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Getbig Main Boards => Gossip & Opinions => Topic started by: El Diablo Blanco on August 06, 2015, 02:39:59 PM
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I know the body language "experts" say that crossing your arms sends of a signal that you're defiant or standoffish, but for some reason because of the length of my arms and size of my muscles I just feel more comfortable crossing them instead of dangling them. I'm not doing it to stretch my biceps to look larger or because I'm standoffish.
I just find it takes stress off my shoulders, but every time I speak to my manager I sit in an armless chair so I cross my arms because I feel more comfortable but I wonder if he thinks I'm always mad at him or something by crossing them even though our talks are positive. It's like nodding your head up and down but saying no! Giving mixed signals.
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can't say that I do...
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Apparently is a sure sign of a beta cuck
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All the time.
When I'm standing around talking, i usually put my hands in my pockets or cross my arms. The body language i exhibit is similar to someone who is agitate or standoffish, however I've never been seen that way by my peers that i know of.
My father does the same thing.
8)
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Weak And Submissive Body Language
Beta males tend to display weak and submissive body language and are often unaware they are doing it. To become an alpha male you must avoid the following acts of body language that beta males usually display:
Crossed arms. A sign of defensiveness.
Stiff posture. A sign of nervousness.
Looking down. A sign of weakness. A man that looks down at the floor a lot is usually seen as shy or timid.
Fidgeting. A sign of nervousness and anxiety. Fidgeting can include shredding or playing with items, sitting on or hiding your hands, playing or twiddling with your fingers, biting finger nails, tapping your feet etc.
Slouching shoulders. Indicates a low self-esteem.
Hands covering your genitals. A guarded stance. This makes you look smaller and weaker.
Holding objects in front of you. Indicates shyness and resistance.
Shifting your weight. A sign of physical and mental discomfort.
Sitting on the edge on a chair. An apprehensive stance. This makes you look like you want to get up a leave.
Blinking too much. This shows that you are anxious.
Touching your face when talking. This shows that you are indecisive, feel shy and that you are thinking too hard.
Nervous facial expressions. Avoid biting and licking your lips, and twitching your nose.
Smiling too much. Smiling at every little thing signals to other men that you are not a threat.
Avoid / maintaining eye contact. Shows that you are feeling insecure or uncomfortable.
Try to avoid these acts of body language that beta males display. Positive body language is the best way to show confidence. Women love confidence! To find out more read 25 Beta Male Body Language Mistakes.
Beta males are too afraid to take risks and leave their comfort zones. They automatically look at the possible consequences, especially the negative ones. A beta male may have a dream or goal in life but is scared of change and never takes action. A non-risk taker will:
Always stay in the same job or career, even if he doesn’t like it.
Never try something different.
Never be adventurous.
Fear making mistakes.
Be perceived as boring.
Never achieve his dreams.
A Follower
Beta males are unwilling to make their own decisions, are too nervous to lead conversations and therefore allow others to lead for them. A follower will:
Not have a personality or identity.
Always follow trends to try and fit in.
Never make decisions.
Never make suggestions.
Always need guidance by a leader.
Seeks Approval
A beta male will always seek approval from other people. He constantly needs assurance and hopes that people like him. A man that seeks approval will:
Hope that he is entertaining.
Hope that he is funny.
Always end sentences with, ‘what do you think?’ or ‘is that ok?’
Be scared to say no.
Always ask for permission.
Always turn his head quickly when someone wants his attention.
Stares At Women
Beta males will stare inappropriately at women. Beautiful women know that they are attractive. Only submissive men turn their heads and stare at women. Checking out every hot woman you see shows desperation and that you probably don’t get much sex.
A beta male has a negative attitude about life. They have a hard time seeing the positive side or positive outcomes in life. They are always nagging, complaining and moaning about small negative issues and never do anything to resolve them.
A beta male lacks self confidence. It is one of the main differences between a beta and alpha male. A person that lacks self confidence will:
Give reasons for his actions.
Try to be a perfectionist.
Display defensive body language.
Always reply to criticism and become defensive.
Always worry about the future.
Become critical and rarely see a positive in any situation.
Always hate the way he looks.
Find it difficult to make decisions.
Suffer from social phobia and shyness.
Other Beta Male Traits
Here is a list of other traits that beta males display:
Doesn’t look after his appearance. Doesn’t exercise, has an unhealthy diet, poor dress sense and badly groomed.
Always makes excuses in life for things he can’t do.
Is very insecure and cares about what others think of him.
Always apologises if he thinks he may have offended someone.
He doesn’t admit to his mistakes.
Is shy and afraid to meet new people.
He is very sensitive to criticism.
He gives up after he fails and is fearful of failing again.
Gets jealous very easily.
Always tries to dominate and prove he is better than someone else.
He avoids confrontation (both physical and verbal).
He gets angry easily.
He is always trying to please people.
He is uncompetitive.
He is a push over with women.
He is desperate to have a girlfriend.
Is afraid to touch women.
He doesn’t take control in bed.
Always seems to be in a nervous rush to get to places.
Talks too fast – This indicates you are anxious and have low self confidence.
Uses filler words such as umm / ah in-between sentences.
Mumbles and talks with a monotone voice – This makes you seem unassertive.
Takes too long to respond to a person’s question – This makes you seem indecisive and that you are thinking too hard to gain approval.
Try to understand why the beta male traits listed above are unattractive. Start working on yourself and avoid these beta male characteristics as much as you can. Keep practicing and before you know it, you will be displaying the traits of an alpha male and attracting more women. To find out about alpha male traits read my post 20 Alpha Male Traits You Must Master. Also check out my post 10 Signs That You Are A Beta Male.
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When I cross my arms,I push my hands into my biceps to make them look bigger.
A tactic taught to me by Go4IT. ;D
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When I cross my arms,I push my hands into my biceps to make them look bigger.
A tactic taught to me by Go4IT. ;D
lolz Go4it has that down to a science...
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When I cross my arms,I push my hands into my biceps to make them look bigger.
A tactic taught to me by Go4IT. ;D
I flex consciously when I do that so that I appear vastly more douchy that necessary.
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When I cross my arms,I push my hands into my biceps to make them look bigger.
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most of the info out there on body language is a load of horseshit.
But some of it is so spot on its like mind reading. ;)
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I always do this with my large muscular arms.
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The idea that crossed arms mean ONE thing is insane.
Almost every human posture can be displayed in a variety of ways: serious, ironic, weary.
Crossed arms in a self referential laid back sarcastic way means self irony and indifference.
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The fact that so many people have social problems is the reason these...OH FUCK it, i give up
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I always do this with my large muscular arms.
Would loved to be wrapped up in those large muscular arms.
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but I do cross my legs all the time...
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most of the info out there on body language is a load of horseshit.
I bet you sat back and folded your arms after typing that.
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I used to be able to cross my arms, but now i'm usually holding a child :-\ :D
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When I stand waiting for the bus/train or whatever I let my hands hang straight down like flistones and I always have a 12 mile stare in my eyes, standing completely still, becausee I have no insecurity problems.
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;D, what i actually did was slouch my shoulders, blink rapidly, and touch my face as i signed in to my plentyoffish account.
Was too tired to bother typing more last night. What i should of added was that for reading into behavioural traits, telling if someone is lying etc, you need to know a little about the individuals mannerisms anyway, and one little movement or "tic" is not going to tell much at all, it's a combination of them that can help give indications.
Correct
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I have been crossing my arms because I am cold.
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I cross my arms waiting for the 44 secs between posts >:(
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I have been crossing my arms because I am cold.
99% of women seem to cross their arms. Insecurity or just covering up erect nipples?
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(http://i.imgur.com/zoasWdj.jpg)
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99% of women seem to cross their arms. Insecurity or just covering up erect nipples?
If you stare at 99% of women's tits we have an obvious correlation.
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If you stare at 99% of women's tits we have an obvious correlation.
Something just occurred to me. Almost every time I talk to a chick they seem to cross their arms over their tits. Women's nipples get erect when they're horny. I have never put two and two together like that...
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Since when has folded arms ever meant anything other than perhaps the person is comfatable folding them? All this beta/alpha shit is embarrassing, as is worrying about how others may perceive the way you stand/sit/look ect
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I used to be able to cross my arms, but now i'm usually holding a child :-\ :D
Same for Basile.
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Same for Basile.
and Pellius
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what ya talking about willis????
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Alpha or Beta?
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Maybe your boss is intimidated by your muscles, EDB. Weren't you saying everyone at work was scared of you because you're so muscular? or maybe it was someone else who made that ridiculous statement
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funny enough the beta qualities mentioned do apply to many pro bodybuilders today, the shifting of weight, shuffling from side to side is an obvious one, Lou does the twitching thing to this day, very unsure of himself and would rather people don't look at his face.
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Maybe your boss is intimidated by your muscles, EDB. Weren't you saying everyone at work was scared of you because you're so muscular? or maybe it was someone else who made that ridiculous statement
No, just the general population is scared.
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I used to be able to cross my arms, but now i'm usually holding a child :-\ :D
Stop baiting poor pelius, he's suffered enough...
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Alpha or Beta?
:P Basile don't appreciate this photo :-\
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99% of women seem to cross their arms. Insecurity or just covering up erect nipples?
I am just freezing unless I am in the winter sun.
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Mostly when shopping with the gf or listening to a tedious story. Same thing. SHows i want to move on and am fed up waiting. Also tend to do it if getting told a lie to show i know rest of what i hear will be shite.
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;D