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Title: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: MikMaq on December 11, 2013, 05:59:29 PM
 I guess I was born with an ingrained desire to seek perfection however as I approach my late twenties I've come to a realization that it's a complete waste of my time. Let's be clear this isn't a self esteem thing, nor is it about seeking happiness, it's about trying to understand a thought process that most getbiggers must thrive with. If we're all just a collection of flaws and seeking happiness is just pleasure seeking, whatta ya do.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: The True Adonis on December 11, 2013, 06:01:04 PM
Go rake some leaves.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: Shockwave on December 11, 2013, 07:14:21 PM
Accept that youre not perfect, try to identify the flaws about yourself that you dont like and try and change them.

everyone has flaws. They really dont mean jack shit unless they keep you from leading a happy life.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: ESFitness on December 11, 2013, 07:47:32 PM
I do a few things...

1-lift weights

2-use steroids

3-make a lot of money

4-sleep with girls who love me, but whom I have no feelings or attraction towards
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: MikMaq on December 11, 2013, 07:48:56 PM
Accept that youre not perfect, try to identify the flaws about yourself that you dont like and try and change them.

everyone has flaws. They really dont mean jack shit unless they keep you from leading a happy life.
This trying to fix your flaws mentality is what I can't stand. It's not so much a happy life thing, as much as it's the only thing I've ever known.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: Dago_Joe on December 11, 2013, 08:00:50 PM
I do a few things...

1-lift weights

2-use steroids

3-make a lot of money

4-sleep with girls who love me, but whom I have no feelings or attraction towards

Damn, no wonder why im so depressed, i only do the steroids part well.   :-[
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: haider on December 11, 2013, 08:01:13 PM
Go rake some leaves.
Humorous but exactly the response you needed. You overthink shit too much you fucking bitch.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: galeniko on December 11, 2013, 08:02:41 PM
no need to go for perfetion, just shot to be a 9
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: MikMaq on December 11, 2013, 08:03:41 PM
Humorous but exactly the response you needed. You overthink shit too much you fucking bitch.
Of course I over think things, but this one is a legit question. I also think it's one that has a bit of merit on a site dedicated to self improvement.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: haider on December 11, 2013, 08:13:39 PM
Of course I over think things, but this one is a legit question. I also think it's one that has a bit of merit on a site dedicated to self improvement.
and exactly what relevance does such a site have to getbig, where we shoot the shit and discuss bodybuilding once a year around olympia time?

Serious response: First of all your post is very incoherent. At least make the effort to clarify what you are asking for. It is a good question to ask actually if you are sincere. From what I have read on the subject it is better to focus on your strengths than trying to improve your weaknesses. This may be too general advice for you though: try to think of what exactly it is that is bothering you then decide whether you want to do something about it or not.

As far as happiness is concerned, that is a more complex subject. Mere pleasure is not happiness. I'd reccomend Martin Seligman's work on this subject.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: MikMaq on December 11, 2013, 08:16:00 PM
and exactly what relevance does such a site have to getbig, where we shoot the shit and discuss bodybuilding once a year around olympia time?

Serious response: First of all your post is very incoherent. At least make the effort to clarify what you are asking for. It is a good question to ask actually if you are sincere. From what I have read on the subject it is better to focus on your strengths than trying to improve your weaknesses. This may be too general advice for you though: try to think of what exactly it is that is bothering you then decide whether you want to do something about it or not.

As far as happiness is concerned, that is a more complex subject. Mere pleasure is not happiness. I'd reccomend Martin Seligman's work on this subject.
It's not that complicated at some point improvement peaks and the decline begins.

If one has peaked what does one do with there energy.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: calfzilla on December 11, 2013, 08:16:30 PM
Read Bob Paris book "Be as perfect as you can be."  
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: haider on December 11, 2013, 08:16:32 PM
Go fuck yourself
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: 99 Bananas on December 11, 2013, 09:29:22 PM
Everyone has their flaws be it physical or mental. Do what you can to be the best you can be. If you do that you will know there is nothing more you can do to do anything about it. Flaws and perfection on the human level are in the eye of the beholder. Fuck shit up like a champion and the rest will take care of itself.

Think of thought as an instrument for improvement, not as something to look down on yourself or others.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: keanu on December 11, 2013, 09:32:15 PM
Just keep yourself switched on. Do things that make you happy. Enjoy the company of people you like. You're alive so might as well live and enjoy. Perfection? Why? You are autistic. Very good at some things. Very bad at others. Accept yourself, enjoy yourself.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: TEH boob on December 11, 2013, 09:39:01 PM
Seeking perfection is a waste of time, it's working on improving that's meaningful.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: POB on December 11, 2013, 09:54:20 PM
I guess I was born with an ingrained desire to seek perfection however as I approach my late twenties I've come to a realization that it's a complete waste of my time. Let's be clear this isn't a self esteem thing, nor is it about seeking happiness, it's about trying to understand a thought process that most getbiggers must thrive with. If we're all just a collection of flaws and seeking happiness is just pleasure seeking, whatta ya do.

Find a woman with a smaller vagina :D
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: Natural Man on December 11, 2013, 10:01:03 PM
take a look at people who are even more flawed? That's all you can do anyway.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: MikMaq on December 11, 2013, 10:04:04 PM
Find a woman with a smaller vagina :D
That's actually one area of life I'm ok with.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: Gonuclear on December 11, 2013, 11:15:48 PM
I guess I was born with an ingrained desire to seek perfection however as I approach my late twenties I've come to a realization that it's a complete waste of my time. Let's be clear this isn't a self esteem thing, nor is it about seeking happiness, it's about trying to understand a thought process that most getbiggers must thrive with. If we're all just a collection of flaws and seeking happiness is just pleasure seeking, whatta ya do.

Try a bottle of Jack Daniel's.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: Papper on December 11, 2013, 11:19:23 PM
If you consider yourself perfect you are not perfect - in the eyes of others. Imagine how obnoxious you'd be.
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: Gonuclear on December 12, 2013, 07:09:11 AM
I guess I was born with an ingrained desire to seek perfection however as I approach my late twenties I've come to a realization that it's a complete waste of my time. Let's be clear this isn't a self esteem thing, nor is it about seeking happiness, it's about trying to understand a thought process that most getbiggers must thrive with. If we're all just a collection of flaws and seeking happiness is just pleasure seeking, whatta ya do.

Everyone has flaws, but that does not mean we are all "just a collection of flaws."  And if you mean by "pleasure", sensual pleasure (as I think you do), then, No, happiness is not just pleasure seeking.  People can be happy because they achieved a goal, or helped someone else in some way.  And you can't raise the objection that that's just pleasure seeking based on the fact that doing those things gave them pleasure.  

Because if altruism is just pleasure seeking, than I would think that no one would object to pleasure seeking as a motivation.

You are taking yourself too seriously.  Emotional turmoil is hard to cope with, but you will see clearly in due time.  Most likely, anyway.  
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: bigmc on December 12, 2013, 07:21:16 AM
I do a few things...

1-lift weights

2-use steroids

3-make a lot of money

4-sleep with girls who love me, but whom I have no feelings or attraction towards

number 4 is the key

if you fall in love with a girl

you leave yourself open to her shitting in your soul
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: CalvinH on December 12, 2013, 07:33:18 AM
I wouldn't know 8)
Title: Re: How do you deal with being flawed.
Post by: Thick Nick on December 12, 2013, 07:40:14 AM
I look at pictures of True Assdonis and think...

If this guy is proudly posting pictures and looks like THAT...

Then I'm doing alright.