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I really don't see how anyone thinks you can make gains while being in a relationship. the stress raises cortisol IMO and you just end up with a big film of water over your estrogen pussy whipped ass.
Notice Im talking about a real relationship with a normal chick lol, not some fitness chick who you can eat chicken and broccoli in front of without her thinking your a fucking wierdo. Lets be real if you want to have a real relationship with a normal chick your going to have to get smashed on weekends, your not gonna get 8 hours of sleep every night, your gonna miss workouts, and your gonna have to eat junk food quite a bit.
This is why Im seriously considering not even dating for a good three months, and I mean no women period...no going out to clubs or bars....... until I get some cash in my pocket and am where I want to be physique wise. Think Im gonna enroll in school as well. Im about to be 22 in a bit and Ive done fuck all with my life the past year...
problem is this- I am very prone to depression and part of me feels like a man requires a woman in his life for good mental health. SOOOOO my question to you guys is have any of you actually done this before? Im talking about going celibate until you reach your goals.....bodybuilding ,career, etc.... Ive already proven to myself I can't mix the two.
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I really don't see how anyone thinks you can make gains while being in a relationship. the stress raises cortisol IMO and you just end up with a big film of water over your estrogen pussy whipped ass.
Notice Im talking about a real relationship with a normal chick lol, not some fitness chick who you can eat chicken and broccoli in front of without her thinking your a fucking wierdo. Lets be real if you want to have a real relationship with a normal chick your going to have to get smashed on weekends, your not gonna get 8 hours of sleep every night, your gonna miss workouts, and your gonna have to eat junk food quite a bit.
This is why Im seriously considering not even dating for a good three months, and I mean no women period...no going out to clubs or bars....... until I get some cash in my pocket and am where I want to be physique wise. Think Im gonna enroll in school as well. Im about to be 22 in a bit and Ive done fuck all with my life the past year...
problem is this- I am very prone to depression and part of me feels like a man requires a woman in his life for good mental health. SOOOOO my question to you guys is have any of you actually done this before? Im talking about going celibate until you reach your goals.....bodybuilding ,career, etc.... Ive already proven to myself I can't mix the two.
Sorry, brother, but dated a woman for close to 2 years who never even saw the inside of a gym. Totally supported my bodybuilding. Granted, she wanted me home a little more, but it wasn't an issue but a few times.
They're out there.
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Once my good friend told me, as long as your self esteem depends on external factors you cannot control like love or relationship you are always gonna end having mental breakdowns like the one you have right now. I think we have all been there. My advice is to start building up your self esteem by achieving goals you set. It's best when these goals are REALLY something you always wanted to achieve. Don't let your animal instincts take best of you.
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Once my good friend told me, as long as your self esteem depends on external factors you cannot control like love or relationship you are always gonna end having mental breakdowns like the one you have right now. I think we have all been there. My advice is to start building up your self esteem by achieving goals you set. It's best when these goals are REALLY something you always wanted to achieve. Don't let your animal instincts take best of you.
Agreed.
And there's more to life than women, Flint. Believe it or not, you don't have to always have a woman in your life. It's nice to take breaks and work on YOU. Which is what I am currently doing now.
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I use to think that way but now I believe otherwise.
NO. 1 You just have to find the right women with similar values to you. Your job as a man is to make her feel safe in every way and she will be your biggest cheer leader and support you in your goals. You have to function like a team together and support each other...too many people (men and women) are self-centred nowadays - only in it for their own ambitions and what they can get out of it. Any ambition can become a selfish pursuit and alienate people from you if you let it ..IMO (if in a relationship) A good way to fulfil your bodybuilding goals is only compete every 2 years so one year you have an "off season " focus on having fun together, train together, spoil your gf/wife, party with friends ..the following year you focus together on your BB goal.
As long as you communicate all is good and no one ends up feeling used or over drawn from their emotional "bank balance"
FYI I'm 41
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Just read you are 22...You don't have to live like a monk or get in a serious relationship so early on.. while you are in your 20's you should be flirting with and banging as many chicks as possble while you can - you don't need to be "locked down" to do this.
HAVE FUN, don't stand for drama, train, work hard, persue your goals what ever they are - 8) plenty of time to get serious with relationships later in your 30's-40's
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Agreed.
And there's more to life than women, Flint. Believe it or not, you don't have to always have a woman in your life. It's nice to take breaks and work on YOU. Which is what I am currently doing now.
Maybe not but I do need to get my confidence back and this chick took that from me. Today was a nightmare come true for any guy with an ego.
Follow me here. 6 months ago on our first date, I Walked up to her and grabbed her ass literally. . We had been talking on the phone a few days yes.... but I still grabbed her ass within 5 seconds of seeing her. I don't know how many guys have the balls to do that shit t..... This is just the kind of confidene I had...I did this type of stuff with lots of women.
fast forward 6 months later and my pussy ass goes out and spends all this money on clothes to impress her. A chance to "make her fall in love with again". But the old flint would of been laughing at this new flint... "this is her last chance to fall in love with me" Why did i turn into a pussy lately? well I was having issues getting hard in the sack later on in the relationship not gonna lie....and it fucked with my ego big time. . I was hoping today I could win her back, so I'd have a chance to fuck her brains out again like I used to back in the day.....and as a result get that confidence back.
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Maybe not but I do need to get my confidence back and this chick took that from me. Today was a nightmare come true for any guy with an ego.
Follow me here. 6 months ago on our first date, I Walked up to her and grabbed her ass literally. . We had been talking on the phone a few days yes.... but I still grabbed her ass within 5 seconds of seeing her. I don't know how many guys have the balls to do that shit t..... This is just the kind of confidene I had...I did this type of stuff with lots of women.
fast forward 6 months later and my pussy ass goes out and spends all this money on clothes to impress her. A chance to "make her fall in love with again". But the old flint would of been laughing at this new flint... "this is her last chance to fall in love with me" Why did i turn into a pussy lately? well I was having issues getting hard in the sack later on in the relationship not gonna lie....and it fucked with my ego big time. . I was hoping today I could win her back, so I'd have a chance to fuck her brains out again like I used to back in the day.....and as a result get that confidence back.
* sigh * ... brother, I am not following you. Not sure why you have this train of thought either. :/ A truly confident man never loses his confidence. Never. You see ... she didn't take away your confidence. You did. Not sure why you are blaming her. YOU are in control of you. Not her.
My opinion still stands. You need to take a break and work on you. I have read your posts time and time again concerning this girl. And I like you Flint. I really do. But you really need some help, man. You are not in any way, shape, or form healthy enough to date this woman.
And fucking her to get your confidence back ?? Well, what about her ?? What does she get out of it ??
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Sorry, brother, but dated a woman for close to 2 years who never even saw the inside of a gym. Totally supported my bodybuilding. Granted, she wanted me home a little more, but it wasn't an issue but a few times.
They're out there.
True my last one was four years, she wasnt into going gym but was supportive of me bodybuilding. But on certain hormones i can be a right curnt, dumped her bout amonth ago lol.
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* sigh * ... brother, I am not following you. Not sure why you have this train of thought either. :/ A truly confident man never loses his confidence. Never. You see ... she didn't take away your confidence. You did. Not sure why you are blaming her. YOU are in control of you. Not her.
My opinion still stands. You need to take a break and work on you. I have read your posts time and time again concerning this girl. And I like you Flint. I really do. But you really need some help, man. You are not in any way, shape, or form healthy enough to date this woman.
And fucking her to get your confidence back ?? Well, what about her ?? What does she get out of it ??
. I deleted her pics and moved on with my life. I was 90% over her and she starts texting me again saying she misses my dick and all this shit sending. I propose being friends with benefits and she was considering it.
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True my last one was four years, she wasnt into going gym but was supportive of me bodybuilding. But on certain hormones i can be a right curnt, dumped her bout amonth ago lol.
After 4 years ??
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. I deleted her pics and moved on with my life. I was 90% over her and she starts texting me again saying she misses my dick and all this shit sending. I propose being friends with benefits and she was considering it.
Hmmm ... that kinda changed everything. So what happened ?? You said you tried to win her back today ??
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Find a woman more suited to your lifestyle and if a woman starts to harm you emotionally just ditch her. Never rely on others to have emotional balance.
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After 4 years ??
Yea i dumped her atleast 4 or 5 times during those four years, lol it was never meant to be but i turned her into a freaky slut so it jus somehow kept going.
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Once my good friend told me, as long as your self esteem depends on external factors you cannot control like love or relationship you are always gonna end having mental breakdowns like the one you have right now. I think we have all been there. My advice is to start building up your self esteem by achieving goals you set. It's best when these goals are REALLY something you always wanted to achieve. Don't let your animal instincts take best of you.
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good advices here
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For me makes it a bit harder to diet because she makes good food.
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. I deleted her pics and moved on with my life. I was 90% over her and she starts texting me again saying she misses my dick and all this shit sending. I propose being friends with benefits and she was considering it.
Look you whiny little phaggot.....you want her to stop texting you "looking for cock", post her fucking phone number here?
Within one hour that bitch won't ever want to see you again.
Your story is bullshit and reeks of phaggotry.
Die you spineless kunt.
(64 posts left - FU Ron)
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OP is a pathetic, greasy failure and loser. That's why all these chicks run a fucking mile from him. He failed to finish highschool. He lives in a shitty rental apartment and buys steroids with the little money he makes from the blue collar , bottom of the heap jobs he soon gets fired from. He paid Tbombz for training advice. He tried to set up some shitty online dating site that FAILED like everything else he touches.
Then he comes on here crying like a little pussy about all these women that dump his never-aging, sub 10 second 100 metre dash ass. Guy reeks of fail.
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I've decided that the reason bodybuilders don't often have relationships is because they would have to work at it.
Work is anathema to these assletes. It goes against the foundation of their very being. They would rather sell themselves than give of themselves.
And only schmoes pay. Women? Not so much.
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Every relationship will come to and unless your going to end up walking down the aisle. Enjoy the moment for what it is, and try looking at it in a more positive light. Flint needs to stop being so egotistical.
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I really don't see how anyone thinks you can make gains while being in a relationship. the stress raises cortisol IMO and you just end up with a big film of water over your estrogen pussy whipped ass.
Notice Im talking about a real relationship with a normal chick lol, not some fitness chick who you can eat chicken and broccoli in front of without her thinking your a fucking wierdo. Lets be real if you want to have a real relationship with a normal chick your going to have to get smashed on weekends, your not gonna get 8 hours of sleep every night, your gonna miss workouts, and your gonna have to eat junk food quite a bit.
This is why Im seriously considering not even dating for a good three months, and I mean no women period...no going out to clubs or bars....... until I get some cash in my pocket and am where I want to be physique wise. Think Im gonna enroll in school as well. Im about to be 22 in a bit and Ive done fuck all with my life the past year...
problem is this- I am very prone to depression and part of me feels like a man requires a woman in his life for good mental health. SOOOOO my question to you guys is have any of you actually done this before? Im talking about going celibate until you reach your goals.....bodybuilding ,career, etc.... Ive already proven to myself I can't mix the two.
Bro, don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you want a chick to make you happy and get you over your depression? That isn't going to happen. Relationships go up and down, bitches are crazy. The hard part is to find one of the more stable ones. And if you find one, and you are happy more then 75% of the time. Keep her.
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Message goodrum for dating/relationship advice. although him and vissy broke up, they lasted quite a while.
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This is true if you're in a high school relationship and need to take the bus to the mall after school and text each other 24/7 when you're not together. In the real adult world people just live their lives alongside each other. Gym takes an hour a day. Meal prep for bodybuilders may be a tiny bit longer, but most women would appreciate having home cooked meals instead of take out or quick crap from a box/bag. Seriously, if anyone's needing more time than that then they're either thinking about Animal Pak ads when they think of "bodybuilding" or something's wrong.
You can juice, get huge and ripped and it shouldn't take more than an hour or two of your day. Most people sit around scratching their ass or playing video games for that long, so the time is easy to find. Workout before or right after work and there you go - zero impact on your day. As for stress, all women are stress cases. Even the best woman. Find one that you love fucking and don't want to kill all the time and that's about the best you can hope for. There's no woman that doesn't drive her man insane. They're all crazy.
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Bro, don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you want a chick to make you happy and get you over your depression? That isn't going to happen. Relationships go up and down, bitches are crazy. The hard part is to find one of the more stable ones. And if you find one, and you are happy more then 75% of the time. Keep her.
Stable women are so boring though ;D
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Another ultra estrogen thread by a beta who destroyed his sense of identity with hormone abuse. Be a normal 22year old man and stop using various messaging boards to post the same sob stories about your feelings to gain sympathy from other men.
Thanks ::)
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Look you whiny little phaggot.....you want her to stop texting you "looking for cock", post her fucking phone number here?
Within one hour that bitch won't ever want to see you again.
Your story is bullshit and reeks of phaggotry.
Die you spineless kunt.
(64 posts left - FU Ron)
What this guys said. What's up with all the estrogen filled little wimps here now?
Save these stupid ass stories for a shrink.
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Another ultra estrogen thread by a beta who destroyed his sense of identity with hormone abuse. Be a normal 22year old man and stop using various messaging boards to post the same sob stories about your feelings to gain sympathy from other men.
Thanks ::)
lol
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It's important to set aside at least an hour each day for the scratching of the ass.
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It's important to set aside at least an hour each day for the scratching of the ass.
This is exactly how this dude can get over his sad whittle feewings.
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Some of us with wives, kids, and jobs still manage to exercise.
I didn't realize just how incredible that makes me until now.
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Bodybuilding does not mix with anything except Gay porn.
The end of bodybuilding is near.
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I really don't see how anyone thinks you can make gains while being in a relationship. the stress raises cortisol IMO and you just end up with a big film of water over your estrogen pussy whipped ass.
Notice Im talking about a real relationship with a normal chick lol, not some fitness chick who you can eat chicken and broccoli in front of without her thinking your a fucking wierdo. Lets be real if you want to have a real relationship with a normal chick your going to have to get smashed on weekends, your not gonna get 8 hours of sleep every night, your gonna miss workouts, and your gonna have to eat junk food quite a bit.
This is why Im seriously considering not even dating for a good three months, and I mean no women period...no going out to clubs or bars....... until I get some cash in my pocket and am where I want to be physique wise. Think Im gonna enroll in school as well. Im about to be 22 in a bit and Ive done fuck all with my life the past year...
problem is this- I am very prone to depression and part of me feels like a man requires a woman in his life for good mental health. SOOOOO my question to you guys is have any of you actually done this before? Im talking about going celibate until you reach your goals.....bodybuilding ,career, etc.... Ive already proven to myself I can't mix the two.
Come back in a few years and see how you feel about this.
BB alone can become a lonely and meaningless existence.
I strongly urge you to read ; " Muscle" by Sammual J Fussell.
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Bro, don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you want a chick to make you happy and get you over your depression? That isn't going to happen. Relationships go up and down, bitches are crazy. The hard part is to find one of the more stable ones. And if you find one, and you are happy more then 75% of the time. Keep her.
Yep this. If youre relying on someone else to make you happy it probably wont work in the long term. Need to fix your mental issues first before trying to get with a girl.
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Yep this. If youre relying on someone else to make you happy it probably wont work in the long term. Need to fix your mental issues first before trying to get with a girl.
I don't know. I thought I Was happy being a single guy and living a selfish life, but I wasn't truly happy until I put the player bullshit aside and finally opened up to someone.
There are popular posters here with good careers and a lot going for them who have admitted to me in pm's that they are depressed because they have not had a relationship in a long time.
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I don't know. I thought I Was happy being a single guy and living a selfish life, but I wasn't truly happy until I put the player bullshit aside and finally opened up to someone.
There are popular posters here with good careers and a lot going for them who have admitted to me in pm's that they are depressed because they have not had a relationship in a long time.
If they are bodybuilders than that is why.
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A good woman will make you a better man.
I've seen so many guys throw away the pursuit of a good career chasing the syringe lifestyle that is a dead end insanity. Then they are in their 30's broke with a garbage job but damn they have a nice lat spread.
Pursue a career through job training or college. You can lift your 2 hours a day with just about any job or school. You might find yourself if you play it right with a nice career, nice house, and most importantly if you want it a family. The alternative is seemingly being the center of attention with your steroid muscles as eventually everyone around you moves on with their life. All you're left with is tight shirts and a garbage can full of needles.
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A good woman will make you a better man.
I've seen so many guys throw away the pursuit of a good career chasing the syringe lifestyle that is a dead end insanity. Then they are in their 30's broke with a garbage job but damn they have a nice lat spread.
Pursue a career through job training or college. You can lift your 2 hours a day with just about any job or school. You might find yourself if you play it right with a nice career, nice house, and most importantly if you want it a family. The alternative is seemingly being the center of attention with your steroid muscles as eventually everyone around you moves on with their life. All you're left with is tight shirts and garbage can full of needles.
Seriously good post. And I mean that.
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The love of a good woman is as good as it gets.
The twisted love of a bad bitch is the undoing of many a man.
The stakes are high and sometimes the game isn't even worth playing.
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Another ultra estrogen thread by a beta who destroyed his sense of identity with hormone abuse. Be a normal 22year old man and stop using various messaging boards to post the same sob stories about your feelings to gain sympathy from other men.
Thanks ::)
This had me in stitches lol
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If they are bodybuilders than that is why.
Bullshit. I'm a bodybuilder with a good career and could give fuck all about relationships. Shit, I'm happier with I'm not in one !! Lol !! And am at my happiest when I'm just banging whoever the hell I want, WHEN I want.
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Obsessive routines with regards to diet, training, and injecting anabolics do get in the way of a social life. Now if we are talking about injecting 3cc of test every friday, hitting the gym 3 days a week and stuffing yourself with your wife's cooking then I don't see an issue.
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A good woman will make you a better man.
I've seen so many guys throw away the pursuit of a good career chasing the syringe lifestyle that is a dead end insanity. Then they are in their 30's broke with a garbage job but damn they have a nice lat spread.
Pursue a career through job training or college. You can lift your 2 hours a day with just about any job or school. You might find yourself if you play it right with a nice career, nice house, and most importantly if you want it a family. The alternative is seemingly being the center of attention with your steroid muscles as eventually everyone around you moves on with their life. All you're left with is tight shirts and a garbage can full of needles.
Potent and very accurate advice!! I didn't want to ever get married or settle down, but my wife was a 10/10 before I met her and I KNEW her parents would want an immediate marriage. Did tons of soul searching and really straightened my shit out. I never would have imagined staying home to raise a baby, working full time, going to school, having a house and living the life I live now. I'm really glad I manned up and matured so quickly. I wouldn't have done that for any other reason other than to impress her... then I realized that I'm actually important too, so I started taking care of myself first and took care of her as well.
Never would have had so many epiphanies and learned so much unless I strived to be better. Stumbled along the way, but it was always her that pushed me to move constantly forward. I have a really great life now and don't obsess over chicken breast rations for the next few days or pointless bullshit. I'm big, I have abs, have a bombshell wife and beautiful child, etc. If I had focused on something stupid like bodybuilding I'd probably still be fat and permabulking, renting a basement suite from some asshole, minimum wage job and/or selling juice, no education or career prospects, etc. Women are annoying as fuck (I want to kill my wife most of the time, but I love her lol) but their constant nagging does occasionally produce some positive outcomes! ;D
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A good woman will make you a better man.
I've seen so many guys throw away the pursuit of a good career chasing the syringe lifestyle that is a dead end insanity. Then they are in their 30's broke with a garbage job but damn they have a nice lat spread.
Pursue a career through job training or college. You can lift your 2 hours a day with just about any job or school. You might find yourself if you play it right with a nice career, nice house, and most importantly if you want it a family. The alternative is seemingly being the center of attention with your steroid muscles as eventually everyone around you moves on with their life. All you're left with is tight shirts and a garbage can full of needles.
This is one of those "half truth" brain washing posts. The fact is that a lot of people are in their 30's with a shit job, not a lot of money without being steroid using bodybuilders. Face it, a lot of people out there basically lack the brain capacity to succeed in life, bodybuilding or no bodybuilding. Steroids aren't that expensive either, if used in moderate doses.
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Bullshit. I'm a bodybuilder with a good career and could give fuck all about relationships. Shit, I'm happier with I'm not in one !! Lol !! And am at my happiest when I'm just banging whoever the hell I want, WHEN I want.
Good post . The real key is to be happy with yourself, FIRST.
After my 3rd divorce, I considered being "retired" from any serious romantic relationships.
I really made my peace with living by myself and just dating for the rest of my life.
Then, after dating for awhile, I enjoyed life MORE with this new , wonderful woman at my side.
So, I married her and have no regrets.
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Stress & cortisol? You're simply not ready yet for a serious relationship. The fact that you start threads like these says enough... You simply don't know what to do with your life.
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OP most likely has a diary in which he writes short poems dedicated to his broken sexuality and understanding for Elliot Rodger
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sorry but what kinda idiot cant spend an hour inside a gym and eat a couple times a day? Do you let women control your whole life?
You sound like you are a pussy whipped idiot.
You tell a girl how it is is. She follows. You lead.
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A good woman will make you a better man.
I've seen so many guys throw away the pursuit of a good career chasing the syringe lifestyle that is a dead end insanity. Then they are in their 30's broke with a garbage job but damn they have a nice lat spread.
Pursue a career through job training or college. You can lift your 2 hours a day with just about any job or school. You might find yourself if you play it right with a nice career, nice house, and most importantly if you want it a family. The alternative is seemingly being the center of attention with your steroid muscles as eventually everyone around you moves on with their life. All you're left with is tight shirts and a garbage can full of needles.
Lee Haney , won 8 Mr Olympia's in a row and was married to wife Shirley for each one.
He has a few kids with her and last I heard ran a farm home for troubled teens near ATL.
Lee would agree with the above post and always felt his wife was his best "training partner".
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Lee Haney , won 8 Mr Olympia's in a row and was married to wife Shirley for each one.
He has a few kids with her and last I heard ran a farm home for troubled teens near ATL.
Lee would agree with the above post and always felt his wife was his best "training partner".
Didn't you hear the news? It was all an elaborate hoax! Lee has just been outed as a fag by Josh.
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OP most likely has a diary in which he writes short poems dedicated to his broken sexuality and understanding for Elliot Rodger
haha . I'm a fucking realist bro. I sit down and think..
What do I have going for me? Honestly my dick is in the top 3% in girth and women like my face.
On the contrary...I'm borderline manlet at 5'10 3/4 and I have nothing going for me career wise.
My height is probably my biggest insecurity. To know that no matter how fucking jacked I get, there will always be men physically superior to me because they are 6'2. It pisses me off
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Welcome to Loserville.
Pop: Flintstone1993
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haha . I'm a fucking realist bro. I sit down and think..
What do I have going for me? Honestly my dick is in the top 3% in girth and women like my face.
On the contrary...I'm borderline manlet at 5'10 3/4 and I have nothing going for me career wise.
My height is probably my biggest insecurity. To know that no matter how fucking jacked I get, there will always be men physically superior to me because they are 6'2. It pisses me off
A post like this just proves you're insecure. And you know what you're almost perceiving yourself as some sort of object with a set worth or value lol.
If you want your looks and integrity judged you sure picked the place to be.
You're a 1 out of 10 hahaha
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Kids work gf
In that order
Fucks with your gym
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haha . I'm a fucking realist bro. I sit down and think cry.
What do I have going for me? Honestly my dick is in the top 3% in girth and women like my face.
On the contrary...I'm borderline manlet at 5'10 3/4 and I have nothing going for me career wise.
My height is probably my biggest insecurity. To know that no matter how fucking jacked I get, there will always be men physically superior to me because they are 6'2. It pisses me off
Fixed.
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Reading this makes me so happy me and my girl both have aspergers.
These girls are the best.
They trust you instantly because you have the same condition.
They're honest, and you can actually trust them to give a shit about other people.
Seriously being with someone that has an ability to care for other people is crucial.
50 percent of the population or more, are beyond selfish.
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Reading this makes me so happy me and my girl both have aspergers.
These girls are the best.
They trust you instantly because you have the same condition.
They're honest, and you can actually trust them to give a shit about other people.
Seriously being with someone that has an ability to care for other people is crucial.
50 percent of the population or more, are beyond selfish.
the girl you've been dating three weeks? ::)