Getbig Bodybuilding, Figure and Fitness Forums
Getbig Bodybuilding Boards => Positive Bodybuilding Discussion & Talk => Topic started by: jonnie5_5 on December 29, 2005, 12:18:32 PM
-
How did you guys make your family/significant other realize that bodybuilding was something that you wanted to do? My gf is really against the lifestyle and steroids, and I cant seem to make her realize how important it is to me. What did you guys do to make them see your drive and dedication?
-
Tell me when you figer it out (im not joking) i almost have the exact same problem. :(
-
Its tough, been married 5 years, still working on it.
-
This is something that you just have to let go of, or it will drive you crazy. A lot of my friends and family think I'm absolutely nuts... but I'm not in this to get their approval or praise...it's something you have to be in and do for yourself, no one else.
-
If it's tough to get them to understand, then you're with the wrong person.
Move on.
-
I think most of us have this problem.....im gettin told no more tuna and im gonna die from my eggs and what im doing is not healthy.
-
I know what ur saying bro, i get it in the neck when im refusing puddings after dinner, and am seen eating tuna straight out the can later on.
I want them to understand how importnat it all is, its not like a hobby,im not sure how u describe it. Its sumthin that just feels right when u do it, and uv gotta do it and keep pushing harder and harder even tho its hard and it hurts. I am not sure thoughs who do not follow our quest will ever truly understand what drives us.
davie
-
thanks for the replys guys. i appreciate it.
-
yeah man we all got these problems but are ya gonna stop....... I didn't think so
-
yeah man we all got these problems but are ya gonna stop....... I didn't think so
Stop? If he stopped what would he do then? Drink beer everynight and grow into a fat ass like most everyone else... well, maybe then all the bitching from his family and friends would cease... but who would want that?
I say who cares, let them bitch, let them think your some weird freak... in the end will see who's life was more worth while ;D
-
I know i probly shuldent speek on shuch maters but. Your famly is the one thing you will have whith you your hole life but at the same time you musent alow them to controle you. honer and value there belifs but at the same time be true to your self. if this is what you truly want than go for it dont let them stop you but dont be crule to them for not sharing your belifs. remeber you whant to resalve the conflickt not make it worse.
There is no easy buten for life!
-
man i think everyone on this board can sympathize with your problem man.....it took me a long damn time to even think about tellin my old lady about the juice...she took it a whole lot better than i ever thought she would....she basicallly just said "hey i dont know much of anything about steroids so how could i tell you that they are bad or not to do them"......i was absolutely shocked as hell, i just knew it would be something we would break over....but hell i guess shes a keeper after all
my parents or anyone in my family still dont know and id prefer to keep it that way....theres just no way they would approve or understand, so i dont even wanna get into it with them (they buy into all the crazed uneducated media hype that steroids will kill you)......
final thoughts---bodybuilding is a tremendously egocentric, self-centered sport and if you ever find a chick who is cool with it, thats a bigtime rarity and you gotta keep her around!!!! good luck man!
-
Stop? If he stopped what would he do then? Drink beer everynight and grow into a fat ass like most everyone else... well, maybe then all the bitching from his family and friends would cease... but who would want that?
I say who cares, let them bitch, let them think your some weird freak... in the end will see who's life was more worth while ;D
well said
-
How did you guys make your family/significant other realize that bodybuilding was something that you wanted to do? My gf is really against the lifestyle and steroids, and I cant seem to make her realize how important it is to me. What did you guys do to make them see your drive and dedication?
all my girlfriends have known about my cycles..
they know about em when they meet me...in the very beginning..
if they all of a sudden develop a problem with it...they get removed from my presence..
simple...
-
Well said i believe that if u love something in your life, screw what other think u should do or much less if they want u to quit ..I personally have a very intelligent woman that likes fitness and she would never contradict what i stand for or what i like ..it goes both ways ...to be happy !! ;)
-
thats true
-
its getting controversial in here
-
How did you guys make your family/significant other realize that bodybuilding was something that you wanted to do? My gf is really against the lifestyle and steroids, and I cant seem to make her realize how important it is to me. What did you guys do to make them see your drive and dedication?
TRUST!
My gf doesn't really like the idea of steroids, but she trusts me to know what I am doing, and to know how much is ok and how much is not ok when it comes to health. She has said no diuretics, and I agree with her. I don't take much steroids when compared to a lot of people.
As for my parents, well, they were very upset when they found out. It's hard trying to convince someone who has their mind made up about the stuff and it's usually only from what they've heard in the media. I just don't tell them, but as I said, I don't take much and ATM if you looked at me you'd proabbly think I was natural.
Sit down with your girl, show her the studies which prove steroids are ok in moderate doses and EVEN beneficial. Talk to her about it.
That said, if you take as much as the pros, probably forget everything I just wrote.
-
im gonna try what you said but i don't tink it will work for me.
-
im gonna try what you said but i don't tink it will work for me.
Dude, give it a go. As I said, my gf said no diuretics, and that's only cause she's actually read my MD mags and Flexability by Flex Wheeler, all of which say diuretics are bad.
-
yeah but my girlfriend has said you choose juice or me. I have never done it but would like to but i wouldn't want to lose her either
-
yeah but my girlfriend has said you choose juice or me. I have never done it but would like to but i wouldn't want to lose her either
thats a predicament and a HALF....damn bro im glad i aint in your shoes.....she doesnt have to know though!!
-
yeah but my girlfriend has said you choose juice or me. I have never done it but would like to but i wouldn't want to lose her either
Easy choice in my mind...girls are a dime a dozen.
If she can't respect your choices, if they are choices that have been made in a proper fashion, then I would question the relationship. I'm by no means telling you to dump her, but really try and help her get a better clear understanding of AAS, present her with proven facts and evidence, because right now she's more than likely relying on the media for her info, and then go from there in your decision making process.
-
Honestly guy, i'm married but gotta ask you this.Is she just a gf or do you see yourself in the future marrying this girl?If not then I would say f&*k her.From her giving you that ultimatum it sounds to me that if you did marry this lady you will be a very pussy whipped man of the house!Never did understand "users" that hide their use from their gf's or wives.If not a competitor I think then she may have a logical reason to not want you to do them but if you would like to try them I say "clue" her in on the subject.Learn the good & bad of them together.IMO they are really only a bad "thing" if you abuse them.
-
Let her try the juice too that might fix the problem...maybe she envy u.. :P
-
Yeah, look, the whole me or the juice thing is fucked up. She needs to be informed about the REAL issues surrounding juice, not just the exaggerated side effects u hear from the media. Then let her make a decision.
-
im workin on it fellas thanx for the support though!
-
im workin on it fellas thanx for the support though!
No worries, mate.
Perhaps show her some MD articles, which is what my girl reads and where she learns what is ok for me etc. As I said, she's read bad stuff about diuretics, so for me, it's no diuretics. She's also read that moderate amounts of test is actually proven to be GOOD for men as it makes them stronger and more healthy.
-
yeah well shes gonna have to deal with cuz i vowed to never be one of those guys who tell people eat your carrots and brocolli and you'll like me.. i'll tell the truth to whoever asks.
-
yeah well shes gonna have to deal with cuz i vowed to never be one of those guys who tell people eat your carrots and brocolli and you'll like me.. i'll tell the truth to whoever asks.
Dude, be careful who you tell. EVERYONE knows I'm on the hot sauce and it's fucking annoying having people ask you all the time cause they've heard it from so and so.
Keep it to yourself. Trust me on this one.
-
alright we'll im sure id say something like im not comfortable talking about this or whatever but i won't lie thats all im saying....im young and there is alot of really big guys that i've looked up to and got me into training and some of em tell me straight out and give me advice other guys lie and tell me to eat my brocolli thats it. and i know they are lying. its alright, its their choice but what they say impacts me very hard.
-
alright we'll im sure id say something like im not comfortable talking about this or whatever but i won't lie thats all im saying....im young and there is alot of really big guys that i've looked up to and got me into training and some of em tell me straight out and give me advice other guys lie and tell me to eat my brocolli thats it. and i know they are lying. its alright, its their choice but what they say impacts me very hard.
Yeah, but they train and understand. They are asking for advice.
I'm talking about people I work with who don't understand and are just interested because they don't know any one else who does it. I reckon most of them secretly want to do it but don't have the balls to jab themselves (except the girls that is).
-
I know what ur saying bro, i get it in the neck when im refusing puddings after dinner, and am seen eating tuna straight out the can later on.
What makes me laugh in these situations is when people at work or whatever are sitting around talking about all the medication that they are on and all the health problems they have and then look at me like i'm nuts when i turn down junk food and drink a protein shake instead. Cant say it bothers me, its actually motivation for me.
-
haha thats good! i get that too. it takes a alot to turn some things like a nice sundae or a cheeseburger.