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Like most you, I've watched many movies and documentaries about prison life and one of the most fascinating aspect is sexuality.
You have a bunch of "macho" men secluded from the outside world, they are supposed to be the epitome of bad. In many cases these men will be locked up for decades to life.
Obviously there will be people already gay in prison. But when does a man say "fuck it I'm gonna be in here for 20 or more years, I might as well like guys". Obviously it doesn't happen to everyone but it happens to alot. Were these guys always gay? Is the yearning for human connection so great the mind makes adjustments to compensate for lack of women these men "turn gay"?
In many cases these men continue being gay when they are released or bisexual. The same thing happens to the women. I've always wondered how far must a straight man be pushed to go gay cause he's given up hope. Even the "tough" ones that rape....still gay.
I don't expect any of you geniuses to have an answer and know none of you will including the gay ones...Please don't embarrass yourselves with pathetic one-liners.
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Like most you, I've watched many movies and documentaries about prison life and one of the most fascinating aspect is sexuality.
You have a bunch of "macho" men secluded from the outside world, they are supposed to be the epitome of bad. In many cases these men will be locked up for decades to life.
Obviously there will be people already gay in prison. But when does a man say "fuck it I'm gonna be in here for 20 or more years, I might as well like guys". Obviously it doesn't happen to everyone but it happens to alot. Were these guys always gay? Is the yearning for human connection so great the mind makes adjustments to compensate for lack of women these men "turn gay"?
In many cases these men continue being gay when they are released or bisexual. The same thing happens to the women. I've always wondered how far must a straight man be pushed to go gay cause he's given up hope. Even the "tough" ones that rape....still gay.
I don't expect any of you geniuses to have an answer and know none of you will including the gay ones...Please don't embarrass yourselves with pathetic one-liners.
Most of the gay sex in there isn't really gay and they never "turn gay". They are just having sex with the only thing they possibly can.
And for a lot of them the sex equals power and domination. And their sex drive and their violent tendencies mesh together in a twisted way. Most of the rapes in prison are purely violent. They are meant to dominate and humilate.
The guys who turn gay were probably closet cases or something. But it's actually really uncommon.
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WTF? Wigg...this is completely beyond tranny gimmicks. first...i'd take up islam in the can because they get religious protection from the f@gs. Go to sleep...wiggs. It's obivous you are tired.
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Most of the gay sex in there isn't really gay and they never "turn gay". They are just having sex with the only thing they possibly can.
And for a lot of them the sex equals power and domination. And their sex drive and their violent tendencies mesh together in a twisted way. Most of the rapes in prison are purely violent. They are meant to dominate and humilate.
The guys who turn gay were probably closet cases or something. But it's actually really uncommon.
I understand the rape thing but the point is if they don't like men why do they get aroused. I meant the guys that fuck around and have relationships in prison, Like Beecher and Chris Keller from OZ.
What you are saying is that you can fuck a man and not be gay...I disagree. Are you saying they just want some ass they don't care whose and it? I don't know if there's a term for that...
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WTF? Wigg...this is completely beyond tranny gimmicks. first...i'd take up islam in the can because they get religious protection from the f@gs. Go to sleep...wiggs. It's obivous you are tired.
Lol...
This is serious I want to hear ideas on this.
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Prison rape is serious business!
Especially when I'm touching myself thinking of it!
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Most of the gay sex in there isn't really gay and they never "turn gay". They are just having sex with the only thing they possibly can.
And for a lot of them the sex equals power and domination. And their sex drive and their violent tendencies mesh together in a twisted way. Most of the rapes in prison are purely violent. They are meant to dominate and humilate.
The guys who turn gay were probably closet cases or something. But it's actually really uncommon.
that is very astute......the homosexuality observed in prison, at least from an observer's POV, is some bizarre amalgam between the need for human connection and a sadistic need to dominate another all rolled into the same act.
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that is very astute......the homosexuality observed in prison, at least from an observer's POV, is some bizarre amalgam between the need for human connection and a sadistic need to dominate another all rolled into the same act.
Obviously there's much more about human sexuality we don't know about and it's not as cut and dry as we like it to be. I think we have to separate the rapists and power trippers and the guys that get boyfriends in prison. The aforementioned that weren't gay are the ones I want to concentrate on.
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Lol...
This is serious I want to hear ideas on this.
i dont have any ideas on prison rape, interest in finding out in this life. i'm assuming you just got finish watching American Me.
why do straight men come south and pay bunda from patricia? that's a more legit question.
could you put patricia in a male prison population in her current condition...or do you let her grow a beard and remove the tits?
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i dont have any ideas on prison rape, interest in finding out in this life. i'm assuming you just got finish watching American Me.
why do straight men come south and pay bunda from patricia? that's a more legit question.
could you put patricia in a male prison population in her current condition...or do you let her grow a beard and remove the tits?
that is an entirely different phenomenon....its definitely not gay, but not straight either.
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i dont have any ideas on prison rape, interest in finding out in this life. i'm assuming you just got finish watching American Me.
why do straight men come south and pay bunda from patricia? that's a more legit question.
could you put patricia in a male prison population in her current condition...or do you let her grow a beard and remove the tits?
My step brother was in prison and he told about a tranny in there. He told me they kept it separate because it looked to much like a broad. It had tits ass implants and everything.
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that is an entirely different phenomenon....its definitely not gay, but not straight either.
I tried to explain it to these one track minded fools but they'll have none if it...
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where is Dr. Fist when you need him
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I tried to explain it to these one track minded fools but they'll have none if it...
yeh, you really cant address shit like that on here .....unless you are calling it gay.
but its kind of ambiguous.....i known quite a few dudes in the bodybuilding/club community that had a penchant for trannies. they were not attracted to men, they werent gay, they all fucked lots of chicks. but they did like trannies.
i mean, like i said......its not gay, but its not really straight either
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Prison rape is serious business!
Especially when I'm touching myself thinking of it!
LOL! good timing. "musclepost" showing some decent potential.
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I tried to explain it to these one track minded fools but they'll have none if it...
I agree. I think anyone that just outright says that having sexual interest in a passable transsexual is flat out gay and nothing else, is either being Naive, uneducated, or obstinate. Gay men do not like Transsexuals, end of story.
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Humans think they can do anything but the rules apply. Like how no one can keep their eyes closed if their mouth is open and they tilt their head back. Try it a few times and you'll see. You can't beat nature.
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that is an entirely different phenomenon....its definitely not gay, but not straight either.
what do you mean? the g@ys on here said they dont want anything to do with patricia...but heteros are like "Let me think on that for a moment." :-\
wiggs...that's rape and domination in prison. how the hell you make a decision when you getting raped nightly? was your cousin with an islam group in prison to protect his a$$? :-X
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what do you mean? the g@ys on here said they dont want anything to do with patricia...but heteros are like "Let me think on that for a moment." :-\
wiggs...that's rape and domination in prison. how the hell you make a decision when you getting raped nightly? was you cousin with an islam group in prison to protect his a$$? :-X
It's not only rape. Yes, rape happens but sex and relationships between consenting adults happens also.
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what do you mean? the g@ys on here said they dont want anything to do with patricia...but heteros are like "Let me think on that for a moment." :-\
wiggs...that's rape and domination in prison. how the hell you make a decision when you getting raped nightly? was you cousin with an islam group in prison to protect his a$$? :-X
exactly, if you are not attracted to the girl in that video.....it means you are into men
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its actually MORE gay to not be attracted to the tranny in that video.....if that makes sense
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exactly, if you are not attracted to the girl in that video.....it means you are into men
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its actually MORE gay to not be attracted to the tranny in that video.....if that makes sense
I have spoken at length in the past as to my theories behind Transsexual fetish appeal to Straight men, and the possibly psychological reasons behind it, but to a complete lack of interest, and Gay remarks. If anyone cares I can probably repost some of it.
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I have spoken at length in the past as to my theories behind Transsexual fetish appeal to Straight men, and the possibly psychological reasons behind it, but to a complete lack of interest, and Gay remarks. If anyone cares I can probably repost some of it.
Please repost
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Please repost
it's in the thread when i kept challenging bay and the bi-sexual guys on the board, dont remember which one. one user more or less said patricia is a fetish when i asked, "why patricia isnt every g@y man's fantasy and main bitch :-\ ?"
are you talking about owing some fool money in prison because you dont have anything on your books...so you have to be his partner in the relationship? that's as f##k up as rape.
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Like most you, I've watched many movies and documentaries about prison life and one of the most fascinating aspect is sexuality.
You have a bunch of "macho" men secluded from the outside world, they are supposed to be the epitome of bad. In many cases these men will be locked up for decades to life.
Obviously there will be people already gay in prison. But when does a man say "fuck it I'm gonna be in here for 20 or more years, I might as well like guys". Obviously it doesn't happen to everyone but it happens to alot. Were these guys always gay? Is the yearning for human connection so great the mind makes adjustments to compensate for lack of women these men "turn gay"?
In many cases these men continue being gay when they are released or bisexual. The same thing happens to the women. I've always wondered how far must a straight man be pushed to go gay cause he's given up hope. Even the "tough" ones that rape....still gay.
I don't expect any of you geniuses to have an answer and know none of you will including the gay ones...Please don't embarrass yourselves with pathetic one-liners.
Raping or punking weaker inmates in prison has nothing to do with being gay. Go to prison and figure it out. Being a black man that with 40% of your entire male population incarcerated tells me your a fucking weenie or you were raised among women.
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I feel obliged to post this here
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I have spoken at length in the past as to my theories behind Transsexual fetish appeal to Straight men, and the possibly psychological reasons behind it, but to a complete lack of interest, and Gay remarks. If anyone cares I can probably repost some of it.
would be interesting....
i have my own opinions on why transexual's often appeal greatly to bodybuilders who are otherwise straight......but i dont feel like typing all of it now.
it has to do with bodybuilders devoting a lot of time and energy in order to become the masculine archetype or ideal..............so in turn, bodybulders can appreciate transexuals (who started out as men) devoting a lot of time and energy into turning themselves into the feminine ideal.
bodybuilders and transexuality is almost the same thing.........but on the opposite end of the spectrum if you think about it.
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I feel obliged to post this here
Stark, do you cling to American Culture?
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Well as I have a tendency to write a thesis whenever I post on a subject, I will simply put it briefly for now, and save everyone the hour that it would take to read my post.
I think that the appeal of Transsexuals, is that to an otherwise straight man, they can be perceived as women that has the sex drive/mentality of a man. A lot of trannys enjoy being objectified, where a lot of women do not. This isn't to stop a man from objectifying a genetic female, but there is more of a honesty with the Transsexual, and that is probably a transcendental quality to those whom find that aspect appealing.
IMO it is more of a fetish for straight men, then anything else.
I may yet decide to go ahead and write another thesis on the subject...lol.
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Stark, do you cling to American Culture?
Not that much if I could choose to life in either America or Canada - I would choose Canada.
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Raping or punking weaker inmates in prison has nothing to do with being gay. Go to prison and figure it out. Being a black man that with 40% of your entire male population incarcerated tells me your a fucking weenie or you were raised among women.
I'm not talking about rape. Read my other posts in the thread....
Where are you getting your numbers...40% of black men are not incarcerated ::)
I was raised by my mother and father...
Your post tells me you were raped by a black man with a 10 inch cock and you liked it but have conflicting feelings.
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Not that much if I could choose to life in either America or Canada - I would choose Canada.
having lived in both places, You're up for a bad tax surprised my friend. Plus "jaguarEnterprise" is gunna fuck you up.
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I feel obliged to post this here
this negro crazy. i'd commit suicide or out another inmate to insure i wouldnt have share a cell with this homo.
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I'm not talking about rape. Read my other posts in the thread....
Where are you getting your numbers...40% of black men are not incarcerated ::)
I was raised by my mother and father...
Your post tells me you were raped by a black man with a 10 inch cock and you liked it but have conflicting feelings.
Well I was spot on by saying your a fucking weenie. No actually I did 5 years back in my 20's here in CA CDC. Im a Validated Sureno and fortunately we run every prison here in this state. Me stating your a weenie is me simply saying you obviously are not raised tough because you wouldnt even been talking about that shit here. You would already know.
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Well I was spot on by saying your a fucking weenie. No actually I did 5 years back in my 20's here in CA CDC. Im a Validated Sureno and fortunately we run every prison here in this state. Me stating your a weenie is me simply saying you obviously are not raised tough because you wouldnt even been talking about that shit here. You would already know.
Did you share a cell with Dr. Fist, and spend many hours talking about how "The Mexicans introduced that method." ???
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Did you share a cell with Dr. Fist, and spend many hours talking about how "The Mexicans introduced that method." ???
Right you are all amongst your kind here. Good night.
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Well I was spot on by saying your a fucking weenie. No actually I did 5 years back in my 20's here in CA CDC. Im a Validated Sureno and fortunately we run every prison here in this state. Me stating your a weenie is me simply saying you obviously are not raised tough because you wouldnt even been talking about that shit here. You would already know.
I'm not going to get into an argument over my "toughness" with a convict.
I could repeat every stereotype about convicts but then I'm sure you've heard them before.
Being raised tough doesn't mean you've been in prison...
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This is a good topic Wiggs.. I always wondered...
to make an analogy... as a Kid I used to spend my summers at a "lake"... limitied number of people and kids my age (circa 13-14)...
girls were fugly but still sport female genes.. by mid july the less uglyiest look sorta ok....
it's all about perspective... a "hole" eventually becomes just a "hole"..
Homosexuality, as we know it in an open society is simply individuals still preferring men in an open society, nothing more, nothing less... restrict most men, and they will favor the same.
"love is love".
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Homosexuality, as we know it in an open society is simply individuals still preferring men in an open society, nothing more, nothing less... restrict most men, and they will favor the same.
"love is love".
We have a winner...
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This is a good topic Wiggs.. I always wondered...
to make an analogy... as a Kid I used to spend my summers at a "lake"... limitied number of people and kids my age (circa 13-14)...
girls were fugly but still sport female genes.. by mid july the less uglyiest look sorta ok....
it's all about perspective... a "hole" eventually becomes just a "hole"..
Homosexuality, as we know it in an open society is simply individuals still preferring men in an open society, nothing more, nothing less... restrict most men, and they will favor the same.
"love is love".
Wifey has the cash on lockdown tonight…Alex? I guess no Cubans…so you went for a blunt on Crenshaw and Slauson.
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Wifey has the cash on lockdown tonight…Alex? I guess no Cubans…so you went for a blunt on Crenshaw and Slauson.
fuck I wish but my nervous system doesn't like herb... still you gave a good idea... I've got a camacho stack in the garage... awesome..
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I don't think there's any innate desire or inclination towards homosexuality that makes guys in prison have sex with each other. Sex is a physiological and psychological want that can be controlled / curbed via masturbation, but not a biological necessity that absolutely requires the participation of another person, be they male or female.
There are a few factors that come into play in prison, including the hopelessness of the situation, the pressure (from other inmates), the prevalence and acceptance of the homosexual behavior that is seen as the only viable option that can be exercised and so on. Put all the prisoners in isolation and give them access to the internet or a TV in which they can watch porn and I bet a whole bunch of them wouldn't fcuk any of the other guys.
But when it's the norm and you have to choose between having to be on the receiving end or giving it to someone else, I suppose most of them cave in and it becomes an acquired taste over time. Man, I don't really want to think about that at all ;D
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I don't think there's any innate desire or inclination towards homosexuality that makes guys in prison have sex with each other. Sex is a physiological and psychological want that can be controlled / curbed via masturbation, but not a need that absolutely requires the participation of another person, be they male or female.
There are a few factors that come into play in prison, including the hopelessness of the situation, the pressure (from other inmates), the prevalence and acceptance of the homosexual behavior that is seen as the only viable option that can be exercised and so on. Put all the prisoners in isolation and give them access to the internet or a TV in which they can watch porn and I bet a whole bunch of them wouldn't fcuk any of the other guys.
But when it's the norm and you have to choose between having to be on the receiving end or giving it to someone else, I suppose most of them cave in and it becomes an acquired taste over time. Man, I don't really want to think about that at all ;D
correct...I posted this because I want people to think.
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I don't think there's any innate desire or inclination towards homosexuality that makes guys in prison have sex with each other. Sex is a physiological and psychological want that can be controlled / curbed via masturbation, but not a need that absolutely requires the participation of another person, be they male or female.
There are a few factors that come into play in prison, including the hopelessness of the situation, the pressure (from other inmates), the prevalence and acceptance of the homosexual behavior that is seen as the only viable option that can be exercised and so on. Put all the prisoners in isolation and give them access to the internet or a TV in which they can watch porn and I bet a whole bunch of them wouldn't fcuk any of the other guys.
But when it's the norm and you have to choose between having to be on the receiving end or giving it to someone else, I suppose most of them cave in and it becomes an acquired taste over time. Man, I don't really want to think about that at all ;D
Sounds like you did Hard Time Kiwi. (Pun Intended)
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fuck I wish but my nervous system doesn't like herb... still you gave a good idea... I've got a camacho stack in the garage... awesome..
self inflicted Pic or it didn't happen.
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I don't think there's any innate desire or inclination towards homosexuality that makes guys in prison have sex with each other. Sex is a physiological and psychological need that can be controlled / curbed via masturbation, but not a biological necessity that absolutely requires the participation of another person, be they male or female.
There are a few factors that come into play in prison, including the hopelessness of the situation, the pressure (from other inmates), the prevalence and acceptance of the homosexual behavior that is seen as the only viable option that can be exercised and so on. Put all the prisoners in isolation and give them access to the internet or a TV in which they can watch porn and I bet a whole bunch of them wouldn't fcuk any of the other guys.
But when it's the norm and you have to choose between having to be on the receiving end or giving it to someone else, I suppose most of them cave in and it becomes an acquired taste over time. Man, I don't really want to think about that at all ;D
Good Post - Wiggs dude you got to stay off MSNBC the Lockdown Series its scaring you man.
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Sounds like you did Hard Time Kiwi. (Pun Intended)
Haha, no Sir. Never been to prison and hopefully, never will.
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I don't think there's any innate desire or inclination towards homosexuality that makes guys in prison have sex with each other. Sex is a physiological and psychological need that can be controlled / curbed via masturbation, but not a biological necessity that absolutely requires the participation of another person, be they male or female.
There are a few factors that come into play in prison, including the hopelessness of the situation, the pressure (from other inmates), the prevalence and acceptance of the homosexual behavior that is seen as the only viable option that can be exercised and so on. Put all the prisoners in isolation and give them access to the internet or a TV in which they can watch porn and I bet a whole bunch of them wouldn't fcuk any of the other guys.
But when it's the norm and you have to choose between having to be on the receiving end or giving it to someone else, I suppose most of them cave in and it becomes an acquired taste over time. Man, I don't really want to think about that at all ;D
What does this info do to the info we have on human sexuality and being gay being nature vs. nurture?
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correct...I posted this because I want people to think.
think? after this thread...i wont have salad or jelly on my menu for a while. seriously...that dude done turned my stomach with that vid.
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think? after this thread...i wont have salad or jelly on my menu for a while. seriously...that dude done turned my stomach with that vid.
That's like 10 years old...def a classic.
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If Wiggs was in my cell i'd make him cut his prison shirt into a mini skirt and i'd ass rape him every day.
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If Wiggs was in my cell i'd make him cut his prison shirt into a mini skirt and i'd ass rape him every day.
Actually you'd be my bottom bitch.
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This dude is serious. How crazy is that?
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Actually you'd be my bottom bitch.
Nope. I'd have you wearing a mini skirt and make up. I'd name you Beyonce, and i'd plow your butthole anytime I wanted.
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This dude is serious. How crazy is that?
:o :-X....well there it is.
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Nope. I'd have you wearing a mini skirt and make up. I'd name you Beyonce, and i'd plow your butthole anytime I wanted.
lol....you got it all planned out don't ya?
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I still remember this from years ago with Ross Kemp. fucking sick.
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Nope. I'd have you wearing a mini skirt and make up. I'd name you Beyonce, and i'd plow your butthole anytime I wanted.
LMAO ;D
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wow! thread was a bit entertaining before the rash of sick prison videos. :-\
break time.
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starts @ the 2 minute mark.
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poor jtsunami,....
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correct...I posted this because I want people to think.
Good luck with that. :-\
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poor jtsunami,....
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Distraction will kill you ;D
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It's only gay if you want it to be.
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I still remember this from years ago with Ross Kemp. fucking sick.
I would kill that fucker if he tried to make me his bitch. I'd rather go down swinging than get degraded like that.
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Wiggs i am a homosexual and have NO fascination with prison sexuality. now if i were a sexaholic i would have it.
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Actually you'd be my bottom bitch.
Translation: I'm picturing you with breasts tattooed on your back. ;D
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Like most you, I've watched many movies and documentaries about prison life and one of the most fascinating aspect is sexuality.
You have a bunch of "macho" men secluded from the outside world, they are supposed to be the epitome of bad. In many cases these men will be locked up for decades to life.
Obviously there will be people already gay in prison. But when does a man say "fuck it I'm gonna be in here for 20 or more years, I might as well like guys". Obviously it doesn't happen to everyone but it happens to alot. Were these guys always gay? Is the yearning for human connection so great the mind makes adjustments to compensate for lack of women these men "turn gay"?
In many cases these men continue being gay when they are released or bisexual. The same thing happens to the women. I've always wondered how far must a straight man be pushed to go gay cause he's given up hope. Even the "tough" ones that rape....still gay.
I don't expect any of you geniuses to have an answer and know none of you will including the gay ones...Please don't embarrass yourselves with pathetic one-liners.
08:40 and onwards
A Nazi Lowrider got bored of the gangs beliefs and hooked up with a Jewish man in prison. Prison seems to be quite the dull place to make you drop all your former values.
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Distraction will kill you ;D
Is this real? Cannot decide
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Here's an interesting article for you (scroll down): http://hubpages.com/hub/Sex-in-Prison
Interesting forum discussion: http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/archive/index.php/t-119015.html
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I understand the rape thing but the point is if they don't like men why do they get aroused.
you don't need to be aroused to get a boner. Never pop a hard on for no reason? if not, get your test levels checked.
I never been to prison, be i heard jacking off is a sign of weakness. Also guys that are in for 5 years or more are more likely to rape/get raped.
If you are going to prison wiggs, get married first. That way she can visit you. ;)
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I once read a story on a gambling forum about a guy who spent a year in prison, he discussed so many details, was one of the better looks at the system, I wish I could find it and post it here!
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more and more proof that we are actually monkey's, not human. We are animals.
Everything we do and everything we don't do revolves around pussy in SOME WAY just like it's the duty of women to look good for us men basicly... we can think alot and we can be very spiritual, in the end, it's denying our true nature, our beast nature, we are animals and that's all there is to it.
On the top of that we are nothing but fragile skin with lots of nerv's... we are bound to be sexual, in everything. Women too, ESPECIALLY women... but men are the subjects and women are the objects.
Still, I don't know... wigg's may be right... I can only imagine what they do in women's prison :-* :P :P :-*
We are beasts...
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more and more proof that we are actually monkey's, not human. We are animals.
Everything we do and everything we don't do revolves around pussy in SOME WAY just like it's the duty of women to look good for us men basicly... we can think alot and we can be very spiritual, in the end, it's denying our true nature, our beast nature, we are animals and that's all there is to it.
On the top of that we are nothing but fragile skin with lots of nerv's... we are bound to be sexual, in everything. Women too, ESPECIALLY women... but men are the subjects and women are the objects.
Still, I don't know... wigg's may be right... I can only imagine what they do in women's prison :-* :P :P :-*
We are beasts...
Good post.
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to make an analogy... as a Kid I used to spend my summers at a "lake"... limitied number of people and kids my age (circa 13-14)...
girls were fugly but still sport female genes.. by mid july the less uglyiest look sorta ok....
it's all about perspective..
ive noticed this phenomenon as well.
for example in grade school, first day of class you look around and first take is 'theres not really any hot girls in here'. but then as the months go by your mind begin to select the top few (the least unattractive) and these 'top' ones in that closed environment begin to become somewhat not bad in your mind and by the end of the year you want to fuck one or 2 of them :D
also at my old job i recall every night 3 people would close, one person at each station. these 3 people would be alone amongst themselves for several hours. and INEVITABLY, every single night, if one of the 3 was a girl, the other 2 guys would end up hanging out around the girls station, even if she was ugly. id imagine that after a few days in this situation, the 2 guys would be fighting over who gets 'posession' of the woman no matter how ugly.
its interesting how the mind will 'compensate' or even 'settle' for what is the 'best' option in a situation.