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Getbig Female Info Boards => Open Talk for Girl Discussion => Topic started by: BikiniSlut on August 26, 2012, 02:01:08 PM
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Here is the situation ladies..... :(
I have been dating this guy for 6 months...thought he was truly amazing....we just clicked. So we have slowly started to talk about the future.
I can only have one kid naturally....the rest I will have to adopt....I have cervical complications from way back when. That has never ever bothered me. I'm fine with adoption and I'm fine with my own children. Either way adopted or mine.....I'm happy.
This is no good to him. He insists that he has AT LEAST two children with his DNA. Families in India are having ten children while here in North America the average is 2. That is unacceptable to him. He thinks it's an imbalance and he doesn't want his DNA wiped from this Earth.
I told him I'd be willing to look into surrogacy/freezing eggs/fertility treatments/etc. This is not good enough for him.
I'm devastated. Six months is not a long time but I thought we were solid.
What are your opinions on this?? Is he shallow? I feel like less of a woman knowing I can't have more than one child naturally. I've never felt bad about that till now. Now I question so many things.
Obviously he never truly cared about me....I ask myself how I could have made such a wrong choice. :'(
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If he truely loved you and wanted to spend his future with you, then he would have been fine with having one biological child together. People can be so specific on how many children they plan to have and even the sexes, but there are no guarantees in life. This guy could meet someone else and say the exact thing and then one of them might find out they are infertile when they start trying to have children together.
Your self estem would be taking a battering right now but try to not let what has happened have this affect on you. Someone more compatiable and more worthy of your love is around the corner. Stay strong and positive.
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Thanks Booty.
I feel so devastated right now. :'(
I really did think he cared but he didn't.
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Hugs hun. I can't stand people who are so set in their ways and determined to stay on a set path and not allow things in life to take a different path when necessary. He obviously isn't very flexable when it comes to life or he would see that things don't always go exactly to plan.
You will find someone who wants to share and build a life with you. This guy wants a breeding cow not a partner. At least you found out now but still it hurts I know.
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This is no good to him. He insists that he has AT LEAST two children with his DNA. Families in India are having ten children while here in North America the average is 2. That is unacceptable to him. He thinks it's an imbalance and he doesn't want his DNA wiped from this Earth.
??? I've never had the urge to have children so I can't purport to know how this guy feels but when you think about the above, doesn't that seem kind of weird? Why does he think his DNA shouldn't be wiped from this earth? Does he think he children will have great ability to help mankind or is it something else?
I told him I'd be willing to look into surrogacy/freezing eggs/fertility treatments/etc. This is not good enough for him.
Have you ever thought about what it would be like to spend your entire life with him? It sounds like certain things will never be good enough for him. A married couple should be on the same team, building each other up and holding each other up in good times and bad...support each other etc. Yes, that is ideal but he already is making you feel like "less of a woman" and feeling badly about yourself.
I don't want to put him down but I'd say you dodged a bullet. Be grateful his true self came out before you were already married. He doesn't sound like the one for you. But there is someone! You are hilarious and many people are drawn to that. The right one will come along. :)
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good thing you found out now. He's a loser. I've never had a strong urge to have kids, but I wouldn't discount them or say that they have to have my DNA. To me that is egoistic and arcane. Indians and other 3rd world countries had to have a thousand kids in order to stave off astronomical infant mortality rates due to disease, malnutrition and the like. Anyway, sorry it happened to you , but at least you know he isn't the one and you can move on. Also I was really going to start this off as some smart ass comment and then patented sexual innuendo followed a cheesy pick up line. Then, I read your post...so thanks for screwing me up >:(
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Yes I don't think BS would be happy with this guy. A happy healthy long term relationship is based on compromise, meeting each other half way to make a relationship work. BS is willing to freeze her eggs and this guy doesn't want that.
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Here is the situation ladies..... :(
I have been dating this guy for 6 months...thought he was truly amazing....we just clicked. So we have slowly started to talk about the future.
I can only have one kid naturally....the rest I will have to adopt....I have cervical complications from way back when. That has never ever bothered me. I'm fine with adoption and I'm fine with my own children. Either way adopted or mine.....I'm happy.
This is no good to him. He insists that he has AT LEAST two children with his DNA. Families in India are having ten children while here in North America the average is 2. That is unacceptable to him. He thinks it's an imbalance and he doesn't want his DNA wiped from this Earth.
I told him I'd be willing to look into surrogacy/freezing eggs/fertility treatments/etc. This is not good enough for him.
I'm devastated. Six months is not a long time but I thought we were solid.
What are your opinions on this?? Is he shallow? I feel like less of a woman knowing I can't have more than one child naturally. I've never felt bad about that till now. Now I question so many things.
Obviously he never truly cared about me....I ask myself how I could have made such a wrong choice. :'(
It may take several weeks or even months, but I can almost guarantee that you'll be able to revisit this thread and accept it as an indication that the right/best thing happened with no second-guessing yourself.
Easy to say now, but give it time.
I'm quite confident in the likelihood of the above scenario happening.
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Thanks for the support everyone. I've cried many tears lately and thank god I have teddy bears to hug and kiss them away. :'(
I'm still really hurting but as Butter said I probably did dodge a bullet.
I feel worthless but I know it will pass. :-[I would never stop loving someone because they were infertile.
I truly hope one day he finds out he can not have kids, and the girl he is with leaves him for it.
So where ARE all the good guys nowadays?? :-\
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Kittens are good for cuddling and comforting a broken heart. Your pain will pass and your self estem will bounce back.
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So where ARE all the good guys nowadays?? :-\
Atlanta ;)
what, too soon?
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STFU linda you fucking whore .....
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Can't we all just get along?? Lol
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Somebody is channeling w8m8 with this post...I agree w/Mike though.
Are you channeling w8? :D
A lil bit ;) ;)
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Ok kids. Do I have to separate you both??
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Ok kids. Do I have to separate you both??
I need to be spanked! ;)
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Insert rumors here:
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??? I've never had the urge to have children
We've never met either Stells! 8)
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You over him already?
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Happy to say I'm completely over him! New prospects on the line.
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Happy to say I'm completely over him! New prospects on the line.
took long enough. So, wanna come to Atlanta? ;D
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Here is the situation ladies..... :(
I have been dating this guy for 6 months...thought he was truly amazing....we just clicked. So we have slowly started to talk about the future.
I can only have one kid naturally....the rest I will have to adopt....I have cervical complications from way back when. That has never ever bothered me. I'm fine with adoption and I'm fine with my own children. Either way adopted or mine.....I'm happy.
This is no good to him. He insists that he has AT LEAST two children with his DNA. Families in India are having ten children while here in North America the average is 2. That is unacceptable to him. He thinks it's an imbalance and he doesn't want his DNA wiped from this Earth.
I told him I'd be willing to look into surrogacy/freezing eggs/fertility treatments/etc. This is not good enough for him.
I'm devastated. Six months is not a long time but I thought we were solid.
What are your opinions on this?? Is he shallow? I feel like less of a woman knowing I can't have more than one child naturally. I've never felt bad about that till now. Now I question so many things.
Obviously he never truly cared about me....I ask myself how I could have made such a wrong choice. :'(
I'm here for you honey, lets get on skype. :)
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In all honesty... He kinda' sucks.
I mean, let's be honest... Maybe he's shooting blanks... He doesn't know.
Yet he's willing to toss you to the side just because you have a slight egg issue.
It's a shame... He should love YOU before he decides to have children... If he does love you, then THAT is what matters... YOU... Not whether or not he can spread his love frosting all over the planet.
Basically, he is saying that any woman who can catch jizz is fine... No respect for you what so ever.
Hope you find someone truly ready for all that you are willing to give him... including a ton of shit.
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6 months ?
if some guy is talking shit after 6 months and you're gutted over it then neither one of you are mature enough to have kids
DNA not wiped from the earth , mygod this has to be a pisstake
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6 months ?
if some guy is talkin ::)g shit after 6 months and you're gutted over it then neither one of you are mature enough to have kids
DNA not wiped from the earth , mygod this has to be a pisstake
Oh brother. ::)
Yes, because everyone should emotionally be on the same track at the same time.......
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Oh brother. ::)
Yes, because everyone should emotionally be on the same track at the same time.......
no , people should RUSH into putting the value of their worth into another's opinion so they feel LESS THAN when that other person pushes them aside because they cannot birth more than one child
like I said
this must be a pisstake
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Happy to say I'm completely over him! New prospects on the line.
Good
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Glad things are on the improve, BS. His reasoning to me sounded like a pathetic excuse
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um so, how about a trip down south?
;D
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BS, there are a few interested parties. ;D
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why do you want to date an indian guy at first?
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Here is the situation ladies..... :(
I have been dating this guy for 6 months...thought he was truly amazing....we just clicked. So we have slowly started to talk about the future.
I can only have one kid naturally....the rest I will have to adopt....I have cervical complications from way back when. That has never ever bothered me. I'm fine with adoption and I'm fine with my own children. Either way adopted or mine.....I'm happy.
This is no good to him. He insists that he has AT LEAST two children with his DNA. Families in India are having ten children while here in North America the average is 2. That is unacceptable to him. He thinks it's an imbalance and he doesn't want his DNA wiped from this Earth.
I told him I'd be willing to look into surrogacy/freezing eggs/fertility treatments/etc. This is not good enough for him.
I'm devastated. Six months is not a long time but I thought we were solid.
What are your opinions on this?? Is he shallow? I feel like less of a woman knowing I can't have more than one child naturally. I've never felt bad about that till now. Now I question so many things.
Obviously he never truly cared about me....I ask myself how I could have made such a wrong choice. :'(
my advice is to stay away from guys who have riigid ideas about what their future will entail, especially when it comes to something that should be decided on emotion (like how many kids you have with your wife)
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Well, I'm also glad you went away from that guy. I mean it's unacceptable for a guy to act like this with a person like you ( I don't know you but you really seem like a nice person who puts his trust into the one he likes/love).
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Sorry to be so blunt but I have to go work out: No quality guy dumps a girl for that reason. Someone worried about balancing out the birth rate (in India) through their own genitals is bat-poop crazy, anyways.
Plenty of fish in the ocean. Why you were a part of his catch and release program is irrelevant, just be more choosy in the future and don't settle for any guy.
I've been with the same great woman nearly 8 years and if we broke up it would be a pretty big adjustment. That being said, I could find another girl in a few minutes. If someone like me has no difficulty, everyone else should be fine. :)
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Maybe I missed the memo, but I still want proof Bikinislut is real. Anyone can post bullshit all day long.
She is, in fact, a female.
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She is, in fact, a female.
Tu, why? Because she said so? Provided faceless pics? You are smarter then that.
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Tu, why? Because she said so? Provided faceless pics? You are smarter then that.
No... Her face has been posted actually. She posted a faceless picture and someone found the same photo with the face.
It was a competition picture, so her name is also no longer anonymous.
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This thread needs her pics.
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It is awsome to see big families, but once you have ONE kid of yours this poetic vision changes: You dont want more kids, you just want to sleep and time to do your things.