nah I am getting ready to get off work so I don't have time.  Maybe we can save it for another occasion.   :D
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: ~UN_$ung~ on May 02, 2010, 04:37:13 AM
Lately my friend(that blond girl) bring a baby to my factory or my apartment.
Before, i was like saying "Oh he is cute" and thats it. And i didnt really care.
But now, i begin to feel that the baby is really cute and i begin to feel like having one strongly.(All the time, i am holding him or holding his hand.)
I thought that that is a womans feeling. Does it happen to guy? Or I am becoming like a gay?? ;D
Maybe old getbigers can answer me.
How is it?


i absolutely hate you...
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: newmom on May 02, 2010, 04:37:39 AM
lol.  nah I am getting ready to get off work so I don't have time.  Maybe we can save it for another occasion.   :D

sounds like a plan. ;D
 But seriously, wether someone chooses to have or not have kids is their decision. I personally couldn't see my life without my little princess
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: jaejonna on May 02, 2010, 04:38:45 AM
taka you knock this broad up or what ??
Title: Re: I have never felt that i wanted to have kid...until now.
Post by: Mr Nobody on May 02, 2010, 04:58:38 AM
taka you knock this broad up or what ??
Sounds like kyomu has one in the oven.